Many times in life (especially now that I am in university) I wish I could go back in time and tell my dumbass and carefree self certain pieces of advice and tips.....if only I knew better back then.
I'm sure I am not the only one out there who wish they knew a little more when they were young, a lot of stuff could be prevented.
So what would you say, to your younger self from the past?
For me it would be:
1) SAVE, SAVE, SAVE. I worked quite a bit when I was in highschool, but I spent it all on useless things and spent with out checking my bank account thinking (oh, i'll just go back to work). I recently calculated, I would have had at least 25,000 in my bank account if only i saved....but i was young...
2) Don't go into university thinking it will give you a job right when you are done, chances are, depending on what your major and graduate program ( if you can ever get into grad school) you will have to start a shitty job with people who have not a degree.
3) Volunteer more. I lack networking.
4) The more people you know, the easier it is to find a job.
5) Don't spend too much money/time/effort on high school relationships. It. Just. Doesn't. Work.
6) SAVE YOUR MONIES!!! i seriously cannot stress how important that is
7) although parents are annoying/naggy, they are right 99% of the time. (i shouldn't have driven so fast....black ice is REALLY scary)
8) Don't hide your report card from asian parents......They have ways of finding out and finding it, and when they do, you will burn in hell no matter how good your grades are and your only C is in P.E.
9) Balance gaming and studying (this is did not do)
10) cigarettes does not a cool guy make.
11) PROOFREAD EMAILS BEFORE SENDING IT TO PEOPLE OF IMPORTANCE
1) Get out more. Whatever you're going to be doing tonight may seem fun in the short run, but eventually it's going to be more fun to be doing it with a larger group of people. You can always come back to "alone time" but it's much harder to progress the other way.
2) Get your shit done on time. You're going to do it anyway, so it's a matter of learning things and doing them for full credit, or cramming things and turning them in late. Especially important in math, where concepts build on each other. (lol still don't know my unit circle and in calc 2. FML)
3) Get your ass in the weight room. Helped so much in so many areas of life after a remarkably short amount of time. Plus it's fun.
4) Money is made to be spent, but spend it on things that are going to last you. Nice clothes; furniture; car > Pokemon cards, Sunglasses you will probably lose, Vacation with people you now barely talk to.
Having followed these, I think I would be in a much different situation than I am right now; and I'm only a college Freshman! The worst part is, I really did know the first two; I just never had the determination or the balls to stick with them.
1) Stop thinking that your gonna be pro in CS. Yes through out my years in High school all I wanted to do is to join a top team tier team in CS and travel.
2) Find a job. Seriously I need a job while I was in high school cause I would always wanting to buy something.
3) Life!. Jesus I didn't have a life through out High school but video games and school work.
f I could live again my life, In the next – I’ll try, – to make more mistakes, I won’t try to be so perfect, I’ll be more relaxed, I’ll be more full – than I am now, In fact, I’ll take fewer things seriously, I’ll be less hygienic, I’ll take more risks, I’ll take more trips, I’ll watch more sunsets, I’ll climb more mountains, I’ll swim more rivers, I’ll go to more places – I’ve never been, I’ll eat more ice creams and less (lime) beans, I’ll have more real problems – and less imaginary ones, I was one of those people who live prudent and prolific lives - each minute of his life, Of course that I had moments of joy – but, if I could go back I’ll try to have only good moments,
If you don’t know – that’s what life is made of, Don’t lose the now!
I was one of those who never goes anywhere without a thermometer, without a hot-water bottle, and without an umbrella and without a parachute,
If I could live again – I will travel light, If I could live again – I’ll try to work bare feet at the beginning of spring till the end of autumn, I’ll ride more carts, I’ll watch more sunrises and play with more children, If I have the life to live – but now I am 85, – and I know that I am dying …
Jorge Luis Borges
I would tell myself to read the spoiler over and over again until I understood.
Also @ Jathin, what the hell is your first point supposed to mean anyways?
1) People aren't that bad, and at the same time, most people think that other people suck. If you fuck up a lot, you won't be surprising anyone. Fucking up is part of it
2) Life is but a dream! Enjoy yourself
3) Balance doing things you're good at and things you're not good at but would like to be.
4) Be healthy: always sleep enough, eat reasonably healthy stuff and exercise a few times a week
5) Spend time doing things that people you like are doing. Meet people and be friendly until you have an occasion to be otherwise
6) Research major life decisions in advance. You assume a lot of necessary knowledge is gonna be funneled your way, but it won't be. You have to weigh your choices and take the initiative learning about what you'll need in order to do what you want to do.
7) If you're going to get addicted to drugs, limit yourself to lighter drugs and start around Freshman year in college. Make sure to kick addictions before you begin Junior year. Never do heroine or meth.
Talk to as many girls as possible; they want to bang you as much as you want to bang them. Hook up with lots of girls, but don't bother with long term relationships. Learn self confidence and game. Stop smoking shitty weed and learn how to spot the good stuff.
On March 25 2010 05:39 Jathin wrote: I went to a very white high school and was one of very few minorities. I thought my life would be easier, and I would fit in better, if I were white. So I resolved to hating on my own race as a means of fitting in better. Probably one of the dumbest things I've ever done.
sort of reminds me when i was young and a lot of teachers considered me smart and i enjoyed reading books and learning but being smart for other kids my age just seemed to have such a negative meaning to it that i started to hate being called smart or looking smart that i stopped learning and now all these years of not studying its coming back to bite me in the ass.
@ Jathin Funny you say that. I'm white and I went to a mostly white school and I can't say I cared much for hanging out with most of the white kids. I found it much more rewarding to hang out with Asians. Today all my best friends are Asian and I can honestly say that it was the best social investment I've ever made. Anyways though I was referring to when you said "you'll be glad you're not in a few years" which I felt was insinuating there was something wrong with being white and I'm curious to know exactly what that is.
I was writing this to tell you that you're about to do a lot of things that will lead to the utter destruction of any sort of sex life you ever could have had. That's right, you're about to go without sex for an unknown number of years. You're also going to spend 95% of your time awake at the computer. Keep reading if this doesn't sound appealing.
Everyone is about to lie to you about college. Don't listen to them, they're wrong. I've attached a number of interesting colleges that you should apply to. You like Math and Physics, it's just a fact, so keep going with that. Trust me. When the advisers ask "What major do you want to sign up for?" just tell them "Physics major" and if you want to double major, just make sure it's in something math related, okay?
As for where to go: AWAY. Get as far away from home as you can, people will just bug the crap out of you there, trust me. Go to the opposite ends of either I-95 or US-1, seriously. Florida is not the promised land, and you could do very well in a colder climate. You could even go to Denver and ski during the winter, wouldn't that be nice? Trust me, it would be nice.
As for women, you should have more fun. As a matter of fact, enjoy life more, you don't do that enough. Go through Urban Dictionary and see if you can complete a number of the new and exciting sexual definitions in there... It'll be hilarious.
Oh, and Pokemon is STILL cool in the future, but only the first 151 of them. The Final Fantasy games aren't bad, in fact, they have decent plot. Dune is a great series, perhaps you should actually continue reading the rest of them and not wait 6 years, douche bag.
And lastly, the winning lottery numbers for the first Tuesday in January for the next decade are: ...
Love, Me.
PS: Get production/science skills in EVE and as many R&D agents as you can, trust me.
On March 25 2010 05:50 Chupacabra(UCSD) wrote: @ Jathin Funny you say that. I'm white and I went to a mostly white school and I can't say I cared much for hanging out with most of the white kids. I found it much more rewarding to hang out with Asians. Today all my best friends are Asian and I can honestly say that it was the best social investment I've ever made. Anyways though I was referring to when you said "you'll be glad you're not in a few years" which I felt was insinuating there was something wrong with being white and I'm curious to know exactly what that is.
You frequent a SCBW forum, chances are you're the kind that likes hanging out with Asians more .
Its really easy to tell your past self what to do, because you don't have to do it :p Who here has thought how wonderful it would be to go back and start fresh and do everything right? Who here realizes you would do the exact same thing again, because life isn't as easy as "go to the gym and then do your homework"?
You idiot! The marks on her wrist are because shes crazy, PERIOD. not because shes crazy about you! Stay away from her she WILL ruin your life in a few years and it is not better to have loved and lost to have never loved at all, because if you never loved and lost that crazy bitch you would of loved someone much more worth your time and affection.
I can't really offer any advice to you, continue as you are. Everything will work out and you'll be happy in the way your future self turned out no matter what. All the stupid mistakes you will make and all the things you will or will not do will define you into the person that is writing this. This is why I have chosen not to include anything of value which may serve as a warning to future events that will happen. Instead I say a simple, "hello". There will be certain situations that will make you wish you were dead, but don't worry everything works out in the end. I should probably tell you to study a little bit more, but I knowing me won't listen to you.
On March 25 2010 06:20 BuGzlToOnl wrote: Dear Highschool BuGzlToOnl,
I can't really offer any advice to you, continue as you are. Everything will work out and you'll be happy in the way your future self turned out no matter what. All the stupid mistakes you will make and all the things you will or will not do will define you into the person that is writing this. This is why I have chosen not to include anything of value which may serve as a warning to future events that will happen. Instead I say a simple, "hello". There will be certain situations that will make you wish you were dead, but don't worry everything works out in the end. I should probably tell you to study a little bit more, but I knowing me won't listen to you.
Sincerly, Future BuGzlToOnl
I was kind of hoping you'd say, "Think twice before you pick your TL.net alias"
Its actually LToonL which was a clan and Bugz from Bugz Bunny.
In my head it was always bugz-toon, didn't come to realize the alternating capitalization all the way through and seen as bugzitooni until YEARS later.
You're doing fine and things will get a lot better when you move out of the parent's place. When you finally do move out, don't overload your schedule trying to do too many things at once and sleeping almost never... I know you feel invincible, but your body does have its limits-- and it will punish you if you stretch things too far.
Also, Ayn Rand and Dave Sim are both batshit crazy. The sooner you recognize this the faster you'll lower your asshole-quotient.
On March 25 2010 05:57 Jathin wrote: I didn't mean to make it seem like there's anything wrong with being white, my apologies if it came off as racist/derogatory (I was writing to myself from myself; being PC and using careful wording slipped my mind). It's more of a personal thing, that I feel my not being white has benefited me in many ways (socially).
On one hand, I'm a part of the "ideal minority" group (namely Indians + Asians). We're perceived as productive members of society. (Streotypically) We're smart and hard working. That's a sterotype I've enjoyed a lot of benefits from, whether or not I deserved it.
On the other, I find that other immigrants warm up to me very quickly just by nature of my having colored skin. Some of the random conversations I've had and stories I've heard -- I definitely feel like I would've missed out on them if these people weren't so easily willing to volunteer it.
Aw ok I see. Yeah that makes sense, I actually grew up in Mexico and when people find out that I have that background they tend to be more open to me than they would be otherwise. I personally don't think it's right but it's just the way things are I guess.
I'm still in high school. Luckily I have a decent amount of money saved up (I never spend my money...) The only thing I wish I would start doing is taking my time to learn something, instead of playing SC and Chess all day. I want to get into programming, and I have all the materials to start learning and creating, but for some reason I just won't do it. Damnit -_-
-Question the history and economic textbooks. -You don't need a 4.0 to get a good job, start listening to people online who will teach you how to start businesses. -Learn mnemonic devices that involve creating experience to memorize information -- this will save you hours. -You don't need to be smart to succeed in studies or the real world, you just need to develop the skills to be very efficient. Unfortunately, these skills are not taught in most schools, so again, use the internet. -Relationships and eating junk food with friends all day is basically a waste of time. Maybe once in awhile, but work on your own life...not procrastination.
skip more math classes. I shouldn't have to take calculus at 3rd year. I could've easily took it my 2nd or if I'm ballsy, 1st year and gone to do more useful math then... sigh
1) The best players play on Kali, get your ass there. 2) Relax, dont take life so serious, it's not such a big deal. 3) Buy condoms. 4) Lift weights, it really pays off when it comes to double poling.
EDIT:I assume advice in sportsbetting and stocks is not included.
Dear self, forget what your parent's tell you, you can always do better. Walking the fine line between social and academic success is mutually destructive. 9th and 10th grade are for padding your gpa, not settling with A-'s. Stick with track, join math team now not as a senior and this time study for your SAT's. That is unless you get into the college you want April 1st; if that's the case, good job!
I know you think you are a genius and that you will take over the world, but you are not. You are just above average. Don't worry though, you will still ace everything like a maniac all the time. Do not try to win that science contest in your last year. You will create the biggest project of your life and you won't even win a single thing. Programming a MMORPG is NOT something you can do, not because you lack the skill, but because you will lack the team to do it. Don't waste your time on that. Pick a double major in maths and physics, because trust me, this is what you want to do.
Focus on learning more stuff. Try to learn Calculus before College. And Calc 2. And 3. And Linear Algebra. Then go on and learn learn learn learn. Maybe you'll save some stupid boring classes later. Who knows.
Don't waste your time on that girl. Forget her, it will only brings you despair for a full year. Try to increase your P.E. grade from 69 to something like 75, you would get an average high enough to get the best scolarship.
Don't play WoW. Waste of time.
Get out of your house ASAP. Do not go to that stupid educational system in your province. Skip it and go straight in Ontario to University. Forget all these useless contests that you will all fail. Or try some contests that you could succeed like maths or something.
In April 2009, solve that triangle using that theorem about isometric lines tangent to a circle from a same point. You'll know what I'm talking about when you see it.
Try to like stats a bit more. They are cool. You can still hate poetry and stuff. It won't matter. You will prefer to criticize/analyse books and stuff but you will never get a good grade in that. You will get an almost perfect in everything you do in poetry though.
Stay away from Mensa. It will depress you. And the exam was stupid anyway because of these shitty vocabulary questions. You don't need some IQ score to be happy.
Focus your electives completely on foreign languages. The younger you learn it the better and they can open some incredible options when you get out of college. Get into summer abroad programs if possible.
If you're going to end up with student loans go to a big university in a fun warm place not a lame midwestern liberal arts school where it is cold and the chicks are ugly.
On March 25 2010 05:39 Jathin wrote: I went to a very white high school and was one of very few minorities. I thought my life would be easier, and I would fit in better, if I were white. So I resolved to hating on my own race as a means of fitting in better. Probably one of the dumbest things I've ever done.
sort of reminds me when i was young and a lot of teachers considered me smart and i enjoyed reading books and learning but being smart for other kids my age just seemed to have such a negative meaning to it that i started to hate being called smart or looking smart that i stopped learning and now all these years of not studying its coming back to bite me in the ass.
Holy crap... It's like I'm reading something that I wrote but forgot about...
1) Get a 4.0 GPA and choose a good undergraduate school, this will make your life a lot easier in the long run. Remember: high school is a joke compared to college.
2) Do your HW, please do it.
3) You have plenty of time to slack off, why are you playing games when you could be studying for that easy as shit test that will only take you 1 to 2 hours max to study for.
4) AP Physics C is actually not as hard as your peers think it is.
5) Don't listen to your good friend who, while he is a nice guy, does not really know who you want to grow up to be. No, do not settle for $50k/year salary when you could easily be making a 6 figure income if you just applied yourself in school and reached your potential.
- Enjoy life - Make ton of friends - Date girls - sports spoRTs SPORTSSSSSSSSSSSSS !!!!!!!!
Studying something else than math in highschool is stupid and a waste of time but you should read a lot ( books, newspapers etc ... ) to get a good general knowledge.
Dearrr SELF, do not neglect gaming with school work, you coulda been B+ at Iccup by now.
When you delete and uninstall a game always keep backup cds hidden in a drawer -- when randomly searching for something you think you lost find said cd and install sc for that 1 last gg before you finally call it quits.
Memorization of CD keys is VITAL, looking through papers is a waste of time.
Do cut class and run to internet cafe to play BW and CS all day long.
Lose your job and run out of $$... make that one final trip to the Internet Cafe only to find out you get 10 minutes free for every hour spent there. Hours of free gaming during school hours ensue(saved free minutes on cool card)
Trust your mates, they're looking out for you.
Get angry, and break things when you lost a game you so should've won.
Siblings are your enemy they look to take computer time away from you: do not trust when they say checking their aol email will only take one minute.... Drastic measures must be taken!
Don't get road runner.
Hacking is for noobs... seriously, you don't want to be a noob do you?
To all you young guys out there it's about balance! Everything in moderation and you'll be fine! But for all of you thinking about quitting school stick it out! Doesn't matter if you're smarter than someone if you don't have the papers to prove it!
AND finally but not least, a job is a job! Be proud of it and don't let anyone put you down about what you do!
1. have something to do for sports 3 times a week, preferably swimming or a martial art( depending on your character, working out at the gym is nice too) - this is a must, your body basically done developing after a certain age so you cant slack during these very important years
2. study, study, study. Always try to be on top of things, not study to get perfect grades, study to completely comprehend the material which requires being organized and doing things on time
3. spend time with smart people while you have the chance. Talk to nerds, lonely people, doesnt matter the social status. Extract information everywhere
4. while you can socialize and party, never waste a lot of time on that. You should have done it during your summer, maybe first year in college is ok. Never go overboard with this because you will waste time and start getting bored of it after graduating. For instance, i stopped enjoying it a couple of years ago, but i partied a lot until then. Its useless
i think this is it. Concentrate on these things and it would be really unlikely for you to miss out on anything even semi important while in hs/college. Definitely dont obsess with looking for a job or saving money until you done studying, you will be in an amazing spot if you manage to do what was suggested
I would tell my highschool self to study as hard as you could, read learn about resilience, learn about passive income, know yourself on a deep deep level, learn how to socialize, study philosophy, do something you're afraid of everyday, do something that makes your heart pound every day, seek challenges, continually cultivate and seek new experiences, actively look for life lesson "moments", live life fearlessly chase your dreams in some bold fashion, be the guy who tells it like it is, act and speak genuinely so six or seven years from now you could write something profound and illuminating in a thread called "Advice you would give your highschool self."
On March 25 2010 05:39 Jathin wrote: I went to a very white high school and was one of very few minorities. I thought my life would be easier, and I would fit in better, if I were white. So I resolved to hating on my own race as a means of fitting in better. Probably one of the dumbest things I've ever done.
This is america in a nutcase! Ohh we cant accept racism but we have to keep discussing it in terms of race. I can't belive people actually still think in these terms. Then again, it's no wonder that America is as segregated as it is.
I thought that I would tell myself to get off the computer but I also realize I have a LOT of good memories from it. Most likely I wouldnt tell myself to get of the comp considering I could have been way worse off and had a way rougher life than I have now if I hadnt found the comp in the first place.
I would never have started to smoke if I could change it, altough I've quit since some time back I think still think it would have been nice to have all that money on the pocket.
Stfu and just do it. ^Seriously. I regret not doing so many more things my freshman/sophomore/junior year because I was too much of a coward to step out of my comfort zone. Thankfully college brings a whole new world of opportunities though D:
Also, don't procrastinate like a mofo.
Oh, and you aren't a loser. You actually do have the ability to meet and talk with new people; girls too for that matter.
On March 25 2010 09:25 notsoeloquent wrote: 1. have something to do for sports 3 times a week, preferably swimming or a martial art( depending on your character, working out at the gym is nice too) - this is a must, your body basically done developing after a certain age so you cant slack during these very important years
2. study, study, study. Always try to be on top of things, not study to get perfect grades, study to completely comprehend the material which requires being organized and doing things on time
3. spend time with smart people while you have the chance. Talk to nerds, lonely people, doesnt matter the social status. Extract information everywhere
4. while you can socialize and party, never waste a lot of time on that. You should have done it during your summer, maybe first year in college is ok. Never go overboard with this because you will waste time and start getting bored of it after graduating. For instance, i stopped enjoying it a couple of years ago, but i partied a lot until then. Its useless
i think this is it. Concentrate on these things and you it would be really unlikely for you to miss out on anything even semi important while in hs/college. Definitely dont obsess with looking for a job or saving money until you done studying, you will be in an amazing spot if you manage to do what was suggested
Whats interesting is that I think a lot of people who've lived this life proboably would like to redo it aswell. Youre always gonna miss something but I think its better to get some sort of balance in your life rather than trying to be one of the extremes.
1. Go for Sarah instead of Sara, the tits aren't everything. 2. Stay awake while Kim is driving. 3. When you get him on his back, chest on chest with a shoulder/neck lock. 4. Don't always throw in legs, you will go to state with more variety. 5. Move out of Tennessee quicker!
- Go to class. Study. Do your work. Stuff like that. - Get a job and save money - Find a sport and stick with it - Eat some damn food! - Don't be such a douche. - Have fun! Don't be so emo~
Only thing I wish I had done is climb more instead of playing WoW. Guess I'm the only one who did well in school and had successful relationships, judging by other people's posts. lol.
On March 25 2010 05:21 Jathin wrote: 2) There's no good time to begin something productive. Waiting for the right opportunity = you'll be waiting forever. Start a project, now, even if you don't finish it.
this is something i will take for heart because i just slept through a quiz i could have definently finished if i told myself lets finish it before i took a nap. And i was tired but not like dying tired. I could have forced myself to just work on it for just 30 minutes and i would have finished it with maybe 1 wrong at best. And now i have another zero -_-.
On March 25 2010 11:04 LaSt)ChAnCe wrote: 1. Go for Sarah instead of Sara, the tits aren't everything. 2. Stay awake while Kim is driving. 3. When you get him on his back, chest on chest with a shoulder/neck lock. 4. Don't always throw in legs, you will go to state with more variety. 5. Move out of Tennessee quicker!
Epic Wrestling Advice.
Leg riding is like trying to 1a2a3a your opponent though >.>
I always did it because I was wrestling 215 and big guys have never had someone throw in legs, so it fucks with them.. Until you do it to the same guy in three different matches, at which point you get pulled over.
She sucks don't be friends with her just because she sits near you!!! The others are so much better. Too bad there is no way to turn back time, I feel like the only good times of school was elementary school.
Don't talk to that hot new girl, she's a fucking sociopath and you'll spend the next 4years of your life having an on and off relationship that eventually turns you into a sociopath. It's not worth the psychological damage.
On March 25 2010 12:53 KrAzYfoOL wrote: Don't talk to that hot new girl, she's a fucking sociopath and you'll spend the next 4years of your life having an on and off relationship that eventually turns you into a sociopath. It's not worth the psychological damage.
im in high school and ill go ahead and tel myself what i should have done.
i should have did my work all those days i did nothing. i should not have bullshited my way through highschool. i should not have assumed i can bullshit my senior project, as it has worked every other year but this time theres no way i can get out of it. most of all i would tell myself to do my fucking work and make sure i turn it in.
Even though it's common sense and I'm still way too shy/scared to go get it, my advice would be this and only this:
1. Get up and go get professional help for depression
Sitting in it trying to get through alone is not as easy as you think despite me thinking "it can't be that hard". Granted some things now are coming into better perspective and have stopped me from being a self-center attention whore trying to get through it with pity usually (Even recently there was a blog here about "A Mother's Tears" that made me start rethinking how my relationship is with my mom even though there hasn't been any emotional bond since I've been alive for 20 years).
I realized that I needed that help since I let myself fall to rock bottom. I was so into my own depression and misery that I was oblivious to people who tried to genuinely care for me and before I had realized what I had done, I'd thrown that away trying to be some "tragic misunderstood emo" piece of shit. I regret doing so too.
On March 25 2010 11:33 LaSt)ChAnCe wrote: I always did it because I was wrestling 215 and big guys have never had someone throw in legs, so it fucks with them.. Until you do it to the same guy in three different matches, at which point you get pulled over.
Oh yeah. We had a 215 leg rider. He had a lot of success with it, until the semifinals of Masters (regionals)
1. Don't date her, I know you like fucking around with the cops daughter just because it makes you feel like you are living life on the edge but shes going to end up living with you and you are going to end up fucking the same girl for 3 years and losing all your motivation to be any level of productive.
2. Don't let your mom ever switch ISP's, especially multiple times.
Stop thinking so much, and go actually do some work. Lazy fucker. Stuff gets harder later on, and I know you won't listen to anyone you don't think is smarter than you but listen to me, cause I'm you from the god damn future so I know tons more than you. Love ya~
Wouldn't change much, honestly. Even the endless hours i spent in front of a computer because i developed some really good relationships while doing so which i won't ever regret.
The only advice you people should be giving your younger selves is:
- Try to put yourself in other peoples' perspectives a bit more - Continue being awesome
Don't take useless subjects like calculus, chemistry and physics if you're not going to do them at university. Waste of fucking time learning all that bullshit only to realise that it wasn't necessary for a law degree.
Don't be afraid of things like detention - wag more classes. I can't believe how seriously I used to take high school and how much I feared the authorities of teachers, only to find out later in life that they are one of the lowest paid professions in society and really don't know very much at all.
On March 25 2010 17:05 Jaime Raine wrote: Don't be afraid of things like detention - wag more classes. I can't believe how seriously I used to take high school and how much I feared the authorities of teachers, only to find out later in life that they are one of the lowest paid professions in society and really don't know very much at all.
Try to understand how other people see things. Different priorities have different costs. Don't listen to over-competitive parents; you'll unfairly transfer the animosity to your peers. Go to college in another country.
Advice is hard, it's often meaningless without context and experience. Like I might want to tell myself to learn more reflectively, but without challenging enough material there would be no impetus. I'd also tell myself to go live in a 3rd world country, but I would have had no interest in high school.
Oh yeah, another thing - work out as much as possible and get all the chicks, so that when you're 50 your only regret would be some vague thing that nobody actually gives a damme about.
On March 25 2010 17:05 Jaime Raine wrote: Don't be afraid of things like detention - wag more classes. I can't believe how seriously I used to take high school and how much I feared the authorities of teachers, only to find out later in life that they are one of the lowest paid professions in society and really don't know very much at all.
they are far from the lowest paid, i suppose some of them can make pretty shit but my aunt teaches elementary and she makes 5 figures
If i could give advice to myself in High School, i would say keep doing what you're doing. Do you know why we make mistakes and we why screw up? So you can tell other people about it and share what you experienced Do you know why they don't listen to your advice and screw up? Because life is a journey where you slow down and speed up and you can never enjoy it to the fullest, if you don't screw up and hitch hike or beg on the streets or waste hundreds of dollars in high school on things as useless as a dead dingo's donga ................ its because there is no shortcut in life........ everyones journey is different so don't feel bad screwing up, its just a different book on a different shelf.
On March 25 2010 17:05 Jaime Raine wrote: Don't be afraid of things like detention - wag more classes. I can't believe how seriously I used to take high school and how much I feared the authorities of teachers, only to find out later in life that they are one of the lowest paid professions in society and really don't know very much at all.
they are far from the lowest paid, i suppose some of them can make pretty shit but my aunt teaches elementary and she makes 5 figures
And alot alot of them are very intelligent people
5 figures? Maybe you ment to say 6 figures which is prerry impressive for a teacher.
Agree on the intellignce, a few of my teachers had masters degrees and most of them were very smart people.
Depending when you read this, start playing music. If you have started (nice one), then get singing lessons and fucking stick to them. You'll regret it if you don't. Music will make you deeply happy.
When you get to sixth form (16-18), conform like crazy. Don't stand up for your indefensible, badly worked out childish views. Just wear the clothes others wear, get a haircut and don't fight it. It's not worth the pain.
If you were too fucking arrogant to take the last piece of advice, then just hang on and work hard..your gap year will change everything.
At university go to the Indian restaurant by the station as it's amazing. Don't find this out in your last week.
Above all, don't try and reach a point of security. You can't, everything ends no matter what you do. Just enjoy the beautiful relationships when they happen and while they last. Don't be bitter.
All those girls you didn't think were good enough for you....just bang them, don't ignore them. Especially because some of them turn out really fucking hot.
This is the single most important piece of advice I would give myself if I could go back in time.
1. Stop being so nice to people who are wrong. If a mistaken belief happens to be politically correct, that doesn't mean you have to put on the kiddy gloves to deal with it.
i'd say to stop taking high school seriously. I mean fuck, you're lik3 16 years old, no one gives a shit about you (including yourself usually), if you do have a girlfriend it's usually just because you smile too much or she's fucking with you (in many ways) and if you ever do acomplish something, so other stupid shit has already done it. Id have told myself to stop taking shit like it actually matters. Kinda like the police when the puul you over for speeding. Actually a lot like that. They;re all like, why wer you speeding and your like get a fucking real criminal and fine him. In high school, I would get in trouble for shit like forgeting to turn off my phone or put the date on an otherwise perfect test, yet some shithead across from me just plagerized the gettysburgh address and your too stupid to even know what it is. Fuck cops, fuck jocks, fuck high school teachers, and fuck high school.
I would say learn something you can do for yourself that will make you money, don't rely on studying alone because it probably wont help you much. I say this because I used to love doing graphic design when I was in high school and now I have my own web design company, while others are still trying to figure out wtf to do with their careers.
And fuck yes, playing SC makes you awesome in the office when compared to other people, you are like the only one that has 300 apms and move like a flash with hotkeying stuff on excel. You leave everyone else like "omg he's fast", AND you finish your job early and can do whatever you want with your time (as long as they dont see you lol)
oooh this thread got more replies than i hoped it would. thanks everyone who contribute, i'm sure everyone here had some stuff they looked back on and went "aaah sounds like me"
Go to parties, ask girls out, do the things that scare you the most, never ever be afraid to fail, keep on trying and love the people in your life, they're only there for so long.
On March 25 2010 18:07 Jaime Raine wrote: Oh yeah, another thing - work out as much as possible and get all the chicks, so that when you're 50 your only regret would be some vague thing that nobody actually gives a damme about.
1) Run more man. You coulda been much better at cross country and especially track right now. Don't get lazy in the winter. You could have been legitly quite good. 2) HOLY CRAP wtf wtf wtf wtf wtf wtf wtf are you doing with girls man? Like, wtf? What were you doing? Way to get dumped by your girlfriend man. And then talking to like, 2 girls ever. I mean, TALK to people. Holy crap man. 3) Start iccup ninth grade....goggogogogogogogo.....but being on the computer all the time without being with friends and loving starcraft more than social circles is also probably what made you so retarded with 2 so....
Basic advice: Either to go get good at SC or to actually get good at socialising. Either choice woulda been fine, but do one of them. Don't be mediocre at both.
Regrets are pointless. Live your life without worrying about what you could have done, and just do it. Until someone invents a time machine this thread is also, pointless.
On March 26 2010 12:10 GunSlinger wrote: Regrets are pointless. Live your life without worrying about what you could have done, and just do it. Until someone invents a time machine this thread is also, pointless.
Maybe thinking about the advice you would give your high school self might prompt people to consider what advice their future selves would give to them in the present? Maybe that might actually be quite useful? Maybe a lot of things like SCBW are pointless? What, but you enjoy SCBW? MAYBE SOME PEOPLE ENJOY THIS THREAD.
On March 25 2010 05:03 phyre112 wrote: 1) Get out more. Whatever you're going to be doing tonight may seem fun in the short run, but eventually it's going to be more fun to be doing it with a larger group of people. You can always come back to "alone time" but it's much harder to progress the other way.
2) Get your shit done on time. You're going to do it anyway, so it's a matter of learning things and doing them for full credit, or cramming things and turning them in late. Especially important in math, where concepts build on each other. (lol still don't know my unit circle and in calc 2. FML)
3) Get your ass in the weight room. Helped so much in so many areas of life after a remarkably short amount of time. Plus it's fun.
4) Money is made to be spent, but spend it on things that are going to last you. Nice clothes; furniture; car > Pokemon cards, Sunglasses you will probably lose, Vacation with people you now barely talk to.
Having followed these, I think I would be in a much different situation than I am right now; and I'm only a college Freshman! The worst part is, I really did know the first two; I just never had the determination or the balls to stick with them.
Pretty much this. Except that I think expensive sunglasses are totally worth my money. I wish I hadn't spent so much on clothing and other bullshit recently, tbh. I also think it's easier to develop a social circle once you're out of HS, because HS is so cliquey, and if you aren't immediately accepted you're pretty much fucked.
I would also tell myself to not fuck around for a year and a half working a dead end job, and putting myself two years behind on schooling. At the same time, missing all that stuff is what made me who I am today, and I'm starting to become happier with that person every day, so I really don't know if I would want to change anything that I've done... except for saving more money (Man, I would LOVE to have a nicer car right now, and not worry about acquiring 25k for school).
I would also say this: You got a dream... You gotta protect it. People can't do somethin' themselves, they wanna tell you you can't do it. If you want somethin', go get it. Period. -- which is how I'm trying to live life right now. I have a couple of dreams, and I'm moving toward them every day. My dream back then was to be a fighter, and I would have told myself to do whatever it took to become one, because looking back, I wish I wouldn't have wasted so much time not doing this... luckily, I'm still young and I've realized this all before it was too late.
im in gr 12 looking back i shouldve tried harder in gr9 10 and 11. Im still going to a great university in canada for something i like but i couldve done a better job
and reading a bunch of this. i feel smart didnt bother dating people.
On March 28 2010 06:23 Mykill wrote: im in gr 12 looking back i shouldve tried harder in gr9 10 and 11. Im still going to a great university in canada for something i like but i couldve done a better job
and reading a bunch of this. i feel smart didnt bother dating people.
Dude, you missed out. Your first relationship in or out of high school will be much the same. PLUS, girls are looking for more mature guys out of high school, and you're going to be caught up in that "me" mentality, and she'll dump you because you only think of yourself. I've seen that happen SO many times. The thing is, you can't get overly serious about HS relationships.. not having them is as bad as getting too serious, though.. you lack growth either way.
On March 28 2010 06:23 Mykill wrote: im in gr 12 looking back i shouldve tried harder in gr9 10 and 11. Im still going to a great university in canada for something i like but i couldve done a better job
and reading a bunch of this. i feel smart didnt bother dating people.
Dude, you missed out. Your first relationship in or out of high school will be much the same. PLUS, girls are looking for more mature guys out of high school, and you're going to be caught up in that "me" mentality, and she'll dump you because you only think of yourself. I've seen that happen SO many times. The thing is, you can't get overly serious about HS relationships.. not having them is as bad as getting too serious, though.. you lack growth either way.
Then again, you don't have the problem of "the one that got away".
All the responsible and uneasy kids you look down to will have much easier time to establish their shit in the future. Stop being so fucking careless and do things you think about instead of waiting for better opportunity. Learn how to not be lazy and exercise in the morning. Don't spend all your money for worthless shit, especially not alcohol. Don't try to compare and compete with friends that have richass parents when you don't have the money, cause you will end up spending all your (hardly made) money for worthless shit again.
Be PROUD of being white, and never feel guilty for the indoctrination in the schools about your cultural heritage.. Your ancestors created many of the principles that lead to the democratic and technologically advanced societies we live in, be proud of that.
I went to a minority-white school in Sweden, and I used to bend my head alot to the muslims here. "Whitey", "white devil" etc. were common names to be called there.. Also, be yourself and use this one opportunity to harvest the benefits of life.
1. You know you need surgery. Get it now because it will be too late one day and you'll regret it.
2. Don't undermine your own success. Giving women power over your mind only destroys your chances. Daisy digs you; you just need to be willing to lead. Angela is really interested; don't clam up in front of her. Only you can fuck this up.
Furthermore, stop basing your actions with regards to girls on what you think your friends think. You are focusing on the wrong people; focus on yourself, the girl, and your 2 opinions. Forget the rest, otherwise you will end up using girls as an ego trip. This is no fun in any way.
3. Be discerning in your choice of friends and learn to be respectful but manly in everything that you do.
4. Fix your sleep schedule FFS! Observe discipline in waking up in the morning every day.
1) The girl you want to ask out will get sick the month and a half before, and continuing through to Prom. Change the past by finding out how she got sick and prevent it otherwise you will hate yourself during that duration.
I should talk to her, but I'm very far away and afraid she will think I'm too creepy.
2) Don't touch Starcraft, Or TeamLiquid! Wait, but that would only make me start sooner... Get a computer in your senior year, but figure out a way to... make the... thing only turn on... for three hours a day. Using parental controls and don't learn how to do a system restore... oh shit... uhh... well then... nothing else
edit ooh! I'd go back to the past twice 2) Your 11th grade science fair project on fuel cells and Chlamydomonas Reinhardtii to produce hydrogen gas... You need to add salt to your final solution to make the reaction work inside the stupid fuel cell. If it still doesn't work... give up. I mean it! I know you won't but give up! Tell your teacher you couldn't do the experiment, and give him the hydrogen and oxygen gas for him to test himself.
3) Don't worry too much about how I came to the past, actually, I think I'd rather talk to myself in my dreams so I would't worry about the physics too much.
Wow, I actually feel pretty good about myself right now
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On March 25 2010 17:33 Luddite wrote: please don't do anything differently, otherwise I (the person I am now) will cease to exist.
Actually I change everything I said to this. Except going back to tell myself not to do anything differently would also cause me to cease to exsist, so I'd rather not go back at all.
- Socialize more! you had many chances to get alot of good connections and you fucking blew it. Also, chicks are interested in you but you are so damn quiet, get some confidence and go for it, be more outgoing.
- Take education alot more seriously, and cc right after it, yeah its alot of bullshit work but fuckin do it anyways, you will regret it if you don't
- Don't spend your savings so recklessly, only buy shit you really need.
- Don't waste your sc time playing retarded money maps, also don't play terran, save yourself the rage.
On March 28 2010 20:02 zatic wrote: My highschool self was doing just fine. I wish he would come to the future and give my adult self some life advice.
This. Especially the last 2 years at school were awesome. Now I'm studying, have less friends, less time, less joy, less ambitions. Or I'm just complaining too much and should get my shit together. Next semester...
dont masturbate dont smoke cigarettes they are not cool do not smoke or sell weed for it is not cool and will consume your life do not snort or sell cocaine it is not cool and will consume your life do not smoke or sell oxicontin it is not cool and will ruin your life and get you in jail for a long time do not drink alcohol it is not cool it will ruin your life and cuase you to lose your license and go to jail for a long time take your father's dell computer at the blue house and smash the fuck out of it never look back. finish high school keep the job you will know what im talking about. dont masturbate
1) Play more video games that stand the test of time. 2) Don't spend all your time and money playing Magic; at least cash out when you profit! 3) When you asked that girl for her graduation picture, and she gave you a copy, don't back down and go for it. 4) Work out and obtain self-dicispline. It's not hard to get a fit body girls would love, and study when you need to.
Don't buy so much pot...pot is fun as hell, but an eighth a week for a whole year ate up at least like $2000 last year...but it was so much fun.
...but yeah, pot is good in moderation. Get your hw done, rip a gravity bong and you're good to go play some MW2 or go party!
I wish I grew some balls in high school and got laid more (got laid more freshman and sophomore years than junior/senior in HS butttt whatever) but I hated my classmates so much because most of them were drop out tools...the pitfalls of living in a city where freshman year we had a class of 400 and graduated with 75, not much motivation I guess being in an awful public school other than not being one of them.
When you're offered sex, don't turn it down because of your inconsistent sense of morality; you'll find the opportunities are far more scarce in the future.
Would have said go out more I guess, or approach more girls and don't be a pussy. Dunno, I didn't become a proper introvert til I was in uni, wasn't weird at high school at all lol
On March 25 2010 05:45 kidd wrote: Go to more parties and stop second guessing that all the friends I had were not really friends at all. Oh that and more girls too.
this is so true. the second guessing part also play more games
Wassup man. It's been a long time since I've been you but I remember your pain. And just know that even if I don't exist yet, I understand you and what your going through. This is my most important advice to you.
Sit in your chair everyday to relax a bit. Or if your up to it, do zazen meditation. Even 10 seconds of either will do you good. Do this often enough and your life will eventually get better. You might think it's bullshit but just keep trying.
All I'm going to say is this will make your mind more stable. And A stable mind is pretty much what you need to be successful and happy in life. You'll eventually realize the benefits.
Develop time travel so that you can go back in time to give yourself advice to develop time travel so that you can go back in time to give yourself advice to develop time travel so that you can go back in time to give yourself advice to develop time travel so that you can....
I would give too much advice but it is too late now. Those things made you who you are today. best thing to do is take that advice you would give and apply it to yourself today.
On March 25 2010 05:21 Jathin wrote: 1) Stop wishing you were white, you'll be glad you're not in a few years 2) There's no good time to begin something productive. Waiting for the right opportunity = you'll be waiting forever. Start a project, now, even if you don't finish it. 3) You can be honest and spare people the brutality 4) Read The Economist
why are u glad ur not white jathin t_t edit: oh I read the first page, sorry harsh
Do not be so fucking eager to shave at like 13.. it will annoy you for the rest of your life.
Do not bother with the advanced math classes... you're going to be a lawyer, it's not worth the stress and there is literally ZERO benefit.
When one of the hottest girls in your class wants you, and asks for a hug while you two are isolated... do not reply "I can't, you have a b/f, it's against the rules".
If you do reply that way and she responds with "Rules are meant to be broken..": she's fucking right!! Do her you pussy.
Spend more free time on the tennis court and in the gym; 5 or 6 days instead of 2. Definitely don't be playing BW til 3am and falling asleep in class you stupid crack addict.
Buy better looking glasses you nerd.
Your mother is right.
I know you're a pigheaded tool and probably won't listen to yourself (a smarter better version btw) and this advice.. so even if you don't... know everything's going to be good!
Heh. As someone who's still a Junior in HS, this is really interesting to read. I especially like all of the contrasts. "Get girls you pussy." "No, don't waste your time on them and study more!" Ahh life.
If I could tell my valedictorian 8th grade self stuff I'd tell him... 1) Consider going to UCHS rather than High Tech. They have badminton, orchestra, dance groups and more things you could possibly be interested in. Not to mention, that school has people you actually like to spend time with. HS is cliquey, and your cliques are in UCHS. Not HT.
2) You're a lazy bastard. But no matter what I say, you're not gonna change that. You're only productive when you're happy. UCHS is looking better now, huh?
3) Whoever it was in this thread that said we shouldn't expect the information we actually need to be funneled to us speaks the truth. Luckily, you're already pretty resourceful. Just start soon.
4) Finally, I would tell you that in the end everything will work out- except I'm still in that period of "WTF is up with my life". So just try to relax more. It'll help when you're not being pissed off by the kids at your school (*coughHighTechcough*). Yeah, you like to be different and want to go to this "exotic" school. But in these critical years, let's stick to the guaranteed.
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