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Here's my story. I am really really really bored and have nothing else to do so why not do this and get some useful advice.
Theres this girl that I like and would like to go out with. My problem would be from getting where I am here, to going out with her. Here's the situation.
We were both in bio class for the whole school year last year, but I had other issues I was sorting out and other matters that were pressing my mind so I didn't really pay attention to her, but now that it's summer vacation, it gives me something to do. I sort of wasted a whole potential year of doing this and a whole bunch of opportunities so I was pretty mad.
After school was out and I made my mind up and stuff, I pmed her on facebook and we had a nice litle conversation there spanning over a couple days because it was pm and I finally got her number through a really really clever plan. It would have been nice to try to hang out together or do something together in real life, but that's not really a possability.
Even though I've changed and come a long way from a fucked up childhood, my parents still don't let me do much stuff like a normal american. They think it's normal that people don't hang out with each other every day, but they don't think its normal that I sit on the computer all day because my friends are all on vacation right now. Sorry for getting a bit off topic but I thought I should explain this first. Also no partys. They don't listen to any music and won't tolerate something as simple and harmless as Ludacris They hate all modern music and would never let me have any partys either.
So the girl I am trying to go out with is a grade higher than me. We don't hang out in the same groups of friends and so that makes things hard to do to hang out with her. I don't live near anyone I go to school with, but the good thing about it is that I live about a 20 minute walk from the mall! My parents don't like me going to the mall because I have to cross some busy streets so I just go whenever they aren't home. other than that it's a 5 minute drive there and thats just about the only accessible spot I think I can go to potentially hang out with her. Problem with that is I get the feeling going to the mall just with her would be more like a date, especially if we watched a movie together so I can't really do that because I am still on the getting to know you part. Since there's no real easy way to hang out with her I am planning on just getting to know her and building up a friendship with her over the summer. I can keep in contact with facebook/texting but that's all I can think of really.
I think that just about covers my situation. Now here's another problem sort of. This is where my lack and inexperienced social behavior comes into play. I am not really the kind of person who initiated things, started conversations, went on the aggressive to learn things about friends, and all that other stuff in building relationships. During 9th grade though, I've had to learn and was forced into sort of being the initiator with things, so I'm not a complete noob at it but I don't have as much experience as I should have.
Since we are just friends right now, what would be some acceptable topics to text about and what would be considered as not giving her her own space(overtexting) and being perfectly normal amount of texting usually?
O ya, heres what I know about the girl. She isn't the flirty type of girl who would feel comfortable with starting conversations with guys, that sort of slutty type of person. I believe she's a generally girl person who hangs out with other girls. This is where I will need help on knowing if I am doing good or bad in terms of starting conversations and being the one who has to step up and start stuff coz it really is nervous to do it sometimes. Also with these types of girls, what would the best way of getting to know them better and stuff be?
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Skip the 'getting to know her' part and get to know her by going out on a 'date.' Just to be safe, when ask her out, ask her if she wants to go out on a _date_ with you.
I don't know. Don't play games, I think that's stupid. Chances are she's shy, and maybe she'll say "I dunno..." and then call you back if she likes you. And if she doesn't like you, you don't really want to go out on a date with her anyway?
The best thing you can do is probably steal the car and ram it into her house to impress her.
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On June 29 2009 05:15 Racenilatr wrote:
I finally got her number through a really really clever plan.
What?
It looks like you have some other things to work out before you try to start a relationship with someone. Like, for instance, your parents being so restrictive of you. They won't let you take a 5 minute walk to the mall because you have to cross busy streets? I'd start there and work my way up if I were you, or she's going to feel like a babysitter whose 9 year old client has a crush on her.
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On June 29 2009 05:22 Chef wrote:
The best thing you can do is probably steal the car and ram it into her house to impress her.
roflcopter
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Well its about a 20 minute walk to the mall. I can go anywhere in my neighborhood though becuase theres no cars zooming across. Also they will keep being restrictive of me until I get out of the house and I'm not going to wait that long
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haha this blog is win<3
good luck race
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I knew this day will come. I knew any time now you should start posting about girl help. I just knew it.
Maybe it's me just being old fashion but I really dislike the texting/msn stuff. I mean, you can start with that if you're a bit shy and you don't know her really well, but what you're interested in is getting to a "date" with her. Doesn't really need to be an official zomg date, just a short walk, or some time spent with here, face to face.
Even if she's more of the shy type, you can make a good impression by being confident whatever you do and say and by being the one with the initiative. Even if it may be hard at first and you will be very nervous, look confident and cool. By taking the initiative, I'm not talking of asking her to go out with you right away, but rather you're the one that needs to keep her interested.
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Belgium9947 Posts
On June 29 2009 05:15 Racenilatr wrote:
and I finally got her number through a really really clever plan.
Something about this gives me the feeling you did something really really creepy..
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wow, what you write makes your parents appear really overprotective...
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How can you have a relationship when you are barely allowed to leave the house...
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On June 29 2009 05:40 RaGe wrote:Show nested quote +On June 29 2009 05:15 Racenilatr wrote:
and I finally got her number through a really really clever plan. Something about this gives me the feeling you did something really really creepy..
Ok fine heres what happened.
I was originally going to take a nice stroll down to the mall, spend some time looking at sunglasses, and than find someone to hang out with for a bit, maybe watch a movie, i dont know. I was going to leave right when I finished watching Harold and Kumar BUT my mom called me, and told me my brothe was coming home in like an hour so I was like WTF SHIT It is a do or die situation. I either get my sunglasses than get the fuck out of the mall OR I just do nothing and stay bored. My brother can't
konw because than he would tell on me and he is a bitch. This happened JUST around the time that I was chatting with the girl via facebook. I had just commented on her sunglasses before I got the phone call. now I was like wtf I don't know how much sunglasses cost, where to get them or anything, and since she was a girl and she had sunglasses, I told her to text me where she got her sunglasses and how much they cost because it was an emergency! It was a fucking emergency because I had a very limited time slot, I literally ran to the mall and fast walked all the way across a couple stores before I could find an affordable pair(I brought 25$ in 1$ bills). So I needed a rough estimate asap on how much sunglasses might cost and where I could get them and since I just happened to be talking with her about her sunglasses......
So I ended up with her number, decent pair of sunglasses, and very tired from hustling to the mall really quickly lol
With my parents, its summer so I will do whatever the fuck I want. I can overpower my dad too and I WILL rebel against them if need be to be honest. They are really gay and I am really strong willed so I will get my way with them one way or another, but I prefer to avoid violence. Also I CAN leave the house, like they will drive me to the mall but they dont give me much money, if any at all, to spend on stuff unless it migiht be something such as a movie. Otherwise I just steal 1 dollar bills that have never been used from them.....ya
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Ask her if you can stick it in
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On June 29 2009 05:59 arb wrote:
Ask her if you can stick it in
Not looking for sex. I'm not a sex craving loser
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On June 29 2009 06:00 Racenilatr wrote:Not looking for sex. I'm not a sex craving loser
Duh you are 14. You will be soon, don't worry.
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this is like an episode of 7th heaven
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ok think about it this way. The sooner I get a girlfriend the less you guys will have to worry about me posting on teamliquid for all you haters
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On June 29 2009 05:56 Racenilatr wrote:
I can overpower my dad too and I WILL rebel against them if need be to be honest. They are really gay and I am really strong willed so I will get my way with them one way or another, but I prefer to avoid violence. Also I CAN leave the house, like they will drive me to the mall but they dont give me much money, if any at all, to spend on stuff unless it migiht be something such as a movie. Otherwise I just steal 1 dollar bills that have never been used from them.....ya
You're fucked up.
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On June 29 2009 06:06 Racenilatr wrote:
ok think about it this way. The sooner I get a girlfriend the less you guys will have to worry about me posting on teamliquid for all you haters
i'm not hating for the record, i loved 7th heaven
also girlfriends don't solve problems, bitches be crazy
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born in 1994 lol...step ur game up son....keep ur pimp hand strong. is ur penis at least 5 inches?
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On June 29 2009 06:00 Racenilatr wrote:Not looking for sex. I'm not a sex craving loser
lolololololololol
puberty
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On June 29 2009 06:00 zulu_nation8 wrote:
cool story bro
I'm really sorry but I am quoting this for the exact thought that came into my mind when I read this (and yes, I somehow read the entire thing).
This is why the generation a couple behind mine (I'm 22 now) is turning out so weird. When I was 14 we still had computers and the internet or whatever, but if we wanted to go out with someone we walked up to them and asked them on a date. None of this stupid antisocial sending hints through texts and hoping for something real to come out of it. We also didnt post news-article-long posts about our feelings and girl problems that every guy is going to have growing up.
Tell her how you feel and live with how she reacts. If you get sucked into flirting with girls in texts and on myspace you are just going to be constantly kicking yourself.
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The kid is trolling you. I hope >__<
Edit: 5/5 for the lol factor
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On June 29 2009 06:13 HuskyTheHusky wrote: None of this stupid antisocial sending hints through texts and hoping for something real to come out of it. We also didnt post news-article-long posts about our feelings and girl problems that every guy is going to have growing up.
this is actually a pretty accurate summary of most people my age's getting-int-a-relationship strategy... in fact it's a pretty accurate summary of how all of my relationships started....
brb rethinking life 
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You make a blog without pictures? ew
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If you are in good health condition and not very ugly and short, you have nothing to worry about.
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On June 29 2009 06:15 ZeeTemplar wrote:
You make a blog without pictures? ew
I might post a pic if more ppl demand it but.......
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Korea (South)11583 Posts
i demand them.
also, if your only 14-15 this is what you do.
1) realize you like girl
2) talk to said girl
3) if you still like said girl, ask her to do something with you
4) do something with her
5) after you do something with her, and you enjoyed it, ask later to do something else
6) fuck said girl
7) realize you're in puberty and you dont like said girl, and only wanted to get laid
8) stop hanging out with said girl
9) go back to step 1
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On June 29 2009 06:34 CaucasianAsian wrote:
i demand them.
also, if your only 14-15 this is what you do.
1) realize you like girl
2) talk to said girl
3) if you still like said girl, ask her to do something with you
4) do something with her
5) after you do something with her, and you enjoyed it, ask later to do something else
6) fuck said girl
7) realize you're in puberty and you dont like said girl, and only wanted to get laid
8) stop hanging out with said girl
9) go back to step 1
Very accurate. I am still laughing.
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On June 29 2009 06:25 Racenilatr wrote:I might post a pic if more ppl demand it but.......
Picture on the girl!
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intrigue
Washington, D.C9934 Posts
On June 29 2009 06:00 Racenilatr wrote:Not looking for sex. I'm not a sex craving loser
your best years are ahead of you
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Pics or it didn't happen ;o
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All TL needs to know is she's a cheerleader. 
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Good luck my friend. You are still young and you have much to learn. ;0
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Smix
United States4549 Posts
Can you stop talking about your parents like you hate them? It sounds like they're being normal, caring parents who are just worried about you... I understand annoyance but you sound like you want to hurt them which is just wtf =/
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listen homeboy, dont mean to bust yo bubble
but girls of the world aint nothing but trouble
so the next time a girl tries to give you the play
just remember my rhyme and get the hell away.
+ Show Spoiler +just tell her something deep and meaningful, like that when you're talking to her hours pass by and you dont even notice, and that you wish you were a poet so you could write something beautiful about her, cause thats the most intense thing a non-poet could say. then she'll either fall in love with you instantly or you'll be dundun. but its summer, so even if something embarrassing happens you dont have to worry about having to interact with other kids everyday who may try to exploit the situation.
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On June 29 2009 08:16 skuj wrote:listen homeboy, dont mean to bust yo bubble but girls of the world aint nothing but trouble so the next time a girl tries to give you the play just remember my rhyme and get the hell away. + Show Spoiler +just tell her something deep and meaningful, like that when you're talking to her hours pass by and you dont even notice, and that you wish you were a poet so you could write something beautiful about her, cause thats the most intense thing a non-poet could say. then she'll either fall in love with you instantly or you'll be dundun. but its summer, so even if something embarrassing happens you dont have to worry about having to interact with other kids everyday who may try to exploit the situation.
hahahahaha. that's quite fantastic.
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MrHoon
10183 Posts
I used to be an incredibly anti-social guy, it was very difficult for me to start un-awkward conversations with people I didn't know much (hell sometimes I used sit in silence even with my best buds). It came to a point where I started getting so stressed up I was desperate to improve my oral skills in any way possible.
You know what I did?
I watched a shitload of gay kdramas/jdramas and silly american dramas, made scripts and scenarios so I can lead humorous conversations and then I drove to NYC and just started conversations with everyone in front of me. Sure most of the conversations went sour, but I was still making progress. I even gave drifters and hobos 4 cheeseburgers in exchange for 30 minutes of conversation. I did this for about a month or so and....
Now I am a pimping mother fucker.
Conclusion: Sticking it in her pooper.
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On June 29 2009 08:24 MrHoon wrote:
I used to be an incredibly anti-social guy, it was very difficult for me to start un-awkward conversations with people I didn't know much (hell sometimes I used sit in silence even with my best buds). It came to a point where I started getting so stressed up I was desperate to improve my oral skills in any way possible.
You know what I did?
I watched a shitload of gay kdramas/jdramas and silly american dramas, made scripts and scenarios so I can lead humorous conversations and then I drove to NYC and just started conversations with everyone in front of me. Sure most of the conversations went sour, but I was still making progress. I even gave drifters and hobos 4 cheeseburgers in exchange for 30 minutes of conversation. I did this for about a month or so and....
Now I am a pimping mother fucker.
Conclusion: Sticking it in her pooper.
that is very extreme but awesome (the hobo part that is)
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Until one day he dates the wrong chick and she's all "omfg you sound just like that guy from friends" (insert k or j substitute here).
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On June 29 2009 07:42 Smix wrote:
Can you stop talking about your parents like you hate them? It sounds like they're being normal, caring parents who are just worried about you... I understand annoyance but you sound like you want to hurt them which is just wtf =/
I hate them, I know they want whats best for me, so I understand their situation, but If I lose some starcraft games and then my parents start bullshitting me I just get really really pissed off
+ Show Spoiler +
Shes the one right next to me
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Smix
United States4549 Posts
On June 29 2009 10:05 Racenilatr wrote:Show nested quote +On June 29 2009 07:42 Smix wrote:
Can you stop talking about your parents like you hate them? It sounds like they're being normal, caring parents who are just worried about you... I understand annoyance but you sound like you want to hurt them which is just wtf =/ I hate them, I know they want whats best for me, so I understand their situation, but If I lose some starcraft games and then my parents start bullshitting me I just get really really pissed off + Show Spoiler +Shes the one right next to me
So basically you hate on your parents whenever you suck at starcraft?
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No the combined frustration is too much I can handle
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On June 29 2009 10:05 Racenilatr wrote:Show nested quote +On June 29 2009 07:42 Smix wrote:
Can you stop talking about your parents like you hate them? It sounds like they're being normal, caring parents who are just worried about you... I understand annoyance but you sound like you want to hurt them which is just wtf =/ I hate them, I know they want whats best for me, so I understand their situation, but If I lose some starcraft games and then my parents start bullshitting me I just get really really pissed off + Show Spoiler +Shes the one right next to me
Go for the other one instead.
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unless you're some sort of indie-skater-alternative-badass asian, white girls don't go for guys like you until maybe college, but that may even be a stretch
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On June 29 2009 05:15 Racenilatr wrote:
She isn't the flirty type of girl who would feel comfortable with starting conversations with guys, that sort of slutty type of person.
Only sluts start conversations with the opposite sex.
Oh lawdy.
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ok first you need to stop actin like a kid. You are really stupid now but you will learn over time. You need to work out and have a good body. You need to be good in school. Stop thinking that you like the girl because thats gonna messed you up man. You need to just be fun and just be yourself man. be the alpha male, dont tell her that you like her lol. Just flirt around.
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lol 14 year olds are fucking hilarious
have fun getting your dick ripped to shreds by those braces
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On June 29 2009 12:01 inertinept wrote:
lol 14 year olds are fucking hilarious
have fun getting your dick ripped to shreds by those braces
Hahahaha, don't worry, he still doesn't appreciate sex yet.
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On June 29 2009 12:01 inertinept wrote:
lol 14 year olds are fucking hilarious
have fun getting your dick ripped to shreds by those braces
LOLOLOL
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On June 29 2009 11:50 Ichigo1234551 wrote:
ok first you need to stop actin like a kid. You are really stupid now but you will learn over time. You need to work out and have a good body. You need to be good in school. Stop thinking that you like the girl because thats gonna messed you up man. You need to just be fun and just be yourself man. be the alpha male, dont tell her that you like her lol. Just flirt around.
ya this is good
i mean his name is ichigo and anyone who has watched bleach would know that ichigo acts exactly like this guy described.
somehow this was supposed to prove this post is good but yeah i dont even know what im saying anymore so the end
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is awesome32276 Posts
On June 29 2009 12:01 inertinept wrote:
lol 14 year olds are fucking hilarious
have fun getting your dick ripped to shreds by those braces
LOL
also op was hilarious hahahah
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Valhalla18444 Posts
you are a dumb child & you're gonna lose your blog posting privileges if you can't keep your stupid fucking attitude in check
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