maybe you should try the "heels" test on them. turn up wearing high heels and whichever woman doesnt freak out is the one you choose . (remember to blog about it afterwards)

[UoN]Sentinel

United States11320 Posts

September 22 2013 20:16 GMT

On September 23 2013 04:58 FFGenerations wrote:
maybe you should try the "heels" test on them. turn up wearing high heels and whichever woman doesnt freak out is the one you choose . (remember to blog about it afterwards)

I can get behind this

NeuroticPsychosis

United States322 Posts

September 22 2013 20:24 GMT

I am not going to wear heels to work and I'm pretty sure that's a violation of the male dress code anyway

[UoN]Sentinel

United States11320 Posts

September 22 2013 20:28 GMT

On September 23 2013 05:24 NeuroticPsychosis wrote:
I am not going to wear heels to work and I'm pretty sure that's a violation of the male dress code anyway

Is there any hope in high heaven that you can see either one of the two outside of work?

NeuroticPsychosis

United States322 Posts

September 22 2013 20:37 GMT

On September 23 2013 05:28 [UoN]Sentinel wrote:

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Is there any hope in high heaven that you can see either one of the two outside of work?

See here's the situation. I could arrange to see the younger girl outside of work but like I said she is very judgmental and probably won't like it if I'm wearing heels because it's not a very manly thing to do. I could possibly wear heels around the older woman because she won't judge me anyway but she is married and her husband is this 6'2" mean tough guy who could probably shove a foot up my ass if he wanted

ktimekiller

United States690 Posts

September 22 2013 20:46 GMT

You are totally over thinking everything. You are not short, there is no sick taboo on older women. It is simply your inexperience and your mental faculty trying to mediate and justify the situation and your feelings. Suck it up and be a man.

[UoN]Sentinel

United States11320 Posts

September 22 2013 21:08 GMT

Honestly I would say go with the younger girl. There's a lot of older women out there, just pick one who doesn't have a husband. But go with the younger girl because from what you have posted you sound like you're lacking experience.

Then once you hit your late 20s and forward it's going to be a man's market anyway. Then you can pick someone long-term.

Skilledblob

Germany3392 Posts

September 22 2013 21:44 GMT

who cares about the age difference, just go for it.

OBC

United States25 Posts

September 22 2013 21:47 GMT

#10

On September 23 2013 05:46 ktimekiller wrote:
You are totally overthinking everything. Suck it up and be a man.

QFT

Meadowlark

United States349 Posts

September 22 2013 21:54 GMT

#11

Wait, why are you guys only honing in on her age? 42 might not be a problem, but married with a kid sure as hell is.

hp.Shell

United States2527 Posts

September 22 2013 22:33 GMT

#12

So it sounds like the older woman is just being nice and acting motherly towards you. I'm not sure you'd like that relationship if it got more intimate. Idk about you but living with a mother figure for too long is too much for me.

I say go for the younger girl. All you really need to do is step your game up a little, let her in on some of your secrets and insecurities, and maybe she'll stop judging you or get over it. It might even be a good thing that she's judging you. Maybe she'll succeed in her attempt to "change" you into the kind of man she thinks about every night. Never know.

Edit: I read this quote recently,

Similarly, if you admire two kinds of work equally, but one is more prestigious, you should probably choose the other. Your opinions about what’s admirable are always going to be slightly influenced by prestige, so if the two seem equal to you, you probably have more genuine admiration for the less prestigious one.

This says to me that although you feel a bit more drawn to the 42-year old, it is probably simply weighted more due to her unattainable / taboo qualities. If she were to say, get unmarried and lose the kid and become attainable, would you like her less than the 22-year-old? I think so. I think that if you look at it from Paul Graham's perspective, your opinion about what's more admirable / attractive is being influenced by prestige / taboo. If the two seem equal to you, you probably have more genuine admiration / attraction for the less prestigious / taboo one.

AnachronisticAnarchy

United States2957 Posts

September 22 2013 22:46 GMT

#13

Ah nevermind. That would have been incredibly rude of me if he actually does have these issues.

Whiplash

United States2929 Posts

September 22 2013 23:01 GMT

#14

Go with the older one if you can, its a good experience will help you mature a lot faster!

HeeroFX

United States2704 Posts

September 22 2013 23:16 GMT

#15

I think you should go with whoever you feel the most happy spending time with.

Epishade

United States2267 Posts

September 22 2013 23:45 GMT

#16

Alright NeuroticPsychosis, since we're such good friends and all, your ol' buddy Epishade is gonna help you out here. You say you're attracted to older women are you? Hey, who isn't amirite? Nothing wrong with that. My grandma's lucky that there are men who like mature women (I just hope her hip replacement lasts this time). There's a small problem with your current situation though. This older woman is married and has a kid. Now, like any holy connection to god, that marriage wasn't meant to last. Not with you making your moves on her anyways. But kids are another thing entirely. This kid is too young to be shipped off to military school so you can enjoy some alone time with her. You'll have to convince her to send her kid away to a remote mountain village in the Alps. Now I know this may seem impossible at first, perhaps even immoral. How on Earth can you break the bonds between a mother and her child? As knowledgeable as I am on the subject, I have not found a solution to this problem. You will have to either spend your life raising a child that you know isn't yours, or nail the hot black lady.

Japhybaby

Canada301 Posts

September 23 2013 00:20 GMT

#17

I find the younger one probably 1000 000x more attractive, so we're obviously different people here. bUt yeah one has a kid and you guys haven't even flirted yet!