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UPDATE TO : http://www.teamliquid.net/blogs/viewblog.php?id=153865
So we broke up. :/. It kinda sucks too. The 24th would've been our 3 month anniv.
Its funny, cause I showed her this card I made her on monday night. Then tuesday morning, I get a message saying she wants to break up with me. I didnt even have a chance to fight for her, she told me she made up her mind. :/
sigh . Im depressed as hell right now, Im taking a day off school. I just dont know what to do right now Lol. She told me it was best for us, but it doesnt feel like that right now..
You guys ever get that empty feeling? It hurts.
 
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ALLEYCAT BLUES50637 Posts
That hollow feeling you have after you lost something important....Yeah,I have it....I still do after 8 years.
She says it was best for 'us'?She has to have a reason.....
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On September 23 2010 00:59 BLinD-RawR wrote:
That hollow feeling you have after you lost something important....Yeah,I have it....I still do after 8 years.
She says it was best for 'us'?She has to have a reason.....
She probably does, but I dont want to talk to her. It just hurts.
I couldnt sleep last night, I woke up like five times. I had this weird dream about trying and begging to get her back. It didnt even work out in my dreams.. :/
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well something similar did happen to me, as in she just told me that it was over and that was that. ofc i was really naive at the time and thought that if i was persistent enough i'd magically win her back, which inevitably led it to being way more troublesome and stupid than it had to be.
so get over it, not the end of the world, though in all reality this is your moment, and no one can help you. go listen to really depressing songs and get this shit out of your system, because its really not something worth missing school over.
edit: sorry if i seem harsh, but i harbor pretty negative feelings towards the girl in question lol
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Vatican City State2594 Posts
3 months is not so serious, I assume you are still young, and I know for a fact there are billions of other women out there. The chances that she was the best one for you are close to 0. Keep trying!
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that's pretty messed up of her to break up over text. times like these, it's best to hang with your bros over some drinks, they know you best and know what to say. cuz honestly, you're too good for her man -- breaking up over text? bah, she wasn't worth it anyway
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Try 3 years. Then you will understand how silly you were to get worked up over this 
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Breaking up over text... that is low.
Selfish and dumb.
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On September 23 2010 00:54 Kouda wrote:UPDATE TO : http://www.teamliquid.net/blogs/viewblog.php?id=153865So we broke up. :/. It kinda sucks too. The 24th would've been our 3 month anniv. Its funny, cause I showed her this card I made her on monday night. Then tuesday morning, I get a message saying she wants to break up with me. I didnt even have a chance to fight for her, she told me she made up her mind. :/ sigh . Im depressed as hell right now, Im taking a day off school. I just dont know what to do right now Lol. She told me it was best for us, but it doesnt feel like that right now.. You guys ever get that empty feeling? It hurts.
It's a classic.
I assume this was your first more serious relationship.
You just try too hard.
The pace should be slower, don't give presents each day and keep tracks of aniversaries on monthly basis.
Actually I think if you get over her right now + ignore her, she'll come back to you.
If you push further she'll move further away.
Yeah the physics of relationships : you push she moves away, you pull she comes closer.
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On September 23 2010 01:36 LastWish wrote:Show nested quote +On September 23 2010 00:54 Kouda wrote:UPDATE TO : http://www.teamliquid.net/blogs/viewblog.php?id=153865So we broke up. :/. It kinda sucks too. The 24th would've been our 3 month anniv. Its funny, cause I showed her this card I made her on monday night. Then tuesday morning, I get a message saying she wants to break up with me. I didnt even have a chance to fight for her, she told me she made up her mind. :/ sigh . Im depressed as hell right now, Im taking a day off school. I just dont know what to do right now Lol. She told me it was best for us, but it doesnt feel like that right now.. You guys ever get that empty feeling? It hurts. It's a classic. I assume this was your first more serious relationship. You just try too hard. The pace should be slower, don't give presents each day and keep tracks of aniversaries on monthly basis. Actually I think if you get over her right now + ignore her, she'll come back to you. If you push further she'll move further away. Yeah the physics of relationships : you push she moves away, you pull she comes closer.
Yeah its the first "serious" one :/ I fell for it too, I originally just wanted something casual. Just me and her, but she wanted more, and now she doesnt. =/
I think its a exaggeration for assuming I give her presents everyday. Lol. The card was just for the three months, but I see where you're coming from.
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United States12607 Posts
Just relax. Don't skip school. The sooner you force yourself back into your normal routine the sooner you'll cheer up and move on. Plus how are you going to hit on that other cute girl without going to school? 
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My girl of 5 years dumped me over the phone a few months ago. I know how you feel... Heck, I lost about 20 pounds in 2 weeks right after it happened. If you push too much to salvage anything, you're only going to drive her away.
In my case, she said she still wanted to be friends and stuff. Later, when I was over her, I told her that if she actually meant it when she said she wanted to be friends, that I'm fine and wouldn't mind either. Didn't want to push though so we essentially left it at "the ball's in her court".
Fast forward a couple months, I haven't heard from her since and I honestly don't care. That's the beauty of it... you either wind up not caring (which is good for you) or she comes crawling back (which is good for you, regardless of whether or not you're still interested).
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United States4796 Posts
Sorry man. I suggest you play StarCraft or do something to get over her over time.
You won't want to lose her but sometimes you just gotta let go.
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The healing process will happen, all you need is time. Keep your mind occupied as best as you can, mind-consuming tasks like Starcraft really help in this endeavor. Even though time will help you immensely, you have to accept what's happened and move on at some point. It's sad seeing a relationship come to the end of its road, but it's a fact of life. But your life's road will keep going on, make the most of it as you can. Some day another relationship with intersect your little road and you'll feel all the emotions of happiness and sadness again. These emotions are what make us human. Embrace it.
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Distract yourself and fill the hollow feeling with you being awesome.
Do anything else and I guarantee you will regret it.
Also this "time heals all wounds" bullshit doesn't work. Time doesn't heal fuck all. You having more important shit in your life that makes you go "shit, this is awesome" heals all.
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On September 23 2010 01:51 JWD wrote:Just relax. Don't skip school. The sooner you force yourself back into your normal routine the sooner you'll cheer up and move on. Plus how are you going to hit on that other cute girl without going to school?
Haha. You made me smile 
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I know the feeling man. Listen to L, it helps.
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Damn dude, this exact same thing happened to me this year (not gonna go into details, i'm here to help you, not to talk about that b....yeah :D )
Anyway, you should try going out with friends, It helps alot, you can get your mind distracted and It will eventually help you cheer up, And who knows? you might even meet somebody else there.
You can also try listening to some music, what helped me the most was really energetic music: Punk, Metal...etc etc and if you enjoy EDM you can listen to some Hardcore/Happy Hardcore and every single Hard-something that you can find.
Don't listen to sad songs, that will make you start remembering the "good times" or even remembering the painful moments. I'ts not worth it eh
And of course, Starcraft, if you have friends that have the game, play some private matches or screw around on custom maps. If you have CS or some other online game play some Zombie mod or Surf maps, and as I said before, with friends!!!
For now I can't think of anything else 8) just do what you like and everything will be awesome in no time!
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