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On May 18 2009 14:33 PH wrote:
I don't care how much financial aid you get nor how much you take out in student loans. Your parents paid for your rather ungrateful ass since you were born. I also refuse to believe that you can pay for yourself (including rent, food, insurance, etc) without having a job while studying in college.
I don't think your parents are being fair either and I understand that this is a rageblog, but still...get over it. They're your parents.
BTW...I also have one question about your dad: Why the fuck is he bragging about a UCLA degree when all he has to show for it is a store he employs his own son in?
That's no reason for your parents to be unreasonable. If he's working hard at college there's no reason for him to go home on his time off and work for free for his parents, unless they are in need of some serious help (which OP didn't mention but there still could be need for him).
If his parent's aren't going to respect him then there's no reason he should respect them, especially if his dad is raging at him like that.
EDIT: And the fact that he's worked in his dad's shop for free on previous occasions, he shouldn't have to put up with that bullshit indefinitely. AND his brother seems to get a free ride.
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On May 18 2009 14:14 anderoo wrote:
5/5 for "douchecanoe"
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On May 18 2009 14:14 anderoo wrote:
5/5 for "douchecanoe"
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On May 18 2009 14:14 anderoo wrote:
5/5 for "douchecanoe"
I know how you feel to a lesser extent but with regards to housework. I don't even bother trying to schedule my day anymore.
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I think you should calm down a bit first. I think this is more a cultural division than that of character. From personal experience, Korean parents tend to believe that their children should put family before their own personal needs. Working without pay is one of these things. They expect you to work in the store because it is the family's business. It may seem selfish for them to expect you to pay without work and to help out during your vacation. That isn't to say that your way of thinking isn't right either. Being forced to work without pay and on your limited days off of college seems quite demanding and certainly not fair. Try to see things from their point of view a bit more and hopefully you'll be less enraged and more understanding of what they're trying to do. Don't let this be something regrettable that you'll look back on in the future.
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On May 18 2009 14:14 anderoo wrote:
5/5 for "douchecanoe"
Fine, I'll jump on the train.....
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Please tell me everyone here doesn't believe that Parents have some sort of god given right to 'own' their child's life forever. Any Parent who has children for the sole purpose of knowing that they have some sort of right to use them for personal usage at some point isn't a Parent at all.
That said, I have to agree with Zooey to some extent. No one is in the right in this case, but it definitely managed to quick sand its way to shit pretty quick.
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I see you have time to write a blog here. Guess its more important than helping your dad.
What you gonna do on your break? Dont tell me that you gonna study all day?
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Sounds like you'd rather piss around during your holiday rather than actually having any work to do.
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Baltimore, USA22254 Posts
On May 18 2009 15:28 FirstProbe wrote:
Sounds like you'd rather piss around during your holiday rather than actually having any work to do.
I would say that's the idea...
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On May 18 2009 14:14 anderoo wrote:
5/5 for "douchecanoe"
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On May 18 2009 15:08 Dgtl wrote:Fine, I'll jump on the train.....
+1
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On May 18 2009 14:14 anderoo wrote:
5/5 for "douchecanoe"
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On May 18 2009 15:28 FirstProbe wrote:
Sounds like you'd rather piss around during your holiday rather than actually having any work to do.
Pretty sure that's the point of a Holiday... to do as much of nothing as humanly possible.
This is a special case. This guy pays his own way through college so his Parent's don't have that as leverage and can't hang it over his head.
I honestly think that the OP is closer to "right" than his father is. Think about it really.
-College is not easy shit nowadays.
-His father has a kid at home that doesn't do a damn thing.
-Parents don't have ownership of their kids for their entire life because they raised them. I would gladly help my parents out with things as long as they show at least a modicum amount of appreciation for it you know. A "thanks" isn't that bad. I won't go so far as being paid for it but a thanks would be chipper.
-He pays for his own expansions... period
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Atleast you have parents...
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On May 18 2009 16:54 rel wrote:
Atleast you have parents...
this can be interpreted two ways =o
1. at least you have parents that are there for you
2. i dont have parents, so at least you do
=[ what does it meeeean
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Your dad went to UCLA as an international student (provided that you are Korean, I think?) in the 1970s? You think that was easier? And I'm also sure you couldn't get loans on your own and your parent's prolly co-signed them. That means it rides on their credit.
I understand the frustration, but it really IS a cultural divide more than anything. Instead of being the rebellious, hot headed American kid, be the more mature, college student Korean-American kid. No matter what you cannot and will not be able to escape your Korean-side, no matter how "American" you become. You have to learn to accept that.
Without raising your voice, talk with the more understanding parent. Maybe you can come to a compromise. You work one day, or half a day, and have your brother work with you. Show your parents how tough things are, bring home some books or a syllabi and show them what you need to do. Your Korean father will always think that you have it easier than him because, well, things ARE easier nowadays (not talking about coursework but life in general).
But in this situation, I don't think either of you are 100% correct in screaming at one another. That'll get you nowhere, fast.
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HonestTea
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There's only one douchecanoe in the OP's story.
Hint: the douchecanoe is the one with a TL account
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On May 18 2009 17:07 lilsusie wrote:
Your dad went to UCLA as an international student (provided that you are Korean, I think?) in the 1970s? You think that was easier? And I'm also sure you couldn't get loans on your own and your parent's prolly co-signed them. That means it rides on their credit.
I understand the frustration, but it really IS a cultural divide more than anything. Instead of being the rebellious, hot headed American kid, be the more mature, college student Korean-American kid. No matter what you cannot and will not be able to escape your Korean-side, no matter how "American" you become. You have to learn to accept that.
Without raising your voice, talk with the more understanding parent. Maybe you can come to a compromise. You work one day, or half a day, and have your brother work with you. Show your parents how tough things are, bring home some books or a syllabi and show them what you need to do. Your Korean father will always think that you have it easier than him because, well, things ARE easier nowadays (not talking about coursework but life in general).
But in this situation, I don't think either of you are 100% correct in screaming at one another. That'll get you nowhere, fast.
just what this thread needed... some soothing ♀ rationale.
+ Show Spoiler +now imagine lilsusie saying this while wearing the succubus costume.
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good old dad wasn't an international student. He moved to Virginia i forget when because thats where the family was set up. Then when the family moved to Cali, he had to follow. Ironically he did not get accepted into UCLA and had to transfer in from UC San Diego.
Oh and in conversations, my opinion does not matter. he never listens to me anyways so i don't even bother trying to correct his bullshit allegations. He assumes when he tells me not to assume. Honestly, he cares less about me. He has his oldest daughter who goes to UC Berkeley to be the pride of the family and the youngest son to make up for the mistakes that i made. Sad but true. XD. The point of this rant isn't to complain about the problems (mostly). Its about the dad being in the "Almighty" complex. ive basically have had enough of it.
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Physician
United States4146 Posts
On May 18 2009 17:07 lilsusie wrote:
Your dad went to UCLA as an international student (provided that you are Korean, I think?) in the 1970s? You think that was easier? And I'm also sure you couldn't get loans on your own and your parent's prolly co-signed them. That means it rides on their credit.
I understand the frustration, but it really IS a cultural divide more than anything. Instead of being the rebellious, hot headed American kid, be the more mature, college student Korean-American kid. No matter what you cannot and will not be able to escape your Korean-side, no matter how "American" you become. (plenty of American families were the son and daughters helps out no matter what in the family business just because it is the right thing to do) You have learn to accept that. (You have to appreciate having that privilege; that "god forsaken" store and your parents work paid for the families livelihood.)
Without raising your voice, talk with the more understanding parent. Maybe you can come to a compromise. You work one day, or half a day, and have your brother work with you. Show your parents how tough things are, bring home some books or a syllabus and show them what you need to do. Your Korean father will always think that you have it easier than him because, well, things ARE easier nowadays (not talking about coursework but life in general).
But in this situation, I don't think either of you are 100% correct in screaming at one another. That'll get you nowhere, fast.
- what susie said with a few corrections but I prefer HonestTea spartan synthesis.
Who you think your parents are working for?
If I were your father and I read this blog I'd be physically ill at the reality that despite my efforts I raised a sniveling lying selfish narrow minded spoiled brat who spews out an idiotic rant of how he won't ever communicate again with his family (including his "freeloader" brother and his "bitchy" sister) and all because he had to work a few days on the "family" business. And you said you are in college? Sounds more like high school teenager. Man up.
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