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Some background:
My parents are immigrants, and they've worked extremely hard to get a good life for me and my sister in the United States. They work long hours, and this results in me having to take care of my sister. I get lots of schoolwork, and for the most part I leave my sister alone. She plays her DS and on the computer, etc. etc.
My sister is very competitive. She hates to lose - at anything, really. She's just one of those people who's like that.
She's spoiled - if she loses at something, she'll cry and get pissed and stop playing. This is the result of my parents not having time to spend with her and just buying her stuff to babysit her. It's also my fault - being older than her, I never hung out with her or spent time with her, being occupied with my own homework and hanging out with my own friends all the time.
The Problem:
A few months ago, my sister was playing in a basketball game with her classmates in gym class (she's 10 years old, by the way). Her team lost, and she blamed herself for playing poorly.
When people told her it wasn't her fault, she got even more upset with herself, saying stuff like she sucked at basketball and wished she didn't exist.She basically threw a temper tantrum.
Of course, the school got word and the school psychologist started talking to her. They alerted my parents, and my parents went in and talked with the psychologist.
Then, the school went and hired an independent, third party child psychiatrist without my parents knowing. This person (who I shall refer to as Dr. A) talked with my sister for about one hour.
Dr. A then filed a report, saying that my sister was a wristcutter and wanted to kill herself, which is completely untrue. Dr. A then charged us $400 for the one hour of therapy, which is completely ridiculous, especially since my parents didn't even know about her.
We went on vacation last Thanksgiving on a cruise with some relatives, and Dr. A (crazy lady) told us not to go because she thought my sister would jump off the ship to kill herself. Dr. A said that my sister may attempt tokill herself at any given moment.
(Seriously, my sister's afraid of knives and doesn't even know what wristcutting is. She never said to the psychiatrist that she wanted to cut herself or anything - the psychiatrist pretty much bsed all of that.)
Now the governments involved, we've got government child services agents showing up every week, and they tell us that my sister may be taken away from the family. It's been absolutely devastating to my parents, who only really wanted the best for my sister and I.
My sister's a spoiled brat, yes, but she's never cut herself and she certainly doesn't really want to kill herself. She says stuff because she's pissed and because she hates to lose at anything. Really, she thinks that if she loses at anything she's a complete failure at it.
I'm really torn on this. I know she's completely spoiled and a brat, but the way that the schools and government are treating this is absolute garbage. They're completely overreacting.
I don't really know what to do or how to help my parents. None of the child services people will listen to my parents - they've pretty much only paid attention to the report filed by Dr. A, who is clearly completely crazy and needs to have her license as a psychiatrist revoked.
I dunno why I typed all this stuff out, I guess I just needed to rant a bit. This stuff is pissing me off and has been going on over the course of months. Like I said, I don't know what to do or how to help my family here, as I'm still a minor.
Pretty much, it just sucks.
 
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Can't you just get your sister to admit she's not suicidal and not a cutter?
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What did she say to the school psychologist that made them hire a third party one? Also, how is your sister now? Is she doing ok, if she is, then just tell those agents to fuck off.
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Never trust psychiatrists; they're either psychology majors who couldn't get their PhD or would-be doctors that can't stand blood (hence they become psychiatrists instead of doctors).
As for a solution (not that I'd know), get a lawyer or something?
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Well none of us are certified psychologists but it does sound like your sister has some issues. The fact that the school hired a 3rd party to come in and analyze her THEN go and charge you guys. That annoys me to the bone.
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On May 04 2009 09:51 nataziel wrote:
Can't you just get your sister to admit she's not suicidal and not a cutter?
She's not, and she's admitted it. The government agents do not care...they trust the report of the crazy psychiatrist, and won't leave us alone.
It's not like at any given point my sister said that she was a cutter. I don't even think my sister knows what that is - and she's afraid of knives. The psychiatrist basically made it up and bsed all that garbage.
Edit:
The school hired Dr. A on their own accord, because my sister said the following:
"I wish I didn't exist"
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On May 04 2009 09:53 HumbleZealot wrote:
Never trust psychiatrists; they're either psychology majors who couldn't get their PhD or would-be doctors that can't stand blood (hence they become psychiatrists instead of doctors).
As for a solution (not that I'd know), get a lawyer or something?
Wait, so who do you trust, then?
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just tell her to straighten the fuck up for the sake of the family.. you gotta put some pressure on her and physically discipline her in place of your parents.
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go to another psychiatrist and a report made. shove it in the government agent's face if it is different then the other psychologists.
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On May 04 2009 10:00 Sunhay wrote:
go to another psychiatrist and a report made. shove it in the government agent's face if it is different then the other psychologists.
We've been trying to do that, but honestly the government agent, for whatever reason, is refusing to change their stance on my sister.
also, there's still the issue of the 400 dollars. My family is not rich by any means.
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I'm like that  After losing more then 50 timesin various things, its not so hard to lose anymore ALTHOUGH it still pisses me off. How old are you?
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sounds like she shouldnt have spoken to the school psychologist in the first place. I'll bet there's not enough 10 year olds with psychological problems in the world to justify that profession...
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On May 04 2009 09:53 HumbleZealot wrote:
Never trust psychiatrists; they're either psychology majors who couldn't get their PhD or would-be doctors that can't stand blood (hence they become psychiatrists instead of doctors).
As for a solution (not that I'd know), get a lawyer or something?
Never trust kids on the internet; they're either idiots who don't know shit, or... wait, no. That's it.
It's none too naturally to flip out like that, that's for sure, but I don't know about suicidal (then again, I'm not a quack, or a know-it-all like humblezealot) I still don't get how the school shafted you for $400 there.
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lol a ten year old thinking about suicide... I can't even imagine that.
maybe you could get in contact with your local media to pressure those official jerks.
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On May 04 2009 09:59 nataziel wrote:
TRUST NO ONE!
I agree with this post.
From what you wrote it sounds like she's just being a little attention whore. She probably said a bunch of shit that wasn't even true just to cause up a stir. The Phsychiatrist should have been able to see this. As far as the 10 year old having a sessions without any adult notice and then trying to charge you for it, lol. YOU GUYS should be suing them for taking your fucking kid.
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my brother was like this, he lost a basketball game then started feeling sorry for himself for attention. My dad stopped it short by slapping him in the face. i think the psychiatrists try to control others lives because they fail in their own, goddamn shrinks gave me the time of my life when i had to get a psych eval.
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On May 04 2009 10:21 REDBLUEGREEN wrote:
lol a ten year old thinking about suicide... I can't even imagine that.
maybe you could get in contact with your local media to pressure those official jerks.
i am agree with redbluegreen you should get media on this
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what state are you from?
In this state, at least, schools cannot do that. If I was the parents I would call the school threatening to sue.
Are your parents incompetent or something? No offense, it just doesn't seem like something you should have to be worrying about.
Really I don't mean to insult your parents, but do they speak fluent english? I don't see how this could happen as you portray it without it being immediately obvious that your parents are in the right, and without them immediately contacting the school and getting pissed
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Psychiatrists prescribe drugs, they don't psychologically analyze, that's a psychologist.
If what you're saying is right, Dr. A can't give advice, because it isn't his/her job.
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