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Canada314 Posts
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Spenguin
Australia3316 Posts
Sympathies for your grandpa mate RIP | ||
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r.Evo
Germany14081 Posts
Close your eyes, try to breath as deeply and as slowly as you can, try to use abdominal breathing while inhaling, get as much air in as possible, then fill your chest with air. Once you feel like you can't take more air in try to exhale (emtpy chest first) as slowly as you can. Get inhaling and exhaling done as slowly as possible; 4x inhaling/exhaling per minute (counting the ticks of a clock works wonders) is okay, 2-3times would be great. Don't overdo it though, the point is to get this done as slow as possible for you; not to start panting after a minute or two :p Now, each time you inhale and each time you exhale you count one number towards 10. Try to only have the current number in your head. Every time you notice your thoughts slipping away, start from 1 again. This exercise is perfect for controlling breathing/heartrate/getting your head straight, since when you force yourself to breath really, really slow your organism will adjust and slow down heartrate etc. by itself. GL (: | ||
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Loanshark
China3094 Posts
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ffswowsucks
Greece2298 Posts
sympathies for your granpa from me too. I lost my 2 granpa's and only my grandmothers are alive. Tho I never really met one of the my two grandpa's because he died when I was only 3 y old T_T | ||
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Elvin_vn
Vietnam2038 Posts
You can try to get nervous EARLY. Then when you're actually in the speech, the effect of the chemistry will wear off and you'll be calm again. EDIT: almost forgot, there are drugs that help you calm. Almost every performer take them before their big show. | ||
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Kennelie
United States2296 Posts
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3clipse
Canada2555 Posts
On February 26 2009 22:58 Elvin_vn wrote: EDIT: almost forgot, there are drugs that help you calm. Almost every performer take them before their big show. What? Why haven't I heard of this? xD But seriously, 95% of people have this automatic response when speaking publicly. I took some drama classes in high school and college and I've been in a couple of theatre productions. While I can say this has vastly increased my confidence and ease onstage, that feeling never completely goes away; you just have to learn to work through it. I don't really know of a whole lot you could do in a short period of time to lessen your nervousness. Building a thick skin takes awhile. The only advice I can really give is to tell yourself that it's a tough thing for ANYONE to do, and most people you are speaking to are aware of this and sympathetic to it. Just try to clear your head of your own ego and self-doubt and focus soley on the subject at hand. That or drugs.  | ||
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deepBlu
31 Posts
screw them!!! | ||
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emucxg
Finland4559 Posts
On February 26 2009 23:34 deepBlu wrote: ur grandfather just died... next it's ur father.. then it's u screw them!!! manner plz... | ||
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deepBlu
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Rambling.
Canada314 Posts
On February 26 2009 23:37 deepBlu wrote: but really it's ur grandpa. u should be really really pissed. this shouldn't even matter whether or not you say anything to the crowd. if u really value ur grandpa, the impact has already been done by the very death alone... what you're doing by saying a speech is just to give solace to the people who are still living and trying to impact their lives... but if u truly value ur grandpa, this shouldn't even be important to you It's important to me because im trying to do the best I can for my gramps, he deserves no less. I'm on my out the door now, thanks for your advice everyone. | ||
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deepBlu
31 Posts
but if it doesn't work, such that they don't really care, then it doesn't matter at all what you say. but if they do care, and they see that this kid from nowhere that most of them barely know gives such a great idea about himself and what everyone else should be doing, then it'll help u a) make greater connections 9better your own life that you have left) b) know that your grandpa's death is one step closer to helping people out c) just telling people what you think and how you feel regarding this subject, you are helping yourself cementing your own philosophical goals and opinions so do it well, because you'll want to true to yourself here as it's much easier to follow it and what you said as long as you live than it is to follow what you thought and didn't say (this rules applies to most people i thin) one idea i would suggest is making everyone here imagine themselves as being part near death or telling them to imagine themselves dying and trying to make them think what would they do in our grandpa's situation. what regrets they have, what goals do they have left to accomplish, which people would they like finish their relations with, what new goals they would set for themselves in the time they have left. because if they do this, then they will most likely be more true and think more intrinsically to themselves than any other time in their lives, and this is important to ppl. and whatever things they think about, they'll connectwith those around them, perhaps even helping build social projects or inspiring even better ideas or just become better people in the end, or it could send them to revaluate their own goals and fight even harder for them. but overall generally, it's going to make it better for everyone else, and people will be quicker/smatter/ in their actions because they'll be more reminded of the scarcity that is their life | ||
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deepBlu
31 Posts
but really, in response, it's not for your grandpa, he's already dead. it's for the people who are still living. just way i think of thigns, what can you do really for your grandpa// nohting much. the'ere s no afterlife... no way he'll come back to life... | ||
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Reason
United Kingdom2770 Posts
It's got fuck all to do with giving them solace. Of course since there IS a funeral you want to make people happier, give feeling of closure, give them a grander view of things (religion, god etc *hawk*) so they don't feel so down, but that's NOT what it's all about. It's about showing respect. Breathing and heartrate will increase if you are nervous, excited, frightened etc... These emotions/feelings will almost, apart from the jitters of being onstage, be entirely dependent upon your delivery. You are called/go to the stand, your heartrate will increase no matter how prepared you are. You begin speaking and of course will be nervous for first few seconds but you'll probably surprise yourself with how smooth your talking you'll begin to calm down. It's a speech and it's your delivery that counts, don't focus on breathing, heartrate, focus on delivery and nature will keep those in check. I don't care how many excercises you learn/practice if you start fucking up your heart is going to start pounding like shit.... Practice it until you can do it without the sheet ( if possible ) but definitely take it up with you you'll need it for reference in the heat of the moment. As far as speaking in public goes, I find the worst problem is the concept of time. When all the focus is on you sometimes you begin talking 1000000 miles an hour, or maybe you over-avoid this and actually talk really slow. This was personally my issue, (equal to larger crowd) I would speed up uncontrollably the more nervous I got. If you mis pronounce a word, miss one out, your voice goes high pitched, WHATEVER goes wrong, don't try to rush back into where you were. If you feel thrown, or nervous, take a second, even look up and around. Just take literally 2-3 seconds IN annnnnnnnnnnd OUT, then continue....... You need to be confident in the way you speak. When you make mistakes, you lose confidence, you may start to stutter or mess up and that will make you lose confidence even more. Basically your human and you are almost guaranteed to make mistakes (by your own views, people might not notice you not pronouncing a word in the way you usually pronounce it or a weird inflection in your voice, but YOU will) How to be a good speaker is how you deal with it. Just be calm, recollect and continue speaking. Ideally just pretend it never happened and half the people there won't even notice the error. If you mess something up(happens), then you try to repeat or rephrase and it messes up AGAIN (happens T_T) just move onto the next bit, unless it's crucial. If it actually goes tits up just clear your throat loudly and raise your eyes to the heavens and say a quick prayer then try to begin from where you left off. People will understand your grandpa just died. If you mess up or get emotional no one will judge you negatively, they will feel for you. I think more than likely if you really mean what you are saying you will say it with such conviction and confidence as it comes from the heart that you'll do a perfect run. Good luck, and sorry to hear he passed away. edit: 3clipse makes good points, minus the drugs | ||
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Navane
Netherlands2757 Posts
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KaasZerg
Netherlands927 Posts
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Manifesto7
Osaka27174 Posts
http://www.teamliquid.net/blogs/viewblog.php?id=59572 | ||
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Physician
United States4146 Posts
On February 26 2009 20:33 Rambling. wrote: My grandpa passed over the weekend (btw, I'm ot an attention whore looking for your sympathy, eat your heart out Zia). ~Sexy Jeffrey - I couldn't help but wonder about the choice of words and conflicting thoughts.. | ||
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MiniRoman
Canada3953 Posts
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