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Hey,
I don't know how to start this but I feel just posting about this will make me feel better and perhaps I can get some advice. As some of you know, I've been married since Dec 2007. My wife lives in Egypt. Some of her family live in Canada and USA but she went to school in Egypt and got a degree in Biochemistry.
Anyways, I went down in December and during that time my wife got pregnant. She is 2 months pregnant at the moment.
I just found out from my wife that she has been bleeding. She went to the doctors and they said its because her uterus is not closed like it should be which is resulting in her bleeding and gave her medication and told her to lie down alot. That was like 2 days ago and she continued bleeding. The doctors also told her (and maybe I got this wrong) but the baby could just get detached. From what i read online, at the 8 weeks to 12 weeks stage, the baby is like only 1 inch long.
I'm just so worried. My wife is so worried. I'm having a hard time to sleep. I'll want to sleep and it will take me 2 hours to sleep. I can't concentrate on anything including SC and I'm getting pissed at anything and anyone for the stupidest things ever. Sometimes I'll just stare at the computer screen blindly and think and just do nothing for 10-20 minutes...
I know Physician is a doctor and I'm hoping he reads this. Currently my wife is in Egypt and I'm in Toronto, Canada. I haven't been able to find out much online about this 'bleeding' and I know other people have wives/girlfriends that have given birth or might know friends or relatives that had a complication like this.
If my wife continues bleeding, then does the baby die? Will the uterus natually close at some point or can it be forced to close? Does anyone with medical knowledge know how long this can last. Is it harmful to my wife?
I guess this is sort of a stupid blog but I think letting it out is better for me. I haven't told anyone but I guess I have to tell someone.
If it matters, my wife's mother has like 9 kids and had 2 miscarriages. My wife is 21 and of course this is her first pregnancy.
 
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United Kingdom4282 Posts
Wow that's really scary.
In fact something similar happened to my mother when she was carrying me. I don't know the details because apparently she was in the US at the time and felt betrayed by the medical system there for some reason, didn't really want to talk about it.
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I hope your wife has a safe delivery and that your wife and the baby are ok.
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GL bro. I'd suggest talking it over with people who are close to you.
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i googled this
http://parents.berkeley.edu/advice/pregnancy/bleeding.html
Yes, I had bleeding early in pregnancy.
The first time was for a few days, and my OB told me that it is not uncommon for this to happen when the -Corpus Luteum stops producing all the pregnacy hormones, and the placenta takes over, the uterus can get confusing hormone signals for a little while, causing it to shed a little of the uterine lining.
Then, a few weeks later (at about 9 or 10 weeks, like you) I started bleeding again. It didn't stop after a few days. In fact, I bled for nearly a month. Mostly spotting, but sometimes heavier. Sometimes, quite bit heavier (usually, this was in the morning when I first got up, so I think it was just that it had built up over night).
ANYWAY, I went in for more ultra-sounds, and the baby was FINE. So, we made an appointment for a more sophisticated ultra sound, to check for placenta previa (when the placenta covers the cervix). I didn't have placenta previa (whew!) but I did have a LOW placenta, which meant that it was within easy reach of baby's feet - my sweet little fetus was KICKING the placenta, causing it to bleed. This condition usually corrects itself, with the placenta moving higher (out of reach of baby!) as the uterus grows larger. It seems to have corrected itself, I'm now at 4.5 months and haven't had any bleeding for about a month (yay!). VERY disconcerting. I recommend that you ask your doctor --if it continues-- to check for placenta previa or low placenta, to see if the baby is kicking it.
BTW: even if you have placenta previa, this early on it's not such a big deal, just like a low placenta, placenta previa corrects itself 90% of the time.
Best to you! I know how scary this is, but as long as the baby is ok, it's probably not terribly serious. Been there!
not sure if its what you're looking for but it seems to be quite similar
hope everything comes out alright 
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On February 22 2009 10:56 Caller wrote:i googled this http://parents.berkeley.edu/advice/pregnancy/bleeding.htmlShow nested quote +Yes, I had bleeding early in pregnancy.
The first time was for a few days, and my OB told me that it is not uncommon for this to happen when the -Corpus Luteum stops producing all the pregnacy hormones, and the placenta takes over, the uterus can get confusing hormone signals for a little while, causing it to shed a little of the uterine lining.
Then, a few weeks later (at about 9 or 10 weeks, like you) I started bleeding again. It didn't stop after a few days. In fact, I bled for nearly a month. Mostly spotting, but sometimes heavier. Sometimes, quite bit heavier (usually, this was in the morning when I first got up, so I think it was just that it had built up over night).
ANYWAY, I went in for more ultra-sounds, and the baby was FINE. So, we made an appointment for a more sophisticated ultra sound, to check for placenta previa (when the placenta covers the cervix). I didn't have placenta previa (whew!) but I did have a LOW placenta, which meant that it was within easy reach of baby's feet - my sweet little fetus was KICKING the placenta, causing it to bleed. This condition usually corrects itself, with the placenta moving higher (out of reach of baby!) as the uterus grows larger. It seems to have corrected itself, I'm now at 4.5 months and haven't had any bleeding for about a month (yay!). VERY disconcerting. I recommend that you ask your doctor --if it continues-- to check for placenta previa or low placenta, to see if the baby is kicking it.
BTW: even if you have placenta previa, this early on it's not such a big deal, just like a low placenta, placenta previa corrects itself 90% of the time.
Best to you! I know how scary this is, but as long as the baby is ok, it's probably not terribly serious. Been there! not sure if its what you're looking for but it seems to be quite similar hope everything comes out alright
Thank you
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I hope everything turns out fine.
+ Show Spoiler +What names you thinking for male/female so far?
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http://www.uptodate.com/patients/content/topic.do?topicKey=pregnan/5386
Miscarriages are unfortunately very common, especially in the early stages of pregnancy. The link above is an Uptodate article on miscarriages for you (some pages may be subscriber only). Uptodate is a very reliable source used by many physicians (at least in the USA). Google has a cached copy if you cannot access through the link above (search for "miscarriage"). I hope you're wife and baby do well and certainly be constantly talking to your wife to see how she is doing and please talk more with her physician, and ask him/her the questions you want answered.
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Calm down, take a deep breath, Everything will be fine.
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I wish I could give you some proffesional advice, but I really don't know anything about this.
Nonetheless, I wish you and your family all the best. I'm sure everything will be okay.
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Congrats on the pregnancy, I can only hope that your wife and baby are fine. I don't know much about the subject but I'm here if you ever need someone to talk to over a drink or something.
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On February 22 2009 10:56 Caller wrote:
I recommend that you ask your doctor --if it continues-- to check for placenta previa or low placenta, to see if the baby is kicking it.
has she asked?
get her to ask ^^;
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That really sucks man. You're in my prayers.
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gl yaq, im praying for you too
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All the best to your wife and your baby, I really hope that everything will turn out fine.
If I can give you a piece of advice, I wouldn't look towards the internet for information in a situation like this. All it will do is make you paranoid.
When my mother came back from Kenya, she got seriously ill a few days later. I googled her symptoms and everything to the last detail in her symptoms fit in with malaria and a particularly dangerous and potentially lethal type of malaria too. It freaked me out pretty badly, because everything fit so perfectly and I was convinced this couldn't be a coincidence and that she actually did have malaria.
Well, she didn't. She had a bad cystitis and was perfectly fine again after a day at the hospital. So many different symptoms can point to so many different causes that trying to play doctor for yourself and finding out by browsing the internet/asking friends is a bad idea.
If this was something really serious I'm sure your wife's doctor would have told her, but if you're still afraid, maybe she should just see him again and ask exactly what's happening and what the possible consequences of this bleeding are? Or you could go see a doctor in Canada to ease your mind (or at least find out exactly what you're dealing with)?
All the best man.
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Hey, I hope your wife and baby will be fine. Unfortunately, I know nothing of this nature 
Best of luck.
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Bosnia-Herzegovina1437 Posts
I'm sorry to hear that man, I hope both of them will be fine. Best of luck.
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United States24698 Posts
On February 22 2009 10:42 Yaqoob wrote:
I guess this is sort of a stupid blog but I think letting it out is better for me. I haven't told anyone but I guess I have to tell someone.
No this is not a stupid blog. For something like this, we'll do whatever we can to support you and wish you luck. Pregnancy isn't an area I'm particularly familiar with though. Don't beat yourself up for how you feel right now... you have every right. Hopefully you'll get to the truth of the matter soon.
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Belgium6771 Posts
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wow... u never told me this on bnet.... this is understandable....
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On February 22 2009 10:42 Yaqoob wrote:
I guess this is sort of a stupid blog but I think letting it out is better for me. I haven't told anyone but I guess I have to tell someone.
Not at all Yaq.
I've known you for quite some time and you know you have a group of friends that you can always talk to about anything. If something like this were to happen to me I would most definitely look for some way to vent and get things off my chest.
Good luck with everything man.
@Faust, Bisu for a boy and Yaqooba for a girl...obviously.
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Yaq, I sincerley hope things will work well.
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Hope nothing goes wrong. Best of luck to you.
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On February 22 2009 14:00 micronesia wrote:Show nested quote +On February 22 2009 10:42 Yaqoob wrote:
I guess this is sort of a stupid blog but I think letting it out is better for me. I haven't told anyone but I guess I have to tell someone. Pregnancy isn't an area I'm particularly familiar with though.
Awww, don't be so modest Micro. I know you've been preggers before.
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holy crap, you can't even compare the other blogs to this, it has it's own level of sadness...
Good luck and I'll pray for your wife and baby.
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Osaka27149 Posts
First of all, this isn't as uncommon as you think. When my wife was pregnant with our first child, there were some problems with the uterus and she was bleeding too. You could see the shading in the ultrasound photo where the uterus had not developed properly. Obviously, this was really scary.
She had to remain in bed for much of the first few months of her pregnancy, and had to be careful through the whole term. Eventually the bleeding did stop and she became more mobile. Our baby is happy and healthy now, as is my wife.
I know it is scary now, even more so for you because you cannot be there to comfort your wife. However, this fear is worse than the problem itself. Your wife will take care of herself and your baby, and things will be good.
I'm sorry I can't give you any medical advice, I only have this personal experience. If you want to vent about it though, or have any questions, I'll answer them np.
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What mani said sounds about right, the first pregnancy for a woman is probably a little more difficult than subsequent ones. It will probably be more painful and some blood involved like there is now, but I would give the benefit of doubt to the reproduction system which is the most important system of all and therefore most likely to work. Of course this is just anecdotal.
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yikes, i hope everything turns out right. don't know what else to say, but hang in there
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On February 22 2009 17:39 Manifesto7 wrote:
First of all, this isn't as uncommon as you think. When my wife was pregnant with our first child, there were some problems with the uterus and she was bleeding too. You could see the shading in the ultrasound photo where the uterus had not developed properly. Obviously, this was really scary.
She had to remain in bed for much of the first few months of her pregnancy, and had to be careful through the whole term. Eventually the bleeding did stop and she became more mobile. Our baby is happy and healthy now, as is my wife.
I know it is scary now, even more so for you because you cannot be there to comfort your wife. However, this fear is worse than the problem itself. Your wife will take care of herself and your baby, and things will be good.
I'm sorry I can't give you any medical advice, I only have this personal experience. If you want to vent about it though, or have any questions, I'll answer them np.
Manifesto is a hero...
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Everything will be okay!
I too would like to know what names you are thinking of =)
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On February 22 2009 17:39 Manifesto7 wrote:
First of all, this isn't as uncommon as you think. When my wife was pregnant with our first child, there were some problems with the uterus and she was bleeding too. You could see the shading in the ultrasound photo where the uterus had not developed properly. Obviously, this was really scary.
She had to remain in bed for much of the first few months of her pregnancy, and had to be careful through the whole term. Eventually the bleeding did stop and she became more mobile. Our baby is happy and healthy now, as is my wife.
I know it is scary now, even more so for you because you cannot be there to comfort your wife. However, this fear is worse than the problem itself. Your wife will take care of herself and your baby, and things will be good.
I'm sorry I can't give you any medical advice, I only have this personal experience. If you want to vent about it though, or have any questions, I'll answer them np.
Yes, this is the same with my wife. If she gets up and moves then the bleeding starts and the doctor told her to lay down. She basically is on the bed now the whole day because whenever she moves then she bleeds.
Was your wife able to get up and walk around for the first couple of months or did she have to just lay on the bed?
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Osaka27149 Posts
After about 3(?) or so months whe was able to move around a bit more. When the baby is still so small, it is actually quite roomy in there. The body is preparing itself for this big ordeal, and sometimes things don't develop like in a textbook.
Once the baby gets bigger and starts stretching the uterus, it will firm up any problems pretty quickly. That is what happened with my wife (although she still spotted for quite a while) and she was able to move around a lot more.
It is extremely frustrating to just lay there though, I know. Because Japanese health care is rather strict, she was in the hospital for quite a while. Normally you can just be at home, like your wife.
Hang in there buddy. Talk to your wife as much as possible, even if it is only 5 minutes a day (I did the long distance thing for 2 years with my wife, so I feel you there). Try to think about some of the positive things too. You're gonna be a daddy! That is pretty awesome when you think about it. When I got all stressed out in this situation, I went and bought some kick ass baby shoes. Made me feel good (I AM MAN, I PROVIDE) and baby shoes look so cool. Take a picture of them and send them to your wife. She will be happy 
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Requesting the picture of the baby shoes.
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Thanks Mani
I might actually go out and buy some baby shoes.
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Physician
United States4146 Posts
On February 22 2009 10:42 Yaqoob wrote:
She went to the doctors and they said its because her uterus is not closed like it should be which is resulting in her bleeding and gave her medication and told her to lie down alot. That was like 2 days ago and she continued bleeding. There really isn't enough information for me to tell you something to stop your worries and fortunately for the same reasons also nothing to increase your worries. Just trust the docs, Egyptian doctors tend to be very well trained/good. The 2 diseases you can look up that might be causing this is placenta previa and cervical insufficiency (incompetent cervix) but there is a ton of other conditions too that can cause early bleeding too.
Best thing you can do is keep in touch with her doctor, talk to him, ask him all your questions politely and keep in touch, that way he knows people are looking out for your wife and you get a feel for his care. Make sure an obstetrician/gynecologist sees her not just a family practitioner.
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I am sorry to hear that, I just had my baby girl 2 weeks ago and we had the fortune of not passing through all this, however we did ask about it just in case it happen adn pur doctor explained to us that is not uncommon to happen specially in the first baby so dont over worry about it, I am pretty sure your wife and baby will be fine.
I have hear about some cases like yours around and in all the cases the woman was reqeusted to keep in bed as much as posible and rest, as boring as it can be is the best for both to avoid any further complicationl.
When is the probably birth day??? Do what Mani said, get some cute shoes ( I will suggest a little bit big cause they grow up so fast that there is a chance they wont use them too much xD) and take some pictures! It will make you both smile =)
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