If you were me, what would you do? - Page 2

Xenocide_Knight

Korea (South)2625 Posts

October 08 2008 00:19 GMT

#21

moving on seems to be the best option
if you really like her
then be happy that she's happy
and if u cant be happy for her
then she's not the right girl for you anyway

evanthebouncy!

United States12796 Posts

October 08 2008 01:19 GMT

#22

Let it be haha...
I figured that girls with boyfriends are more attractive anyways so just get used to it.

There are more to check out, don't dwell on the taken my friend!

And think about her some more, all her attractiveness might be you over idolizing her.

AngryGoliath

United States32 Posts

October 08 2008 02:24 GMT

#23

It is your vanity that is crying out, not your heart. You don't love her, you merely desire her. You have allowed your imagination to be captivated by her delicate figure, the curves of her body, and the charm of her physiognomy, so that you have come to feel that she is somehow necessary for your happiness. But happiness is by no means the goal of love, and the sooner you come to understand this, the sooner you will forget about her. True love expresses itself in compassion alone, in our willingness to suffer for the sake of another. Anything we call "love" that is not compassion is nothing other than selfish desire. If you truly yearn to experience love, I would advise you to find a 250-pound unattractive woman who all her life has felt nothing but envy, misery, and the contempt and cruelty of others, and devote yourself to her.

Chef

10810 Posts

October 08 2008 02:31 GMT

#24

Don't obsess so much about someone, especially when you hardly even know them.

Don't put all your eggs in one basket.

Don't worry about it.

There may have been an opportunity, but it passed you by. Look for other girls. You're in a really unhealthy cycle of thought right now, and you need to try your best to stop it.

EtherealDeath

United States8366 Posts

October 08 2008 02:53 GMT

#25

Hmm....

personally, I'd wager you're screwed. (Sorry to be so direct).

SiegeTanksandBlueGoo

China685 Posts

October 08 2008 02:57 GMT

#26

Oh man, OP is so me. Dude, you need to just live your life out. Take what life gives you, and make zealots with it (ok bad joke). But seriously though. The girl is not worth it. I found that out the hard way. Chances are, even if she broke up with her boyfriend, it'd be a long shot to say she would magically like you all the sudden. Find a new girl, say hi, smile and crack some jokes. Soon you'll be well on your way to becoming the next Hugh Hefner (save some girls for the rest of us. ;_;)

GL HF, and remember the best cure for a broken heart, is a sexy girlfriend.

JMave

Singapore1803 Posts

October 08 2008 07:34 GMT

#27

Thanks alot guys. You've definately opened up my perspective. Thanks.

But just one thing though.

I don't claim to have loved her in anyway. I've known that since the very beginning. I just thought maybe I'd let her know but nah I think its just better off moving on.

JMave

Singapore1803 Posts

October 09 2008 13:21 GMT

#28

I just thought about it through just now while I was at home and I'm actually quite puzzled to the way things turned out.

I've decided to move on and I'm not really turning back but its just something that I'm wondering why.

I first met her last year and she started to show interest in me this year. She kept looking at me. I really thought she liked me. But I found out that she had a boyfriend a few weeks later at the bus-stop.

Why's that?

Nytefish

United Kingdom4282 Posts

October 09 2008 14:00 GMT

#29

I think you've got it all wrong. Just because someone glances at you a lot doesn't mean they're interested in an intimate relationship. In fact, even if they smile, wave and say hi every time they see you doesn't mean they don't already have a boyfriend.

I have a feeling you don't have a single female friend...

nA.Inky

United States794 Posts

October 09 2008 14:40 GMT

#30

You missed your window, it sounds like. And this stuff about writing letters and feeling such feverish passion despite hardly talking and not expressing romantic interest is just too much. You should step lightly into romance. If you come on strong, it will often scare people away. Even when two people really are attracted to each other and available, falling too fast can feel very chaotic and disconcerting, even if it turns out well.

Don't worry, I think a lot of us have stepped too lightly at first, while having a monsterous crush. Learn from it. In the future, when conversation flows well and there is a positive energy, express romantic interest right away, by suggesting another get together, like going to get some food, or doing some activity, or hanging out. If THAT goes well, hold her hand, kiss her, etc. (I usually ask first - works fine for me).

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