EPTissue with my parents... - Page 2
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Mastermind
Canada7096 Posts
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caelym
United States6421 Posts
edit: high school is over rated. anyone saying it's the best years of your life is entitled to his own opinion but dont swayed by it. each person is different. edit2: i'm asian and just graduated last year from high school, so i know how you feel. stay strong and keep a positive mental attitude | ||
Jibba
United States22883 Posts
What you need to do is prove that you can balance school and fun. You seem like a pretty bright kid so there's no reason you shouldn't be able to get straight As and still have a good time. Plenty of kids I went to highschool with were able to do it (I slacked majorly in highschool, but in college I've been able to.) Your tests will be over in like Oct. right? So get good grades this semester and do well on the test. You shouldn't need to study all day to do that. Then talk to them and say "look what I've done, can you cut me some slack now?" | ||
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nAi.PrOtOsS
Canada784 Posts
But I think the reason a lot of Asian people play starcraft judging by this thread and my own reasons for playing starcraft, I think it would be for Escapism. On a side note, as soon as you move out then you can start partying!! | ||
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GrayArea
United States872 Posts
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Ideas
United States8108 Posts
I guess I'm lucky that my parents trusted me enough to study by myself and do good in school by myself. You should try to teach your parents about how one needs a balanced life to live healthy( a good social life and to have fun). I'm surprised you haven't melted down from studying so much :O | ||
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xhuwin
United States476 Posts
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Ozarugold
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Licmyobelisk
Philippines3682 Posts
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BanZu
United States3329 Posts
I suggest slowly weening your parents off these absurd ideas. The more you get to do things out of the norm the more they'll get used to it (hopefully). Seems like this concept worked with my parents. | ||
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EsX_Raptor
United States2801 Posts
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Roffles
Pitcairn19291 Posts
Your parents probably grew up during the same time mine did in China, where getting to college takes ridiculous amounts of hard work and studying. Back then it was simply your college examination scores, no other aspects. And once you got into college, you were basically guaranteed a job. But the US is different, because scores aren't everything here. Here in the US, they teach you to be a more complete person, developing skills in areas other than your major. Looking back, my parents always tell me that I have luxuries they could only dream of, such as getting to learn how to play an instrument and other stuff. There's more to life than just studying and working your ass off. Social aspects are important, because well if you can't communicate and relate stuff with your peers and colleagues, your skills are useless no matter how great they are. Notice how most asians in their 30s and 40s usually work programmer jobs. Their skill level no doubt is skyhigh, but they're unable to ascend the ranks because of social ineptness, partially due to language skills but also people skills. Anyways, this is just a clash of old times vs new times. Your parents are still living in the past in rural China, while you're living your adolescence in the United States. I see where they're coming from, but in order to get past this, you're gonna have to spend some time telling them that the conditions just aren't the same. You must acknowledge all the hard work that your parents went through to get here, but at the same time you must let them understand that in order to succeed here in the US, it takes more than just studying all day all night. Good luck on your ACTs and your junior year. Get through this one and next year will be great! | ||
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Luddite
United States2315 Posts
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Rayzorblade
United States1172 Posts
 I wish I could even just hang out with you because you seem like a genuinely nice guy, mature enough (even as a junior) to consider why your father would act this way and being sympathetic about it. It seems to me that you're turning out to be a good person, so they must be doing something right (albeit at the cost of your social life, which may have other ramifications for you later in life). | ||
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TheTyranid
Russian Federation4333 Posts
I have a friend who has complete freedom over his parents. He tells me he "tamed" them. The main reason he was able to do that is because he had decent grades at school and he told his parents that since he had good grades why should they limit his rights? He was always defiant and in the end the parents got tired of trying to control him. Now they buy him alcohol (hes only 18) and let him go anywhere since he has his own car. | ||
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Yaqoob
Canada3330 Posts
On a side note he plays a lot for someone who hides it. I think last ICCup he played 500 games or something and I'm impressed he has been able to hide it that much and really happy. I've played lots of games with him and almost 30% of the time he has to leave or gtg cause his parents woke up or came back from their walk outside. It can be really depressing being in that situation. This almost makes me want to blog about my family and how they treated me cause its almost the complete opposite but in a bad way too. I can't wait till GS is in College and away from his parents. Gladstone, PM me the times you are online. I mean the usual times on the weekend [Friday - Sunday] that you are on [i.e parents out/sleeping/walking] so we can play some games. | ||
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Salv
Canada3083 Posts
On September 11 2008 09:18 CaucasianAsian wrote: sucks, but do your parents give u drug tests every monday like mine did for over a year? (when i never did any drugs) Fuckkkkked up. | ||
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Xeris
Iran17695 Posts
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Ghardo
Germany1685 Posts
it's a pity... everyone needs a certain freedom to develop and if parents just want you to focus 100% on studying 24/7 it may give you a better chance later on to get a job but you'll lack something. and I at least think you can reach much higher standards if you can fully develop your personality rather than mainstream your brain with pure knowledge only. you stress the point that money is not everything and doesn't necessarily makes you happier than other ppl who may have fewer of it. that's right i guess and the real important things you often can not buy with money (love, affection, friendship) but one should also not fall below a certain level of security and living standard, otherwise there ARE problems. yeah.. you are right in your thinking and you have my sympathy  i cannot really give you good advice though.. my parents were rather liberal as far as these things are concerned but i also know of friends who had a similar situation as you and were later able to prevail over the excessive demands of their parents. see what you can do | ||
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skyglow1
New Zealand3962 Posts
I was gonna say what Roffles said regarding the fact that extracurriculars and being a well rounded student is just as important as your grades when getting into colleges. Your parents are probably pushing you so hard academically because they want you to get into a good college. In that case, what you could do is like show that you share their hopes and that you also really want to get into a good college (I'm guessing you do?) but in order to do so, you'd need to have the extracurricular activities and so on. Not sure how you're gonna convince them of that, but maybe do the same as roffle's parents and get your own parents to talk to college admission people or career advisor people that are involved in the admission process. If you do manage to convince them that you'll need more than just really good grades, explain to them that you would still study the same amount, but that you'll manage your time really well so you can study and do other stuff too like track. | ||
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