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tKd_
United States2916 Posts
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xiaofan
United States513 Posts
you need to show her that you're better than that guy | ||
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Chef
10810 Posts
how old are you? truth always works. talk to her. geez, what is up with you boys who can freakin TALK to the girl they are infatuated with? It's generally not cool to confuse someone by telling them your like them when they're in a relationship. He wants to break it off quick because it's generally miserable for a person to 'just be friends' with someone they've always wanted more from. It's not "well it might be nice one day, but I'm not particularly thinking about it," it's "I really like this girl, and every time I hear her talk about her dumb boyfriend, I feel like shit." I don't know much about how he got into this situation, but that's my guess about what's going on. It's not a rule limited to stupid guys. | ||
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Ozarugold
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yubee
United States3826 Posts
On September 03 2008 11:38 lilsusie wrote: yeah, i totally agree that he should confront her. i was in this situation like 2 months ago and i put it out on the table, she decided she couldn't leave her bf, and it went just like thisyubee, i dont understand. do you think it's better to just end the friendship while the girl has no idea what's going on? or should he at least tell her how he's feeling and if she's a bitch about it, THEN break off the friendship? i could understand if you think that he should do the latter, however, guys who just kinda stop talking to me (then years down the line i find out that they, in fact, liked me or whatnot) really bothered me because i was completely in the dark about the situation. i honestly think he should confront her and tell her how he feels if it's someone he really cares for. if after he's gotten it off his chest and she gives some flakey answer, then it would be alright for him to break it all off. + Show Spoiler + (2:08:21 PM) yubee: look (2:08:28 PM) yubee: i can't be your friend (2:08:29 PM) yubee: i'm sorry i dunno how you could just not ever say anything to the girl, imo anyone with a little bit of self-respect would at least find out if the girl feels the same way also i'm reiterating to anyone that doesn't get it, breaking off a friendship with a girl you're really into because she has a boyfriend is SMART and HEALTHY, not stupid or "a dick thing to do" | ||
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Chef
10810 Posts
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sqwert
United States781 Posts
On September 03 2008 11:54 PsycHOTemplar wrote: You did it over MSN... Haha, that's classic. ima do it in real life o.o | ||
Jibba
United States22883 Posts
"You've had 5 years to tell me you're into me, and now you don't want to be friends?" Seriously? I've done broken friendships with exes, but I think it's totally unfair to 1) openly come on to a girl when she's in a relationship 2) give her an ultimatum like that when you've never gotten intimately close or have never told her for a long period of time. | ||
lilsusie
3861 Posts
On September 03 2008 11:46 PsycHOTemplar wrote: It's generally not cool to confuse someone by telling them your like them when they're in a relationship. He wants to break it off quick because it's generally miserable for a person to 'just be friends' with someone they've always wanted more from. It's not "well it might be nice one day, but I'm not particularly thinking about it," it's "I really like this girl, and every time I hear her talk about her dumb boyfriend, I feel like shit." I don't know much about how he got into this situation, but that's my guess about what's going on. It's not a rule limited to stupid guys. yes but .. to just break it off quickly without talking with her and giving her the truth? that's the part that irks me. boys need to be able to lay it out on the table and be honest. it annoys me to bits when someone just breaks off a friendship with no explanation. On September 03 2008 11:57 Jibba wrote: If you've been friends with them for a long period of time and haven't yet communicated to them that you like them, then I think it is. "You've had 5 years to tell me you're into me, and now you don't want to be friends?" Seriously? I've done broken friendships with exes, but I think it's totally unfair to 1) openly come on to a girl when she's in a relationship 2) give her an ultimatum like that when you've never gotten intimately close or have never told her for a long period of time. heh, 1) she's NOT in a relationship (i dont think) she just got with the MALE best friend. and 2) yeah dont give an ultimatum, just kinda tell her how it is without being forceful. "listen, it really hurts me to see you with another guys, esp since i care for you. i might need to take a step back in our friendship because i want you to be happy without me and i need time to get over you." if she's a bitch about it even after you've said THAT, then she's not one you'd want to be with in the first place, right? | ||
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XCetron
5226 Posts
so I'm spamming her with random anime intros/ Starleagues intros/ Game reviews and other stuff just like I do with other people. Wonder how long her patience will last | ||
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Caller
Poland8075 Posts
On September 03 2008 11:58 XCetron wrote: this happened to me before too, the girl "wasn't ready for a relationship" from what I've heard, so now she just wants to be friends and "enjoy talking with" me. so I'm spamming her with random anime intros/ Starleagues intros/ Game reviews and other stuff just like I do with other people. Wonder how long her patience will last lolololololololol dude, regardless of who gets with whoever, girls don't really know what they want. ever. they will always change. and everybody has shitty times, and they will remember who was good to them during shitty times. like the time the girl contracts a (curable) std and everybody shuns her as a slut, even when shes cured completely, she'll remember the one person that was nice to her, etc, crying broken sex, etc. etc. etc. more importantly relationships are a great waste of time that could be spent doing other things, like mass gaming on iccup and developing your own life. | ||
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ulszz
Jamaica1787 Posts
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sqwert
United States781 Posts
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Chef
10810 Posts
yes but .. to just break it off quickly without talking with her and giving her the truth? that's the part that irks me. boys need to be able to lay it out on the table and be honest. it annoys me to bits when someone just breaks off a friendship with no explanation. He is going to talk to her about it though... She's obviously going to ask why, and he's going to tell her... I don't understand where you're coming from lol heh, 1) she's NOT in a relationship (i dont think) she just got with the MALE best friend Lol.... So what should he expect her to do? Ditch her best friend for him? It's not going to happen. It's a shitty deal for him either way right now, and he's just trying to do damage control (whether the damage is thru fault of his own, or just a series of long, difficult to control events gone awry that have prevented him from telling her the last few years). ima do it in real life o.o That's good, man  Don't do it any other way if you have any dignity. | ||
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Jibba
United States22883 Posts
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sqwert
United States781 Posts
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d34gl3r
Korea (South)92 Posts
On September 03 2008 11:42 xiaofan wrote: have you ever tried challenging her bf to a 1v1? you need to show her that you're better than that guy Yes I agree. | ||
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lilsusie
3861 Posts
On September 03 2008 12:08 PsycHOTemplar wrote: He is going to talk to her about it though... She's obviously going to ask why, and he's going to tell her... I don't understand where you're coming from lol Lol.... So what should he expect her to do? Ditch her best friend for him? It's not going to happen. It's a shitty deal for him either way right now, and he's just trying to do damage control (whether the damage is thru fault of his own, or just a series of long, difficult to control events gone awry that have prevented him from telling her the last few years). That's good, man Don't do it any other way if you have any dignity.heh nah she won't "leave" the best friend, i'm saying, does she have a relationship with the best friend or was it just a fling? .. and if he's gonna talk to her about it (i dunno, i just got this vibe that you DIDNT want him to talk to her, just to break it off) then that's cool. | ||
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8Pylon
United States223 Posts
just lay it out for her like lilsusie said. I mean shit you guys have known each other for 5 years? seriously e.e.. Even if it comes out shitty just say it. and then if things are not getting any better then just end the friendship. Its not worth the heartache and the bs that comes along with it especially if she doesnt feel the same. but then again..maybe she did this to make you jealous O_O?!?!?! anywho dont 5 pool. Play standard | ||
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XCetron
5226 Posts
Can it get worse? Will I regret if I do/dont do it? What can I gain from this? In the long run, is this really that important? What are other more important things I should be doing? | ||
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