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i never thought that i would ask any community on an internet forum for an opinion which involves me and my dilemma. but it happened (or actually is happenening now) so somewhat help me out people. off to the problem.
Poll: should i stay or should i go now? (Vote): go? (Vote): stay?
so there is a girl that i, lets say "love" although this word is more than inadequate but there is no other which could be used instead.she's right now on vacation about 650km away from me but she's there only for about 2 weeks.in couple of hours my parents are leaving me WITH THEIR CAR and heading to croatia for vacation. on monday and tuesday i don't have to work and on wendesday my work starts about 19:00 CET. i am thinking about going to her to spend some time (~30h) with her and get back. the cost of this voyage would be sth about 150 euro (which is a big sum of money - at least for me and at this moment).
so im having a hard time deciding what to do and here is when you guys come into play. give your opinion on this please.
and as for why am i doing it: there are some bright stars here and i think that i might have not taken something into my calculations and i hope that You'll give me some more insight.monday morning (6-7 CET is t0 to decide)
if you'll help me out ill give you an update of what has been decided and its outcome.
additional info:
-there is also a 99.99999999% chance of me getting laid but plz dont use it as an argument and it wont change anything -the car isn't in bad technical shape but there have been some problems recently and i dont know if it won't break in the middle of the trip (and i cant afford that - not that much money on the account) -my parents cant know about anuthing (so until the car wont break everything is fine)
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well ya...but two things - imagine the look at her face when i would arrive - no risk no fun...
i just dont want to regret my decision.
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Don't go, but plan something special for when she gets back.
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he goes there and finds her hooked up with another guy your car gets stolen you interrupt her plans and she gets fairly mad :O
but in all seriousness just stay , lol i mean some time apart is good ~ a couple calls here and there would suffice, a letter if you really want to (girls love letters) and just do something special to say "omg i missed you" when she gets back
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don't go wait 2 damn weeks
not worth it, esp about the $300 you'd be dropping, might turn out worse then you expect etc
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you you should just wait, it would be rude to just stop by. she might be with another man :O
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That's a lot of money. Doesn't look like you car can handle 1300 km from "the small problems".
Besides, your parents can just check how many miles you drove. I'm pretty sure 1300 km is a fairly large sum.
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Don't be a clingy jughead. Stay home and enjoy your video games.
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Stay home and jack off over her picture,then when she gets back tell her how much fun you had doing so!
But really don't go thats like "WTF????????"
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well the option with an another man - not gonna happen.for sure.(almost ^^)
the letter sound nice - but it wouldn't be enough (for me that is)
car stolen and the money - ya i know... ;/
and the problem is that after she comes back we just might have not enough time for each other.
i wouldn't be considered as stopping by...so no offending her here lol.
checking the miles possible but not convincing
and if you say to prepare sth special - what would you do?or think of?
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Vote for stay, just use your logics man. Compare the netgain and risks of both option.
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On July 20 2008 11:49 arb wrote: Stay home and jack off over her picture,then when she gets back tell her how much fun you had doing so!
But really don't go thats like "WTF????????" you sir are a dumbass..or have no life.
edit:who said "go" and why?
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imo it's kinda weird to just "drop by" 1300 km away without telling her anything...
you two are together or what? talk to her... call her frist.
and the problem is that after she comes back we just might have not enough time for each other.
aha, so the one day you spend with here there is "much"? I bet you'll have more than a day to spend together when she gets back... anyway, who is she on vacation with?
basically, I'd say don't go.
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I say stay. I wouldn't take the risk. The guys/girls are right, a couple calls, saying I missed u should suffice.
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On July 20 2008 12:06 quirinus wrote:imo it's kinda weird to just "drop by" 1300 km away without telling her anything... you two are together or what? talk to her... call her frist. Show nested quote +and the problem is that after she comes back we just might have not enough time for each other. aha, so the one day you spend with here there is "much"? I bet you'll have more than a day to spend together when she gets back... anyway, who is she on vacation with? basically, I'd say don't go.
as far as i know her (and i know her quite good) she would really happy about it so thats not a problem. yes, we are together.calling her/talking about with her is optional but i know her answer already.
basicly yes, sure we will have more time but with things like that it'll never be enough - you know what i mean.
shes with her sister and the sisters husband, the mother couldn't come due to some family issues.
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yeah I know. xD
ah, well I don't know the details so it's kinda hard to help you well. I'd have some more detailed questiones, but there's no point asking.
soooo... reason vs emotions? head vs heart? which one will prevail? choose!
well imo, money <<<< time (with gf and people, new experiences, adventures, etc) so don't worry on that part. trust me on the $$$ issue, I had a lot of insight on that one. the money (&car) dosen't matter compared to that, it's a little bump on the road that many people take too seriously or don't understand how to handle it, but that's another topic.
so it comes down to your and her feelings/reactions, and everyones else reaction (the other people posts pretty much sum up a part of the reactions). if you're so sure her sister and her husband wouldn't mind, and that she'd be very happy (and you ofc), then go for it.
btw, where in croatia did they go? :D (i'm from croatia)
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you're not going to regret this if you don't go. you put forth a pretty logical judgement if you stay , imo but just do what you want to do .. <_< i don't think following a website (arguably knows barely anything on this.. topic , no offense <<; ) is a wise decision, plus we don't even know the entire circumstance
make sure u think it out though ... <.<
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On July 20 2008 13:00 quirinus wrote: yeah I know. xD
ah, well I don't know the details so it's kinda hard to help you well. I'd have some more detailed questiones, but there's no point asking.
soooo... reason vs emotions? head vs heart? which one will prevail? choose!
well imo, money <<<< time (with gf and people, new experiences, adventures, etc) so don't worry on that part. trust me on the $$$ issue, I had a lot of insight on that one. the money (&car) dosen't matter compared to that, it's a little bump on the road that many people take too seriously or don't understand how to handle it, but that's another topic.
so it comes down to your and her feelings/reactions, and everyones else reaction (the other people posts pretty much sum up a part of the reactions). if you're so sure her sister and her husband wouldn't mind, and that she'd be very happy (and you ofc), then go for it.
btw, where in croatia did they go? :D (i'm from croatia) yeah it comes down to the head vs heart battle and i wanted to know if i thought about everything.
sure that the money aren't really an issue but still that's a pretty nice amount and it could be used for some other purpouse as rewarding as the trip itself so it was more that kind of a dilemma. ^^
im still worried about the car but we will see. if i decide to go i'll prolly write about that (just found out that tl blogs are fun lol).
im not quite sure what's the name of the place they're heading to but its the dalmatia region close to sibenik - zadar - pakostane and stuff.
if you really want any answers just ask the questions.i'll try to answer all of them.
thx for your response.cheers :d
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