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Chef
Profile Blog Joined August 2005
10810 Posts
May 30 2008 17:34 GMT
#21
jacking off to her sleeping doesn't.

O Rly?

http://startelegram.typepad.com/sky_talk/2008/03/woman-files-law.html

@ OP: Just stop being her friend then. You can't be friends with someone you like as more than a friend, so stop pretending. Ask her out, and if it fails, move on.
LEGEND!! LEGEND!!
EnergyTraction
Profile Blog Joined May 2008
Canada233 Posts
Last Edited: 2008-05-30 17:36:16
May 30 2008 17:35 GMT
#22
Got a similar problem myself. Actually, I just told her that if she doesn't start treating me better because I've just let her push me around for quite awhile then I'm just not gonna bother spending time with her anymore....so I've just put my foot down about that bullshit, we'll see where it goes.

If we continue to hang out after that then after awhile of doing various things I'm just gonna tell her that I like her and if she isn't comfortable with that then I guess I'll just stop hanging out with her to avoid feeling badly about it.
He who adores the Beast shall drink of the wrath of God
QuanticHawk
Profile Blog Joined May 2007
United States32073 Posts
May 30 2008 18:58 GMT
#23
On May 30 2008 17:18 Doctorasul wrote:
Go meet new girls, it's easier than dewimping yourself in the eyes of this one.

If you're really stubborn then the best way to go about it is to stop being the wimpy friend. Don't make her the center of your world, have more important things to do than to spend time with her, when you are with her be fun, interesting and mysterious and make her work for your attention. Make it obvious that you are willing to pull the plug if she doesn't meet your expectations. Misinterpret everything she says, pick on her but don't be a clown. Have fun with or without her. When she gets interested in you start doing physical stuff - if she objects just roll back to what you were doing before and try later. If you're relaxed, having fun and escalating physically you'll win her over in no time.

Pushing buttons works, being the shoulder to cry on and jacking off to her sleeping doesn't.


Yeah, this works. Little partying doesn't hurt either!!
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Scorpion
Profile Blog Joined April 2006
United States1974 Posts
Last Edited: 2008-05-30 20:53:18
May 30 2008 19:33 GMT
#24
On May 30 2008 17:18 Doctorasul wrote:
Go meet new girls, it's easier than dewimping yourself in the eyes of this one.

If you're really stubborn then the best way to go about it is to stop being the wimpy friend. Don't make her the center of your world, have more important things to do than to spend time with her, when you are with her be fun, interesting and mysterious and make her work for your attention. Make it obvious that you are willing to pull the plug if she doesn't meet your expectations. Misinterpret everything she says, pick on her but don't be a clown. Have fun with or without her. When she gets interested in you start doing physical stuff - if she objects just roll back to what you were doing before and try later. If you're relaxed, having fun and escalating physically you'll win her over in no time.

Pushing buttons works, being the shoulder to cry on and jacking off to her sleeping doesn't.


I actually experienced this and can say that this works. I was the "shoulder to cry on" for this chick and I'd basically spill myself for her all the time but things never went anywhere. Then, out of nowhere, this other chick is interested in me but I pay no special attention to it because I really didn't have interest for her at first. We had met at parties and we made out at those parties(we were both high/drunk so we just said it was "spur of the moment" kind of things) so she wanted to start talking to me. We started hanging out in school but whenever she'd text me to go here or there I'd just be like "oh, can't, hanging with friends" or something. After treating her like a sack of shit for a week or so I end up asking her out.

:DDD

EDIT: Forgot to put that she said yes XP
Mango @ U.S.East!
Chef
Profile Blog Joined August 2005
10810 Posts
May 30 2008 19:58 GMT
#25
Forgot to put that she said yes XP

And that she was 13 and you were 18 :D
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useLess
Profile Blog Joined January 2004
United States4781 Posts
May 30 2008 19:58 GMT
#26
Friend zone means youre either weak, ugly, or both. A lot of guys complain about this because they fall under one of those categories. Man up and put yourself out there.
Moonlight Shadow
UmmTheHobo
Profile Blog Joined April 2008
United States650 Posts
May 30 2008 20:44 GMT
#27
As someone has mentioned DO NOT BE THE SHOULDER TO CRY ON. This makes you a mere tool of comfort. This makes you less than a friend, it makes you a fucking pillow.
...
Scorpion
Profile Blog Joined April 2006
United States1974 Posts
May 30 2008 20:52 GMT
#28
On May 31 2008 04:58 PsycHOTemplar wrote:
Show nested quote +
Forgot to put that she said yes XP

And that she was 13 and you were 18 :D


No, I'm 17, she's 18.

Hahhahahaha ;D
Mango @ U.S.East!
bokeevboke
Profile Blog Joined May 2010
Singapore1674 Posts
Last Edited: 2012-08-22 11:10:05
August 22 2012 11:06 GMT
#29
Somehow I got into 'friend-zone' term while surfing internet. Quite an interesting guy-topic. Not much stuff in TL about it though.

I'm already married, and not likely that I'll get friend-zoned again, hooray!!!
Given that I've been friend-zoned 3 times iirc I want to give some tips. I'm not alpha guy who strucks the girl at first time, I win girls over long time mostly. So here is my story:
1st was the most difficult and longest one. I ended up losing the girl while being in friend-zone. She didn't exactly use me, neither she told me to fuck off. I guess she knew that I was a potential boyfriend or husband. But I made a lot of mistakes and had bad qualities/behivours then. So I guess she was kinda waiting when I'm gonna realize it, but it was too late.
2nd one was rather short and I ended it myself. I was into the girl, but soon I realized I didn't like the girl. Funny though, when I lost interest in her she tried to win me back (as a boyfriend).
3rd one ended up rather good. We married.

So here are my general tips:
1. Main rule: if you are in friend-zone its 100% that she is interested in you. Maybe she's keeping you as back up, or simply likes your company. That means a lot. She doesn't wanna lose you either way.
2. Don't always say ok. Try to help only with the things which she 'really' needs and doesn't consume a lot of time. Something quick and impactful. Imagine she is a guy friend, you'd say him fuck off if he asked something simple and stupid. Same applies here.
3. Don't try to be nice to her all the time. Being jerk also helps. Be somewhere in the middle.
4. Be independent. Don't ask where she was last night. Look like you don't care. But try to learn the information from other sources.
5. Make yourself busy, so that when she calls you could always say: Sorry I'm busy, gotta go to gym/swimming/whatever. But don't show off.
6. When you are meeting together with friends, or when you are in party... ignore her.
7. Never be romantic.
8. Look out for other guys (potential boyfriends she may end up with). If things are getting worse you gotta go all-in.
I'm sure you get most of the idea.

Killing blow, or moves you need to do to finally get out of the friendzone.
1. Meet/date a new girl, the hotter the girl the better the effect. Try to setup so that she(friendzoner girl) saw you together. But don't make it like you are to serious with the new girl. Even if the 'fake' date fails you already set up the alarm. Most likely your main target will start to think about you.
2. From now on you make your best to look good, be fit and (fake)happy.
3. Be romantic. But not towards your main target.
4. Set some serious goals in your life, it may be career, money or winning something, and let her know about it. A woman doesn't like man who seeks a life just to be with her. Mostly women like to be a support (as Sona, Soraka or Janna) to men who are trying to achieve something big. You may just fake this part
5. If everything works you will find her highly interested in you. Just dont 'fuck up' this time.
6. If nothing works, kiss her, or you may end up having sex. Most likely it will end your relation

After having many ups and downs I realize this is the best method. Don't have high expectations, but atleast try. Everything is situational though.
GL HF.
Its grack
zatic
Profile Blog Joined September 2007
Zurich15345 Posts
August 22 2012 13:31 GMT
#30
Cool, but you realize this thread is over four years old?
ModeratorI know Teamliquid is known as a massive building
Kleinmuuhg
Profile Blog Joined September 2010
Vanuatu4091 Posts
August 22 2012 13:36 GMT
#31
Sadly this topic plagues the internet nowadays even more, so if his bump can help shut that down I'd call it useful.
This is our town, scrub
Arcanefrost
Profile Blog Joined August 2010
Belgium1257 Posts
August 22 2012 13:38 GMT
#32
3. Don't try to be nice to her all the time. Being jerk also helps. Be somewhere in the middle.


Be yourself. Don't be a jerk just because you think it will cause attraction.

4. Be independent. Don't ask where she was last night. Look like you don't care. But try to learn the information from other sources.


Why would you "look like you don't care" if you're in love with her, this is just stupid.

6. When you are meeting together with friends, or when you are in party... ignore her.

Don't ignore her, talk to her like you normally would.

7. Never be romantic.


No better way to commence a romantic relationship.

1. Meet/date a new girl, the hotter the girl the better the effect. Try to setup so that she(friendzoner girl) saw you together.


You're not only manipulating the girl you like and toying with her feelings, you're also using the other girl. If you do this you're a horrible person.

3. Be romantic. But not towards your main target.


Quite the opposite, be romantic towards your main target.

You're in the friendzone because you were being her friend. From now on gradually increase touching/flirting/teasing. Stop pretending to be her friend if you want to be more. What most guys are doing is faking to be just her friend, and then one day coming up to her, when they feel like it's the right time, and going all "I LOVE YOU!". She won't understand where your feeling are coming from, she won't like you anymore because you were pretending to be her friend, but just wanted to get in her pants; she will think you're a liar and she will not like you back. Want to get out of the friendzone? Man the fuck up and start letting her know.
Valor is a poor substitute for numbers.
Shock710
Profile Blog Joined December 2009
Australia6097 Posts
Last Edited: 2012-08-22 13:42:46
August 22 2012 13:41 GMT
#33
On May 31 2008 04:58 Chef wrote:
Show nested quote +
Forgot to put that she said yes XP

And that she was 13 and you were 18 :D

oh com'on wtf...even in the past (scrolled down randomly and stopped at this by chance...it feels its taunting me 0_o)
dAPhREAk gives Shock a * | [23:55] <Shock710> that was out of context -_- [16:26] <@motbob> Good question, Shock!
Dirkzor
Profile Blog Joined June 2011
Denmark1944 Posts
August 22 2012 13:58 GMT
#34
On August 22 2012 22:41 Shock710 wrote:
Show nested quote +
On May 31 2008 04:58 Chef wrote:
Forgot to put that she said yes XP

And that she was 13 and you were 18 :D

oh com'on wtf...even in the past (scrolled down randomly and stopped at this by chance...it feels its taunting me 0_o)

Hahaha... Poor shock! =)

Still talking to that girl on the bus then?
"HOW THE FUCK ARE YOU ON TOP AGAIN???? HOW DO YOU KEEP DOING THIS????" -Julmust (also, thats what she said)
aTnClouD
Profile Blog Joined May 2007
Italy2428 Posts
August 22 2012 13:59 GMT
#35
Whenever I got friendzoned in the past I always made the relationship end in a really bad way because it fucking hurts and it gives the girl you like the impression she can toy all she wants with you. It's just fucking bad and the best way is repel and ignore the girl as hard as you can until the feelings are gone.
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Animzor
Profile Joined March 2011
Sweden2154 Posts
August 22 2012 15:10 GMT
#36
This made me think about a quote from the Trailer Park Boys by Bubbles: "Here's what I know, Ricky. If you love something set it free, if it comes back to you it's yours and if it doesn't, it's not, and if it doesn't you're an asshole, just like you"
Facultyadjutant
Profile Blog Joined January 2012
Sweden1876 Posts
Last Edited: 2012-08-22 17:22:55
August 22 2012 17:19 GMT
#37
[QUOTE]On August 22 2012 22:38 Arcanefrost wrote:
[quote]3. Don't try to be nice to her all the time. Being jerk also helps. Be somewhere in the middle.[/quote]

Be yourself. Don't be a jerk just because you think it will cause attraction.

[quote].[/QUOTE]


I agree with both, but have to alter the first one with: Don´t be too nice


Have some independence, being the nice guy who does everything and then hopes that everything will work out because of him doing nice things don´t get you anywhere.



But basically friendzone = A person who loves someone else and doesn´t do antything and just hopes that by some romantic miracle youl find each other. Stop sitting around and hoping for you two to work out and get out of the friendzone and just become friends with no angst inbetween.

Just be active, it´s an easy game to play.
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Kenpachi
Profile Blog Joined August 2009
United States9908 Posts
August 22 2012 18:50 GMT
#38
i got friend zoned before i knew it
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SarR
Profile Joined June 2011
476 Posts
Last Edited: 2012-08-22 19:50:03
August 22 2012 19:49 GMT
#39
You people need to realize that when you pander to a girl's needs she will friendzone you. Its actually an insult to your manhood to get friendzoned because her instincts tell her you're not man enough to dip in her candy and its your fault not hers. You guys really really really need to learn to be unafraid to call women on their bullshit and just be more assertive in general. Also, don't buy into the whole "be your self" nonsense. It doesn't work unless you're, how should I say it, a man's man(think Hugh Jackman). You don;t need to be him though but just a little raw edge will get you guys a long way.
Shock710
Profile Blog Joined December 2009
Australia6097 Posts
August 22 2012 22:21 GMT
#40
On August 22 2012 22:58 Dirkzor wrote:
Show nested quote +
On August 22 2012 22:41 Shock710 wrote:
On May 31 2008 04:58 Chef wrote:
Forgot to put that she said yes XP

And that she was 13 and you were 18 :D

oh com'on wtf...even in the past (scrolled down randomly and stopped at this by chance...it feels its taunting me 0_o)

Hahaha... Poor shock! =)

Still talking to that girl on the bus then?

nope, havnt spoken to her since i told her we couldnt be friends havnt seen her around lately as well, Except for today where i was late for my bus, and arrived barely on time. She was sitting in seat beside the door, smiled at me and i ignored her like a boss...feel bad tho lol
dAPhREAk gives Shock a * | [23:55] <Shock710> that was out of context -_- [16:26] <@motbob> Good question, Shock!
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