Sounds like your sister is a bigger man than you. I grew up with two sisters and my mother constantly berating me for being lazy when it was menial tasks like cleaning the dishes and other things that I didn't care for but as far as yard work it's a father/son duty as it should be. The work you did doesn't sound that bad anyway, and why are you lifting with your back?

intrigue

Washington, D.C9934 Posts

April 26 2008 20:38 GMT

#25

On April 27 2008 04:56 ahrara_ wrote:
Sounds to me like your family is sick of you slacking off and not contributing to the housework. Did you consider that maybe you're at fault, and not them? I mean, what kind of fucking excuse is "I don't want to shovel dirt"? It's your parents for god's sake. You're supposed to fucking help them.

Ancestral

United States3230 Posts

April 26 2008 20:43 GMT

#26

You are all nay saying because "he should have just done the work," but that doesn't change the fact this his mother and sister were being huge annoying b***es, having to work is always a good excuse. Now I don't know the specifics of his situation, but during the summer I would often work 8-12 hours on weekend days, and at least my mom and brother understood that I was very tired and didn't go around demanding things.

I'd still try to help when I could, but sometimes I'd just sleep when I got home from work (around midnight). Requiring your children to work is one thing, but having a huge conniption over something this insignificant is ridiculous.

iNcontroL

USA29055 Posts

April 26 2008 20:50 GMT

#27

Is wayne brady gonna have to choke a bitch?

A3iL3r0n

United States2196 Posts

April 26 2008 20:54 GMT

#28

It has nothing to do with women. Your mom and sister swore at you with no repercussions from your Dad? You just have a fucked family. Sorry.

{CC}StealthBlue

United States41117 Posts

April 26 2008 20:57 GMT

#29

I would told your sister to fuck off. Your dad knew you had work soon and didn't seem to mind your sister helping. And if she was really worried she would have stayed for the entire work load not just leave when you go there. Better marry your sister off fast it seems.

TheFoReveRwaR

United States10657 Posts

April 26 2008 21:00 GMT

#30

You're both huge vaginas. Unfortunately for you she has an excuse, she has one. Man up.

BluzMan

Russian Federation4235 Posts

April 26 2008 21:19 GMT

#31

People suck, men and women.

Rev0lution

United States1805 Posts

April 26 2008 21:53 GMT

#32

your sister is a whore, but your still an asshole. Go outside and help your father!

Snet

United States3573 Posts

April 26 2008 21:54 GMT

#33

you're lucky your dad even helped

GrayArea

United States872 Posts

April 26 2008 22:38 GMT

#34

Cloud

Sexico5880 Posts

April 26 2008 22:41 GMT

#35

And you can never fucking guess what mood theyre on god damn it.

Hot_Bid

Braavos36375 Posts

April 26 2008 22:47 GMT

#36

lol is it so fucking hard to just help your dad do yardwork? who cares if your sister didn't do any

BloodyC0bbler

Canada7876 Posts

April 27 2008 00:21 GMT

#37

dont lift with your back, offering to help would have kept your mom and sis off your back.

Them yelling at you was unjustified but seriously, people do shit in their free time they dont wanna do all the time, learn to deal with it.

Night[Mare

Mexico4793 Posts

April 27 2008 00:59 GMT

#38

On April 27 2008 03:40 nemY wrote:
Yup.

Mortality

United States4790 Posts

April 27 2008 01:01 GMT

#39

Ha, I've also done some serious yardwork recently. Except it was mostly me and my mom doing the work since my dad uses his bad knee as an excuse (come on, I was doing ALL of the heavy work, so that's just BS) and my brother uses his handicap as an excuse (and then goes to the gym while we are working -- on multiple occasions). Sadly, I live in a family where my dad loves my brother more than me and makes that painfully clear at times. Thank god I'll be off to graduate school very soon and living off the money from my GTA.

Regarding your family, here is what I think:

I understand why you might rather read, but you really should have gone out to do the yardwork as soon as you knew it was being done.

You handled neither of the women in your house correctly. When your sister comes to your room, how you respond depends on how she starts. If she goes, "Dad is working outside, please help him," then your response should be, "I'll be down in just a second." Reach for a bookmark and she'll probably leave. Find a good place to stop real quick and then get out there. If she goes, "You lazy ass, dad is outside busting his butt, blah blah blah," then you go, "Oh, dad is outside working? Someone should have told me." This takes all the blame off of you and if she continues riding you, then it makes her the obvious villain.

Your mother came because your sister snitched. Here's a secret: even if secretly your mom agrees with you, 9 times out of 10 she will side with your dad. From her perspective, she's protecting her family by protecting her husband, your father. He's getting old, you are younger and stronger. She's just been informed that you know your dad is working but you won't lift a finger. She is therefore mad.

After you go out, certainly your sister will complain, certainly she will do less work. For starters, you are the guy and therefore stronger. Any guy who has been through puberty should be able to bench 100 lbs even if he's never been to a gym in his whole fucking life. Any guy in good fitness can bench 1.5 times his bodyweight. A normal girl can bench maybe half her bodyweight at most. You really just have to deal with it. Count the points in your head, but never tell; have pride that you are stronger.

If she starts bitching at your performance while working, tune her out completely as best you can. If she continues, a simple "You could be a little nicer you know," is all you need. Yet again, you said nothing wrong.

Your sister and mom seem to have a good repoire. It seems like they are the gossipy, naggy type. If they call you a lazy ass right after you finished working, say something like, "It's not nice to criticize someone right after they worked real hard." Or if you are really pissed, "If you're going to insult me right after I did all that work for you, then perhaps next time I shouldn't do the work at all? Either way you will insult me, but at least that way I won't be tired and sore right before work." That will maybe get you grounded, but it will help make clear that they are at fault, whether they want to admit it or not.