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Why do I try so hard?
I let my friends borrow money when they're in need and they never pay me back...whenever I borrow money, I always pay back what I borrow.
Customers/people accidently overpay me without noticing (two 20's stuck together or some sort) and I always correct them...if I accidently overpay for something, I NEVER get back what I mistakenly spend (I know this because I keep track of what I spend).
I never steal, not even a small pack of gum from a local wawa I visit every day, yet people have stolen around $10,000 worth of stuff we own in just this summer.
And yet, I stick to my goody two-shoe morals like I'm bound by some force. I blindly trudge forward believing in the big balance of this universe, that not a single act passes by unseen, that retribution is always lurking around the corner.
Jeez, I'm so hopeless sometimes...
 
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GrandInquisitor
New York City13113 Posts
I'm not religious at all, but Matthew 6:1-4 is still inspiring:
"Beware of practicing your righteousness before other people in order to be seen by them, for then you will have no reward from your Father who is in heaven. Thus, when you give to the needy, sound no trumpet before you, as the hypocrites do in the synagogues and in the streets, that they may be praised by others. Truly, I say to you, they have received their reward. But when you give to the needy, do not let your left hand know what your right hand is doing, so that your giving may be in secret. And your Father who sees in secret will reward you."
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Well u and me are the same then. I believe that if I start behave good and treat ppl well they will follow. I mean, someone got to start doing it, so why not me? Very christian thoughts indeed, "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you."
There is truth in that though. Keep up the morals and ppl will follow you 
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derren brown can help you in no time
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Hmm well you should continue to do good things, but don't let others take advantage of you.
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United States37500 Posts
On August 22 2007 07:15 NonY[rC] wrote:
Hmm well you should continue to do good things, but don't let others take advantage of you.
Word. You obviously had a good upbringing, no shame in that, nor should you view it negatively.
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On August 22 2007 07:15 NonY[rC] wrote:
Hmm well you should continue to do good things, but don't let others take advantage of you.
Found this out the hard way as a kid
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Don't bother being immoral with little stuff like stealing gum or keeping someone's money if they overpay. Be immoral when it actually makes a big difference for you, i.e. if you find a suitcase full of money, KEEP IT :D
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I can relate to what you're saying. I'm the same way, but I try to not let it bother me.
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Looks like you need someone to confirm to you that it is worthy to be moral. I am that guy. I have a problem with morals... nothing major, but still, it's annoying as hell and I fucking hate myself at times.
If what you wrote is 100% true, I admire you. People like you inspire me. Don't ever lose your morality. You have nothing to lose. If you're religious, you get eternal life. If you're not, you'll earn the trust of people around you anyway, and things will generally be MUCH better for you. MOST IMPORTANTLY, you will be able to go to sleep at night at peace with yourself, without worries. I tell you that as a man who almost got involved with an organized crime network -.-
Secondly, stop letting people take advantage of you. Just put your foot in the fucking door way (Romanian expression, dunno if it makes sense translated). What I mean is stand your ground. If a friend asks you for some money, and you're 70% or more certain that you won't see them back, say NO. Say you can't. You don't have. Whatever. Your relationship with such a person would go WAY better and healthier once he or she stops exploiting you.
If you DO lend money, set an EXACT time and date for the repayment. By exact I mean Thursday at 2:35 PM, in front of the Mall, near the yellow trailer, August 22 2007. Seriously. Don't accept any excuses or shit - YOU are the honest one, stop fearing a confrontation with your 'friends'.
Other than that, KEEP YOU MORALS, it's the best thing a man can have these days. A real MAN. I admire you, gl
EDIT: People with lesser morals involuntarily percept your morality as a flaw, some sort of code you must follow in certain situations, which you cannot evade. Thus you become predictable, as in you'll never forget to repay a financial debt for example. They exploit you because they are lesser, but you can stop this without lowering your own beliefs and methods of thinking.
WHATEVER YOU DO, DON'T LOWER YOURSELF TO THEIR LEVEL
I don't know how much sense this makes, but... gl with all
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On August 22 2007 07:15 NonY[rC] wrote:
Hmm well you should continue to do good things, but don't let others take advantage of you.
qft
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Keep doing what youre doing.
What you're doing is good, and you know that, so keep doing so.
More people should be like this.
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Fuck zil, that sucks balls.
But you sound like me; if I got all the money that I lent to my friends back I'd probably have somewhere along the lines of $3-4K. -_-;;;
I'm too easy to swindle T_T
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United States24723 Posts
What everyone else said pretty much sums up my feelings. Having the right mindset at life won't always benefit you from day to day, but in the long run the trend shows up. Like Nony was implying, don't let your friends borrow money from you and not pay you back. The more stuff like that happens the more it will keep happening. If you are honestly worried about the effect being fair with them will have on your friendship, you should evaluate that friendship.
On August 22 2007 08:26 minus_human wrote:
You have nothing to lose. If you're religious, you get eternal life. If you're not, you'll earn the trust of people around you anyway, and things will generally be MUCH better for you.
I agree with your post but I just have to point out a couple of problems I have with that since I see these things said often. Whether or not you're religious doesn't affect whether or not your beliefs are the truth. Also, because you judge yourself to be a moral person doesn't necessarily dictate whether or not you are going to get eternal life from a religious standpoint. That part about earning the trust of people around you, however, is very similar to what I was saying.
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On August 22 2007 07:15 NonY[rC] wrote:
Hmm well you should continue to do good things, but don't let others take advantage of you.
cant say it any better. sorry man, but dont let it get you down 
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On August 22 2007 09:47 micronesia wrote:What everyone else said pretty much sums up my feelings. Having the right mindset at life won't always benefit you from day to day, but in the long run the trend shows up. Like Nony was implying, don't let your friends borrow money from you and not pay you back. The more stuff like that happens the more it will keep happening. If you are honestly worried about the effect being fair with them will have on your friendship, you should evaluate that friendship. Show nested quote +On August 22 2007 08:26 minus_human wrote:
You have nothing to lose. If you're religious, you get eternal life. If you're not, you'll earn the trust of people around you anyway, and things will generally be MUCH better for you. I agree with your post but I just have to point out a couple of problems I have with that since I see these things said often. Whether or not you're religious doesn't affect whether or not your beliefs are the truth. Also, because you judge yourself to be a moral person doesn't necessarily dictate whether or not you are going to get eternal life from a religious standpoint. That part about earning the trust of people around you, however, is very similar to what I was saying.
Yes I agree with that, but morals DO go hand in hand with religion. I was making a most natural assumption that if he (or any normal person) considers himself "moral", it usually is, if not the same thing, very close to the religious morals. Differences may occur of course, and my statement is still just an assumption. What he believes to be moral may not be so moral from a religious standpoint, but isn't he doing his best? Perhaps we should eliminate the religious part in considering his morals. Religion may get rigid at times, you know. Comparing yourself to the society you live it, its demands and rewards, is usually easier to grasp than religion IMO. At least because it leaves less room for interpretation and different perception to intelligent people.
Btw ilovezil, how religious ARE you? I'm curious 
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your morals shouldnt be based on how others treat you, keep going .
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On August 22 2007 06:50 GrandInquisitor wrote:
I'm not religious at all, but Matthew 6:1-4 is still inspiring:
"Beware of practicing your righteousness before other people in order to be seen by them, for then you will have no reward from your Father who is in heaven. Thus, when you give to the needy, sound no trumpet before you, as the hypocrites do in the synagogues and in the streets, that they may be praised by others. Truly, I say to you, they have received their reward. But when you give to the needy, do not let your left hand know what your right hand is doing, so that your giving may be in secret. And your Father who sees in secret will reward you."
Amen
so what do you wanna do, go stealing and break your morals? keep them up and be a good person, God bless
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