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Hey!
I'm almost done with my freshman year of college, which is crazy because at one point, I wasn't sure if I would make it this far. I remember being a sophomore in high school who was depressed and played Smash all day, so I decided to make a blog, which changed things for me.
I've been trying to figure out who I am as well. To be honest, I've been trying to do this for years at this point, and I still don't know who the fuck I am. I know that I'm only 18, and I'm constantly changing, but I feel like I have to figure myself out by now, mainly to make people happy I think, and I think this is mostly for others at this point. But on the bright side, I've learned a lot about myself through this process, and other people have learned a lot about me, which is good.
On another bright side, I picked up Soulcalibur a few weeks ago (which I got as a free Steam key from someone on Twitter), and I've been playing that a lot recently. At the moment, I play Ivy, so if anyone here wants to play, I gave out my Steam account a few posts ago. I've also been playing a lot of Just Cause 2, Fortnite (lol), PokeMMO (which is an MMO Pokemon), Mario Tennis Aces, and Mario Kart 8 Deluxe. And as I'm writing this post, Just Cause 4 is downloading, because it was free on the Epic Games Store.
I know this blog post sucks, but that's basically it. Hopefully I can write again soon.
See ya!
~David
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I'm approaching 30 and I'm still trying to figure myself out lol
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37 here, i think i found out by now? Not sure tho. + Show Spoiler +im a big nerd, that i know for certain
@op: take your time to find it out. Theres so many things you can do in life, at your age its pretty normal to not know. Don't sweat it (;
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On April 18 2020 05:44 Uldridge wrote:
I'm approaching 30 and I'm still trying to figure myself out lol
Same. COVID-19 giving me plenty of time to do some thinking on that.
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I'd say majority of people don't know themselves. People may hold "careers' or "jobs" that are tolerable, but it's actually a minority of people that find their true purpose/passion in life. You just see it in the media or shows that show that passion so it's an observation bias. Because you see it all the time in the media you tend to internalize it as "it seems like the world knows what they are doing so why am I not getting it?" Truth is, most people don't figure themselves out until way later. Some people find their purpose faster than others, it isn't necessarily a race but many struggle with that same question. Some turn to some form of addiction, whether it's video games, porn, sex/relationships, alcohol to occupy themselves to not deal with that burning question that they know they have failed to answer and have given up.
As long as you haven't given up, you're not a "loser" or someone who should feel ashamed not figuring things out yet.
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No one ever figures themselves out, they just learn how to deal with discovery better and become more comfortable with that reality.
Plus, you already hit it on the dot - you are constantly changing...so is everyone else...for their entire lives.
Kudos to you, you're probably ahead of the curve!
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United States4882 Posts
On April 18 2020 12:52 Moopower wrote:
As long as you haven't given up, you're not a "loser" or someone who should feel ashamed not figuring things out yet.
Even if you have given up, you're a wonderful person who will eventually find the things that make you happy  .
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Few years back I kind of lost my self a little. I dropped out of law school due to bad grades and me not doing well with law studies. Decided to study IT and was very happy. Figured out that as long as the work is related with computers I find myself gravitating to that sector and never looked back from it as a career path.
I kind of burned a bit of my fathers cash along the way and I hated myself for that and gave it all to studied in my IT degree.
33 years old but before this i drop out from business and law school and yet here I am and I have found what I wanted in life. Hope you find yours too.
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I was going to say this is a non-sense question, and I think in the way that most people get hung up on it that it usually is, because it's a very broad and imprecise question that might as well be posed to HGttG's Deep Thought.
But in the sense that characteristics can cross between roles you play, retain themselves in different situations, that's who you are. Are you the sort of person to take advantage of others when you think you can get away with it? That's who you are. Are you the sort of person who's conscience attacks them so severely that you try never to hurt anyone, because even if you get material gain you won't be happy? That's who you are. It's as basic as that. Are you resilient to sadness and pain, or do you give up when things get tough? Do you need support to do anything, or are you independent and capable even when you feel alone?
If you ask yourself more specific questions like that, you'll have some better sense of your strengths and weaknesses, how good or evil you are. In contrast, I don't think an identity like 'I play guitar a lot' has any particular cross situational meaning, it's too concrete (even if it's how other people might see us). You're never really your hobby or your job, but you do bring some parts of yourself to a hobby or job. So I would just say try to gravitate toward people and things that bring out the best in you, and when you're in a bad situation without support, or you're in a situation where you could do something selfish, observe yourself and how you behave and you'll probably have a better sense of who you are. I'd say you know yourself well enough if you can imagine a situation and how you would act in it... because what else is there to know? You only really need to have that crisis of self if you thought you would act one way and when the time came you did something different.
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I deal with college student tenants all the time and as far as I can tell, you don't really actively figure yourself out. You true self or however u want to define it, is caused by a combination of nature and nurture and so many other factors that it's more like you try to be more aware / have a clearer understanding / discovering it, only then maybe you can consciously nudge where it goes. Otherwise try to discover yourself is like trying to fall asleep, if you are trying, u are failing.
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