Does it ever happen to you that some of your friends start having different interests and you find it difficult to keep things together as they were?
Since we all work or study, the opportunity to spend time together is mainly during the weekend. The latest trend in our group is to go to the seaside (60 km) and go to this famous club (usually you can find soccer players there, showgirls...). I just can't like that place. Entrance is 30 euros (which is a lot here - usual student places in big cities are like free entrance/5/10 euros), drinks are shit and cost so much and the people...I do not go to a club to see my dermatologist dancing in the middle of the room, high on cocaine.
One of my dreams is trying to become big with music and this requires a lot of work, even things that might appear stupid, example going to a concert in your town just so that people see that you are present, that you are a lively member of the musical scene. I like music so I always have fun but I do not force my friends into it. Usually concerts here also end at a reasonable time (early enough so that you can go to a club after).
It's also not a question of money. I have enough to afford those clubs but honestly I just don't want to. It feels like spending money to get bored. Would you spend 80-100 euros to get bored and have to drive one hour home? I hope that with summer we will manage to go to clubs where everyone can have fun...because right now I'm looking like the guy who does not want to go out with his friends and I do not like that image at all.
What happens in life is that people delve themselves into specific areas to master these areas; i have started to make friends with the people i once called collegues; your childhood friends will always remain that, but it does not mean you have to spend all your free time with them; spend it with people who are involved in music; i assure you that over time those new people will become great friends; and when you meet again your old friend you will have a lot of fun regardless, because that connection will never waver. As far as the music, i started getting involved my friends, family and people i know first. Then you expand beyond that; even if you have to play in the local bar and are afraid people will not appreciate your talent, go for it; someone will and new doors will open up; it doesn' t matter if others do not. Not everyone can appreciate everything in the world, maybe there is things you don' t appreciate, but still respect them for doing it and trying, and them putting themselves out there; This video helped me a lot put some things in prospective, give it a try and see if it makes sense somewhat;
Don' t worry about other people judging you, just be yourself and let others see yourself; keep trying and trying and trying, and when you fail regroup and try again; the most successfull people are full of failure stories, and they say that no matter what they kept trying, things will eventually work out in ways that you had not even considered before
Do you feel your friends force you to go the club you don't like? As time goes on I would definitely say we all grow apart from some friends. Often times friends are really just "situational friends". Situational friends are your friends simply because you happen into a life situation that pushes you together. For example coworker friends, church friends, or whatever it may be. But as those external circumstances stop pushing people together, the situation changes, and the situational friends fall off.
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