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Hey TL,
Haven't blogged in ages, but wanted to share some stories from my past and see what others have to share as well.
Was feeling bored this afternoon so opened up my old Facebook messages and just casually tossed through them. If you weren't aware, when Facebook changed their messaging system they began to save every single Facebook message you ever sent - starting back probably 4-5 years ago.
Needless to say, I found several messages (to girls, mostly) that just made me CRINGE and wonder WTF I was thinking. Two of them were from my Freshman year in college. I had just gone through a really nasty breakup with my first real girlfriend (she straight up dumped me after 2 years or so, never saw it coming). I was feeling stressed and lonely, so I decided to message an old girlfriend from high school to see what she was up to. Not necessarily a bad thing, but reading through these messages just made me want to cover my eyes and pretend I'd never been so desperate.
I actually flipped back into Facebook to find a few examples for you guys and had to tab out again. Essentially, I began what seemed to be a convenient conversation with her online, but then immediately progressed to asking for her number and asking if she wanted to hang out / see a movie sometime. She gave me her number but didn't answer when I called several days later. I then Facebooked her again (I know because they're all timestamped, THANKS ZUCKERBERG), and didn't receive an answer. Several months later, I did it again.
Its only been 4 years or so since I did this - in the meantime I've found myself another girlfriend, but it leaves me wondering at what presence of mind did I decide it was okay to act creepy as fuck? How did it not occur to me that she was CLEARLY not interested and I was being that weird dude who (for the record, barely even knew her anymore) just wouldn't leave her alone?
It almost feels as though it would be worthwhile to contact her and apologize for being a creepy dude, but then in 5 years I might look back and wonder what I was thinking now.
Anyone have any stories of their own to share? Any other creepy idiots out there?
 
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We've all been there mate. The important thing is you realized this and grown up. Those who don't are the true creeps and psychos. I don't think it makes sense to apologize now, it'd probably be a bit creepy ^^ But I understand that feeling too well.
Man the shit I did. Facebook stalking is a classic, of course I went so far as to install a zoom on her online status and keep an eye on it as I was watching a movie from my bed. But I have to say the girl I was into was kinda feeding this stuff and taking advantage of me. To give you an idea, I'd stayed up all night in front of her house (worrying that she was going to hurt herself). Then she supposedly 'went shopping and lost all her money' so I searched the way for like 6 hours and then gave her mine. I'd only listen to whatever specific songs I knew she was into and I'd try to convince her it's all my style (damn how I hate those now).
This went on for like 2 years until the hormones settled down. Amazing I've still had a fairly normal relationship after all that, frankly. I make the girl sound bad but except for a bit of a foxiness she's pretty cool, but certainly not someone for me. She is however the only reason I had a sexual encounter at a graveyard and I sure don't regret that.
So yeah, don't worry about it, you're cool. I'll mostly blame the romantic western culture for this. If we were all watching kdramas we'd know girls go for the bad/chill guy rather than the stalker idiot.
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On October 14 2013 16:47 esla_sol wrote:
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This is not the kind of contribution that is appreciated here. Please show some respect for the blog section.
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I know girl stories are all the rage for cringey shit, but I got one that I think is cringier than anything else. In middle school, I was joking around with my friend. We would go back and forth with "Well at least I'm not a douchebag," and shit like this for a while when we were eating lunch one period. So eventually it ended with me saying "Well at least my brother isn't getting butt raped in prison." His brother had recently gone to prison.
Instantly I regretted it and the whole lunch table went quiet. It gets better though. The next day to get him not to be mad at me I gave him $20. He wasn't even remotely mad, but I still felt the need to give him $20. Whenever I think back on it I cringe harder than anything.
On October 14 2013 16:48 OBC wrote:This is not the kind of contribution that is appreciated here. Please show some respect for the blog section.
Your contribution was so much better than what he contributed. Thanks for your post it was super informative!
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United Kingdom14103 Posts
I do this all the time, god I've sent some fucking cringeworthy messages.
rofl
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United States12125 Posts
owned.
live and learn dude
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get f0ked lmao 
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My friend is homeless and I saw his mom walking his dog so I said hi. She looked really sad so I said, "I know how you feel, no mother should have to go through that".
Turns out her own mom was just given a stage 4 cancer diagnosis.
Wtf do I know lol
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I can think of more occasions of this than I'd really care to admit. The one I will share was in High School. There was this girl I liked, and I basically pined for her all of High School without ever making a move (I did talk to her a lot and was a friend, but yea was one of those guys). One occasion specifically still makes me wonder wtf I was thinking. She was in the process of getting punked by our group of friends, they told her we were at some restaurant or w/e a good 20 min walk away when in fact we were still hanging out at the school. I wasn't ok with that, but rather than calling out the Assholes that were doing that I snuck away and literally RAN after her to tell her what was going on. As soon as I had told her what our "friends" were doing and we were walking back to school I felt awkward as fuck and ended up walking ahead of her not saying another word or anything, I was practically speed walking kus some part of me didn't want the other ppl to know what I had done and I had no idea what to say to the girl I liked, even though that was the perfect time to say ANYTHING to her.
Smooth, right? I now challenge anyone to top that... please?
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