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I'm 15 y/o male, she's a 15 y/o girl. If you don't wanna read about stupid teen bullshit, don't continue hahahaha.
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This all began last week.
So, I'm a fairly average-looking, but pretty awkward teenage boy. I met a girl on facebook who goes to my rival highschool, but is friends with a lot of the people at my school. We started talking, and things felt like they were really clicking. After the first 2 nights, we started talking on the phone. She let it slip that she had a crush on me, and wanted to hangout with me the upcoming weekend (last weekend). She also said that she didn't care about looks or awkwardness, as long as someone could make her laugh, she would adore them.
(SATURDAY)
There was a music festival last weekend (pretty small, only 1 band at a time, a few shops set up) and we hungout. Her friend was there, who I went to elementary school with. We hungout for about 4 hours, and the first 3 everything was pretty normal. It took me a while to start talking because I'm shy and don't really know how to act, but after about an hour I felt comfortable and things really started becoming fun. The 3 of us walked down the beach, went to McDonalds, etc. She also took pictures of all of us. I wasn't getting the vibe that she liked me more than a friend though, after the first 2 hours.
The third hour, we went to McDonalds. I sat down at one side of the table (far side from the entrance) and her friend sat down on the closer side. She obviously made a point to sit next to me, and started laying on me, and generally acted like she started liking me, OUT OF NO WHERE.
Like, there were ZERO hints of anything like this before-hand. I just took it as her being shy or something.
Then, we went back to the festival, and there was a tank there, that the Marines brought to let people sit in. We got in the back, and she sat next to me again, and started holding my hand (note: I did not make any moves. She definitely grabbed my hand.) At this point, I was really enjoying myself as I had developed quite the crush on her, and it seemed like she liked me back. Right before we said our good-byes, she gave me a hug, smiled really widely and said text me! Before walking to her friends parent's car with her friend.
This is where things get kind of strange. I texted her, and it took her an hour to reply. That NEVER happens, it's always within 10 minutes, or within 2 in a conversation. I shrugged it off as her being busy. She did reply, after those 2 hours, and told me how attractive I was and such. I complimented her back, and we flirted for a while. The pictures she took of all of us got uploaded to Facebook, and she said I should make a picture she took of both of us smiling, and make it my profile picture. I did this, she liked it, yadda yadda.
Almost right after this however, she started acting very strangely. Took 30-40 minutes to reply to every text. After the 3rd or 4th occurence of her extremely long reply behavior, I asked her if she was doing something. She said "No, I just don't want to talk to anyone right now." I was like "Is something wrong? Want me to call you? I'm here if you need someone". And she was like, "No, I'm fine."
I was thinking to myself, maybe something happened, maybe leaving her alone is the best thing to do. I was perfectly fine until LESS THAN 10 minutes later, she uploads a status with a bunch of smilies and stuff, proclaiming how much she loves her friends. She uploads a picture of her at 5 Guys (She takes a TON of pictures) and starts replying to comments or whatever, seeming extremely happy. I text her and ask "Hey, what's up?" and there's no reply. I'm just like "okay, she was sad, now she went out with her friends or something, probably busy, no big deal". But then she replies "I just don't really wanna talk to anyone right now...".
Uh oh. I start getting a flip in my stomach, as most of the time after I hangout with girls, they don't like me anymore due to my shyness, and awkwardness. This girl seemt interested in me, and I really didn't want to fuck this up as we seemed like we clicked a LOT, and she had been flirty a ton near the end, grabbed my hand, was happy and told me to text her, said I should set picture as me + her, I was really confused. This was around 9PM. I responded, "Um, alright" and didn't text her anymore that night, just thinking she would text me whenever she wanted to talk, which usually would just be about an hour later.
(SUNDAY)
No texts the next day around 2PM. I was getting that feeling of "ugh I fucked shit up again". I texted her "Hey, what's up?" And got a reply about an hour later saying, "Nothin."
Uh oh #2. One word replies, which she had never done before. Generally shows loss of interest, especially after such a long period of time, and because of the events the night beforehand. I asked, "Is everything alright?" And once again she said, "yeah, I just don't want to talk to anyone." about an hour later. Then 2 hours later, she uploads pictures of her, the same friend, and the guy her friend likes all at the beach that day. I was thinking, "Okay, this is kind of weird, but maybe she was still just busy."
I texted her "you can just tell me if you're busy, or don't want to talk to me." And about 45 minutes later she replied, "nah, I'm just not in a good mood."
At this point I was just kind of done. This happened every time, except without the flirting she had done the day before. I always hungout with girls and they never showed interest in me afterwords, and I had really gotten my hopes up as she had made moves and stuff on me. I was contemplating calling her out on the pictures, but ultimately decided against it.
I waited about an hour, and replied "Oh... Okay..." because I really just had no other words. She then makes a status talking about how weird her conversations were with people she texted.
I was kind of pissed. 1. Because she told me she didn't wanna talk to anyone.
Because I really liked her, and was really confused based on her behavior.
I texted her and was basically like, "Are you avoiding me or something? Just tell me, I don't mind." And she was like "I've been at the beach all day, sorry for not replying." Uh, what? "Okay, what's up?"
No reply for 4 hours. She uploads a picture of some guy at Wendy's that looks like someone off of Youtube or something, and tags a guy in it who knows the Youtuber. Then they have a discussion in the comments about how much he looks like whoever. I was seriously just done. I don't like being ignored AT ALL. I'd be way less upset if she was just like "We aren't working out" or whatever. I KNEW she was purposely ignoring me.
I texted her "Bye." Since she hadn't replied to my earlier message of 4 hours, but obviously used her phone to take the picture of the guy at Wendy's.
(Today)
I wakeup, no texts. Usually she texts me "goodmorning c:" before I get up, because she wakes up a lot earlier than me. Oh well, whatever, it's dumb talking to her, she obviously doesn't wanna talk to me is what's going through my head. So I just decide to wait.
At lunch at school today, I texted my other friend who goes to her school, and asked if she could ask the girl I liked something. She was like, "sure, what?"
I replied, "Ask her if she and I are going to date" Because I felt like that was something that wouldn't sound too out of the ordinary for a friend to ask another after the friend was obviously flirting with a guy over facebook for about a week and uploaded a ton of pictures with him.
The girl that I asked to do that replied, "She told me she just sees you guys as friends."
In my head I'm like, "What the fuck? She held my hand, cuddled with me at the festival, made a point to sit next to me, hugged me a lot, told me to text her with a big smile, told me to make the profile picture of us, and now she's ignoring me, and 'sees me as just a friend'?"
So at that point I was super pissed off at everything. Didn't even care what happened anymore. We were married on facebook for about a week just cas we're dumb teenagers who do that. I divorced her and change my profile picture back to the previous one, and texted her "Text me whenever you wanna talk, I'm done trying aha."
No response yet, but she unfriended me on facebook. Kinda confused as to what would make her act that way?
I know there's probably nothing I can do to rekindle whatever we "had", I just was wondering if I had done anything wrong?
 
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The one star ninja strikes again >.>.
And I quote, one star ninja: "If you don't wanna read about stupid teen bullshit, don't continue, hahahaha."
This is just another case of failing to be direct. You're better off saying nothing than saying "You can tell me if you don't want to talk to me." That's needless provocation of drama. She was interested in you, and you didn't give her what she wanted.
"Is everything alright?" Don't ask that. It's nothing to do with you. With the amount of involvement that you two have with each other, you shouldn't be asking questions like that. Frankly, I don't know what the hell goes on in the mind of a 15 year old girl, but what you were doing was pretty fucking beta.
Never, never worry about little bits of bullshit like how long it takes a girl to text you back. Be chill, bro. Be the Chill sort of chill.
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don't waste your time bro, and if this happens again with another girl just stop texting her
ps have some confidence
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don't keep on texting her trying to act like you've been her bf for years. If she wants to tell you she will tell you. Asking every night won't help.
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One of her friends most likely made a comment about you two. Don't worry man you're 15 lots of fish in the sea
edit: this is completely unrelated, but I'm gonna give some advice. DON'T WATCH PORN, IT'S BAD FOR YOU. go to yourbrainonporn.com and educate yourself. trust me man don't do it
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move on, not worth your time.
look at the big timeline man: she's cool with you, chats you up real fast and quick.
Your first real meet-up and she's all over you like a dog and a bone.
Next day, she drops you like third-period French and does shit with her other friends while flippin' you off over texts.
Stop hangin' around her Facebook and move on. Seriously, it's an empty plate and you have enough hints that she's just doing a hit-flirt-and-run scenario with you and found a new toy to play with.
Tough break, but you're young and you'll find someone who isn't such a tease. Don't worry, at least you know that you can definitely hit it off with girls when the mood strikes.
Though seriously, you prodded the cow once with "What's up" at least 3-4 times a day, no fish is gonna hook onto your fishing pole. Reel it up, pack your case and row out; no fish is bitin'. She's having fun and you're still looking lurking to rekindle something she isn't even trying at anymore.
Also ignore the one-star ninjas, people do it to everyone; nothing you can do and it aint you.
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Sucking on to someone after the slightest show of attention isn't very attractive at all. I probably madee these mistakes when I was younger too but I didn't really realise how unnatractive it was until a girl did it to me. It was a total turn off
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On May 21 2013 14:28 Torte de Lini wrote:
move on, not worth your time.
look at the big timeline man: she's cool with you, chats you up real fast and quick.
Your first real meet-up and she's all over you like a dog and a bone.
Next day, she drops you like third-period French and does shit with her other friends while flippin' you off over texts.
Stop hangin' around her Facebook and move on. Seriously, it's an empty plate and you have enough hints that she's just doing a hit-flirt-and-run scenario with you and found a new toy to play with.
Tough break, but you're young and you'll find someone who isn't such a tease. Don't worry, at least you know that you can definitely hit it off with girls when the mood strikes.
Though seriously, you prodded the cow once with "What's up" at least 3-4 times a day, no fish is gonna hook onto your fishing pole. Reel it up, pack your case and row out; no fish is bitin'. She's having fun and you're still looking lurking to rekindle something she isn't even trying at anymore.
Also ignore the one-star ninjas, people do it to everyone; nothing you can do and it aint you.
What do you think he should move on to?
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On May 21 2013 15:34 BisuEver wrote:Show nested quote +On May 21 2013 14:28 Torte de Lini wrote:
move on, not worth your time.
look at the big timeline man: she's cool with you, chats you up real fast and quick.
Your first real meet-up and she's all over you like a dog and a bone.
Next day, she drops you like third-period French and does shit with her other friends while flippin' you off over texts.
Stop hangin' around her Facebook and move on. Seriously, it's an empty plate and you have enough hints that she's just doing a hit-flirt-and-run scenario with you and found a new toy to play with.
Tough break, but you're young and you'll find someone who isn't such a tease. Don't worry, at least you know that you can definitely hit it off with girls when the mood strikes.
Though seriously, you prodded the cow once with "What's up" at least 3-4 times a day, no fish is gonna hook onto your fishing pole. Reel it up, pack your case and row out; no fish is bitin'. She's having fun and you're still looking lurking to rekindle something she isn't even trying at anymore.
Also ignore the one-star ninjas, people do it to everyone; nothing you can do and it aint you. What do you think he should move on to?
life. There are plenty of things that are a better use of time than swooning over a girl who shows you attention for a day and then moves on.
Also how boys and girls think about relationships are completely different until at least junior or senior of high school when we've matured a bit and have been around girls enough to have a vague clue of whats going on.
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On May 21 2013 15:37 MysteryMeat1 wrote:Show nested quote +On May 21 2013 15:34 BisuEver wrote:On May 21 2013 14:28 Torte de Lini wrote:
move on, not worth your time.
look at the big timeline man: she's cool with you, chats you up real fast and quick.
Your first real meet-up and she's all over you like a dog and a bone.
Next day, she drops you like third-period French and does shit with her other friends while flippin' you off over texts.
Stop hangin' around her Facebook and move on. Seriously, it's an empty plate and you have enough hints that she's just doing a hit-flirt-and-run scenario with you and found a new toy to play with.
Tough break, but you're young and you'll find someone who isn't such a tease. Don't worry, at least you know that you can definitely hit it off with girls when the mood strikes.
Though seriously, you prodded the cow once with "What's up" at least 3-4 times a day, no fish is gonna hook onto your fishing pole. Reel it up, pack your case and row out; no fish is bitin'. She's having fun and you're still looking lurking to rekindle something she isn't even trying at anymore.
Also ignore the one-star ninjas, people do it to everyone; nothing you can do and it aint you. What do you think he should move on to? life. There are plenty of things that are a better use of time than swooning over a girl who shows you attention for a day and then moves on. Also how boys and girls think about relationships are completely different until at least junior or senior of high school when we've matured a bit and have been around girls enough to have a vague clue of whats going on.
Is there another type of girl?
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On May 21 2013 15:34 BisuEver wrote:Show nested quote +On May 21 2013 14:28 Torte de Lini wrote:
move on, not worth your time.
look at the big timeline man: she's cool with you, chats you up real fast and quick.
Your first real meet-up and she's all over you like a dog and a bone.
Next day, she drops you like third-period French and does shit with her other friends while flippin' you off over texts.
Stop hangin' around her Facebook and move on. Seriously, it's an empty plate and you have enough hints that she's just doing a hit-flirt-and-run scenario with you and found a new toy to play with.
Tough break, but you're young and you'll find someone who isn't such a tease. Don't worry, at least you know that you can definitely hit it off with girls when the mood strikes.
Though seriously, you prodded the cow once with "What's up" at least 3-4 times a day, no fish is gonna hook onto your fishing pole. Reel it up, pack your case and row out; no fish is bitin'. She's having fun and you're still looking lurking to rekindle something she isn't even trying at anymore.
Also ignore the one-star ninjas, people do it to everyone; nothing you can do and it aint you. What do you think he should move on to?
New people, new interests, his education, friends, women.
Moving on can also be interpreted as moving away from a bad obsession that has no good outcome.
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On May 21 2013 15:51 Torte de Lini wrote:Show nested quote +On May 21 2013 15:34 BisuEver wrote:On May 21 2013 14:28 Torte de Lini wrote:
move on, not worth your time.
look at the big timeline man: she's cool with you, chats you up real fast and quick.
Your first real meet-up and she's all over you like a dog and a bone.
Next day, she drops you like third-period French and does shit with her other friends while flippin' you off over texts.
Stop hangin' around her Facebook and move on. Seriously, it's an empty plate and you have enough hints that she's just doing a hit-flirt-and-run scenario with you and found a new toy to play with.
Tough break, but you're young and you'll find someone who isn't such a tease. Don't worry, at least you know that you can definitely hit it off with girls when the mood strikes.
Though seriously, you prodded the cow once with "What's up" at least 3-4 times a day, no fish is gonna hook onto your fishing pole. Reel it up, pack your case and row out; no fish is bitin'. She's having fun and you're still looking lurking to rekindle something she isn't even trying at anymore.
Also ignore the one-star ninjas, people do it to everyone; nothing you can do and it aint you. What do you think he should move on to? New people, new interests, his education, friends, women. Moving on can also be interpreted as moving away from a bad obsession that has no good outcome.
What if she has your father's pocket watch or something?
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On May 21 2013 16:28 BisuEver wrote:Show nested quote +On May 21 2013 15:51 Torte de Lini wrote:On May 21 2013 15:34 BisuEver wrote:On May 21 2013 14:28 Torte de Lini wrote:
move on, not worth your time.
look at the big timeline man: she's cool with you, chats you up real fast and quick.
Your first real meet-up and she's all over you like a dog and a bone.
Next day, she drops you like third-period French and does shit with her other friends while flippin' you off over texts.
Stop hangin' around her Facebook and move on. Seriously, it's an empty plate and you have enough hints that she's just doing a hit-flirt-and-run scenario with you and found a new toy to play with.
Tough break, but you're young and you'll find someone who isn't such a tease. Don't worry, at least you know that you can definitely hit it off with girls when the mood strikes.
Though seriously, you prodded the cow once with "What's up" at least 3-4 times a day, no fish is gonna hook onto your fishing pole. Reel it up, pack your case and row out; no fish is bitin'. She's having fun and you're still looking lurking to rekindle something she isn't even trying at anymore.
Also ignore the one-star ninjas, people do it to everyone; nothing you can do and it aint you. What do you think he should move on to? New people, new interests, his education, friends, women. Moving on can also be interpreted as moving away from a bad obsession that has no good outcome. What if she has your father's pocket watch or something?
Such weak attempts, honestly.
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Hey Frostfire,
100% agreement with Torte de Lini.
In your post you wonder if you did anything wrong and ask what made her act the way she did.
From what you are writing you acted perfectly normal. Seems that you still quite shy, but you even told her about that so she knew by the time you saw each other.
From my perspective she is the one who acted in a hurtfull way. Unless she comes up with a real apology she is not worth your time. She seems like a young girl trying herself out and playing around without much consideration. Don't take it/her to seriously.
Like some other people are writing here, self confidence is an attractive trait, espcially in the opposite sex. So, be chill, bro :-). Feels good and helps with dating! But don't worry if you are not the most chill (or alpha) type of guy. It will develop naturally as you get older.
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you couldn't have acted more needy and unattractive if you tried.
go watch some david d'angelo videos/tapes and save yourself the agony of not understanding what the fuck is going on the next 40 years of your life
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Kid. She likes you. Stop having expectations and getting all excited and stuff because you just drive her off. She grabbed your hand even you sackless nerdboy didn't even show the slightest initiative (it's so fucking cute and i was around 18 when it happened to me sackless nerdboy the first time) SO SHE FUCKING LIKES YOU.
You wanna fuck that up by getting overexcited and getting annoying and thrive her off? It will probably not be the last time it happens to you but i commend against it.
edit: the guy above me pretty much summed it up. And no, i don't watch that pick-up bullshit.
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Pandemona
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WOW
Im glad im not a teen no more 
What you should of done is, only replied to her texts. You kept making the point "im done with this" "she is taking to long to reply" but you KEPT texting her first! Mistake numero uno.
Next time, if they dont reply, as they normally do, just wait. Let them reply, then reply to that. Never engage the texting if they don't seem to want too.
She obviously is a bit insecure and needs 10100101 guy friends and such, but hey you had some fun 
You also needed to make your own move, she grabbed your hand and constantly hugged you, you should of atleast attempted to hold her hand and hug her some more, maybe some hand to ass action would of been a sign. But she is a teen girl, her crush's last like a week then she moves on, don't take it personally If anything take it as, there are going to be girls who like you, ala there are plenty of fish in the sea 
Just for future references, don't spam text asking questions, make it harder for her. After the slow texting day (day after date) you should of just stopped there and then and just "waited" for her to text you if she wanted you. If not, your done gg move on. Girls are a funny race and you will see that the more and more you get involved with them. What i do is just go with the flow now, i used to be like you and spam text them, until i had a similar sort of thing happened to me. Then i just when, ahh fuck it, if they want me they'll text me And thats how it works now.
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On May 21 2013 17:28 FFGenerations wrote:
you couldn't have acted more needy and unattractive if you tried.
go watch some david d'angelo videos/tapes and save yourself the agony of not understanding what the fuck is going on the next 40 years of your life
Please. He's fucking 15, keep this pickup crap away from him. At that age he has all the time in the world to just have fun and figure out things on his own.
tl;dr: Don't worry about it, to understand what might have happened try putting yourself in her shoes. Sometimes you just really don't wanna talk to people, do you think that will improve if they're messaging you again and again and again? Give people space around you and they gladly come back in most cases. =)
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Thanks guys. I've read all the comments. Looking back, I wouldnt have ever asked "are you ignoring me?" or the "bye". I currently feel like the only thing that was wrong was what I was making wrong by acting like that.
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