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I have a problem. My problem is this, that there is this attractive girl that I like. She is a bundle of joy and is a very open and caring human being. If I had to describe her in one word, it would be the word "vivacious".
vivacious (Adjective)
(esp. of a woman) Attractively lively and animated.
I actually did tell her once that she was vivacious. She didn't know what the word was so I showed it to her on my phone and as she read it she blushed and her voice jumped up a pitch as she tried to regain her composure.
As great as this all sounds, God sometimes does things for a reason, or so I am told. In this particular instance, the girl has a boyfriend. And I am passionate about her. I am also passionate about starcraft, both as a player and an esports spectator. Yes, these are two completely different things, yet I still obtain the same spark of passion from both of them.
I am not one to complain about the situation that has presented itself in front of me. There are other fish in the sea and although she is taken, I still believe that I can find someone else that can make me feel that same way that I feel about her.
Although she has a boyfriend whom she is happy with and I am happy that she is happy, she is a constant visitor in my head. It's one thing to obsess over this, but it's another thing when i am innocently trying to get some sleep and a thought about this girl pops in my head. Then it doesn't leave.
I also find my mind to wander towards her throughout the week as well, she has definitely made a lasting impression on my mind that's for sure >.< and although I keep telling myself that she is not available and I should move on, I tend to relapse back to thinking about her, emotions truly are irrational lol
 
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If you can describe her with an articulate word, why didn't you take that opportunity to really draw it out by describing it when she couldn't understand. Showing her the definition on the phone makes a personal compliment into a rather plain one.
Poor sport.
You won't move on from her until you've found something or someone to move onto.
Give it time.
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Oh girl blogs, pretty sure my first blog on teamliquid nearly 6 years ago was a girl blog. How times change.
edit - no wait, wasn't the first one but was pretty close to first
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I shalst be stealing that compliment.
and Torte's follow up
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On April 16 2013 14:08 WalkinDead wrote:
I have a problem. My problem is this, that there is this attractive girl that I like. She is a bundle of joy and is a very open and caring human being. If I had to describe her in one word, it would be the word "vivacious".
vivacious (Adjective)
(esp. of a woman) Attractively lively and animated.
I actually did tell her once that she was vivacious. She didn't know what the word was so I showed it to her on my phone and as she read it she blushed and her voice jumped up a pitch as she tried to regain her composure.
As great as this all sounds, God sometimes does things for a reason, or so I am told. In this particular instance, the girl has a boyfriend. And I am passionate about her. I am also passionate about starcraft, both as a player and an esports spectator. Yes, these are two completely different things, yet I still obtain the same spark of passion from both of them.
I am not one to complain about the situation that has presented itself in front of me. There are other fish in the sea and although she is taken, I still believe that I can find someone else that can make me feel that same way that I feel about her.
Although she has a boyfriend whom she is happy with and I am happy that she is happy, she is a constant visitor in my head. It's one thing to obsess over this, but it's another thing when i am innocently trying to get some sleep and a thought about this girl pops in my head. Then it doesn't leave.
I also find my mind to wander towards her throughout the week as well, she has definitely made a lasting impression on my mind that's for sure >.< and although I keep telling myself that she is not available and I should move on, I tend to relapse back to thinking about her, emotions truly are irrational lol
+ Show Spoiler +hes telling you not to doit
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On April 16 2013 16:06 Juliette wrote:Show nested quote +On April 16 2013 14:08 WalkinDead wrote:
I have a problem. My problem is this, that there is this attractive girl that I like. She is a bundle of joy and is a very open and caring human being. If I had to describe her in one word, it would be the word "vivacious".
vivacious (Adjective)
(esp. of a woman) Attractively lively and animated.
I actually did tell her once that she was vivacious. She didn't know what the word was so I showed it to her on my phone and as she read it she blushed and her voice jumped up a pitch as she tried to regain her composure.
As great as this all sounds, God sometimes does things for a reason, or so I am told. In this particular instance, the girl has a boyfriend. And I am passionate about her. I am also passionate about starcraft, both as a player and an esports spectator. Yes, these are two completely different things, yet I still obtain the same spark of passion from both of them.
I am not one to complain about the situation that has presented itself in front of me. There are other fish in the sea and although she is taken, I still believe that I can find someone else that can make me feel that same way that I feel about her.
Although she has a boyfriend whom she is happy with and I am happy that she is happy, she is a constant visitor in my head. It's one thing to obsess over this, but it's another thing when i am innocently trying to get some sleep and a thought about this girl pops in my head. Then it doesn't leave.
I also find my mind to wander towards her throughout the week as well, she has definitely made a lasting impression on my mind that's for sure >.< and although I keep telling myself that she is not available and I should move on, I tend to relapse back to thinking about her, emotions truly are irrational lol + Show Spoiler +hes telling you not to doit
if hes telling me not to do it, why am I feeling this? zzz
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honest answer: its a challenge and life sucks. pray some, and see it as an opportunity to think instead of reacting. It's maturity hitting you in the face. how do you respond?
are you in high school or?
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On April 16 2013 16:34 Juliette wrote:
honest answer: its a challenge and life sucks. pray some, and see it as an opportunity to think instead of reacting. It's maturity hitting you in the face. how do you respond?
are you in high school or?
its college. I like being her friend too. We have both shared a lot of intimate details with each other and have a good level of trust built up too
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On April 16 2013 16:45 WalkinDead wrote:Show nested quote +On April 16 2013 16:34 Juliette wrote:
honest answer: its a challenge and life sucks. pray some, and see it as an opportunity to think instead of reacting. It's maturity hitting you in the face. how do you respond?
are you in high school or? its college. I like being her friend too. We have both shared a lot of intimate details with each other and have a good level of trust built up too
Maybe youre being called to just be a good friend and resist temptation. Be there for her and stuff.
But dont go for it while she has a bf man. ^^
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you can't GO for her obviously, but it doesn't mean she is out of your grasp. She is still not married afterall and if she chose you that just means she prefers you more than her boyfriend.
Her boyfriend cannot blame you because either he didn't treat her well enough or he doesn't make her in love with him enough to keep faithful with him. It's not like you can force her to pick you.
But you CANNOT date her. That's no.1 rule imo. That's just disrespectful for everyone included.
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WalkinDead you buckle down right now. She's not with you, how can she be happy? Now you let her know how much more awesome you are then her boyfriend and steal her from that undeserving mother-father. Now you take that 'fish in the sea' crap out of here now and buy an f-ing harpoon if you have to and hunt this girl down.
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On April 16 2013 16:27 WalkinDead wrote:Show nested quote +On April 16 2013 16:06 Juliette wrote:On April 16 2013 14:08 WalkinDead wrote:
I have a problem. My problem is this, that there is this attractive girl that I like. She is a bundle of joy and is a very open and caring human being. If I had to describe her in one word, it would be the word "vivacious".
vivacious (Adjective)
(esp. of a woman) Attractively lively and animated.
I actually did tell her once that she was vivacious. She didn't know what the word was so I showed it to her on my phone and as she read it she blushed and her voice jumped up a pitch as she tried to regain her composure.
As great as this all sounds, God sometimes does things for a reason, or so I am told. In this particular instance, the girl has a boyfriend. And I am passionate about her. I am also passionate about starcraft, both as a player and an esports spectator. Yes, these are two completely different things, yet I still obtain the same spark of passion from both of them.
I am not one to complain about the situation that has presented itself in front of me. There are other fish in the sea and although she is taken, I still believe that I can find someone else that can make me feel that same way that I feel about her.
Although she has a boyfriend whom she is happy with and I am happy that she is happy, she is a constant visitor in my head. It's one thing to obsess over this, but it's another thing when i am innocently trying to get some sleep and a thought about this girl pops in my head. Then it doesn't leave.
I also find my mind to wander towards her throughout the week as well, she has definitely made a lasting impression on my mind that's for sure >.< and although I keep telling myself that she is not available and I should move on, I tend to relapse back to thinking about her, emotions truly are irrational lol + Show Spoiler +hes telling you not to doit if hes telling me not to do it, why am I feeling this? zzz
Because emotions are uncontrollable for the most part. You can hide them for a long time or fight them, but eventually you either given in or live your life as a potato. The reason you feel this way is because you keep thinking about it. The process of thought is a dangerous tool to have because it leads you into situations where you feel emotional about a situation where you need to be thinking logical.
With all of that being said, let her know how you feel. People say this is a bad idea because she has a boyfriend, but hear me out. One of two things (Maybe more) will happen after she says "I aleady have a boyfriend (insert awkward gesture)
1. She will ask if you can still be friends. IT IS THE UTMOST IMPORTANCE THAT YOU ARE HONEST WITH HER AND YOURSELF. If you decide to lie to her about this, it will only hurt your friendship in the long run.
2. She may say it's not a good idea for you guys to hang out. If she does that, she's thinking two things: She either has sensed how much you like her or she has feelings for you and understands that she can't do it this way.
EITHER WAY - regardless of her answer, you need to get away from her. This is important because if you give her space, she will have time to really ponder about what you've done and said, and that may lead to good things. Don't get your hopes up yet. In fact, I would advise you start going after other girls. You're not going to want to, but it will help you sort out the feelings you have for her.
TL;DR - Life is too short to torture yourself at night with the truth of how you feel and not letting that person know how you feel. Just tell her and let the dice fall where they may.
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On April 16 2013 22:42 hoby2000 wrote:
TL;DR - Life is too short to torture yourself at night with the truth of how you feel and not letting that person know how you feel. Just tell her and let the dice fall where they may.
I agree with that, it may be awkward for a little bit but letting her know how you feel is super important.
Even if it fails it will feel good knowing you took action and didn't sit back and lose an opportunity.
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go after her. maybe she'll break up with her bf to be with you. if not, move on and forget about her.
it's better than not trying. if you dont try, you have 0% chance of success. if you try, you'll have a small chance. the odds tell me that you should go for it.
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On April 16 2013 19:50 BisuDagger wrote:
WalkinDead you buckle down right now. She's not with you, how can she be happy? Now you let her know how much more awesome you are then her boyfriend and steal her from that undeserving mother-father. Now you take that 'fish in the sea' crap out of here now and buy an f-ing harpoon if you have to and hunt this girl down.
Winner
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Idd hunt her down and drag her back to your mancave of sexual pleasure and awesomeness. Life is too short to act like a little insecure girl.
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This reminds me of myself 5 years ago. I felt the same way about a girl, but she was taken. We have now been together for 5 years and probably going to get married within the next two or three. Harpoon dat!
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Ooh. Vivacious. I like that word. Thanks for teaching me.
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Go out with her, have fun with her, enjoy life with her. It's her decision if she wants to move in for that kiss in the end, not yours and not her boyfriends.
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You should probably give up. Unless we're going to start some elaborate NTR scheme here.
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On April 17 2013 05:06 WalkinDead wrote:
edit: nvm
That is the worst pickup line to use. I've tried it never works.
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