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On January 16 2013 05:36 blade55555 wrote:Show nested quote +On January 16 2013 04:22 NMRemorse wrote:On January 16 2013 00:20 Kickboxer wrote:
It's nice to be kind and graceful about it, and flattered, but you don't owe anyone squat simply for liking you. That would be one messed up world lol. I don’t think you 'owe' them anything, other than to spare them your shitty personality, if you judge people by their looks or popularity, you're probably not worth going out with anyways.  . And as I replied to the others, I wrote this from the POV of being asked out not asking out... this wasn’t a QQ rejection blog, about how I got rejected and feel butt hurt about it. ROFL. So because you don't want to go out on a date with someone (which what if it's not even because you don't find them physically attractive, what if you just got out of a relation ship?) you are automatically a dipshit with a shitty personality? What kind of logic is that? Just because you get asked out doesn't mean you should have to go out my lord man get off your high horse.
Don't tell him to get off of his high horse or else we might get another gem like this highly important blog.
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On January 16 2013 04:20 NMRemorse wrote:Show nested quote +On January 16 2013 00:46 Butterednuts wrote:
NMRemorse I like you, would you like to go out?
I look forward to our gay date. LOOL. Haven’t thought of that... I think if the guy asking was polite enough, I would probably say yes. I'm 100% hetro sexual, but I still think everyone should get a chance. Who knows, you might be a fucking baws, and we might just become best friends, so fuck yea, lets go out. (Hypothetically, since you're actually just being an ironic dick :/.)
This is actually quite mean. Playing with other people emotions is disgusting, especially just to keep your own twisted morals.
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Was I the only one who read the whole OP to Nada Surf's Popular?
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On January 16 2013 04:18 NMRemorse wrote:+ Show Spoiler +On January 16 2013 00:17 DarkPlasmaBall wrote:
Haha Hawk, I love your response ^^
OP, just because you ask someone out doesn't mean you deserve a date. You're assuming that they haven't yet given you enough thought or a chance as a potential girl/ boyfriend, but you may be completely wrong with this assumption. Based on previous experiences with you, social expectations, and other variables, they may already have evaluated you and decided you belong in the friend zone. If you ask someone out, I can see three different outcomes:
1. They've thought about you already and decided they like you, so they say Yes.
2. They've thought about you already and decided they don't like you, so they say No.
3. They haven't thought about you already, so they're on the fence (they'll say Yes or No).
In case three, it may be the case that saying Yes could be good for them (and obviously you). But it seems you're proposing that they always say Yes (in all instances of case three, and even in case two), no matter what, just because you built up the courage to ask them out. Unfortunately, that's not how it works. And it doesn't even mean that the person shooting you down is a bitch or a bad person; they just may be interested in someone else or other traits that you haven't clearly portrayed.
Not everyone deserves a date with everyone else.
EDIT: Glee's a good show. 'Sigh' You also seem to have missed the point of the blog. This isn’t about me... >.<. I have no female problems, and I'm not looking for a date. I'm just trying to get over a 4yr depression, get back to writing ect. And I thought, since our society seems to think all that matters is looks, I'd write this, and post it to my favorite community, TL. Also this was written from the POV of getting asked out, not asking out...
I meant "you" in the general sense, although your post did seem like it was speaking from a depressed experience, so I also did think you had some connection to your writing.
Also, considering nearly everyone had the same reaction I did, I would recommend trying to be clearer next time on getting your point across. I'm sorry I missed your point, but clearly it was ambiguous.
I agree with you that too many people think looks are everything (although I also covered in my previous post that you can still get shot down for other reasons besides your looks), because we like to objectify people (and ideas). It's easy to be superficial because that way we don't need to care about substance or get to know people.
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On January 16 2013 09:11 DarkPlasmaBall wrote:
I agree with you that too many people think looks are everything (although I also covered in my previous post that you can still get shot down for other reasons besides your looks), because we like to objectify people (and ideas). It's easy to be superficial because that way we don't need to care about substance or get to know people.
Is this really true? I mean, I can assess fairly quickly whether I'm physically attracted to someone (usually in a few seconds). If I'm not, then what's the point in dating and exploring the possibility of a romantic relationship? The person can have a great personality but if there's no physical attraction then that's not likely to change. At least in my experience.
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On January 16 2013 04:14 NMRemorse wrote:
if they say no due to some preconcived physical bs
speaks volumes about you and the issue you're having
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On January 16 2013 04:22 NMRemorse wrote:Show nested quote +On January 16 2013 00:20 Kickboxer wrote:
It's nice to be kind and graceful about it, and flattered, but you don't owe anyone squat simply for liking you. That would be one messed up world lol. I don’t think you 'owe' them anything, other than to spare them your shitty personality, if you judge people by their looks or popularity, you're probably not worth going out with anyways. . And as I replied to the others, I wrote this from the POV of being asked out not asking out... this wasn’t a QQ rejection blog, about how I got rejected and feel butt hurt about it.
you owe them a certain amount of respect
Why do I owe them respect? Btw, you're on my subscription list for great bloggers. Can't wait for the next riot!
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Wait, you want people to stop being shallow, then say that you should respect someone because of purely physical reasons?
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On January 16 2013 10:46 GnarlyArbitrage wrote:Show nested quote +On January 16 2013 04:22 NMRemorse wrote:On January 16 2013 00:20 Kickboxer wrote:
It's nice to be kind and graceful about it, and flattered, but you don't owe anyone squat simply for liking you. That would be one messed up world lol. I don’t think you 'owe' them anything, other than to spare them your shitty personality, if you judge people by their looks or popularity, you're probably not worth going out with anyways. . And as I replied to the others, I wrote this from the POV of being asked out not asking out... this wasn’t a QQ rejection blog, about how I got rejected and feel butt hurt about it. Why do I owe them respect? Btw, you're on my subscription list for great bloggers. Can't wait for the next riot!
I think everyone deserves a certain amount of respect, you don't go around saying whatever you want to random strangers. "Hey your shirt looks like you stole it from a dumpster"... And when strangers attempts to give you handshake for being friendly, I don't think it's appropriate to ignore them.
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I don't understand this OP. First, a girl usually decides if a guy's fuckable with a single look. She might be persuaded by later information (such as job, location and sq footage of his house, car, life insurance policy, etc) but usually she knows which way the jizz winds will blow.
Second, the point of a date is not to "impress" the girl, unless you are solely trying to bank on the above examples of persuading her with additional information. Dates are typically just to find out if two people are capable of having a good time together.
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2 star blog? woah, let's not get our hopes up like that
Physical attraction is the difference between being straight and gay or bi.
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Well this blog assumes that every date should have either complete succes or complete failure. What about just grabbing a bite to eat with a girl you like and maybe just ending up having a good time?
OT: IMO people should at least let you down kindly, and if you know them pretty well I think I'd find it very lame if they indeed wouldn't even give you the chance. But hey, people should do whatever the fuck they want to do right?
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I have a question NMRemorse. A lot of people disagree with you and have stated why. Have you reconsidered your opinion on the subject? There are a lot more points being made against your statement than in favour of it, you should probably think about the fact that you might be wrong.
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No, that's stupid. I hate when people talk about getting "friendzoned". If a horrible, annoying girl came up to me and asked me out I would tell her to get stuffed - she's not what I want in a girl, why should I settle for her, or even give her a shot? Spare everyone the heart ache + learn to live with the fact that for the most part, just because you want something doesn't mean you're going to get it, and for the rest of it you're probably going to have to work damned hard to get it.
TL;DR get over the fact that someone doesn't like you.
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