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Being asked out-
I've written another 2star worthy blog, And you know it's going to be good, because I add'ed a GLEE poster.
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When someone asks you out, that means they’ve decided they like you. Whether or not they’re attractive, they still decided that YOU are attractive. I’ve found that just because a person is “ugly”, doesn’t mean they can’t have high standards of attractiveness. And by the same token, not all attractive people have super high standards of physical appeal. So in my opinion, no matter who asks you out, you owe them a certain amount of respect. And the least you can do is give them a shot. “But what if I don’t feel anything for that person.” Well first of all, that’s bullshit, because guess what ‘love at first sight’ isn’t exactly the norm, so unless you’re in a relationship, there’s no reason for you not to say yes. I’m not saying you have to start dating them, but the least you can do is go out this one time. If it goes well, you can go on another one, and who knows maybe you’ll find out you really like this person. And if it doesn’t go well, then at least you gave the person a chance and they won’t feel like you rejected them based on their looks or some other shallow reason. On the contrary they will most likely feel like they got a ‘fair’ shot with you. (Even though, you might have written them off on sight, because they didn’t look like a cast member of GLEE.) This is especially important if it’s a friend that asks you out…girls… Don’t just open up with the shitty speech of: “You’re great and all …but…” Seriously, its crap, and you know it. Say yes, go on 1 date, and take it from there. It will make it less awkward if you still don’t feel anything, due to the reasons listed above. And if you then DO feel something, you just turned a friend into something even more special.
TLDR: Don’t be a shallow bitch…
I was inspired to write this after hearing Day[9]s story of how he put SO much effort into asking out, Nata… I mean Felicity in college; and while she did take the time to reply in computer language, she still never gave him the chance to impress her on a date.
As a final note I think “bros be4 hoes” is bullshit. You probably won’t marry your ‘bros’, but one day, you might just marry your ‘hoe’… (Although I wouldn’t recommend calling her your hoe…I’ve never had any luck there.)
 
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holy christ, people don't owe you a date because some weirdo asked them out you nitwit. what the hell kind of self centered bullshit logic his that. do they owe you a handy after because you bought them dinner too??
if you are having issues with getting people rejecting you when you ask it probably has something to do with you projecting that you assume that girls who won't go on a date with you are shallow bitches instead of people with certain likes and tastes just like every other human with a beating heart. stop being such a desperate creepy loser
rofl i got banned from this blog.
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Yeeeahh, gonna go with Hawk above here, just not in such a blunt manner.
Physical attraction is important, finding someone physically attractive or at least passable enough to go on a date with is not the same as love at first sight. First impressions are very important whether you like it or not and a large amount of that is down to your appearance.
If you've practically never spoken to someone and you ask em out, you better hope you are up their alley or you ain't getting anywhere
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On January 15 2013 23:38 QuanticHawk wrote:
holy christ, people don't owe you a date because some weirdo asked them out you nitwit. what the hell kind of self centered bullshit logic his that. do they owe you a handy after because you bought them dinner too??
if you are having issues with getting people rejecting you when you ask it probably has something to do with you projecting that you assume that girls who won't go on a date with you are shallow bitches instead of people with certain likes and tastes just like every other human with a beating heart. stop being such a desperate creepy loser
Way to sugar coat that :D
I have to agree on his first point though. No one owes anyone a date because they are asked out. There has to be some kind of attraction first. I am confident about who I am and I work to look how I look. I don't hit the gym 5 times a week to stay toned and cut, but I eat responsibly and I keep active. To me, being healthy is important, I don't want a girl that weighs three hundred pounds and no amount of trying will change that. I am sorry but for me it is important to keep healthy, if you don't have the self control to keep yourself from over eating, our personalities won't jive. We may share some interests, but I won't ever feel attraction for someone like that. It's just biological.
I have now been married for six years to the wonderful mother of my two children, but as amazing of a person as my wife is, I would have never given her the chance if I didn't feel some kind of attraction to her in the first place. With as many people as there are in the world, why would I waste my time with someone I didn't feel attracted to?
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"Hey, honey, can I come in"
"No, I'm going to go in, now."
"C'mon, I bought you dinner! Doesn't that give a man some rights?!"
From Breakfast at Tiffany's.
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Haha Hawk, I love your response ^^
OP, just because you ask someone out doesn't mean you deserve a date. You're assuming that they haven't yet given you enough thought or a chance as a potential girl/ boyfriend, but you may be completely wrong with this assumption. Based on previous experiences with you, social expectations, and other variables, they may already have evaluated you and decided you belong in the friend zone. If you ask someone out, I can see three different outcomes:
1. They've thought about you already and decided they like you, so they say Yes.
2. They've thought about you already and decided they don't like you, so they say No.
3. They haven't thought about you already, so they're on the fence (they'll say Yes or No).
In case three, it may be the case that saying Yes could be good for them (and obviously you). But it seems you're proposing that they always say Yes (in all instances of case three, and even in case two), no matter what, just because you built up the courage to ask them out. Unfortunately, that's not how it works. And it doesn't even mean that the person shooting you down is a bitch or a bad person; they just may be interested in someone else or other traits that you haven't clearly portrayed.
Not everyone deserves a date with everyone else.
EDIT: Glee's a good show.
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Yo not to derail, but the guy in glee poster at the 3 o 'clock position looks like he would bite on the first date  Would not date.
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It's nice to be kind and graceful about it, and flattered, but you don't owe anyone squat simply for liking you. That would be one messed up world lol.
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NMRemorse I like you, would you like to go out?
I look forward to our gay date.
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Haha, the only time I asked a girl out before knowing she's attracted to me resulted in a "you're too young for me" (she was 14 I was 12). I have never asked anyone out since then (unless we already had some random makeout session before).
I have and will continue to accept any requests to go on dates from girls ever since I fucked up the date I had at my 8th grade prom (she asked, I didn't really like her, I said yes but ignored her all night, ended up going home with a "sluttier" girl I danced with that night. I figured it out the next day and over time I began to befriend her. In the end I realized I could have had a nice relationship there, she just wasn't that "first sight" gorgeous but was smart and fun and quite beautiful.
What do you know, turns out looks isn't actually very important. I never refused or acted like a jerk when I said yes after that.
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On January 15 2013 23:38 QuanticHawk wrote:
holy christ, people don't owe you a date because some weirdo asked them out you nitwit. what the hell kind of self centered bullshit logic his that. do they owe you a handy after because you bought them dinner too??
if you are having issues with getting people rejecting you when you ask it probably has something to do with you projecting that you assume that girls who won't go on a date with you are shallow bitches instead of people with certain likes and tastes just like every other human with a beating heart. stop being such a desperate creepy loser
I think you misunderstood the blog, this was speaking generally, I've never had a problem asking out girls, if they say no due to some preconcived physical bs, then im better off without them! Just wanted to voice some logic, that I maybe, just maybe some1 will read, and next time some1 asks them out, they will think twice before they blind reject them.
As to being a desperate creepy loser, I think that’s a question of definition, lonely as in few friends, yes. As in romantically ? No... I'm not looking for a relationship atm, just focusing on dealing with a 4yr depression. And I don’t see how I’m creepy? 
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+ Show Spoiler +On January 16 2013 00:17 DarkPlasmaBall wrote:
Haha Hawk, I love your response ^^
OP, just because you ask someone out doesn't mean you deserve a date. You're assuming that they haven't yet given you enough thought or a chance as a potential girl/ boyfriend, but you may be completely wrong with this assumption. Based on previous experiences with you, social expectations, and other variables, they may already have evaluated you and decided you belong in the friend zone. If you ask someone out, I can see three different outcomes:
1. They've thought about you already and decided they like you, so they say Yes.
2. They've thought about you already and decided they don't like you, so they say No.
3. They haven't thought about you already, so they're on the fence (they'll say Yes or No).
In case three, it may be the case that saying Yes could be good for them (and obviously you). But it seems you're proposing that they always say Yes (in all instances of case three, and even in case two), no matter what, just because you built up the courage to ask them out. Unfortunately, that's not how it works. And it doesn't even mean that the person shooting you down is a bitch or a bad person; they just may be interested in someone else or other traits that you haven't clearly portrayed.
Not everyone deserves a date with everyone else.
EDIT: Glee's a good show.
'Sigh' You also seem to have missed the point of the blog. This isn’t about me... >.<. I have no female problems, and I'm not looking for a date. I'm just trying to get over a 4yr depression, get back to writing ect. And I thought, since our society seems to think all that matters is looks, I'd write this, and post it to my favorite community, TL. Also this was written from the POV of getting asked out, not asking out...
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On January 16 2013 00:46 Butterednuts wrote:
NMRemorse I like you, would you like to go out?
I look forward to our gay date.
LOOL. Haven’t thought of that... I think if the guy asking was polite enough, I would probably say yes. I'm 100% hetro sexual, but I still think everyone should get a chance.  Who knows, you might be a fucking baws, and we might just become best friends, so fuck yea, lets go out. (Hypothetically, since you're actually just being an ironic dick :/.)
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On January 16 2013 00:20 Kickboxer wrote:
It's nice to be kind and graceful about it, and flattered, but you don't owe anyone squat simply for liking you. That would be one messed up world lol.
I don’t think you 'owe' them anything, other than to spare them your shitty personality, if you judge people by their looks or popularity, you're probably not worth going out with anyways. . And as I replied to the others, I wrote this from the POV of being asked out not asking out... this wasn’t a QQ rejection blog, about how I got rejected and feel butt hurt about it.
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On January 15 2013 22:32 Pandemona wrote:That glee poster ;_; dude ! Got some balls for posting things like that  Nice blog though good points!
<3. 1/8 got the message I was sending. That makes it all worthwhile. ^.^
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On January 16 2013 04:22 NMRemorse wrote:Show nested quote +On January 16 2013 00:20 Kickboxer wrote:
It's nice to be kind and graceful about it, and flattered, but you don't owe anyone squat simply for liking you. That would be one messed up world lol. I don’t think you 'owe' them anything, other than to spare them your shitty personality, if you judge people by their looks or popularity, you're probably not worth going out with anyways. . And as I replied to the others, I wrote this from the POV of being asked out not asking out... this wasn’t a QQ rejection blog, about how I got rejected and feel butt hurt about it.
ROFL. So because you don't want to go out on a date with someone (which what if it's not even because you don't find them physically attractive, what if you just got out of a relation ship?) you are automatically a dipshit with a shitty personality?
What kind of logic is that? Just because you get asked out doesn't mean you should have to go out my lord man get off your high horse.
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bros before hoes doesnt really apply much to the nerdworld, because most bros are actually nerds who dont know many (if any) hoes.
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On January 16 2013 05:36 blade55555 wrote:Show nested quote +On January 16 2013 04:22 NMRemorse wrote:On January 16 2013 00:20 Kickboxer wrote:
It's nice to be kind and graceful about it, and flattered, but you don't owe anyone squat simply for liking you. That would be one messed up world lol. I don’t think you 'owe' them anything, other than to spare them your shitty personality, if you judge people by their looks or popularity, you're probably not worth going out with anyways. . And as I replied to the others, I wrote this from the POV of being asked out not asking out... this wasn’t a QQ rejection blog, about how I got rejected and feel butt hurt about it. ROFL. So because you don't want to go out on a date with someone (which what if it's not even because you don't find them physically attractive, what if you just got out of a relation ship?) you are automatically a dipshit with a shitty personality? What kind of logic is that? Just because you get asked out doesn't mean you should have to go out my lord man get off your high horse.
Don't tell him to get off of his high horse or else we might get another gem like this highly important blog.
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On January 16 2013 04:20 NMRemorse wrote:Show nested quote +On January 16 2013 00:46 Butterednuts wrote:
NMRemorse I like you, would you like to go out?
I look forward to our gay date. LOOL. Haven’t thought of that... I think if the guy asking was polite enough, I would probably say yes. I'm 100% hetro sexual, but I still think everyone should get a chance. Who knows, you might be a fucking baws, and we might just become best friends, so fuck yea, lets go out. (Hypothetically, since you're actually just being an ironic dick :/.)
This is actually quite mean. Playing with other people emotions is disgusting, especially just to keep your own twisted morals.
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Was I the only one who read the whole OP to Nada Surf's Popular?
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On January 16 2013 04:18 NMRemorse wrote:+ Show Spoiler +On January 16 2013 00:17 DarkPlasmaBall wrote:
Haha Hawk, I love your response ^^
OP, just because you ask someone out doesn't mean you deserve a date. You're assuming that they haven't yet given you enough thought or a chance as a potential girl/ boyfriend, but you may be completely wrong with this assumption. Based on previous experiences with you, social expectations, and other variables, they may already have evaluated you and decided you belong in the friend zone. If you ask someone out, I can see three different outcomes:
1. They've thought about you already and decided they like you, so they say Yes.
2. They've thought about you already and decided they don't like you, so they say No.
3. They haven't thought about you already, so they're on the fence (they'll say Yes or No).
In case three, it may be the case that saying Yes could be good for them (and obviously you). But it seems you're proposing that they always say Yes (in all instances of case three, and even in case two), no matter what, just because you built up the courage to ask them out. Unfortunately, that's not how it works. And it doesn't even mean that the person shooting you down is a bitch or a bad person; they just may be interested in someone else or other traits that you haven't clearly portrayed.
Not everyone deserves a date with everyone else.
EDIT: Glee's a good show. 'Sigh' You also seem to have missed the point of the blog. This isn’t about me... >.<. I have no female problems, and I'm not looking for a date. I'm just trying to get over a 4yr depression, get back to writing ect. And I thought, since our society seems to think all that matters is looks, I'd write this, and post it to my favorite community, TL. Also this was written from the POV of getting asked out, not asking out...
I meant "you" in the general sense, although your post did seem like it was speaking from a depressed experience, so I also did think you had some connection to your writing.
Also, considering nearly everyone had the same reaction I did, I would recommend trying to be clearer next time on getting your point across. I'm sorry I missed your point, but clearly it was ambiguous.
I agree with you that too many people think looks are everything (although I also covered in my previous post that you can still get shot down for other reasons besides your looks), because we like to objectify people (and ideas). It's easy to be superficial because that way we don't need to care about substance or get to know people.
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On January 16 2013 09:11 DarkPlasmaBall wrote:
I agree with you that too many people think looks are everything (although I also covered in my previous post that you can still get shot down for other reasons besides your looks), because we like to objectify people (and ideas). It's easy to be superficial because that way we don't need to care about substance or get to know people.
Is this really true? I mean, I can assess fairly quickly whether I'm physically attracted to someone (usually in a few seconds). If I'm not, then what's the point in dating and exploring the possibility of a romantic relationship? The person can have a great personality but if there's no physical attraction then that's not likely to change. At least in my experience.
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On January 16 2013 04:14 NMRemorse wrote:
if they say no due to some preconcived physical bs
speaks volumes about you and the issue you're having
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On January 16 2013 04:22 NMRemorse wrote:Show nested quote +On January 16 2013 00:20 Kickboxer wrote:
It's nice to be kind and graceful about it, and flattered, but you don't owe anyone squat simply for liking you. That would be one messed up world lol. I don’t think you 'owe' them anything, other than to spare them your shitty personality, if you judge people by their looks or popularity, you're probably not worth going out with anyways. . And as I replied to the others, I wrote this from the POV of being asked out not asking out... this wasn’t a QQ rejection blog, about how I got rejected and feel butt hurt about it.
you owe them a certain amount of respect
Why do I owe them respect? Btw, you're on my subscription list for great bloggers. Can't wait for the next riot!
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Wait, you want people to stop being shallow, then say that you should respect someone because of purely physical reasons?
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On January 16 2013 10:46 GnarlyArbitrage wrote:Show nested quote +On January 16 2013 04:22 NMRemorse wrote:On January 16 2013 00:20 Kickboxer wrote:
It's nice to be kind and graceful about it, and flattered, but you don't owe anyone squat simply for liking you. That would be one messed up world lol. I don’t think you 'owe' them anything, other than to spare them your shitty personality, if you judge people by their looks or popularity, you're probably not worth going out with anyways. . And as I replied to the others, I wrote this from the POV of being asked out not asking out... this wasn’t a QQ rejection blog, about how I got rejected and feel butt hurt about it. Why do I owe them respect? Btw, you're on my subscription list for great bloggers. Can't wait for the next riot!
I think everyone deserves a certain amount of respect, you don't go around saying whatever you want to random strangers. "Hey your shirt looks like you stole it from a dumpster"... And when strangers attempts to give you handshake for being friendly, I don't think it's appropriate to ignore them.
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I don't understand this OP. First, a girl usually decides if a guy's fuckable with a single look. She might be persuaded by later information (such as job, location and sq footage of his house, car, life insurance policy, etc) but usually she knows which way the jizz winds will blow.
Second, the point of a date is not to "impress" the girl, unless you are solely trying to bank on the above examples of persuading her with additional information. Dates are typically just to find out if two people are capable of having a good time together.
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2 star blog? woah, let's not get our hopes up like that
Physical attraction is the difference between being straight and gay or bi.
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Well this blog assumes that every date should have either complete succes or complete failure. What about just grabbing a bite to eat with a girl you like and maybe just ending up having a good time?
OT: IMO people should at least let you down kindly, and if you know them pretty well I think I'd find it very lame if they indeed wouldn't even give you the chance. But hey, people should do whatever the fuck they want to do right?
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I have a question NMRemorse. A lot of people disagree with you and have stated why. Have you reconsidered your opinion on the subject? There are a lot more points being made against your statement than in favour of it, you should probably think about the fact that you might be wrong.
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No, that's stupid. I hate when people talk about getting "friendzoned". If a horrible, annoying girl came up to me and asked me out I would tell her to get stuffed - she's not what I want in a girl, why should I settle for her, or even give her a shot? Spare everyone the heart ache + learn to live with the fact that for the most part, just because you want something doesn't mean you're going to get it, and for the rest of it you're probably going to have to work damned hard to get it.
TL;DR get over the fact that someone doesn't like you.
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