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Nufo
United States186 Posts
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ampson
United States2355 Posts
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Nufo
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obesechicken13
United States10467 Posts
I'd leave it alone though. | ||
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Nufo
United States186 Posts
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Nufo
United States186 Posts
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obesechicken13
United States10467 Posts
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P7GAB
Canada486 Posts
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Nufo
United States186 Posts
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Nufo
United States186 Posts
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askTeivospy
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Arcanefrost
Belgium1257 Posts
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hkf
Australia354 Posts
high school career. stopped reading. why even bother with relationships in hs. | ||
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Nufo
United States186 Posts
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PiGStarcraft
Australia988 Posts
Suddenly saving this girl seems ever more attractive an idea! After all you miss her, you want her back. And you'd be saving her from this piece of shit so surely she'd be grateful. Ok so that's my retarded psychoanalysis bullshit. Take it with a grain of salt but do consider it. There was a reason you broke up with her, you two simply couldn't get along! It's normal for many high school relationships from anywhere between 18 months and 5 years to end between 18-22. This happened to myself and most of my friends. Almost all of us went through the same periods of "hey things weren't that bad with her I should get back with her" or "she's with that fucking scum I should get back with her" and so on. My advice would be don't try to get her back. You can talk to her, get to know her again and see if you get along. If you find out she's unhappy then you can try to help her. But I don't think you should try to get back with her especially as it sounds like she has her own serious issues to look to. If you get along well then sure but otherwise stay away as it won't go well. | ||
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Nufo
United States186 Posts
On August 06 2012 17:57 PiGStarcraft wrote: Sounds like you have White Knight syndrome. A lot of dudes get this (myself included!) so don't take it as an insult. Basically because she's with another dude you will feel jealous. Also because you still have some feelings for here they are exaggerated seeing her with someone else. So what I'm suggesting is maybe you have some feelings, you haven't found a new serious relationship, you miss the sex, you miss the compassion. And now you see her with a piece of shit. And you feel like this girl that was so nice and pure with you is being corrupted and going down a horrible road in life. Suddenly saving this girl seems ever more attractive an idea! After all you miss her, you want her back. And you'd be saving her from this piece of shit so surely she'd be grateful. Ok so that's my retarded psychoanalysis bullshit. Take it with a grain of salt but do consider it. There was a reason you broke up with her, you two simply couldn't get along! It's normal for many high school relationships from anywhere between 18 months and 5 years to end between 18-22. This happened to myself and most of my friends. Almost all of us went through the same periods of "hey things weren't that bad with her I should get back with her" or "she's with that fucking scum I should get back with her" and so on. My advice would be don't try to get her back. You can talk to her, get to know her again and see if you get along. If you find out she's unhappy then you can try to help her. But I don't think you should try to get back with her especially as it sounds like she has her own serious issues to look to. If you get along well then sure but otherwise stay away as it won't go well. Thank you for that man, Its helps to know that some people have felt the way I do. For now I think I am just going to try and talk to her see how she is feeling and how she is doing overall. | ||
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slam
United States923 Posts
I have to wonder, how well do you actually know this person to label him in such ways? Obviously I don't know this person at all but it is completely possible that he didn't have the easiest upbringing since generally it is difficult to "destroy" ones life with drugs and dropping out of school at such a young age (under 18) without a severe lack of parenting. I would also say it is very possible that this "kid" and your ex have a very healthy relationship and if they are happy together then you should let them be. Like you stated you have not talked to her much about the breakup so it seems to me like it is of little concern to you. If anyone is immature in the situation it is you with your jealousy and your unwillingness to move on. Just because she has gone about her life in a way that you do not approve of does not mean that you have any right to tell her what's right and what is wrong due to fact that you used to date her in high school. To answer you question, no. | ||
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Nufo
United States186 Posts
On August 06 2012 18:53 slam wrote: You describe the so-called "low life" as a kid due to the fact that he "uses drugs" and didn't graduate. I have to wonder, how well do you actually know this person to label him in such ways? Obviously I don't know this person at all but it is completely possible that he didn't have the easiest upbringing since generally it is difficult to "destroy" ones life with drugs and dropping out of school at such a young age (under 18) without a severe lack of parenting. I would also say it is very possible that this "kid" and your ex have a very healthy relationship and if they are happy together then you should let them be. Like you stated you have not talked to her much about the breakup so it seems to me like it is of little concern to you. If anyone is immature in the situation it is you with your jealousy and your unwillingness to move on. Just because she has gone about her life in a way that you do not approve of does not mean that you have any right to tell her what's right and what is wrong due to fact that you used to date her in high school. To answer you question, no. You act as if I am trying to tell her what to do with her life. I know this kid pretty well we have grown up together and his family is completely fine. I have met his parents and they are very nice people. He made the choice to do drugs and be lazy as to not apply himself to his studies. I am not saying what she is doing with her life is wrong, it's just not her. I know for a fact that she used to despise weed and drugs in general so it is pretty obvious that she isn't in that great of a place for her to be doing them so readily. | ||
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wei2coolman
United States60033 Posts
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slam
United States923 Posts
I am not saying what she is doing with her life is wrong, it's just not her. I know for a fact that she used to despise weed and drugs in general so it is pretty obvious that she isn't in that great of a place for her to be doing them so readily. Who are you to say who she is? Maybe you don't know her as well as you think you do? Also, people change (this includes both your ex and her current boyfriend, he may be a different person since his previous delinquency), life changes, you should not expect to hold on to everything you care about in life because very little is stagnant in life. | ||
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Nufo
United States186 Posts
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Kyrillion
Russian Federation748 Posts
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Nufo
United States186 Posts
On August 06 2012 20:02 Kyrillion wrote: What on Earth were you arguing all the time about ? Honestly the stupidest shit possible, like when the tsunami hit Japan we argued weather the radioactive waste had contaminated the waters over here in the US and if it was being spread faster through air or water. I mean they were really harmless arguments but still we hardly ever reached an agreement. | ||
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Denzil
United Kingdom4193 Posts
do you know why you argued? will you try to make her give up weed? | ||
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Nufo
United States186 Posts
On August 06 2012 20:46 Denzil wrote: assuming you do win her back, what will you do? do you know why you argued? will you try to make her give up weed? I would try and make her happy. To me it seems like she is missing emotional support and that is something I was really good at giving her. I know why we argued and most of your arguments could of been simply solved my agreeing even though I or she didn't think whatever we were saying was correct. I mean I wouldn't make her completely give up weed if she acutally likes smoking it but I would definitely make her cut back on the use. I mean using it everyday is a bit to much in my eyes. | ||
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Tachion
Canada8573 Posts
If you're intent on doing something, approach her as a friend and be supportive. And no that doesn't mean you have to encourage her drug use. | ||
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MichaelDonovan
United States1453 Posts
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AXygnus
Portugal1008 Posts
On August 06 2012 20:06 Nufo wrote: Honestly the stupidest shit possible, like when the tsunami hit Japan we argued weather the radioactive waste had contaminated the waters over here in the US and if it was being spread faster through air or water. I mean they were really harmless arguments but still we hardly ever reached an agreement. Hehe, that sounds fun, I love this kinds of arguments. | ||
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JohannesH
Finland1364 Posts
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Daeny
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I really don't know her or know what she's like but most of the girls are like this. She was just bored I guess and wanna try out something special/excited. | ||
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Nufo
United States186 Posts
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invisibIe
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