Ok, so I'm down in Malmö with my father visiting my sister (and her boyfriend). We're having a good time; eating superb food and drinking fine, rich and tasty wine, sharing hearty laughs. All is good. After dinner my dad goes out for a walk. After 15 minutes or so he comes back in and is visibly upset and flustered. He goes on to tell us that he's been robbed by a fuckhead who threatened to smash his head in with a baseball bat.

What the flying fuck is wrong with our species? What asshole does that to a 67 year old? If this scum of the earth had tried that again with me present, I don't know what I'd do...

My dad still has his head intact, which is the only important thing, but he's obviously feels really violated by the whole thing, and I'm literally shaking with anger and frustration.

Fuck people, man, they're the worst.

lagmaster

United States374 Posts

May 17 2012 20:34 GMT

There is a lot of anger and a lot of hate in the world. There have been times when I have questioned my faith in humanity as well. There are times when others act in such a way that I feel sad or angry. And while I have had my share of misfortune, I stand before you (or sit behind my computer) as a happy man.

Why?

Because I have come to a realization. There are tons of external events that will influence our lives, but we are the ones who choose how to feel about it and how to act on it. It is a bad thing that your father got robbed, but you (and possibly your father) are the ones choosing to feel upset about this. Learn from this, be gracious that your father is alive. Each time something bad happens in your life you should treat that as an opportunity to better prepare yourself for that. It is in no way your father's fault, but the sadness and anger you feel right now, is entirely on your shoulders. You want to have faith in humanity? Then actively look to some of the great things humanity does on a daily basis. Stop focusing on the negative like the media loves to. Focus on all the little things that happen every day around you. The simple niceties that you see happening around you. They are there, but we like to focus on the negative. If you want faith in humanity, stop giving yourself reasons to lose that faith.

isleyofthenorth

Austria894 Posts

May 17 2012 20:45 GMT

Man, thats enough for you to lose faith in the whole of humanity? what is wrong with you?

Holgerius

Sweden16951 Posts

May 17 2012 20:46 GMT

On May 18 2012 05:45 isleyofthenorth wrote:
Man, thats enough for you to lose faith in the whole of humanity? what is wrong with you?

Having someone basically threatening to kill your dad gets your blood boiling. Trust me.

Sound advice, Mr. Lagmaster.

I'm already starting to relax and getting a more sober state of mind (compared to 10 minutes ago when I was, as I said, literally shaking with rage). Especially because my dad is dealing with it so well, like the cool man that he is.

HwangjaeTerran

Finland5967 Posts

May 17 2012 21:00 GMT

Well there isn't all too many animals who enjoy killing and torturing each other. I think that's enough to convince one that homo sapiens as a species is a failure and sick. So if you are losing faith in humanity, it's because you have held it in too high regard to begin with it.

Sucks for you guys, although Malmö is a showcase of failure in immigration and something like this is far more likely than anywhere else in scandinavia. Atleast that's what the documentaries have taught me.

Holgerius

Sweden16951 Posts

May 17 2012 21:48 GMT

Blaming the problems in Malmö on just immigration is over-simplifying the the issue, but it is indeed a hell-hole, in terms of criminality, compared to the rest of Sweden.

Chef

10810 Posts

May 17 2012 21:50 GMT

That sucks.

I have a pretty hard time trusting people / feeling safe when I have to depend on someone else. But there is not that much you can do. You end up just having to realise that some people are awesome and great to be around, and some people are really scary (and probably live equally scary lives). It is what happens in a world where needs are not equally met, and there is not enough to go around. Your old man gets the scare of his life for this night and it sucks, but for the people angry enough at their lives and the dispairity between them and the comfortable to commit such risky and violent and repulsive behaviour, you can bet they live most of their lives in this kind of fear and stress. It is a bad situation all around, but this is part of life. Even in the animal kingdom if you think about how animals actual live in relatively constant fear of being preyed upon and ripped to shreds by hungry teeth, there is a certain unavoidableness to this reality.

Holgerius

Sweden16951 Posts

May 17 2012 21:59 GMT

Yeh, it's a bit of a wake up call for me. I've had very little experience of similar things in my life (something I should count myself fortunate for), so I react to it quite poorly. Shit happens, deal with it.

Chef

10810 Posts

May 17 2012 22:21 GMT

I don't think you've reacted badly. It's just sometimes sobering to think of it from an impersonal perspective. It would be weird if you weren't upset.

Denzil

United Kingdom4193 Posts

May 17 2012 22:51 GMT

#10

You had faith in humanity prior to this event?

StimD

Norway738 Posts

May 17 2012 22:57 GMT

#11

shitty city watcha gun do

docvoc

United States5491 Posts

May 17 2012 23:26 GMT

#12

I think what you need to realize is A, you are too bro to care about the guy, only your dad and he is ok; B you need to back the fuck up and realize thats a 1/100 chance, and a 1/100000 chance it happened when you were away, on that night, right then. No hard feelings about it, once you've calmed down you will realize its an isolated incident and it probably will never hapen again. Also i live in a shit city, you seem relatively safe in sweden, don't ever take that for granted

Nibbler89

884 Posts

May 18 2012 02:26 GMT

#13

Queen otohime of gyojin island would say you must not get angry or feel hate in your heart. Try and imagine the circumstances that must have made the person do what he did regardless of the fact that it was wrong of him to do so. The guy with the bat probably would rather be at home drinking fancy wine too instead of going around threatening people with a bat. At least he didn't senselessly attack your father after he got what he wanted. Empathy is what will make the world a better place, not anger and hatred.

does suck that it happened to your dad though, glad no one was hurt.

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