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Geordie
Profile Blog Joined April 2011
United Kingdom653 Posts
October 05 2011 20:27 GMT
#1
Hiho again, making another blog ^^

Just liked to share what is going on at the moment and your thoughts on how I could correct this...

So basically yeah all of the time throughout the last year at school me and my mates would wind up girls and basically try and get a reaction out of them for a laugh. We only did it in what we thought was not particularly harmful to them as none of our jokes were tasteless, but you know I got known as a dick to the girls and nobody else did for some reason and it really confused me but I didnt really care.

But that was what happened for the most part and to be honest at the time again I really didnt give a shit about girls opinions and the whole thing about getting girls as the only thing I cared about was talking about the latest football going ons.

So fast foward to 3 months afterwards and I think I have emotionally matured to the point where I actually want to you know, get a girlfriend. Last " romantic interest " I had was yeeaars ago so it doesnt count of course. So anyway whenever I try to approach a girl these days, and when I try to strike up a conversation while we are studying or whatever they always snap back at me and whatever I say they take as some kind of insult against them because of girls going of some kind of word of mouth thing that I was a asshole. I got to say I have made a concious effort to be nice in general to girls for a while now and for some reason they always find a reason to complain about me.

EXAMPLE : I walk into our maths class and I sit down and the bitch who on our seating plan ( chilidsh I know ) was sat next to me and she immedietly starts bitching at me for apparantly bullying her when I asked the person sat next to me how she got the answer to the problem, and she thought the question was directed at her and she kicked up a massive fuss. Then every girl looks over and I bet they were thinking oh, Josh is doing his usual, and I just feel at a loss.

I after watching the film hitch a while back always remembered the line that the key to getting a girl is making her best friend think your nice or whatever but I know for a fact if I ask someone out they will tell their friends about it and they will tell her that they shouldnt be with me since I have a unearned reputation for being a dick to girls.


And again after thinking about it probably the main reason at the start for me poking fun at girls with my friends wasnt because I wanted to be funny but because I felt it was the only way I could get attention from the girls I liked... Its really irrational and I really regret it but I guess thats just how it is.


Not sure if anybody else has been in the same situation as me but if so could anyone tell me some kind of solution to it? I have tried to be nice but they just bite back at me and im just thinking what the fuck I should do.

tyvm ~




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Divinek
Profile Blog Joined November 2006
Canada4045 Posts
October 05 2011 20:29 GMT
#2
You usually have to be good looking if you want to be a successful asshole
Never attribute to malice that which can be adequately explained by stupidity.
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Brees
Profile Joined January 2010
Marshall Islands3404 Posts
October 05 2011 20:29 GMT
#3
become gay
Brees on in
Harrad
Profile Blog Joined October 2010
1003 Posts
October 05 2011 20:29 GMT
#4
what goes around comes around
Geordie
Profile Blog Joined April 2011
United Kingdom653 Posts
October 05 2011 20:32 GMT
#5
harrad that is correct to a certain degree but I kind of get the impression you didnt even read the OP. no thanks.

Also brees fantastic post but it doesnt help me.
THE_DOMINATOR
Profile Blog Joined April 2010
United States309 Posts
Last Edited: 2011-10-05 20:34:10
October 05 2011 20:34 GMT
#6
On my way to school everyday there was a sticker on a stop sign that said "DON'T BE A DICK" that was the best advice I ever got.
DOMINATION
JiSu
Profile Joined August 2010
Korea (South)140 Posts
October 05 2011 20:37 GMT
#7
One, you can start by not referring a girl as bitch.
Torte de Lini
Profile Blog Joined September 2010
Germany38463 Posts
October 05 2011 20:39 GMT
#8
Tough luck kid, you're going to be bench-warming for the rest of the school time.
I got girl's attention because I had a funny accent, worked way better when they speak a language I don't.
https://twitter.com/#!/TorteDeLini (@TorteDeLini)
Holgerius
Profile Blog Joined January 2009
Sweden16951 Posts
October 05 2011 20:39 GMT
#9
On October 06 2011 05:37 JiSu wrote:
One, you can start by not referring a girl as bitch.

This was my initial thought as well when reading this.
I believe in the almighty Grötslev! -- I am never serious and you should never believe a thing I say. Including the previous sentence.
fusefuse
Profile Blog Joined February 2011
Estonia4644 Posts
October 05 2011 20:40 GMT
#10
"Acting like a dick backfires"

thats a pretty apt observation.
Liquipedia@jkursk
Geordie
Profile Blog Joined April 2011
United Kingdom653 Posts
October 05 2011 20:41 GMT
#11
On October 06 2011 05:39 Holgerius wrote:
Show nested quote +
On October 06 2011 05:37 JiSu wrote:
One, you can start by not referring a girl as bitch.

This was my initial thought as well when reading this.



Yeah fair enough that would be a start, but she really is a sarcastic, misinformed and full of her self indivudual who follows every hipster trend that comes along. I can assure you that I dont refer to every girl as a " bitch "
Torte de Lini
Profile Blog Joined September 2010
Germany38463 Posts
October 05 2011 20:43 GMT
#12
We don't know that and saying that she is doesn't really matter.
https://twitter.com/#!/TorteDeLini (@TorteDeLini)
Geordie
Profile Blog Joined April 2011
United Kingdom653 Posts
Last Edited: 2011-10-05 20:46:45
October 05 2011 20:46 GMT
#13
On October 06 2011 05:43 Torte de Lini wrote:
We don't know that and saying that she is doesn't really matter.


Well actually it kind of does matter, I get the impression from what people were posting that I refer to every other girl as a " bitch " as if I felt I was above them or some shit but that is not the case. I feel someone who had the personality that she had is worthy of being called one.
Omigawa
Profile Blog Joined August 2010
United States1556 Posts
October 05 2011 20:47 GMT
#14
Are you at college? I find it hard to believe EVERY girl at your school knows you're a dick. Find a new group of girl friends, don't be a dick to them.
Jedclark
Profile Blog Joined February 2011
United Kingdom903 Posts
October 05 2011 20:50 GMT
#15
You were a dick purposely, and then moan when you have a reputation for being a dick.

You made your own grave
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Geordie
Profile Blog Joined April 2011
United Kingdom653 Posts
October 05 2011 20:50 GMT
#16
On October 06 2011 05:47 Omigawa wrote:
Are you at college? I find it hard to believe EVERY girl at your school knows you're a dick. Find a new group of girl friends, don't be a dick to them.


Nah I am not in college and hmm yes thats actually true but I think MOST of the people who I would want to talk to/ have been friends with in the past are in the demographic of people who think I am an asshole. Of course i have friends who for the most part know me as a nice guy so maybe I did over-exaggerate but they are people who I dont feel attracted to at all / out of my league.
Torte de Lini
Profile Blog Joined September 2010
Germany38463 Posts
October 05 2011 20:53 GMT
#17
Start buying a lot of flowers.

Try Peonies.
https://twitter.com/#!/TorteDeLini (@TorteDeLini)
Complete
Profile Joined October 2009
United States1864 Posts
October 05 2011 20:53 GMT
#18
Wait until college obviously. You sound like a bit of a douche though fyi, no reason to wind people up 'cos i feels like it and dont cares'
Geordie
Profile Blog Joined April 2011
United Kingdom653 Posts
October 05 2011 20:56 GMT
#19
On October 06 2011 05:53 Torte de Lini wrote:
Start buying a lot of flowers.

Try Peonies.


I think the UK works differently to america, like if you went up to a girl and gave her flowers or something they would probably look at you and laugh rather than feel touched. Just the way things are where I live.
Torte de Lini
Profile Blog Joined September 2010
Germany38463 Posts
Last Edited: 2011-10-05 20:57:43
October 05 2011 20:57 GMT
#20
On October 06 2011 05:56 Geordie wrote:
Show nested quote +
On October 06 2011 05:53 Torte de Lini wrote:
Start buying a lot of flowers.

Try Peonies.


I think the UK works differently to america, like if you went up to a girl and gave her flowers or something they would probably look at you and laugh rather than feel touched. Just the way things are where I live.


No, it worked very well for a young female I know who is from West Yorkshire. Try it anyways is my suggestion :x
https://twitter.com/#!/TorteDeLini (@TorteDeLini)
IVFearless
Profile Blog Joined November 2010
United States165 Posts
October 05 2011 20:58 GMT
#21
When one of them accuses you of being a dick, accept it, admit it and ask them to forgive you. Then make a concentrated effort not to be.

The next time it happens, do the same. Tell them that you don't intend to behave that way and then man up and back up your words with actions.

Take their grief and admit to being it's cause. Don't react negatively, instead assume that everything they say is true and try to fix it.

Eventually, they will understand that you are not a dick. Oh, and most importantly, DO NOT have fun at other people's expense, regardless of who they are. That will just prove that you're a dick.

Last but not least, if you want to speed up the process go apologize to every girl you made fun of last year. Admit that you were an ass and don't try to defend your behavior in any way. Remove every shred of dignity you have and above all, make sure that you do it privately.
Geordie
Profile Blog Joined April 2011
United Kingdom653 Posts
October 05 2011 21:00 GMT
#22
On October 06 2011 05:53 Complete wrote:
Wait until college obviously. You sound like a bit of a douche though fyi, no reason to wind people up 'cos i feels like it and dont cares'


Yeah I know I agree I was arrogant and a bit of a tool, put everybody else was doing it and im sure you could understand me wanting to do it just to fit in and be the same as everyone else. ( of course I realise know that it was definitely not the right thing to do )
OmniEulogy
Profile Blog Joined July 2010
Canada6592 Posts
October 05 2011 21:02 GMT
#23
Join the army? You'll learn how to keep your mouth shut when you don't need to talk... lol >.< otherwise You'll just keep digging that grave
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iGrok
Profile Blog Joined October 2010
United States5142 Posts
October 05 2011 21:03 GMT
#24
On October 06 2011 06:00 Geordie wrote:
Show nested quote +
On October 06 2011 05:53 Complete wrote:
Wait until college obviously. You sound like a bit of a douche though fyi, no reason to wind people up 'cos i feels like it and dont cares'


Yeah I know I agree I was arrogant and a bit of a tool, put everybody else was doing it and im sure you could understand me wanting to do it just to fit in and be the same as everyone else. ( of course I realise know that it was definitely not the right thing to do )

You're still sounding like a dick. Shifting the blame off of yourself (you've blamed the girl for being a bitch and now its everyone else's fault you acted like one).

Man up, accept that you're a dick, and work to correct it.
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garlicface
Profile Joined April 2010
Canada4196 Posts
October 05 2011 21:03 GMT
#25
You must of REALLY said some stupid shit for it to have carried over years later. Give it time, or wait til university. You're fucked (not literally, unfortunately) until then.
#TeamBuLba
Swwww
Profile Blog Joined July 2010
Switzerland812 Posts
October 05 2011 21:04 GMT
#26
I am sure you can make some new friends in the football lockers....
"What is this TeamSupportGroup?" - mahnini.
Geordie
Profile Blog Joined April 2011
United Kingdom653 Posts
October 05 2011 21:08 GMT
#27
On October 06 2011 05:58 IVFearless wrote:
When one of them accuses you of being a dick, accept it, admit it and ask them to forgive you. Then make a concentrated effort not to be.

The next time it happens, do the same. Tell them that you don't intend to behave that way and then man up and back up your words with actions.

Take their grief and admit to being it's cause. Don't react negatively, instead assume that everything they say is true and try to fix it.

Eventually, they will understand that you are not a dick. Oh, and most importantly, DO NOT have fun at other people's expense, regardless of who they are. That will just prove that you're a dick.

Last but not least, if you want to speed up the process go apologize to every girl you made fun of last year. Admit that you were an ass and don't try to defend your behavior in any way. Remove every shred of dignity you have and above all, make sure that you do it privately.


Yeah actually that was really helpful kind of opened my eyes.. I guess tommorow is going to be the day of trying to rebuild smashed down bridges.
Geordie
Profile Blog Joined April 2011
United Kingdom653 Posts
October 05 2011 21:08 GMT
#28
On October 06 2011 06:04 Swwww wrote:
I am sure you can make some new friends in the football lockers....


Not into that stuff, sorry friend
Synwave
Profile Joined July 2009
United States2803 Posts
October 05 2011 21:10 GMT
#29
Threads like this are why I regret clicking blogs sometimes. Then again some of the best threads are in blogs.
Conundrum!
♞Nerdrage is the cause of global warming♞
Geordie
Profile Blog Joined April 2011
United Kingdom653 Posts
October 05 2011 21:11 GMT
#30
On October 06 2011 06:03 garlicface wrote:
You must of REALLY said some stupid shit for it to have carried over years later. Give it time, or wait til university. You're fucked (not literally, unfortunately) until then.


Years later, nah, it was the last year of school so most of it was like 6 months ago or something. as I have said none of the stuff I said was really in my opinion that bad ( of course the people must of felt differently ) and it doesnt excuse me being a dick as I have said.
Swwww
Profile Blog Joined July 2010
Switzerland812 Posts
October 05 2011 21:11 GMT
#31
On October 06 2011 06:08 Geordie wrote:
Show nested quote +
On October 06 2011 06:04 Swwww wrote:
I am sure you can make some new friends in the football lockers....


Not into that stuff, sorry friend


Well if you are from Newcastle the boys in the mens locker-rooms are probably more female than the trolls that inhabit that part of the land...
"What is this TeamSupportGroup?" - mahnini.
Geordie
Profile Blog Joined April 2011
United Kingdom653 Posts
October 05 2011 21:12 GMT
#32
On October 06 2011 06:10 Synwave wrote:
Threads like this are why I regret clicking blogs sometimes. Then again some of the best threads are in blogs.
Conundrum!


I dont really care what you think, you obviously have a lot of time on your hands if you feel the need to comment on every blog you do not approve of. I didnt write this just for you.
Geordie
Profile Blog Joined April 2011
United Kingdom653 Posts
October 05 2011 21:12 GMT
#33
On October 06 2011 06:11 Swwww wrote:
Show nested quote +
On October 06 2011 06:08 Geordie wrote:
On October 06 2011 06:04 Swwww wrote:
I am sure you can make some new friends in the football lockers....


Not into that stuff, sorry friend


Well if you are from Newcastle the boys in the mens locker-rooms are probably more female than the trolls that inhabit that part of the land...


haha, thats what people say but there actually are alot of gorgeous girls here.
micronesia
Profile Blog Joined July 2006
United States24676 Posts
October 05 2011 21:15 GMT
#34
On October 06 2011 05:27 Geordie wrote:
EXAMPLE : I walk into our maths class and I sit down and the bitch who on our seating plan ( chilidsh I know )

Childish? You sound enough like a child to me to justify it XD

Seating charts <3
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Geordie
Profile Blog Joined April 2011
United Kingdom653 Posts
October 05 2011 21:20 GMT
#35
On October 06 2011 06:15 micronesia wrote:
Show nested quote +
On October 06 2011 05:27 Geordie wrote:
EXAMPLE : I walk into our maths class and I sit down and the bitch who on our seating plan ( chilidsh I know )

Childish? You sound enough like a child to me to justify it XD

Seating charts <3



I agree
Snuggles
Profile Blog Joined May 2010
United States1865 Posts
October 05 2011 21:22 GMT
#36
Pretty much everything fearless said is good advice. I used to be the schoolyard bully in elementary school (I was a tiny little asian kid but when u start throwing rocks and get suspended NO ONE fucks with you lol). Girls of all sorts used to despise me, but I think after being scolded and suspended enough times I ended up being the bookworm nerd who did little talking. Eventually people looked past what I used to do as a kid.

Going into middle school and high school I still had a few grudges (cause girls will be girls) against me but if you talk to them differently then even those hard feelings will go away.

Although it has only been 6 months, if you take the time to man up to their rightful bitching and calmly tell 'em your sorry then things should lighten. BTW you get more bonus points the less dramatic you do it- I've seen guys with no balls bow their goddamn heads and whimper out their apologies, don't do that.
JingleHell
Profile Blog Joined March 2011
United States11308 Posts
October 05 2011 21:22 GMT
#37
If you're not willing to accept the consequences of being an asshole, don't be an asshole. And that's coming from a fucking pro.

I can't go a week without being called a dick, an asshole, or some other random word with similar connotations at least twice. And I love it. It means that other people don't have power to control me through petty guilt about the fact that I'm honest and direct, and just happen to hate about 70% of people I meet.

If you can't take the heat, stay out of the kitchen.
Synwave
Profile Joined July 2009
United States2803 Posts
October 05 2011 21:25 GMT
#38
On October 06 2011 06:12 Geordie wrote:
Show nested quote +
On October 06 2011 06:10 Synwave wrote:
Threads like this are why I regret clicking blogs sometimes. Then again some of the best threads are in blogs.
Conundrum!


I dont really care what you think, you obviously have a lot of time on your hands if you feel the need to comment on every blog you do not approve of. I didnt write this just for you.

Actually I don't, I just randomly clicked this but your acceptance of seating charts pretty much sums up my point. Oh and the fact that you blog this to get opinions shows you care.
I care for you too <3
Probably not in the way you care for me though
♞Nerdrage is the cause of global warming♞
Geordie
Profile Blog Joined April 2011
United Kingdom653 Posts
October 05 2011 21:29 GMT
#39
On October 06 2011 06:25 Synwave wrote:
Show nested quote +
On October 06 2011 06:12 Geordie wrote:
On October 06 2011 06:10 Synwave wrote:
Threads like this are why I regret clicking blogs sometimes. Then again some of the best threads are in blogs.
Conundrum!


I dont really care what you think, you obviously have a lot of time on your hands if you feel the need to comment on every blog you do not approve of. I didnt write this just for you.

Actually I don't, I just randomly clicked this but your acceptance of seating charts pretty much sums up my point. Oh and the fact that you blog this to get opinions shows you care.
I care for you too <3
Probably not in the way you care for me though


Well let me correct that, I dont care about the opinion of people like you who sit their thinking that every blog must tailored towards your needs or something... if you dont like the blog I guess just dont comment?
Snuggles
Profile Blog Joined May 2010
United States1865 Posts
October 05 2011 21:31 GMT
#40
On October 06 2011 06:25 Synwave wrote:
Show nested quote +
On October 06 2011 06:12 Geordie wrote:
On October 06 2011 06:10 Synwave wrote:
Threads like this are why I regret clicking blogs sometimes. Then again some of the best threads are in blogs.
Conundrum!


I dont really care what you think, you obviously have a lot of time on your hands if you feel the need to comment on every blog you do not approve of. I didnt write this just for you.

Actually I don't, I just randomly clicked this but your acceptance of seating charts pretty much sums up my point. Oh and the fact that you blog this to get opinions shows you care.
I care for you too <3
Probably not in the way you care for me though


Hey Geordie letsee you stand up to this man and show us how much of a dick you are. Cause he's playing you easily and patting you on the head in the end- Oooh the disrespect!
Synwave
Profile Joined July 2009
United States2803 Posts
October 05 2011 21:31 GMT
#41
On October 06 2011 06:29 Geordie wrote:
Show nested quote +
On October 06 2011 06:25 Synwave wrote:
On October 06 2011 06:12 Geordie wrote:
On October 06 2011 06:10 Synwave wrote:
Threads like this are why I regret clicking blogs sometimes. Then again some of the best threads are in blogs.
Conundrum!


I dont really care what you think, you obviously have a lot of time on your hands if you feel the need to comment on every blog you do not approve of. I didnt write this just for you.

Actually I don't, I just randomly clicked this but your acceptance of seating charts pretty much sums up my point. Oh and the fact that you blog this to get opinions shows you care.
I care for you too <3
Probably not in the way you care for me though


Well let me correct that, I dont care about the opinion of people like you who sit their thinking that every blog must tailored towards your needs or something... if you dont like the blog I guess just dont comment?

Ah so you want only positive comments. Got it, sorry about that this will be my last in yours
♞Nerdrage is the cause of global warming♞
NuKedUFirst
Profile Blog Joined March 2010
Canada3139 Posts
Last Edited: 2011-10-05 21:33:48
October 05 2011 21:33 GMT
#42
Hello my fellow dick,

I few years ago there was this group of girls, one girl (lets call her Jenifer) ventured from that group and found a new group. For simplicity we will call the first group of girls the ugly losers group, group two we shall call the hot preppy smart nice group.Now I consider myself an above average for looks but unfortunately a bit shy and a little below average book smart..

Anyways, I am walking in the hall way and over hear girls from the ugly losers group talking about their former friend Jenifer, so being the nice guy I am, I decide to inform Jenifer that they were talking crap to her when I got to class. I few minutes later after informing her, she starts balling her eyes out. Apparently I'm a dick for telling her that her former friends were talking shit.

It's a cruel world. College/Uni will be much better. gl hf
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Geordie
Profile Blog Joined April 2011
United Kingdom653 Posts
October 05 2011 21:35 GMT
#43
On October 06 2011 06:31 Synwave wrote:
Show nested quote +
On October 06 2011 06:29 Geordie wrote:
On October 06 2011 06:25 Synwave wrote:
On October 06 2011 06:12 Geordie wrote:
On October 06 2011 06:10 Synwave wrote:
Threads like this are why I regret clicking blogs sometimes. Then again some of the best threads are in blogs.
Conundrum!


I dont really care what you think, you obviously have a lot of time on your hands if you feel the need to comment on every blog you do not approve of. I didnt write this just for you.

Actually I don't, I just randomly clicked this but your acceptance of seating charts pretty much sums up my point. Oh and the fact that you blog this to get opinions shows you care.
I care for you too <3
Probably not in the way you care for me though


Well let me correct that, I dont care about the opinion of people like you who sit their thinking that every blog must tailored towards your needs or something... if you dont like the blog I guess just dont comment?

Ah so you want only positive comments. Got it, sorry about that this will be my last in yours


And nothing of value was lost
Snuggles
Profile Blog Joined May 2010
United States1865 Posts
October 05 2011 21:38 GMT
#44
You guys are freaking terrible. I was hoping for some arms and limbs to be broken.
Pillage
Profile Joined July 2011
United States804 Posts
Last Edited: 2011-10-05 22:46:35
October 05 2011 22:44 GMT
#45
It's a fine balancing act with women with how much of an "ass" you have to be. Usually being a dick to girls demonstrates that you are in control of your interactions with them to the utmost degree. I'll elaborate.

- It's not a good idea to be straight up mean to them. Bullshitting and teasing are fine but being a blatant (name-calling) asshole does you no good (most of the time).

- To expand on teasing, it's not a bad thing to poke fun at women, for you it demonstrates that she is not important to you, which attracts you more to her. Why is this? Because it subtly proves that you can get other women, since you don't seem to care about her (especially if she's pretty), therefore it establishes you as a high status individual in her mind, that other girls are dying to spend their time with.

- Sometimes when you're flirting with a girl they'll put themselves on a pedestal to see if you'll kiss up to them and do the same. This is where being an "asshole" works quite well in the seduction phase. I'll provide an experience of my own for clarification.

Here's the context of the situation:

I'm walking along in my university's memorial union, when I spot a girl I know. I see her talking to some of her friends, so I figure I'll go see whats up with her. We hit it off fine, and she introduces me to all of her friends on the table. I noticed one of them eying me up as I was walking over, so I engage her in conversation. We start with the usual small talk, etc.. when the conversation comes to this:

Me: "So have you picked a major yet?"
Her: "Women's Studies and French."
Me: "Interesting... ( I pause here) you like 'em?"
Her: "Yes! And when I'm making milllionsss of dollars, It'll be even better." (She delivered this last sentence in a pompous manner.)
Me: (In a moderately scornful tone) Huh, I had no idea the streetcorners of Paris paid that well.

Her girlfriends had a laugh at the one-liner and even she cracked a smile. The conversation carried on from there and I got her number before I left for home.

Notice on how being insulting worked well here, it typically works extremely well when girls (especially hot ones) pedestal themselves and you shoot em down. This helps you build high-status which makes the girls chase you, which is what you want, because a man with options builds even more attraction in the female mind. Why does this establish a high status in the female mind? It indirectly proves to the girl that you will not be manipulated by her emotional ploys, which girls love in guys. They love guys who are in control of their emotions and wear the proverbial pants in a relationship (Crazy feminists are the exception to this rule, and they're probably not worth your time anyways.)


It indirectly proves to the girl that you will not be manipulated by her emotional ploys


Now this is where some people consider being a dick a bad thing for relationships (and it can be for a serious GF/BF husband/wife deal if you're not careful with it). To others you may seem heartless, or psychotic to some degree.

Consider your girlfriend / FWB / Current Fling / whatever crying her eyes out over something that most guys would consider silly. (IE car accident). This is where being a "dick" is somewhat imperative. Showing that you won't be manipulated by her when she's in her crying state may come off as being inconsiderate/dick etc. The reason its important to do this is to show her that you're in control here, and that she won't get much sympathy out of you over something that's not a big deal. Her girlfriends will probably call you an ass, her guy friends may ask "What the fuck's wrong with you?" but at the end of the day if you're not overtly mean to her in a situation like this, and she has even a small degree of attraction to you, she'll come flying back to you.

Once she has her emotions back under control, she'll be worried that you're mad at her, and that's when you swoop in and say "It's in the past now, don't sweat it." Ta-da! You've demonstrated your high masculine value by keeping your composure in a situation where most guys would give her a hug and reassure her (and get automatically friend-zoned for their troubles). This works wonders on... you guessed it hot girls.

I'd like to summarize a few things about asshole "game" that I've covered.

- The hotter the chick, generally the more of an aloof asshole you need to be to build the initial attraction, if you can get her into the long term relationship stage, then a little bit of the nice guy has to come out to keep her around.
- Asshole game is not about being overt, it's about being subtle, mischievous, and controlling. Women are not straightforward when it comes to flirting and dating, they like mystery so that they can assume the best in the man they lust for.

In conclusion, being an asshole works, you just have to play your cards right.
"Power has no limits." -Tiberius
BouBou.865
Profile Joined December 2010
Netherlands814 Posts
Last Edited: 2011-10-05 23:27:46
October 05 2011 23:27 GMT
#46
Tell a girl everything. How you used to be a prick because you felt insecure, but that you feel at ease with her and you hope she'll forgive your past.

Or just fuck her, you're an asshole. This romantic relationship bs is like work; sit down for a bit and have some beers, the feeling will go away.
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dotEXE
Profile Blog Joined July 2011
Netherlands41 Posts
October 05 2011 23:34 GMT
#47
It kinda sounds like karma took a swing at you with a baseball bat. And to be very honest with you, reading this blog and the responses kinda gives me the feeling that you really are kind of a dick

Your situation is understandable though. Teen years are filled with needs and desires that somehow always seem to conflict with eachother. Being friends with "those guys" and dating "that girl" can become mission impossible because of some perceived social differences between both parties (to give an incredibly vague example). And once you have created an identity for yourself it can be hard to break away from it. First impressions matter a lot.

I agree with what Fearless said and believe that if you really want to see things change you have to start with yourself. You can start with this very thread actually. All the critique that people give you in here (warranted, unwarranted and all the obvious trolling) are simply reactions that people have as a first impression of you. Acknowledge the critique, apologize for the inapropriate things you said, even if you don't agree with apologizing, and try to keep a positive attitude

About the "asshole game" that Pillage talked about; I'd advise you to NOT go that road. It is not something you can keep up with a girl for a prolonged period of time and eventually it WILL destroy your relationship (if you can actually speak of a relationship at that point). I'm not saying that it doesn't work at all, I'm saying it won't work for you. You wont attract a girl who already thinks you're a dick by being less of a dick. You'll have to do a 180 from where you are now. There is no harm in being confident and playful once the girl(s) know that you are actually a nice guy.

Oh, and all self help and pickup tricks aside; Just about any girl wants a guy that can make her feel good about herself. Confidence rubs off, an ego puts off
I couldn't make up a funny quote...
Pillage
Profile Joined July 2011
United States804 Posts
October 06 2011 00:05 GMT
#48
About the "asshole game" that Pillage talked about; I'd advise you to NOT go that road. It is not something you can keep up with a girl for a prolonged period of time and eventually it WILL destroy your relationship (if you can actually speak of a relationship at that point). I'm not saying that it doesn't work at all, I'm saying it won't work for you. You wont attract a girl who already thinks you're a dick by being less of a dick. You'll have to do a 180 from where you are now. There is no harm in being confident and playful once the girl(s) know that you are actually a nice guy.


Yeah I mentioned this already. I guess I should have elaborated more. It's great for attracting hot, bitchy chicks, as well as picking up lots of one night stands. It's good at building initial attraction, but you need to throw some nice guy game in there to keep her around for awhile, else she will grow weary of your shenanigans. It all depends on your goals however, OP.
"Power has no limits." -Tiberius
dotEXE
Profile Blog Joined July 2011
Netherlands41 Posts
October 06 2011 00:30 GMT
#49
On October 06 2011 09:05 Pillage wrote:
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About the "asshole game" that Pillage talked about; I'd advise you to NOT go that road. It is not something you can keep up with a girl for a prolonged period of time and eventually it WILL destroy your relationship (if you can actually speak of a relationship at that point). I'm not saying that it doesn't work at all, I'm saying it won't work for you. You wont attract a girl who already thinks you're a dick by being less of a dick. You'll have to do a 180 from where you are now. There is no harm in being confident and playful once the girl(s) know that you are actually a nice guy.


Yeah I mentioned this already. I guess I should have elaborated more. It's great for attracting hot, bitchy chicks, as well as picking up lots of one night stands. It's good at building initial attraction, but you need to throw some nice guy game in there to keep her around for awhile, else she will grow weary of your shenanigans. It all depends on your goals however, OP.


I understand your point of view, but from reading the OP I'm assuming that the girls the OP usually interacts with all have already formed an opinion about him. At least, that is what he makes it out to be. That combined with his learned behaviour towards people makes it a lot harder pull through with that method I think. Ofcourse he might have succes with it, but I think he'd have to go through a few more steps beforehand to put him in a position that makes your method worthwhile.

I guess what I'm saying is that from my viewpoint the girls the OP wants to interact with have formed a negative opinion about him which puts him at a considerable social disadvantage. A disadvantage that requires some change from his part. He needs to show that good side sooner rather than later.
I couldn't make up a funny quote...
Luepert
Profile Blog Joined June 2011
United States1933 Posts
October 06 2011 00:31 GMT
#50
Switch schools.
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JingleHell
Profile Blog Joined March 2011
United States11308 Posts
October 06 2011 00:42 GMT
#51
On October 06 2011 09:05 Pillage wrote:
Show nested quote +
About the "asshole game" that Pillage talked about; I'd advise you to NOT go that road. It is not something you can keep up with a girl for a prolonged period of time and eventually it WILL destroy your relationship (if you can actually speak of a relationship at that point). I'm not saying that it doesn't work at all, I'm saying it won't work for you. You wont attract a girl who already thinks you're a dick by being less of a dick. You'll have to do a 180 from where you are now. There is no harm in being confident and playful once the girl(s) know that you are actually a nice guy.


Yeah I mentioned this already. I guess I should have elaborated more. It's great for attracting hot, bitchy chicks, as well as picking up lots of one night stands. It's good at building initial attraction, but you need to throw some nice guy game in there to keep her around for awhile, else she will grow weary of your shenanigans. It all depends on your goals however, OP.


It also works better past high school, which is really where he sounds like he's at. There's only a handful of guys that will work out for at that age range, it's somewhat better with college age girls, and starts to drop off after that, since once they hit about 25-26, you don't need to play as many stupid games.

If it stays difficult, the OP can always join the military and fuck tag-chasers, accidentally knock one up, and end up paying child support if he wants.
fuzzayy
Profile Joined February 2011
United States99 Posts
October 06 2011 00:49 GMT
#52
Let them talk to you in class and then just talk nicely.
Azzur
Profile Blog Joined July 2010
Australia6259 Posts
Last Edited: 2011-10-06 03:13:18
October 06 2011 03:12 GMT
#53
What an apt title!

Btw, I think that in time, people will forgive. Just don't keep acting like a dick.
Schickysc
Profile Blog Joined May 2010
Canada380 Posts
October 06 2011 03:18 GMT
#54
Ignore girls till you are done highschool. Your reputation will not fix itself enough to find a decent girl. Just hope to hell you get a clean slate in college or whatever.
Shoot for the Moon, Find a Star
Aelonius
Profile Blog Joined October 2010
Netherlands432 Posts
October 06 2011 03:29 GMT
#55
On October 06 2011 06:12 Geordie wrote:
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On October 06 2011 06:10 Synwave wrote:
Threads like this are why I regret clicking blogs sometimes. Then again some of the best threads are in blogs.
Conundrum!


I dont really care what you think, you obviously have a lot of time on your hands if you feel the need to comment on every blog you do not approve of. I didnt write this just for you.


And this reply is exactly where you are starting to screw up. You should not react on people acting like this as that will trigger you to be rude and an asshole. How do you expect to turn this thing around if you keep grabbing each little poke or prod and go out of your way for a semi-snarly reply?
''The nine most terrifying words in the English language are: 'I'm from the government and I'm here to help.''—Ronald Reagan
domane
Profile Blog Joined September 2009
Canada1606 Posts
Last Edited: 2011-10-06 04:15:08
October 06 2011 03:46 GMT
#56
No other way than to apologize to those girls and show nicer behavior.

High school reminds me of the Cheers theme song: "Where everybody knows your name~"
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