Death Cab for Cutie is the perfect chill out music and I think you should take the chance to better yourself and embark on a journey to find what is right for you. Take that higher position, because you never know what experiences await you, if things aren't working out best thing you can is start fresh.

Roe

Canada6002 Posts

April 28 2011 22:09 GMT

the girl in that video looks exactly like my old gf.
the singer looks a lot like day9.
which one is your gf?
It sounds like you're on top of this though. Ultimately you don't want to be with your gf anymore and it may be best to get out of entanglements, especially ones involving business and pleasure. Some Polonius comes to mind:
Neither a borrower nor a lender be,
For loan oft loses both itself and friend,
And borrowing dulls the edge of husbandry.
i'll be back later parents are fighting

Ganjamaster

Argentina475 Posts

April 28 2011 22:13 GMT

First of all, this situation has many different sub-problems. I suggest you tackle each problem individually.

Firstly, your current girlfriend. You have a couple of options right here, but as you state you definitely want to leave her then you have 2 options:

1) Leave her
2) Don't leave her and just act as if you had left her. Eventually she will get the message, some conflict will ensue, tell her you can't be bothered and just peace. Bam, problem solved.

Once you leave her, you are free to work on your boss, be with her or take her in on the side, whatever suits your style atm.

With regards to the job, always remember, "Disregard females, acquire currency". Everyone I know who has turned down a job offer/more money for a female has regretted it. If it advances your career significantly or gives you significantly more money, you should definitely take the job.

BTW: I forgot, roll a fat blunt and go to the pool bar at the Delano, great spot to pick up chicks imo.

HeyitsClay

Canada336 Posts

April 28 2011 22:29 GMT

My advice is leave her, tell her your falling out of love (the closure is easier to accept down the road for her)

then do whats best for urself, if u would take these job offer if it wasnt for ur ex boss., the do it

#1 life rule is dont let anyone else alter your choices in life, specially girls and love. Only use love and girls to enhance your path that you have already chosen on your own

eXigent.

Canada2419 Posts

April 28 2011 22:30 GMT

Does your girlfriend know you cheated on her while she was right next to you? If not, im sure telling her about it would lead to a breakup. Personally I think you lack the balls to actually tell her you dont wanna be together, and instead waste her time by stringing her along with no real intention behind it, all the while cheating on her. Grow a pair dude.

Snuggles

United States1865 Posts

April 28 2011 22:38 GMT

20 years from now you'll look back and throw your head and your hands into the air and be like "LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOL"

If you're falling out of love then you should leave her. Like the others have said, don't let you love life affect your life too much, end it before it gets out of hand.

MrBitter

United States2940 Posts

April 28 2011 22:39 GMT

wtf is the problem here?

If you want to break up with your girlfriend, then man up and do it. Leading her on isn't good for either of you.

LEEKsc

Sweden380 Posts

April 28 2011 22:58 GMT

Agree with MrBitter, nothing good comes out of just waiting. If you are going to break up with her, do it asap, then you'll both be over it sooner!

I know these kinda things aren't easy, but it's probably to your own gain to take some time and figure out what you want to do in the close future, and then like someone said, "man up" and do it!

Best of luck!

ZERG_RUSSIAN

10417 Posts

April 28 2011 23:03 GMT

#10

Fuck it dude, you're 22, there's life to be lived. Make your choices and don't dwell on the past. Live it up while the living is good.

Moldwood

United States280 Posts

April 28 2011 23:19 GMT

#11

I really can't offer any advice as per your relationship besides: Do what you want -- mostly because its a complex situation and we don't have all the facts. The advice I CAN offer you: Don't go out and drink 130 dollars worth of liquor in 30 minutes and expect good things to happen. Period. I would also lay off the girly drinks. They are designed to fool you into getting shitfaced before you know it, and thats a fact.

Enervate

United States1769 Posts

April 28 2011 23:56 GMT

#12

Break up with your girlfriend and ask your boss out.

Edit: ex-boss I mean

zobz

Canada2175 Posts

April 29 2011 01:10 GMT

#13

As you almost said yourself, but didn't, that you see fit to bury yourself in WoW in order to get away from your girlfriend is one issue at the heart of your problem. If you allow yourself to hide from certain aspects of your life then any problems you may have with those aspects will continue to hang around or maybe get worse.

a176

Canada6688 Posts

April 29 2011 01:43 GMT

#14

How do you know your girlfriend hasn't already cheated on you? Bro tip, its more likely than you think.

Torenhire

United States11681 Posts

April 29 2011 01:47 GMT

#15

haha, dude we have almost identical problems, except the whole getting wasted and fucking my boss thing.

I was dating a girl, she and I also had our issues, and for like, a month I was just antagonizing myself because I didn't love her but I did. Crazy mind-fucking it is, being in that spot. You can tell yourself over and over again that being with the girl is totally depressing the fuck out of you, but you can't bring yourself to hurt her. At least that's what it was for me. What made it worse was that I met another girl who I ended up getting really close with, and I was like. Fuck I'd ask her out but she knows I have a girlfriend and she won't do anything with me until I'm over her and ARGH.

Talking to her about it and finally breaking up was like...the biggest fucking relief ever. I know people are always talking out their ass when they are like "it feels like a weight is lifted off my shoulders!" but man I felt like I could be happy again, instead of stuck in a failing relationship. My advice: Just do it. The sooner you get it over with, the sooner it will stop bothering you. Just tell her things aren't working out, and be honest - you don't have to tell her about your boss or anything like that, unless you really feel like it.

Vlare

748 Posts

April 29 2011 01:56 GMT

#16

5/5 good read. As for advice, I would take the job, germany and cali are both great places, and while relocating sucks, it seems like a move in the right direction imo.

I hope everything works out for the best mate

ShoCkeyy

7815 Posts

April 29 2011 05:18 GMT

#17

Torenhire

United States11681 Posts

April 29 2011 12:38 GMT

#18

You'll feel alot better afterwards, you just gotta push through the initial depression and whatnot.

All you're doing right now is stagnating yourself, let yourself move forward and in the long run you'll be better off.