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Yes another whine/rant post about some guy's girl problem...
but don't worry, as I am writing this there is no thought of actually showing it to anyone. I am not feeling that good right now and I need to do something, to keep me from doing something stupid.
So let me tell you the story about Robin me and how my life changed.
It is a hot summers night and out in the Swedish jungle a 23 year old student is visiting his parents, its probably around midnight and through his earphones Buck Schimer is narrating “Phantoms” by Dean Koontz.
To save my self from boredom, I had resubscribed my old wow-account and due to a Paladin named Hypnotized, I now ran around on my newly created undead warlock – Mesmerized and yes I am That creative...
Running around in Ghostlands feeling like king of the world (Phantom starts out great but turns horrible about halfway in) I get a message from someone and its a “smilie”.
Now... in retrospect I don't know why I thought anything else then, sigh goldseller... but somehow I check the person out.
The blood-elf mage that whispered me turned out to be a low-level like myself and not minding some chatting, we are after all playing a multiplayer game, aren't we?
I sent her back the line: “And a smile to you, mysterious person :>” and that ladies and gentlemen, is where the story takes off.
We started chatting a bit and the mage started to act weird right from the start, she was walking around in Silvermoon (blood elf capital, Huzza!) and talking how beautiful/pretty it was. (Being spoiled with AoC graphics wow hurts my soul a little, but friends in wow>alone in AoC)
She started to act more girlish and my eye's started rolling, I thought that she was a girl about as much as I believe the earth was flat. But since she never came out saying she was a girl, I didn't call her out on it... Turns out that I maybe should start questioning my science teacher, after weeks of chatting about everything between heaven and earth we decided to chat over web-cam and I know some people think cute girls don't play mmo's, ohboy are they wrong and I, I feel in love...
We talked for hours and hours, and one day about one and a half month after our first encounter she told me she was coming to visit me (the distance between us where about 2354 kilometers). I though she was a bit crazy to be honest, I mean traveling to another country to see a guy you've met on the internet. But my heart was also doing cartwheels in my chest.
Things weren't always that happy though, shortly before her she would make the trip a close friend expressed his love for her, I guess things got real for him when she told him she was traveling to Sweden to met a guy...
I don't think I've ever been this nervous before in my life... Standing at the airport with a rose in my hand my knees are shaking like never before, but as she enteres through the gate they ceased to be.
I am not sure if anyone has slow danced to Slipknots – Vermilion prt2 at the airport in Gothenburg before, we might hold a record there. So began the best week of my life, we kissed, laughed and made love, it was like a dream come true.
However nothing good ever lasts and waving her of at a bus-stop, standing alone in the street dressed in jacket and freezing nevertheless, watching her making her way back to a country where you could still run around in shorts and t-shirt, swim in the Mediterranean sea, I felt as if she took a part of me with her.
At first things continued normally and we would chat together about how she was searching for an apartment here and how I was going to travel to her coming winter.
Then she disappeared, I didn't think much of it at first but as the days went past I started to worry and due to my phone provider my only means of contacting her is through msn...
Then one night I get a message from her saying how she is missing me and feeling depressed. This had come up during our previous talks, it turned out she had a bad history of depression and had even tried to commit suicide earlier...
What can I say... I am 2354 kilometers away, busy with studies... This sounds as pity excuses to me as I writing it down, but I always figured we could talk over msn or over microphone.
It has now been almost a month since I last heard from her. I have bad dreams in which she has killed herself and left a note asking why I weren't there to hold her, to comfort her, other dreams in which she's been in an accident.
I just want to know that she is alright...
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be hopeful, man. the majority of people see the light and stick in it through thick and thin. you didn't dump her or have a fight, so i mean she really doesn't have a reason to in a love sense. i think she'll be fine.
but, next time you do chat with her, try and get contact information of someone around her, that way you can know what's up. just stick through it, keep your head up and stay hopeful.
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Keep your head up... no use assuming the worst. She's probably alright... you don't have her phone number??
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I read the whole post, and suprisingly enough it sounds just like my own story, I met a girl in Searing Gorge. Basically the same thing happened to me, with the bus-stop and all, except I was with her for 6 months and she lived only 1900 kilometers away from me.
Took me an additional 6 months to let it go.
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On November 10 2010 17:45 meeple wrote:
Keep your head up... no use assuming the worst. She's probably alright... you don't have her phone number??
as stupid as it sounds I don't, guess I always figured I had another day to ask her for it or a phone number in case of emergency. I am trying to not asume the worst, but my mind isn't really my friend at the moment
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Holidays are less than two months away, book a trip and go visit her already.
Had something similar yet completely different, me living in Gothenburg and my GF in Stockholm for a while. One time she got really depressed and did not speak to me, she wanted me there and was just doubting everything. So i flew down over a weekend. Had me living on noodles for about a month since it cost me a buck or two but was worth it.
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That was a nice story up until the disappearing and depression part. I hope you get a hold of her.
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Moving story, thanks for posting man. Like DND_Enkil, I suggest going to her this time.
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WTF ARE YOU THINKING??! GO VISIT HER!!! God damn! What in life could ever be more important than love???
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Canada6330 Posts
W T F
1) you met an actual girl playing an MMO. not "Guy In Real Life", a real girl.
2) she came to visit you. 2354km. all of that every single 2354 fucking kilometers.
3) she turned down a local dude for someone 2354km away. WHAT
4) you two became lovers within a week of meeting IRL. WHATTTT
5) assuming you have at least moderate standards, she's at least moderately hot. moderately hot girl playing MMO WHAT?
6) YOU LET HER GO WHAT k well not exactly let her go but lost contact for a month WHAT
ok man I thought + Show Spoiler [contains OSL spoilers] +Modesty winning a ZvT bo3 series
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I'm going to give the opposite advice as most of whats been said in this thread.
Move on. Do the other things in your life that are important. Keep up your studies. Let this experience give you the confidence to meet other girls closer to you.
There is a reason she disappeared and its most likely not because she is in trouble.
Depressed and suicidal girls who live 2300 km away are not what you need.
It sounds harsh but trust me this one is not meant to be. Just let her go. Its easy to think you're in love because I'm sure it was a great week but thats just emotions stirred up by your body. You're missing all the warning signs with this girl.
She'll come find you if she really needed you. Under no circumstance should you go and visit her unannounced or you will find yourself severely disappointed/depressed.
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On November 11 2010 05:26 lixlix wrote:
She'll come find you if she really needed you. Under no circumstance should you go and visit her unannounced or you will find yourself severely disappointed/depressed.
Or he could be a romantic and not a fucking nerd and go after her.
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Improving yourself, meeting other girls, and not being stuck on a girl you've met for one week is the exact opposite of being a nerd.
Here is exactly what happens if you go unannounced. She'll give you that "oh why are you here unannounced, I'm already with another guy" awkward look.
Even if she isn't with another guy, I'm not sure how you exactly plan to go after her. You plan to move down there? You plan on having her come up to live with you?
What do you think happens after you leave and go back to your regular life? Most likely the same thing that happened after she visited you.
And this is assuming the best case scenario.
Seriously, man up and improve your own life and self worth and go talk to some chicks that are local and aren't depressed.
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