So heres just a small bit of information. I'll add more later. So pretty much apparently my friend which is a girl ^^ you know what I mean haha. Anyways after the little thing that happened (http://www.teamliquid.net/blogs/viewblog.php?id=136467) We pretty much stopped. Though we still talk and are friends. Then apparently I woke up and checked my emails and saw that I had a message. So I logged into Facebook and saw, to my surprise, she was in a relationship. Woah. o.O
That quick? Lol ... guess she is that type of girl huh? Its been lets see 2-3 days. Anyways, it sucks but you gotta get over it huh? Do any of you have advice on getting over these feelings? I need help >_<;;

Dandy4

United States493 Posts

July 18 2010 13:55 GMT

find someone else

QuanticHawk

United States32097 Posts

July 18 2010 13:56 GMT

it's your friend, not even a girl you were hooking up with....

be a man next time and make a move and you won't have that issue???

Katsuge

Singapore7730 Posts

July 18 2010 13:58 GMT

i like to be optimistic and say that shes testing you

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nahh i doubt it

seRapH

United States9776 Posts

July 18 2010 14:06 GMT

its one girl. get over it. unless she really means a lot to you, everything points towards just saying whatever and going back to playing starcraft.

SoL[9]

Portugal1370 Posts

July 18 2010 14:37 GMT

Buy Starcraft 2 and move on or if you want try again go forward.

Emon_

3925 Posts

July 18 2010 15:18 GMT

Young man, it doesn't mean anything. She's a girl that dates other guys - it shouldn't bother you because you should be dating other girls too. That is until you and another girl decide you want a REAL relationship. You guys can still be friends and date other people. If you like one another, you'll hook up in the future, even though it sucks balls that shes with some other fag. You should take care of yourself and keep going about your life. Get a job, get another girl, talk to this girl twice a month to see that she's alright and her boyfriend isn't pulling some stupid crap on her (you guys are friends, remember - start acting like one). If you aren't working out - you should definetly start! Here's a video of ~10 easy exercises you can do regularly that will train your whole body and increase your strenght: + Show Spoiler +

Niten

United States598 Posts

July 18 2010 15:20 GMT

Do whatever you can to make a clean break with that feeling/emotion. Something that doesn't ignore it but moves away from it. You absolutely cannot allow it to run your life. You make yourself the master of your life.

I try to set arbitrary divisions in time to let me get away from stuff like that. Like, "after this or that point in time..." More specifically, here's what I do:
--> I might go for a run and say to myself "before I was pissed/angry/whatever, but I'm going to run and get it out of my system and when I get back I'm going to start again."
--> Take a walk for a small drink / ice cream telling myself when I leave the store, I'm through with that feeling.
--> Take a few minutes to do something around the house to create a division
--> Take a shower and after dressing go outside to look at the landscape for a few minutes.

Stuff like that. It doesn't always work, but keep at it and something will catch. It's really important to line things to do once you pass that break or else you can slip right back into it.

I hope that helps!

Malgrif

Canada1095 Posts

July 18 2010 16:34 GMT

o_O i notice no one bothered to read the link he posted, she was his sweetheart and he blew up in her face, so i guess she broke it off with him after that. Sorry to hear that man, just try and keep occupied and make conversation with the opposite sex it should help you get over her.

Sabu113

United States11075 Posts

July 18 2010 16:50 GMT

#10

9 more days anyway. Seriously though True dropped some good advice. Also if you're going to feel miserable, take a clean break as long as you reasonably can without making her think that you suddenly hate her guts.

THE_DOMINATOR

United States309 Posts

July 18 2010 17:04 GMT

#11

Lets put it this way...
A. She's been cheating on you and is not worth your time
B. She's immature and not worth your time (you don't go into a "relationship" 2 days after you break up

C. She couldn't help you or try to understand your problems( This depends on you, but from what you said about saying sorry over and over and trying to explain to her I don't think its your fault)...and she's not worth your time.

DeathByMonkeys

United States742 Posts

July 18 2010 17:07 GMT

#12

Where you went wrong...

1. Stay out of the friend zone.
2. Refer to 1

What you can do to get over her...

1. Find someone else to become infatuated with.
2. Refer to 1, unless you want to mope around for 1-2 years.

arb

Noobville17921 Posts

July 18 2010 17:15 GMT

#13

What a bitch, you should upload some pix of her as revenge!!

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But really just get over it

Deluge-

United States117 Posts

July 18 2010 18:21 GMT

#14

Thanks guys. I'll try what Emon_ and true suggested. Also if anyone else is reading, how would one go about leaving the friend zone?

Arb ~ haha maybe

shinosai

United States1577 Posts

July 18 2010 18:30 GMT

#15

The only way to leave it is for her to forget that she knows you. In other words, you don't leave the friend zone. You go out and find a different girl.

Ozarius

United States42 Posts

July 19 2010 08:08 GMT

#16

I don't see why guys hate being in the friend zone... You don't have to be dating every girl you know. Its nice to have some girls that you can be around and just have fun!

I suggest you just walk away regarding a relationship and just let her be. Talk to her and be friends of course and let her know you still care (if you do). Try and find something or someone else to occupy your time like sc2 or friends. You'll be fine.

DoctorHelvetica

United States15034 Posts

July 19 2010 08:43 GMT

#17

i don't see any other option than move on

to be honest no girl is really worth obsessing over that long. plenty of fish in the sea, etc.