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Alright, I've been a member for TL.net for like over half a decade and I have over 1500 posts (not a lot but still).
I've been banned twice so I know what that feels like and I love all sections ranging from General to blogs to Starcraft and I even have the TL.net t shirt
So basically.. I've got TL.net blood running through my veins is what I'm trying to say.
But as many of you know, I've posted my fair share of "Girl trouble" blogs and after my most recent one dealing with the girl at work "Girl at work blog"
I gotta say that the ones who call me out for being a pussy, and that I gotta start acting like I don't care or whatever, or act more confident and pretend like I'm not interested or don't be too over animated, etc, etc, etc.
Alright, 95% of the advice is pure bullshit. Lets be honest.
I've read all the feedback guys gave me and it actually backfired. Now it's just pure quiet between the two of us.
After I finally got a shift with her again, She didn't even feel like I hit on her with the phone thing. She jut thought it was actually funny. So the reason why she left right after I said that joke? It was because it was 2am and she was actually fucking tired.
Anyway, so now I thought I got a fresh start so instead of doing what I was doing, I started following the advice of some specific guys on TL.net who seemed so fucking sure what they were doing but nope.
Now she just thinks I hate her for some odd reason and she doesn't even look me in the eye anymore. She tries to joke around and see what I'm doing but I guess the whole, "don't be too into her and show weakness" advice has now made her think that I think shes fucking dirt.
So now I don't even know what to do. Cuz if I start being all nice and shit again like before, she's gonna start thinking I got moodswings
Anyway, the point of this blog is not to ask for anymore advice. And although it doesn't seem like it, this blog isn't to offend any users who gave me advice either!
I'm just writing this to say... for any guy who is having trouble or whatever with girls. The decision is all yours. It's no one else's fault. You gotta make your own decisions and if the advice someone is giving you doesn't feel right.. then it probably isn't right.
Just keep doing what you think is right and even if you fail in the end... well just keep going. You'll eventually just man up and learn the tricks of the trade which apply to your own personality and your own physical traits. Because let's face it.
A good looking guy acting like a jerk will still get the girl most of the times. A fugly midget acting like a jerk will just get shut down 100%.
So you gotta just figure out what works for you. And I've decided what works for me is not being a fucking dbag. What does work is just being playful, honest, confident and straight up.
Playing mind/feeling games is "no thx"
 
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The odds of someone getting into an actual meaningful lasting relationship by being fake aren't very good. The odds of getting laid are probably much much higher.
Most people are just so insecure and unsure that they have to be fake on some level.
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Just because you're planning to do the right thing doesn't mean you executed it properly. Since it's the opinion of many people versus just yourself, I'm going to go ahead and say you fucked up somehow.
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tbh 80% of the time it doesn't really matter what you do. As long as you do it with authority and confidence it would work. or else no amount of what people say willwork.
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Just be confident and true to yourself. Don't listen to these guys who got "game". Even if they do get laid, who cares, they are heartless.
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i like how you give advice yourself lol
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On July 03 2010 07:22 Weasel- wrote:
Just because you're planning to do the right thing doesn't mean you executed it properly. Since it's the opinion of many people versus just yourself, I'm going to go ahead and say you fucked up somehow.
Not really bro.
If you read the thread I was referring to; a lot of people said don't say anything to her other than "Hey"
So that's what I did.
When she noticed I wasn't acting like myself by talking anymore, she just said "What's wrong?"
And well.. obviously nothing is wrong so I said "nothing"
And she just started getting a vibe that I hated or something because I wasn't doing the same shit I used to like splash water at her when we were at the sinks, or throw cupcake pasting on her arm or play footsies by the expresso machine, etc
I just... worked and didn't say anything to her unless she said something to me.. which she no longer did cuz like I said before, she thought I didn't like her anymore or something.
I honestly did nothing else but followed the advice most of the guys gave in the other thread.
Why would I lie about that? And also, I'm not even blaming them, I said I take responsibility for taking the advice in the end and the point of this thread was just to tell other guys well... whatever I wrote in the OP.
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well if she liked you and you "ignored" her correctly, she might be more attracted to you now. you might be able to salvage the situation by saying you've been super stressed out lately or something, then start acting normal again, then she'll be happy to have you back to your normal self.
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I give you some advice nao!!
Not really bro.
^ Don't talk like that in front of her.
But seriously don't listen to people's advice, not even mine. You'll often hear "just be confident" and while it sounds like a cookiecutter BS trick from a recipe book, it's the way to go. Love is like Starcraft! (just had to say that). You have a personality, a style, and if you try to go outside of it, it won't be as good.
"Be yourself" is true to a certain extent, but you have to be trying.
Either way if things are messed up, just freaking let loose dude. If you feel like you've got nothing to lose, go to her and be fucking blunt about it. The thing is people think that with some "game" they can get whoever they want, but it's truly hit or miss.
PS: Some girls actually don't like being ignored!! Serious. And if you suddenly start ignoring them, THEY may think YOU don't like them. Smooth the edges.
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The graph is pretty funny, and fairly accurate. lol.
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This is a Starcraft forum. What are you honestly expecting?
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On July 03 2010 07:46 PokePill wrote:
This is a Starcraft forum. What are you honestly expecting?
i dunno what this has to do with anything. unless you are trying to say that playing starcraft is an automatic deficit to your social skills, which might be true for all i know but i somehow doubt that everyone on TL is unmarried or a virgin
also, I'm gay for you baller
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On July 03 2010 07:52 anderoo wrote:Show nested quote +On July 03 2010 07:46 PokePill wrote:
This is a Starcraft forum. What are you honestly expecting? i dunno what this has to do with anything. unless you are trying to say that playing starcraft is an automatic deficit to your social skills, which might be true for all i know but i somehow doubt that everyone on TL is unmarried or a virgin also, I'm gay for you baller
There's a trend for gamers of any kind to be less experienced in terms of handling wimmens.
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Kennigit
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JUST BE YOURSELF....
all these fat losers love to give advice because they have no influence on anything
if she doesn't like you, find one of the other 4 billion women on the planet. god forbid one that you like isn't compatible...be honest and yourself
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You are jealous of XeRO. I bet your girl doesn't have 300 apm anyway.
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On July 03 2010 08:02 Boblion wrote:
You are jealous of XeRO. I bet your girl doesn't have 300 apm anyway.
He's got the benefit that she doesn't appear to be imaginary =P
(Unless this is an even longer scheme that involves ups and downs!!)
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On July 03 2010 07:21 travis wrote:
The odds of someone getting into an actual meaningful lasting relationship by being fake aren't very good. The odds of getting laid are probably much much higher.
I'm glad you got first post cuz this is real spit.
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