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Recently blog have alot Love Problems so let me share some experience. 
I am not an expert, but just share my experience. Because I find it interesting. kkkkkk!
I remember when I first got into university, I tell myself I have to change. So I become more cheerful and being nice to every1.
So I try to make friends. And sometimes I am happy I will treat lunch. I just feel good being nice keke.
Then wierd stuff happens. U know, one guy like me, it is already too obvious to me. But he did not tell me, just hinting. Hint me to visit his blog. So I visit kkk.
His blog wrote things like, she treat me lunch and buy me gift. But she also buy it for the other guy. Is she trying to decide which guy to go for? Or she is just being flirt? Or give up on me and go for other guy because I am too dumb?
Actually his blog turns me off. He expect me, go his blog. Know he love me, so I will declare my love? Kekeke. No way. No way. No way. No Fucking Way!
His msn nick is Sigh...Girls are hard to understand. Why do pretty Girl do not understand TRUE love? They are just plain realistic and anyhow.
Ah, ask him find ugly girl as girlfriend then! So many request.
Actually at that time I feel nice being with him, I think if he really do his best, I think I might have fallen to him.
Right now it is a fail relationship. Didn't even start, fail already. I don't really put it @ heart, because my love for him is not strong. But his love for me is very strong. And now he hate me alot.
He does things like, I do programming in free access lab. Then I went toilet for awhile. He go delete all my program and wrote Fuck You Bitch on the screen. The time I come back I cry, he delete all the saved files too. Point middle finger at me whenever we meet. He kicked me before so I am really hate him to the core. Not to mention all the silly childish stuff that make me feel embarassed in lecture hall and my classmates.
He did not know last time I treat him is genuine. He cannot be so mean to me, he is not my father.
Some1 told me Guy love Girl , the love meter is decreasing. While Girl love Guy, the love meter is increasing. I think this have some merit.
At first, Guy Chase Girl. Guy see girl pretty, Love in @ the air. Guy meter is full. Girl meter is empty or little bit.
But as Guy gradually got to know the girl, get to go out with the girl. Get to know her number, her msn, her past, able to chat with her... the love meter will decrease slightly.
Girl will start to like the guy? Meter will increase..
Ah, skip long winded story. In the end it will become Husband bully Wife because wife cannot live without husband while husband might already like some other girl.
Okay, the last sentence maybe a little bit harsh. But I think the idea I want to share is do your best to chase girl? Because before she is urs, she might not return the feeling & gratitude u given to her. But after she is urs, maybe she will return 10-folds or 100-folds.
Okay, maybe what I say above is just some merit and not the entire truth. Let me tell the simple truth, love sum1, just go spartan until u get it?
Ah, just be more brave and be nicer to the girl and see how it goes after that.
AND DO NOT SHOW YOUR WEAK SIDE like that stupid guy screwing my life.
 
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holy shit. he kicked you???
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Oh wow he deleted your work? That's just sad! Guys there sound plain scary lol, don't think this type of shit would fly here at all.
But stay strong, like you said, be brave!
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what an child....seriously he should get over it....
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hahah it sounds like pretty interesting stuff. o dear hopefully you are alright with that guy bulling you O_O
thanks for the advice and info!
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Dude sounds like an ass; good to have a girl saying some stuffs.
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On July 02 2010 14:48 unit wrote:
what an child....seriously he should get over it....
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That Spartan line was heroic.
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On July 02 2010 14:53 Nal_rAwr wrote:
hang in there man
its a she!!!
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On July 02 2010 14:53 Nal_rAwr wrote:
hang in there man
You fail.
Sad story, really fits the rest of the blog section though! 
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you seem to be a really happy person despite having to put up with that douchecunt. I hope everything works out for you
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On July 02 2010 14:53 Nal_rAwr wrote:
hang in there man
i would suggest reading the OP before posting
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Ah, the only thing I regret is I cried, infront of him. Must have make him real happy 
Not really infront of him..but he saw me cry in the lab. And he just do his own stuff without showing emotion  .
You know somehow in my heart I wished he feel a little bit guilty, and after this incident he might treat me better, or let me off a little bit. Actually after I cry there is a period of peace afterwards. He did not do harsh things for awhile. But I think things just went back to normal when he saw me hanging out with other guys and not him.
kekkeke, that time I really feel lost and scare, but now I am doing quite well. Because I am used to it and I think he got a little bit tired or maybe he grown up. Things are not as bad as last time.
I don't know it is luck, or it is his choice. We chose the same core subject and still classmate still same lecture hall >.< Ah...
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He looks very childish and over reacting. When I see what he did to you just because you ignored the "hints" on his blog, I can't imagine what he could have done if you were in a relationship for two years and you break up.
But yeah chinese girls are complicated and hard to understand ^_^
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lol, seems pretty straightforward here
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On July 02 2010 14:40 XiaoJoyce- wrote:
He cannot be so mean to me, he is not my father.
Asian families lol.
Cool read though, nice to have a love blog from the other side for once.
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On July 02 2010 15:22 Scarecrow wrote:Show nested quote +On July 02 2010 14:40 XiaoJoyce- wrote:
He cannot be so mean to me, he is not my father.
Asian families lol. Cool read though, nice to have a love blog from the other side for once.
but if he was the spartan kick would have been acceptable.
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On July 02 2010 15:15 endy wrote:
He looks very childish and over reacting. When I see what he did to you just because you ignored the "hints" on his blog, I can't imagine what he could have done if you were in a relationship for two years and you break up.
But yeah chinese girls are complicated and hard to understand ^_^
Keke, I feel sorry for his future girlfriend ahahahaha.
Maybe he end up in newspaper headline? Ah, I am so bad.
Sometimes I feel no1 understand me, girl so hard to understand?
Keke, maybe think simple, u will understand girl.
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On July 02 2010 14:40 XiaoJoyce- wrote:
His blog wrote things like, she treat me lunch and buy me gift. But she also buy it for the other guy. Is she trying to decide which guy to go for? Or she is just being flirt? Or give up on me and go for other guy because I am too dumb?
Actually his blog turns me off. He expect me, go his blog. Know he love me, so I will declare my love? Kekeke. No way. No way. No way. No Fucking Way!
His msn nick is Sigh...Girls are hard to understand. Why do pretty Girl do not understand TRUE love? They are just plain realistic and anyhow.
Just how many guys blogging on TL are exactly like this? lololol
Read those words there. Acting like that is a turn off.
NO FUCKING WAY!
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On July 02 2010 15:25 Turbovolver wrote:Show nested quote +On July 02 2010 14:40 XiaoJoyce- wrote:
His blog wrote things like, she treat me lunch and buy me gift. But she also buy it for the other guy. Is she trying to decide which guy to go for? Or she is just being flirt? Or give up on me and go for other guy because I am too dumb?
Actually his blog turns me off. He expect me, go his blog. Know he love me, so I will declare my love? Kekeke. No way. No way. No way. No Fucking Way!
His msn nick is Sigh...Girls are hard to understand. Why do pretty Girl do not understand TRUE love? They are just plain realistic and anyhow.
Just how many guys blogging on TL are exactly like this? lololol Read those words there. Acting like that is a turn off. NO FUCKING WAY!
young nerds typically dont understand.
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On July 02 2010 14:40 XiaoJoyce- wrote:
His blog wrote things like, she treat me lunch and buy me gift. But she also buy it for the other guy. Is she trying to decide which guy to go for? Or she is just being flirt? Or give up on me and go for other guy because I am too dumb?
Actually his blog turns me off. He expect me, go his blog. Know he love me, so I will declare my love? Kekeke. No way. No way. No way. No Fucking Way!
it is so freaking annoying when people put stuff like this on their status message on aim or on facebook. it is so obvious what they're doing... just trying to attract the attention of someone and tell them something indirectly >.>
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On July 02 2010 15:24 XiaoJoyce- wrote:Show nested quote +On July 02 2010 15:15 endy wrote:
He looks very childish and over reacting. When I see what he did to you just because you ignored the "hints" on his blog, I can't imagine what he could have done if you were in a relationship for two years and you break up.
But yeah chinese girls are complicated and hard to understand ^_^ Keke, I feel sorry for his future girlfriend ahahahaha. Maybe he end up in newspaper headline? Ah, I am so bad. Sometimes I feel no1 understand me, girl so hard to understand? Keke, maybe think simple, u will understand girl.
No, if I think simple, for most of chinese girls, money = happy. Do I understand well ? :D
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On July 02 2010 15:37 endy wrote:Show nested quote +On July 02 2010 15:24 XiaoJoyce- wrote:On July 02 2010 15:15 endy wrote:
He looks very childish and over reacting. When I see what he did to you just because you ignored the "hints" on his blog, I can't imagine what he could have done if you were in a relationship for two years and you break up.
But yeah chinese girls are complicated and hard to understand ^_^ Keke, I feel sorry for his future girlfriend ahahahaha. Maybe he end up in newspaper headline? Ah, I am so bad. Sometimes I feel no1 understand me, girl so hard to understand? Keke, maybe think simple, u will understand girl. No, if I think simple, for most of chinese girls, money = happy. Do I understand well ? :D
Ahh, I think u hit the spot. I think only. Because I know I am not that kind keke.
I have alot friends is like that.. I am not sure about Taiwan, but Mainland China I think it is because of the environment...Not every1 life is stable. So have to pick the right 1. And maybe it is trend.. Ah..
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On July 02 2010 15:37 endy wrote:Show nested quote +On July 02 2010 15:24 XiaoJoyce- wrote:On July 02 2010 15:15 endy wrote:
He looks very childish and over reacting. When I see what he did to you just because you ignored the "hints" on his blog, I can't imagine what he could have done if you were in a relationship for two years and you break up.
But yeah chinese girls are complicated and hard to understand ^_^ Keke, I feel sorry for his future girlfriend ahahahaha. Maybe he end up in newspaper headline? Ah, I am so bad. Sometimes I feel no1 understand me, girl so hard to understand? Keke, maybe think simple, u will understand girl. No, if I think simple, for most of chinese girls humanity, money = happy. Do I understand well ? :D
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that guy seems like an ass.i agree with all the things you said about the love part.it's exactly the case especially here in asia.but just so you know not all guys are like that.in fact,in some cases it's the complete opposite.
still good advice though.you deserve someone better
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On July 02 2010 15:41 XiaoJoyce- wrote:Show nested quote +On July 02 2010 15:37 endy wrote:On July 02 2010 15:24 XiaoJoyce- wrote:On July 02 2010 15:15 endy wrote:
He looks very childish and over reacting. When I see what he did to you just because you ignored the "hints" on his blog, I can't imagine what he could have done if you were in a relationship for two years and you break up.
But yeah chinese girls are complicated and hard to understand ^_^ Keke, I feel sorry for his future girlfriend ahahahaha. Maybe he end up in newspaper headline? Ah, I am so bad. Sometimes I feel no1 understand me, girl so hard to understand? Keke, maybe think simple, u will understand girl. No, if I think simple, for most of chinese girls, money = happy. Do I understand well ? :D Ahh, I think u hit the spot. I think only. Because I know I am not that kind keke. I have alot friends is like that.. I am not sure about Taiwan, but Mainland China I think it is because of the environment...Not every1 life is stable. So have to pick the right 1. And maybe it is trend.. Ah..
Yes they look for a stable life. But I was like "I could live in suburbs, and eat 包子 everyday, have no mobile phone, and I would still be happy because I'm with you", and the girl just replies "but how can you buy me a new handbag ?" T_T
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When i read that he kicked you I seriously hoped his name wasn't Bruce Lee.
j/k
What a dick that guy is. Bad experiences are good experiences in a way though, so you won't fall next time.
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You, a female, treated a guy to lunch and the guy let you? WTF kind of freeloading guy is that...
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On July 02 2010 16:41 LLXC wrote:
You, a female, treated a guy to lunch and the guy let you? WTF kind of freeloading guy is that...
What is "let you?"
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On July 02 2010 15:24 XiaoJoyce- wrote:
Keke, maybe think simple, u will understand girl.
Nothing simple about women. It's never ending mind games, ALL THE TIME.
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On July 02 2010 17:00 EvilTeletubby wrote:Show nested quote +On July 02 2010 15:24 XiaoJoyce- wrote:
Keke, maybe think simple, u will understand girl. Nothing simple about women. It's never ending mind games, ALL THE TIME.
at least your mind games are only with one woman now!
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On July 02 2010 16:55 XiaoJoyce- wrote:Show nested quote +On July 02 2010 16:41 LLXC wrote:
You, a female, treated a guy to lunch and the guy let you? WTF kind of freeloading guy is that... What is "let you?"
allowed you
what he's saying is that no self respecting guy with a penis that still stands up would let a girl buy the lunch. I NEVER let the girl pay, even if there's no romance possibly going to come out of it, just a friendly lunch, I still pay. It's what men do.
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No shit, the most I'd do is agree to split the bill. Letting her pay for all of it is some emasculating shit my frens.
To the OP, this guy is acting like a child and I think you should get him out of your life.
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On July 02 2010 17:00 EvilTeletubby wrote:Show nested quote +On July 02 2010 15:24 XiaoJoyce- wrote:
Keke, maybe think simple, u will understand girl. Nothing simple about women. It's never ending mind games, ALL THE TIME.
Women are way to hard to understand indeed!
And wtf @ him deleteing all your files and kicking you, he does know that kind of stuff doesnt get you on the good side right? :p
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On July 02 2010 17:02 mOnion wrote:Show nested quote +On July 02 2010 16:55 XiaoJoyce- wrote:On July 02 2010 16:41 LLXC wrote:
You, a female, treated a guy to lunch and the guy let you? WTF kind of freeloading guy is that... What is "let you?" allowed you what he's saying is that no self respecting guy with a penis that still stands up would let a girl buy the lunch. I NEVER let the girl pay, even if there's no romance possibly going to come out of it, just a friendly lunch, I still pay. It's what men do.
Ah, I didn't know...
I thought it is boyfriend treat girlfriend lunch.
But for friendship, it doesn't matter. So I just pay keke.
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On July 02 2010 17:17 XiaoJoyce- wrote:Show nested quote +On July 02 2010 17:02 mOnion wrote:On July 02 2010 16:55 XiaoJoyce- wrote:On July 02 2010 16:41 LLXC wrote:
You, a female, treated a guy to lunch and the guy let you? WTF kind of freeloading guy is that... What is "let you?" allowed you what he's saying is that no self respecting guy with a penis that still stands up would let a girl buy the lunch. I NEVER let the girl pay, even if there's no romance possibly going to come out of it, just a friendly lunch, I still pay. It's what men do. Ah, I didn't know... I thought it is boyfriend treat girlfriend lunch. But for friendship, it doesn't matter. So I just pay keke.
Haha would you like to become my friend ?
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Love is a game~
Also I pay for my own food. Do you guys hold the door open for girls? lol.
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what is going on? first idra makes tossgirl cry. and now this... 
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On July 02 2010 17:35 endy wrote:Show nested quote +On July 02 2010 17:17 XiaoJoyce- wrote:On July 02 2010 17:02 mOnion wrote:On July 02 2010 16:55 XiaoJoyce- wrote:On July 02 2010 16:41 LLXC wrote:
You, a female, treated a guy to lunch and the guy let you? WTF kind of freeloading guy is that... What is "let you?" allowed you what he's saying is that no self respecting guy with a penis that still stands up would let a girl buy the lunch. I NEVER let the girl pay, even if there's no romance possibly going to come out of it, just a friendly lunch, I still pay. It's what men do. Ah, I didn't know... I thought it is boyfriend treat girlfriend lunch. But for friendship, it doesn't matter. So I just pay keke. Haha would you like to become my friend ?
Keke, no free lunch.
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On July 02 2010 17:52 XiaoJoyce- wrote:Show nested quote +On July 02 2010 17:35 endy wrote:On July 02 2010 17:17 XiaoJoyce- wrote:On July 02 2010 17:02 mOnion wrote:On July 02 2010 16:55 XiaoJoyce- wrote:On July 02 2010 16:41 LLXC wrote:
You, a female, treated a guy to lunch and the guy let you? WTF kind of freeloading guy is that... What is "let you?" allowed you what he's saying is that no self respecting guy with a penis that still stands up would let a girl buy the lunch. I NEVER let the girl pay, even if there's no romance possibly going to come out of it, just a friendly lunch, I still pay. It's what men do. Ah, I didn't know... I thought it is boyfriend treat girlfriend lunch. But for friendship, it doesn't matter. So I just pay keke. Haha would you like to become my friend ? Keke, no free lunch.
owned hahaha
@OP, he fucking kicked you?!
if i ever see irl a man kick a girl, id fucking break his legs off (unless its taekwondo sparring or something)
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On July 02 2010 17:52 XiaoJoyce- wrote:Show nested quote +On July 02 2010 17:35 endy wrote:On July 02 2010 17:17 XiaoJoyce- wrote:On July 02 2010 17:02 mOnion wrote:On July 02 2010 16:55 XiaoJoyce- wrote:On July 02 2010 16:41 LLXC wrote:
You, a female, treated a guy to lunch and the guy let you? WTF kind of freeloading guy is that... What is "let you?" allowed you what he's saying is that no self respecting guy with a penis that still stands up would let a girl buy the lunch. I NEVER let the girl pay, even if there's no romance possibly going to come out of it, just a friendly lunch, I still pay. It's what men do. Ah, I didn't know... I thought it is boyfriend treat girlfriend lunch. But for friendship, it doesn't matter. So I just pay keke. Haha would you like to become my friend ? Keke, no free lunch.
Ah, I mean I can be your friend. But I don't treat guys lunch now kekeke. Ah..
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On July 02 2010 18:23 XiaoJoyce- wrote:Show nested quote +On July 02 2010 17:52 XiaoJoyce- wrote:On July 02 2010 17:35 endy wrote:On July 02 2010 17:17 XiaoJoyce- wrote:On July 02 2010 17:02 mOnion wrote:On July 02 2010 16:55 XiaoJoyce- wrote:On July 02 2010 16:41 LLXC wrote:
You, a female, treated a guy to lunch and the guy let you? WTF kind of freeloading guy is that... What is "let you?" allowed you what he's saying is that no self respecting guy with a penis that still stands up would let a girl buy the lunch. I NEVER let the girl pay, even if there's no romance possibly going to come out of it, just a friendly lunch, I still pay. It's what men do. Ah, I didn't know... I thought it is boyfriend treat girlfriend lunch. But for friendship, it doesn't matter. So I just pay keke. Haha would you like to become my friend ? Keke, no free lunch. Ah, I mean I can be your friend. But I don't treat guys lunch now kekeke. Ah..
Great, I found a girl to watch OSL / MSL finals with me hahaha
It's okay for the lunch, I was just joking, I would not let a girl pay the bill.
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That's awful! I do programming, and I know what a fucking pain in the ass it is to have to fix something, let alone get your entire work deleted. I feel for you, and hope you find somebody nice
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On July 02 2010 18:22 icystorage wrote:Show nested quote +On July 02 2010 17:52 XiaoJoyce- wrote:On July 02 2010 17:35 endy wrote:On July 02 2010 17:17 XiaoJoyce- wrote:On July 02 2010 17:02 mOnion wrote:On July 02 2010 16:55 XiaoJoyce- wrote:On July 02 2010 16:41 LLXC wrote:
You, a female, treated a guy to lunch and the guy let you? WTF kind of freeloading guy is that... What is "let you?" allowed you what he's saying is that no self respecting guy with a penis that still stands up would let a girl buy the lunch. I NEVER let the girl pay, even if there's no romance possibly going to come out of it, just a friendly lunch, I still pay. It's what men do. Ah, I didn't know... I thought it is boyfriend treat girlfriend lunch. But for friendship, it doesn't matter. So I just pay keke. Haha would you like to become my friend ? Keke, no free lunch. owned hahaha @OP, he fucking kicked you?! if i ever see irl a man kick a girl, id fucking break his legs off (unless its taekwondo sparring or something)
Yea, but I am scare u all think too exerating. It is not kick me to the stomach, or kick me in the face. Not like that.
Just in the leg, and he said sorry afterwards. But it is all too fake. I know it is on purpose. But my friends do not believe me. Ah so angry. And I hate him alot afterwards.
the kick wasn't light kick. It is very strong 1. I got bruise and it is pretty ugly. That time I thought it will leave scar or mark. But it went away keke. I think too much ahaha.
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On July 02 2010 18:49 XiaoJoyce- wrote:Show nested quote +On July 02 2010 18:22 icystorage wrote:On July 02 2010 17:52 XiaoJoyce- wrote:On July 02 2010 17:35 endy wrote:On July 02 2010 17:17 XiaoJoyce- wrote:On July 02 2010 17:02 mOnion wrote:On July 02 2010 16:55 XiaoJoyce- wrote:On July 02 2010 16:41 LLXC wrote:
You, a female, treated a guy to lunch and the guy let you? WTF kind of freeloading guy is that... What is "let you?" allowed you what he's saying is that no self respecting guy with a penis that still stands up would let a girl buy the lunch. I NEVER let the girl pay, even if there's no romance possibly going to come out of it, just a friendly lunch, I still pay. It's what men do. Ah, I didn't know... I thought it is boyfriend treat girlfriend lunch. But for friendship, it doesn't matter. So I just pay keke. Haha would you like to become my friend ? Keke, no free lunch. owned hahaha @OP, he fucking kicked you?! if i ever see irl a man kick a girl, id fucking break his legs off (unless its taekwondo sparring or something) Yea, but I am scare u all think too exerating. It is not kick me to the stomach, or kick me in the face. Not like that. Just in the leg, and he said sorry afterwards. But it is all too fake. I know it is on purpose. But my friends do not believe me. Ah so angry. And I hate him alot afterwards. the kick wasn't light kick. It is very strong 1. I got bruise and it is pretty ugly. That time I thought it will leave scar or mark. But it went away keke. I think too much ahaha.
A dude kicking a girl like that is still pretty messed up O_o.
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Of all the asian guys I have met, most are sissy/retarded like that
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On July 02 2010 19:26 HandA wrote:Of all the asian guys I have met, most are sissy/retarded like that
No we are not. Stop generalizing.
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"Of all the asian guys I have met, most are sissy/retarded like that "
sorry to the asians on TL, i have found this to be true most of the time o.o probably because of the extremely chauvinistic nature of the culture
"No we are not. Stop generalizing."
This is our own experience. Not yours. You might be fine. see bolded part of first quote.
India is a sub-continent in this context btw :D
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On July 02 2010 19:26 HandA wrote:Of all the asian guys I have met, most are sissy/retarded like that
I'll bet my asian friend can crush your face with one hand :D
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On July 02 2010 19:35 nath wrote:
"Of all the asian guys I have met, most are sissy/retarded like that "
sorry to the asians on TL, i have found this to be true most of the time o.o probably because of the extremely chauvinistic nature of the culture
"No we are not. Stop generalizing."
This is our own experience. Not yours. You might be fine. see bolded part of first quote.
India is a sub-continent in this context btw :D
This is fucking retarded. Do you know how many cultures you just encompassed in one broad sweep?
I know for a fact Chinese culture is not chauvinistic. China had much faster gender equality progress than the rest of the world.
This one guy sounds like an asshole bitch. That should be that - don't turn this into race.
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"I know for a fact Chinese culture is not chauvinistic. China had much faster gender equality progress than the rest of the world."
Look you have every right to defend and be proud of your country and culture, I would disagree with this statement VERY strongly however.
I dont even know how you could even semi-objectively say that -.-
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Have you been there? No, you probably just see examples on the internet or in the media of some Asian guy beating their wife. Guess what - regular people don't make the news.
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Guess what - I am from a similar culture and have very many good friends from china (not first generation Chinese-American, but born there) -- and there are even subtle things that point in the direction of chauvinism in the culture. Coming from a (perhaps equally) chauvinistic culture I compared and saw similarities.
As a chinese person you know how big a part of your own culture Confucianism is. I have extensively read and studied Confucius and if you dont think it is chauvinistic then theres no point even discussing this LOL....and you need to actually read and think about the nature of a Confucian society.
Only in 1949 was there even a CALL for male and female equality, which hasn't been fulfilled very much. keep in mind that with the one child law female abortions were very common and normal, purely on the basis of gender. But i'm sure that's just a coincidence...its not that the male could continue the family line whereas the female is 'thrown out' and given away to another family when married.
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To be fair I moved from China very early so I'm not familiar with Confucius. All I have to go on is real life experience when going back there - and guys treat girls very well from what I have seen. Maybe I have only experienced the new somewhat-globalised generation (but then again my own family there, uncles and aunts etc all do great and seem happy and the men are respectful to their wives)
There is a whole host of problems in China to be sure (insane focus on education, corruption etc) but I definitely think mistreating of women there is way overblown in the Western social consciousness.
I'm gonna leave this discussion now. I hate these arguments and I wish people would just stop lumping people together in generalised groups.
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On July 02 2010 19:43 nath wrote:
Guess what - I am from a similar culture and have very many good friends from china (not first generation Chinese-American, but born there) -- and there are even subtle things that point in the direction of chauvinism in the culture. Coming from a (perhaps equally) chauvinistic culture I compared and saw similarities.
As a chinese person you know how big a part of your own culture Confucianism is. I have extensively read and studied Confucius and if you dont think it is chauvinistic then theres no point even discussing this LOL....and you need to actually read and think about the nature of a Confucian society.
Only in 1949 was there even a CALL for male and female equality, which hasn't been fulfilled very much. keep in mind that with the one child law female abortions were very common and normal, purely on the basis of gender. But i'm sure that's just a coincidence...its not that the male could continue the family line whereas the female is 'thrown out' and given away to another family when married.
Drop your condescending attitude.
You are only partially right anyway. The Chinese culture has traditionally been HEAVILY chauvinistic, however, since the communist party overtook the country, there has been a very strong push for gender equality. During the years when China was completely closed off to western nations, it was almost non-chauvinistic at all. In fact, the Chinese communism was partially based on gender equality.
Only until recently, when they opened up China to other nations, and loosened the communist control did China retract its progress. While it's true that the older generation still care very much about boys/girls, the newer and more educated generations care less and less. My parents' generation (growing up under heavy communism propaganda) is probably the least chauvinistic generation in the entire Chinese history.
If you compare today's China against Japan and South Korea, you'd notice a huge difference in the way society views women. How could you even say that "the call has not been fulfilled very much"?
Unless you have a parent who has lived through that era in China, there is no way you could understand.
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To OP:
Looks like you prefer for a more emotionally dominant guy
The kick was ridiculous lol
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On July 02 2010 20:56 Cambium wrote:To OP: Looks like you prefer for a more emotionally dominant guy The kick was ridiculous lol
keke, maybe
Why the kick was ridiculous.
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i know so many guys who are like that. Trying to "pretend" to be sneaky and hint shit. They are mentally very weak and if you don't show how much you like them, they will think there is something wrong with you and hate you.
better to not be with him anyways...emotional problems coming from a girl is normal (), coming from a guy is messed up.
usually, guys who are like that end up being useless... im generalizing of course.
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That guy is such a child....He doesn't deserve a girlfriend....
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Obviously guys treat girls badly in China, didn't you guys see the new Karate Kid? Seriously guys, seriously...
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On July 02 2010 20:59 XiaoJoyce- wrote:Show nested quote +On July 02 2010 20:56 Cambium wrote:To OP: Looks like you prefer for a more emotionally dominant guy The kick was ridiculous lol keke, maybe Why the kick was ridiculous.
because i can't believe he kicked you lol
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On July 03 2010 00:58 NonFactor wrote:
Obviously guys treat girls badly in China, didn't you guys see the new Karate Kid? Seriously guys, seriously...
Umm no? They were only treating the black guy badly due to racial discrimination. The Asian guy was only overprotective (because their families are close friends) and got angry because she was making friends with the black guy.
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wtf thats crazy lol O_O
glad u didn;t go out with him
what city are u in btw xiaojoyce?
hmm
@ the chinese chauvinism thing i dont really think so lol o _o
chauvinism is like if males think thehy'r the shit still or something? or what
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On July 03 2010 00:59 Cambium wrote:Show nested quote +On July 02 2010 20:59 XiaoJoyce- wrote:On July 02 2010 20:56 Cambium wrote:To OP: Looks like you prefer for a more emotionally dominant guy The kick was ridiculous lol keke, maybe Why the kick was ridiculous. because i can't believe he kicked you lol
Yea, I hate him for kicking me.
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some girls just dont find out that easily if a guy is that stupid... is a really bad situation that you had to find out that way.. he kicked you WTF?
you will find someone much better ....he has to grow up and stop being such an idiot..
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On July 02 2010 18:49 XiaoJoyce- wrote:Show nested quote +On July 02 2010 18:22 icystorage wrote:On July 02 2010 17:52 XiaoJoyce- wrote:On July 02 2010 17:35 endy wrote:On July 02 2010 17:17 XiaoJoyce- wrote:On July 02 2010 17:02 mOnion wrote:On July 02 2010 16:55 XiaoJoyce- wrote:On July 02 2010 16:41 LLXC wrote:
You, a female, treated a guy to lunch and the guy let you? WTF kind of freeloading guy is that... What is "let you?" allowed you what he's saying is that no self respecting guy with a penis that still stands up would let a girl buy the lunch. I NEVER let the girl pay, even if there's no romance possibly going to come out of it, just a friendly lunch, I still pay. It's what men do. Ah, I didn't know... I thought it is boyfriend treat girlfriend lunch. But for friendship, it doesn't matter. So I just pay keke. Haha would you like to become my friend ? Keke, no free lunch. owned hahaha @OP, he fucking kicked you?! if i ever see irl a man kick a girl, id fucking break his legs off (unless its taekwondo sparring or something) Yea, but I am scare u all think too exerating. It is not kick me to the stomach, or kick me in the face. Not like that. Just in the leg, and he said sorry afterwards. But it is all too fake. I know it is on purpose. But my friends do not believe me. Ah so angry. And I hate him alot afterwards. the kick wasn't light kick. It is very strong 1. I got bruise and it is pretty ugly. That time I thought it will leave scar or mark. But it went away keke. I think too much ahaha.
I have to Quote this again, it is not those Bruce Lee kick. keke. Ah, forget about kicking ahahaha.
On July 03 2010 01:10 alffla wrote:
wtf thats crazy lol O_O
glad u didn;t go out with him
what city are u in btw xiaojoyce?
hmm
@ the chinese chauvinism thing i dont really think so lol o _o
chauvinism is like if males think thehy'r the shit still or something? or what
I am from Nan Jing. Very nice place.
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wow you are very cute, nice to have cute girl forumers on TL yay
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It's okay, Starcraft will be always be here for you ^^
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On July 02 2010 14:40 XiaoJoyce- wrote:
He does things like, I do programming in free access lab. Then I went toilet for awhile. He go delete all my program and wrote Fuck You Bitch on the screen. The time I come back I cry, he delete all the saved files too. Point middle finger at me whenever we meet. He kicked me before so I am really hate him to the core. Not to mention all the silly childish stuff that make me feel embarassed in lecture hall and my classmates.
Just based on that I have to say the guy sounds really disturbing. Deleting your work and verbally/physically harassing you? Makes me think of those unstable people that commit crimes that you sometimes see in the news :/ I hope you're careful/ok.
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^ Lived in China for 3 years. Couple things I learned:
Chinese wives wield an incredible amount of power. In public, she will maintain the illusion that the man is king; but don't be fooled by cultural etiquette. Calling China chauvinistic is wrong. Inferring modern Chinese values from Confucius dogma is wrong. For one, Mao Zedong thought Confucius was a douche. Also, show me a country that is not male-dominated.
The average Chinese University student is ~5 years less mature than their western counterparts. This has to do with limited life experience and parental sheltering.
XiaoJoyce - 应该找个外国男朋友好好教训他 (You should find a foreign boyfriend to teach this guy a lesson)
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On July 03 2010 09:51 XiaoJoyce- wrote:Show nested quote +On July 03 2010 08:44 TossFloss wrote:
^ Lived in China for 3 years. Couple things I learned:
Chinese wives wield an incredible amount of power. In public, she will maintain the illusion that the man is king; but don't be fooled by cultural etiquette. Calling China chauvinistic is wrong. Inferring modern Chinese values from Confucius dogma is wrong. For one, Mao Zedong thought Confucius was a douche. Also, show me a country that is not male-dominated.
The average Chinese University student is ~5 years less mature than their western counterparts. This has to do with limited life experience and parental sheltering.
XiaoJoyce - 应该找个外国男朋友好好教训他 (You should find a foreign boyfriend to teach this guy a lesson) I do not need subtitles for chinese language . I am already feel bad for being bad in my mother tongue language.. but I am still better, ALOT better than foreigner keke. Not to mention poor english too. Ah, but I am okay, as long as able to communicate, I am content keke. I do not plan to write newspaper so I think I am fine. Chinese University student is ~5 years less mature than their western counterparts. If this is true.. I am sad. Anyway, I do not think I should go for foreign boyfriend, to make the guy more angry. It is not the right motivation to find boyfriend?
Making the guy more angry would be bad..considering the things he has already done.
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On July 03 2010 09:52 Megalisk wrote:Show nested quote +On July 03 2010 09:51 XiaoJoyce- wrote:On July 03 2010 08:44 TossFloss wrote:
^ Lived in China for 3 years. Couple things I learned:
Chinese wives wield an incredible amount of power. In public, she will maintain the illusion that the man is king; but don't be fooled by cultural etiquette. Calling China chauvinistic is wrong. Inferring modern Chinese values from Confucius dogma is wrong. For one, Mao Zedong thought Confucius was a douche. Also, show me a country that is not male-dominated.
The average Chinese University student is ~5 years less mature than their western counterparts. This has to do with limited life experience and parental sheltering.
XiaoJoyce - 应该找个外国男朋友好好教训他 (You should find a foreign boyfriend to teach this guy a lesson) I do not need subtitles for chinese language . I am already feel bad for being bad in my mother tongue language.. but I am still better, ALOT better than foreigner keke. Not to mention poor english too. Ah, but I am okay, as long as able to communicate, I am content keke. I do not plan to write newspaper so I think I am fine. Chinese University student is ~5 years less mature than their western counterparts. If this is true.. I am sad. Anyway, I do not think I should go for foreign boyfriend, to make the guy more angry. It is not the right motivation to find boyfriend? Making the guy more angry would be bad..considering the things he has already done.
Keke, yea!! Maybe the 1 I have met is potential future killer? ahahaha. I have experienced first hand the attitude of a killer if that is true.
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He does things like, I do programming in free access lab. Then I went toilet for awhile. He go delete all my program and wrote Fuck You Bitch on the screen. The time I come back I cry, he delete all the saved files too. Point middle finger at me whenever we meet. He kicked me before so I am really hate him to the core. Not to mention all the silly childish stuff that make me feel embarassed in lecture hall and my classmates.
if i were you, i woulda socked him in the face. and shoved my boots so far up his ass he would have to vomit it up through his mouth.
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On July 03 2010 09:59 YPang wrote:Show nested quote +He does things like, I do programming in free access lab. Then I went toilet for awhile. He go delete all my program and wrote Fuck You Bitch on the screen. The time I come back I cry, he delete all the saved files too. Point middle finger at me whenever we meet. He kicked me before so I am really hate him to the core. Not to mention all the silly childish stuff that make me feel embarassed in lecture hall and my classmates.
if i were you, i woulda socked him in the face. and shoved my boots so far up his ass he would have to vomit it up through his mouth.
Not every1 is as straightforward as you ...
Sometimes when I am at home I feel angry and scare because of him. Then I would daydream he fail his exam. His new girlfriend cheat on him. Or he love another new girl and the new girl REJECTED him ahahahaha. But that is all daydream. I wished it was real keke.
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Sometimes when I am at home I feel angry and scare because of him. Then I would daydream he fail his exam. His new girlfriend cheat on him. Or he love another new girl and the new girl REJECTED him ahahahaha. But that is all daydream. I wished it was real keke.
Yes, and i'd imagine me shoving boots up his ass.
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if you were in shanghia, you could get a lot of TL guys to teach him a lesson ~
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On July 03 2010 11:01 azndsh wrote:
if you were in shanghia, you could get a lot of TL guys to teach him a lesson ~
Keke, don't have to. That is year 1 thing. Now things is pretty good. So I kinda forget it and want to move on my life.
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Xiao!! Tell me his name I will go to China and kick him for you
But seriously, you should tell your guy friends about this crazy person. I hope they would do something to stop him. This is very serious from what I can see and he needs to be put in his place. Stay strong!
p.s. Bisu > flash <3
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On July 03 2010 15:24 Dog22 wrote:Xiao!! Tell me his name I will go to China and kick him for you p.s. Bisu > flash <3
Lols, Dog22 with 22 post kekeke.
Dog do not kick people. Dog bite people. And then bark people.
I mean Bark first, Bite later.
Or maybe Bark first, chase for awhile, at least make him run for his life for awhile, then Bite the right place keke.
P.S. <3 Flash here .
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On July 03 2010 15:32 XiaoJoyce- wrote:Show nested quote +On July 03 2010 15:24 Dog22 wrote:Xiao!! Tell me his name I will go to China and kick him for you p.s. Bisu > flash <3 Lols, Dog22 with 22 post kekeke. Dog do not kick people. Dog bite people. And then bark people. I mean Bark first, Bite later. Or maybe Bark first, chase for awhile, at least make him run for his life for awhile, then Bite the right place keke. P.S. <3 Flash here .
I don't want to bite him there....!
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what a prick. you should be glad you're not with him anymore! i imagine it'll only get worse the longer you're in it for.
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wtf? So you're not even dating anymore and he's being a jerk? Find a guy friend that's pretty tall/big @ your school and tell him that story, he should promptly beat the shit out of that guy pulling prepubescent stunts like that. (especially if you literally cried cause he deleted your code...)
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Love is like Starcraft: The best way to deal with BM is ignoring them and then adding them to your ban list
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You're pretty cool XiaoJoyce-. Someday a guy will come and treat you nicely and properly.
Fighting~!
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So much racism and sexism in this thread it hurts my brain 
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Wow....what a jerk, he is beyond asshole.
I hope you find the perfect man.
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On July 04 2010 00:35 Luddite wrote:So much racism and sexism in this thread it hurts my brain
Hurts my brain as well T_T.
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Thanks for sharing your personal story. I liked how you recanted something that happened a while ago. (closure is sweet).
I think it brought people who'd otherwise wouldn't participate in relationship blogs. There has been some provocative discussion.
Lesson: Be mature ("act like a real man", "don't be a jerk", "follow your conscience", etc.)
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Not that I at all justify his actions I just want to say that you women is crazy. I mean, yeah at a certain extent I can see where he is coming from, even though he sounds like a child, but after you know it's not going to work you have to let it go. Then there are the girls that know they'll never date you, but will continually flirt with you to give you that glimmer of hope. Like I said, crazy.
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Waaa~ No longer 5 star blog . Who give it 3 star?
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Sounds like time to call the police.
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