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So, my girlfriend (or something like that, I don't know what the fuck she was) and myself and her parents and her uncles went out together for an entire afternoon today. That afternoon stretched way into the evening. It started off fine, but by the end of it, it seemed like her parents seemed to really like me and that she seemed to really hate my fucking guts. I don't blame her. I do not blame her at all. I wouldn't like me, either. But for this entire past few weeks, I was so concerned with impressing her parents and making a good impression that I almost lost my mind. And as it turned out, her parents and uncle really warmed up to me and were very welcoming and loving towards me. When it came time to say goodbye, she almost completely ignored me while her relatives swarmed me to say how much they enjoyed the time together.
So, the one aspect I was actually worried about turned better than I could have possibly imagined beyond my wildest goddamn dreams and yet I still want to drink myself into oblivion because the girl I like and was out all day with showed absolutely no interest by the end of the our outing together with her and her family.
I called a close friend and he said he'd come get me to go drink. That was two hours ago and I know for a fact that he isn't going to come through now. So, as I sit here in my boxers and a dirty t-shirt, I just want all of you TL.netters to know: Even though a vast majority of you are humorless pricks and consider yourselves know-it-alls on absolutely every subject ever to cross the mind of any human being anywhere at any time during the entire existence of this planet ... I love you. If you ever feel alone, just know that someone out there cares about you. And to show my sincerity, I'm actually very open to receiving PMs about nothing related to Starcraft.
Reply to me here, reply to me in PM, reply to me with whatever you want. I'll be here for you. 
   
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go call your girl stupid!
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seems like ur girlfriend is looking for a bad boy
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Have a drink on me bro. Don't forget to eat something before you start, otherwise you'll feel much much worse tommmorow morning. It's bad enough to feel like shit emotionally, but with the added deficit of the 40 oz. flu, well lets not go there. Cheers
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On March 14 2010 13:36 DeathSpank wrote: go call your girl stupid!
I would really rather eat my own shit than do that. That isn't going to happen.
But anyway, how is your life going, DeathSpank?
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On March 14 2010 13:38 Rayzorblade wrote: Where are you located?
Austin, Texas. I just moved here two months ago, so I hardly know anyone here.
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On March 14 2010 13:38 pubbanana wrote:I would really rather eat my own shit than do that. That isn't going to happen. But anyway, how is your life going, DeathSpank?  life is good. So why don't you call her?
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I think it's much more likely that she will be in a better mood next time towards you than it would be for her parents to suddenly warm up to you after they hated your guts from today's affairs... so things could still work out.
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edit: The look on the elephant's face makes this look sarcastic, which it's not. We love you dude!
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Talk to her about it. It's the best thing you can do.
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Can you please explain how you normally act in front of your girlfriend?
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I'm full of hate and terrible qualities, but I love you and people like you, pubbanana! <3
It's all love.
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call and talk about this with your girl...
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Howd you end up spending so much time with her family when you apparently dont know her well yet?
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On March 14 2010 14:13 JohannesH wrote: Howd you end up spending so much time with her family when you apparently dont know her well yet?
I've known her for four years, ever since the summer after my high school graduation. We know each other quite well. Which feeds into this next question quite a bit.
On March 14 2010 14:06 il0seonpurpose wrote: Can you please explain how you normally act in front of your girlfriend?
I can honestly say without any doubt that I acted no different around her family than I've acted around her for the past four years. I say this with absolute certainty.
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Didn't you neglect her a little bit while you tried to get along with the others? Maybe she just felt left out...which could piss her off pretty easily.
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On March 14 2010 14:16 adelarge wrote: Didn't you neglect her a little bit while you tried to get along with the others? Maybe she just felt left out...which could piss her off pretty easily.
I'm not used to girls caring about what I do or what I say because I hate myself deeply and have no confidence, so maybe I did neglect her a little bit. But in my mind, I can't ever conceive a situation where someone would want my attention because I'm just not used to that at all.
But in my honest opinion, she was the center of my attention the entire time. I will readily admit that there may be some clout to your statement, but all I can do is offer my opinion and that is that I treated her with the same amount of attention and affection as always.
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On March 14 2010 13:44 pubbanana wrote:Austin, Texas. I just moved here two months ago, so I hardly know anyone here.  OMG I'm from Austin! I love you already (too)!
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How the hell did she suddenly stop liking you in one day?
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I hate giving this kind of advice, and I realize you've probably thought of the possibility (I know I super overanalyze these things), but keep in mind that this could've been triggered by private conversations between her family and her; the family could be pressuring her to do something regarding you, whatever that may be, and that pressure may be straining how she thinks of you.
EDIT: Similarly, another possible situation is that she's projecting possible preexisting tension between her and her family onto the relationship between you two, now that you've been paired with her family in her mind. Don't blame yourself or wallow in sorrow, no good can come of it. Consistency in your disposition helps with these kind of things. Maybe even attempt to talk it over.
EDIT2: god i sound corny and stupid ._.
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Even me? but... im a horrible poster who could ever love a beast?
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Oho so you in Austin huh, does that mean you go to UT cuz I plan to go there in a year ^^
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You're awesome and we love you too <3
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Is your ID pronounced pub-banana? I've just always wondered
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On March 14 2010 13:34 pubbanana wrote:But for this entire past few weeks, I was so concerned with impressing her parents and making a good impression that I almost lost my mind. 
i think you said it right here.
you probably got so nervous about impressing her parents that you probably did some stuff or acted in a way that she didn't like. this is all speculation, as i have no clue what happened between you guys, but maybe you declined on displaying small signs of affection with her because of the fear of seeming inappropriate with her folks? i highly doubt you acted completely normal when meeting her parents for the first time because it is a big step in a relationship and quite nerve-racking for a guy to meet a girls family.
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It was one day...she'll get over it, I'm sure.
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i have to make twenty four lesson plans by... 4 hours, and i've been doing nothing but eating, watching starcraft/basketball and jerking off. oh and today is white day in korea so i gotta go give my girl some cany even though im stressed to shit
that's my life. how's yours
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On March 14 2010 14:56 randomKo_Orean wrote: wtf y'all doing on TL on saturday night? (w00t finals, that's my excuse) its sunday morning
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my gf ditched me tonight...-_-; lez go drink
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On March 14 2010 13:34 pubbanana wrote: I called a close friend and he said he'd come get me to go drink. That was two hours ago and I know for a fact that he isn't going to come through now. So, as I sit here in my boxers and a dirty t-shirt, I just want all of you TL.netters to know: Even though a vast majority of you are humorless pricks and consider yourselves know-it-alls on absolutely every subject ever to cross the mind of any human being anywhere at any time during the entire existence of this planet ... I love you. If you ever feel alone, just know that someone out there cares about you. And to show my sincerity, I'm actually very open to receiving PMs about nothing related to Starcraft. I love you too, dude.
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Give her a call soon. SpiritoftheTuna is on the right track. This has happened to me before too.
Btw, you are my hero for writing one of my favorite TLFEs ever - P i a n o M a n
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uhm i think thats typical for a woman, no offense to all ladies but they are always unpredictable, cant live with them cant live without them heheh
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The amount of love in this thread is...hard to believe. I love you too. Girls sometimes suck. I usually blame the period, and a lot of the time I'm right. Pretty much if I ever say anything wrong in my relationship or do one thing thats a little wrong, she's going to make me feel like there is a knife in my heart. If I ever encounter her about anything, I'm wrong and she's right - no chance for me to turn that around. *shrug* Girlsrweirdlolz!
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On March 14 2010 13:34 pubbanana wrote: So, my girlfriend (or something like that, I don't know what the fuck she was) [...] because the girl I like and was out all day with showed absolutely no interest by the end of the our outing together with her and her family.
This part is not explained at all..she is your girlfriend or not? Are you a stalker or not?
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On March 14 2010 16:52 Comeh wrote: The amount of love in this thread is...hard to believe. I love you too. Girls sometimes suck. I usually blame the period, and a lot of the time I'm right. Pretty much if I ever say anything wrong in my relationship or do one thing thats a little wrong, she's going to make me feel like there is a knife in my heart. If I ever encounter her about anything, I'm wrong and she's right - no chance for me to turn that around. *shrug* Girlsrweirdlolz! You'd hope so!
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i need to drink now too...
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On March 14 2010 17:12 MaReK wrote:Show nested quote +On March 14 2010 16:52 Comeh wrote: The amount of love in this thread is...hard to believe. I love you too. Girls sometimes suck. I usually blame the period, and a lot of the time I'm right. Pretty much if I ever say anything wrong in my relationship or do one thing thats a little wrong, she's going to make me feel like there is a knife in my heart. If I ever encounter her about anything, I'm wrong and she's right - no chance for me to turn that around. *shrug* Girlsrweirdlolz! You'd hope so! HEY-O! + Show Spoiler +
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I love you too pubbanana but stop depressing us with girl blogs reminding us of another thing that did or could go wrong in our lives/relationships
buy her a flower.
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Loving others while hating yourself is pointless. I would start by fixing that.
And don't be an idiot, take your phone and call the girl. Seriously.
Yeah, man before me is right. Buy a goddamn flower. That's some classy beahivour. I love you, previous poster.
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On March 14 2010 16:42 Shotcoder wrote:tl;dr For me it's exactly the contrary, I hate the relatives everyday a bit more.
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We had it yesterady and they guy who Rickrolled TL got banned two weeks. You are taking useless risks.
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On March 14 2010 19:47 Biff The Understudy wrote:We had it yesterady and they guy who Rickrolled TL got banned two weeks. You are taking useless risks. That was not a rick roll, mate.. that was just a sincere serenade to state my love for the OP. I'm serious.
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On March 14 2010 19:47 Biff The Understudy wrote:We had it yesterady and they guy who Rickrolled TL got banned two weeks. You are taking useless risks.
well rickrolling is when u hide the rick roll vid as another link so this one doesnt count haha
its a good song anyway :D:D
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Is there any Korean words for "pussy"? and how the hell KT has anything to do with it?
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Just imagine: In the off chance that you ever do break up, her family will still invite you to parties, haha.
And it's not over yet! And yes, I love you <3.
On March 15 2010 00:27 economist_ wrote: Is there any Korean words for "pussy"? and how the hell KT has anything to do with it? Well, all I know is that it is part of an alternate way of saying "GG" on national television.
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On March 15 2010 00:17 alffla wrote:Show nested quote +On March 14 2010 19:47 Biff The Understudy wrote:We had it yesterady and they guy who Rickrolled TL got banned two weeks. You are taking useless risks. well rickrolling is when u hide the rick roll vid as another link so this one doesnt count haha its a good song anyway :D:D Oh... I didn't know. I thought mentionning it was worth a life time ban from the internet and the real life.
I remember being rick rolled by Klazart a long time ago. (Don't flame don't flame, I was young and ignorant!)
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On March 14 2010 17:58 Etherone wrote: I love you too pubbanana but stop depressing us with girl blogs reminding us of another thing that did or could go wrong in our lives/relationships
buy her a flower.
I didn't mean to depress you, man. I wanted this to be a positive blog. Even though I'm miserable, I would never press this misery on to anyone here because I love you guys. Cheer up, I'm here for you. 
I might call her, I might not. Ever since I moved to America, all I ever heard was "Life is all about taking chances" and all I could think of in response to that is "Maybe, but my life is all about not looking like a fucking idiot" ... so yeah. I might call, I might take your advice and buy her a flower, or I may do absolutely none of these things. It's so up in the air right now.
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Aw man pubbanana, you saying you hate yourself depresses me. I don't know you apart from your posts on TL, but I refuse to believe someone who's such a nice guy to complete strangers on the internet can be anything but a really, really cool person.
<3
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On March 15 2010 07:02 pubbanana wrote:Show nested quote +On March 14 2010 17:58 Etherone wrote: I love you too pubbanana but stop depressing us with girl blogs reminding us of another thing that did or could go wrong in our lives/relationships
buy her a flower. I didn't mean to depress you, man. I wanted this to be a positive blog. Even though I'm miserable, I would never press this misery on to anyone here because I love you guys. Cheer up, I'm here for you.  I might call her, I might not. Ever since I moved to America, all I ever heard was "Life is all about taking chances" and all I could think of in response to that is "Maybe, but my life is all about not looking like a fucking idiot" ... so yeah. I might call, I might take your advice and buy her a flower, or I may do absolutely none of these things. It's so up in the air right now.  "Call her!!!!!!!!!!" - Endorsed by eleven exclamation marks!
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Your heart is aching but youre too shy to say it?
Dont let her down
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release the frickin homosexual progaming essay you promised us!!
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PianoMan was one of my favourite FEs of all time pubbananna
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On March 15 2010 13:38 JohannesH wrote: Your heart is aching but youre too shy to say it?
Dont let her down dont give her up man dont run around with her parents and desert her
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Well, it took a long time, but I finally brought it up to her and we talked it out. According to her, she thought I was too drunk while we were out together. To give a little information behind this, I suggested a restaurant which has some very potent margaritas and her family seemed to be in agreement, so we went, drank, had a great time. She's not 21 yet, so she couldn't drink and the fact that she couldn't join us combined with the fact that she thought I was "too drunk" and was continuously talking to her mother, her father, and her uncle instead of her made her irritated. So yeah, all in all, she just felt like we were all having the fucking time of our lives without her and she fucking pouted about it the entire time ... which is kind of spoiled and immature if you ask me, but anyway.
Nothing too major, it seems like she's over it now. We're fine. 
Also, I don't know how on earth I keep forgetting to mention this, but I have a class with a Korean (actually from Korea) and him and me ALWAYS talk about progaming during class. He's a big SC progaming fan and one day, he decided to quiz me and said
"Do you know who the FIRST champion of Starcraft was?"
Since I thought "There's no way he'll remember SSamJang ... that's way too early ... he's probably thinking of Guillaume"
So I said "Guillaume Patry"
To which he replied "Nope!"
Then I thought "There's no way his history goes back that far, only the most die-hard Korean fans know about the era of Lee Ki Seok aka SSamJang, ect, ect"
So then I said "Kook Ki Bong? aka TheBoy?"
And he said "Nope! It's Lee Ki Seok, you know him? SSamJang?"
And in that moment, I knew he would my friend for life. 
Some other funny things: When I asked if he remembered Guillaume and Elky, he said "Yeah!! They're big losers now!! Gamblers!!" and then when I asked who his favourite player is, he said "Lim Yo Hwan, how can Starcraft fans like anyone else?" and when I asked about some of the more obscure progamers like Song Byung Seok (Autumn, old KTF player), he said "Yeah, Song Byung Seok!! He played like Kang Min!! You know Kang Min?"
He is such a blessing to me. 
Edit: He also claims to have gone out drinking with either one or all (I wasn't paying enough attention during his story) of the members of Dong Bang Shin Ki.
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I'm glad to hear it worked out favorably in the end, pubbanana! Yay for rationally talking out silly passive-aggressive behavior~
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i was reading this and for some reason i popped a boner
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I love all of you more than Pumbana does.
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Glad it all worked itself out for you mate. And I wish I had a StarCraft friend in RL who knew as much as your friend. That would be so awesome! <envy/>
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can you get me a vod of one of those old gamers? I wanna see a really old game like that. All I can find ever since SCII beta came out is SCII beta games...
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