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Yeah, im allowed to say that cause im chinese.
I don't know, i feel really shit right now. I live on my own, everything paid for by my dad, in a small flat next to the uni.
Over the summer and recently ive just bawled myself into watching feel good anime, just finished strawberry panic.
I wish my life was as interesting and romantic as the shit i see on my computer screen, though i know it never will be.
I don't know why i feel shit, i shouldn't, i have it better off than so many people. I get everthing paid for me, i've never had to work hard in my life, im extremely active and i've started getting stronger and a lot better at bouldering, i have good, reliable friends at uni.
I just feel lonely.
I have nobody in my life right now who i can just go up, hold hands and get a great big hug from. Because you know, im a guy, and thats really wierd if you do it with other guys.
I dont know why, maybe because im running bad at poker right now (though really my lifetime average is pretty damn good considering my volume).
Maybe because i have no game or anything to focus on (but really, games right now are just a distraction, an escapism from the sadness of reality)
Maybe because it seems my only priority in life is trying to buff up my CV and competency question answers so that i can go work in investment banking.
I want to cry right now, but i know i cant, because im a lone. The only person i can really talk to is some girl who lives all the way in london who never really says the right things and is too difficult for me to like
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And the saddest thing is, i got all these people on my msn list, all the people i know.
But i just cant talk to them, the ones i know in real life. I feel more secure talking and pity searching on the internet, from the people on my msn who i have never met
  
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Asian nerds represent o/... ... T_T
I personally probably have nothing useful to say that will make you more optimistic, being rather cynical myself.
That said, read any books? Those seem to be awesome timesinks, and in such a way that one forgets they are ronrey. Until the book is finished. Lol.
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Get a cat. Or a dog, I suppose, if you're one of those people.
Icky people.
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you need to find a passion for something IMO
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I got a passion for bouldering atm, i've been training literally every day for the last 3 weeks. Almost as if to fill in the gaps in my life
I think "i got nothing to do, ill go bouldering" and ill just train for hours on end.
But in the end, it doesn't really make me feel better, its such a solitary thing to do. I get stronger, better, faster, but its all tempeoary.
I was thinking about getting a pet, but because i go on holidays to see my family i wouldn't be able to look after it.
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I would probably give the same advice to the countless other similar threads. Get a job, hobby or otherwise that allows you to connect with other people on a regular basis. Yeah it sucks for a while, and yeah it goes against your antisocial tendencies but it works in the end. Don't get a pet, that just replaces a person with a little furry thing that you can scold when it eats your last pizza pocket. Also, I would probably stop with the replacing r's for l's, regardless of your nationality... it got old with Team America.
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On November 17 2009 09:08 TimmyMac wrote:
get a gf?
Whoa now, that's crazy talk!
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Join a lan group organization
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man I feel your pain...
i also had this stuff when i began going to university in the UK. sometimes i would spend a week or so without talking any more than
hi
hi
how are you doing?
fine
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now it's not as bad, because i meet a lot more ppl, but i still can't talk about certain things with my friends. there is a solution however- your university should have some student support services, you could talk to. i know it might feel weird talking to them at first, but actually when i met the first it was really good- they are professionals, they have gone through with a lot of different students- youre not alone in that kind of sense, they won't judge you or whatever. it's just professional help.
well i hope you get better.
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Yeah you really need to join some society or take part in some regular group activity. It was much easier back at school because you spend a lot of time with your classmates, but now you're all grown up and adult-like you need to take the initiative.
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The most embarassing thing is i already go to lots of societies, (either extreme sport or geek related) but i havn't made any real close friends out of them.
Maybe i need to join some more or something...
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Wintertime depression seems to be setting in for alot of our TLers.
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op you described me, at least we're not alone entirely then.
msg me if you wanna chat about it sometime, we can form a kind of support group of people going through the same thing
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I think a lot of people just accept the fact that they won't get close friends like the ones they had back at school. Eventually they meet a girl and it's all good though.
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listen to some bruce springsteen and you'll start crying.
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On November 17 2009 09:35 Nytefish wrote:
I think a lot of people just accept the fact that they won't get close friends like the ones they had back at school. Eventually they meet a girl and it's all good though.
this is very true
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hahaha
i guess i could really do with a gf right now.
But srsly, v few people in uni i really like. Theres one girl atm, but seriously, anything between me an her would not last for more than a month max and it would ruin the friendship.
I never had close friends at school, i was a complete outcase. This was because i went to a fricking private eton group school in the UK full of dickheads and people who were vastly more intelligent than i was.
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Find some hobbies you and some friends can get into. I'm not sure whats available where you are from, but you know a sports league, basketball or something of that nature. Something where you can exercise(that helps with stress being lonely etc.) , you're interacting and bonding with your friends, and hopefully networking, meeting other people, possibly getting invited to little things here and there. Shit will expand, just start getting out there doing something preferably with friends.
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 say bollocks and the livestream rofls will cheer you up!
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Ugh i guess i need to sleep now.
Maybe ill feel better tomorrow, though ill probably just end up trudging through life and feeling shit at the end of the day as usual
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FCK i cant sleep whats the point
i dont want to wake up tomorrow and feel like this
I cant find myself a girl in uni atm lol. Maybe i just need to focus on that for a few weeks
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On November 17 2009 08:45 BrTarolg wrote:
I wish my life was as interesting and romantic as the shit i see on my computer screen, though i know it never will be.
Just wanted to comment on this because I used to think the same thing. Never compare your life to what you see in TV, movies, anime, books you read etc (even peoples blogs). If you do you will never be happy with your life because you're striving for something fake and imaginary. It's okay to be entertained by those things, but keep your life and fictional art separate.
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"But this beauty of Nature which is seen and felt as beauty, is the least part. The shows of day, the dewy morning, the rainbow, mountains, orchards in blossom, stars, moonlight, shadows in still water, and the like, if too eagerly hunted, become shows merely, and mock us with their unreality. Go out of the house to see the moon, and 't is mere tinsel; it will not please as when its light shines upon your necessary journey. The beauty that shimmers in the yellow afternoons of October, who ever could clutch it? Go forth to find it, and it is gone: 't is only a mirage as you look from the windows of diligence. "
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Awww Guy just wants some love. I'm a guy but what the hell *hugs*
Really though, clinging to wanting to be in some group or area where you're not and not acting on it is giving you heartache. That inner conflict inside of you is preventing you from just being free and alive. You CAN make your life whatever you want it to be. Become artful ! How can you make your life as romantic as you see it on the animes? :D Become aware and Get better! I pmed you my msn if you want to chat.
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I five stared you just for the title and the opening sentence.
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Go watch some anime!.. Like Breach!
(I'm Chinese, it's all cool guys.)
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Set a new, grand goal in life.
Like becoming the Ubersmench.
Then you'll REALLY have something to do. ALL THE TIME.
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+1 ronrey chinese guy here
let me know if you figure something out
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Go out and talk to people instead of imprisoning yourself in the life of laziness and prepaid comfort.
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haha you go to eton! a guy from my school went there as part of a cricket trip to the UK, he said in the boarding house there was this picture with a bunch of students and literally EVERY single one of them had some sort of title like "duke" or "lord".
dont you worry about uni man. there are way more people in there than school, and there are bound to be people compatible with you. the laws of probability can tell you that. its all about finding hope thatll give you some enthusiasm. you talk about feeling a little empty because you never had to pay for anything. well... get a job! so what if you dont NEED the money. you will feel much better about yourself that youre working FOR yourself (although for a boss as well haha). my job when i was in year 12 really helped take the focus away from all the negatives, as well as helping to really build my self esteem. its not really about the money, and so if you dont know what else to do... give it a shot! (btw im not talking about a call centre type thing or what not, go for a retail job or something where you talk to customers a lot)
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Which uni you at  ?
Dunno what advice I can give you though, as someone said it does sound like you're looking for a girlfriend; uni is a great place to meet one ^^.
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You got a hobby. You have an income. You are going to school.. yeah so you aren't as close to your friends as you'd like. That isn't the end of the world. Extend yourself to one or two of em.. have coffee and go deeper than shooting the shit. If they don't like it they will back off and put some distance for a bit and forget it.. but maybe they will be into that kind of thing and a great relationship will be forged?
Gotta put yourself out there man. If you recognize you NEED companionship beyond surface stuff you have to work towards it.. cannot sit around and hope it comes to you.
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On November 17 2009 17:12 nebffa wrote:
haha you go to eton! a guy from my school went there as part of a cricket trip to the UK, he said in the boarding house there was this picture with a bunch of students and literally EVERY single one of them had some sort of title like "duke" or "lord".
dont you worry about uni man. there are way more people in there than school, and there are bound to be people compatible with you. the laws of probability can tell you that. its all about finding hope thatll give you some enthusiasm. you talk about feeling a little empty because you never had to pay for anything. well... get a job! so what if you dont NEED the money. you will feel much better about yourself that youre working FOR yourself (although for a boss as well haha). my job when i was in year 12 really helped take the focus away from all the negatives, as well as helping to really build my self esteem. its not really about the money, and so if you dont know what else to do... give it a shot! (btw im not talking about a call centre type thing or what not, go for a retail job or something where you talk to customers a lot)
Nah i went to king's college
Its one of the eton "group" schools in the UK
But you can imagine the mindset and people in the school are similar to that of eton
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Messege for you sir. (check your pm)
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Fuck no christian propaganda man
Im an athiest and for good reasons.
I can kinda see how god would be comforting right now, but that is a REALLY bad reason as it does not make it any more truthful and would be just sinking further into a lie.
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fuck beefing your CV; it's never too late to start beefing up your obituary
live for your passions - pick up that instrument you always wanted to do, or take a class outside of your comfort zone; or do something ridiculous - go skydiving because you've earned the money or shoot a bear in the fucking face because you can
starting out without having done anything fucking amazing you probably can't instantly achieve the level of awesomeness most people would DREAM of like being able to piss off the top of mount everest, but you CAN start out with some minor achievements and build on those like going out and exploring the city you're living in and finding interesting places to hang out and do stuff at
then you come back to your friends or meet new ones and you can go and hang out in all of the awesome places you've found
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On November 18 2009 17:05 BrTarolg wrote:
Fuck no christian propaganda man
Ok, I didn't know whether you were a Christian or not.
On November 18 2009 17:05 BrTarolg wrote:
I can kinda see how god would be comforting right now, but that is a REALLY bad reason as it does not make it any more truthful
Indeed.
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