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So while at work Thursday evening I was sitting in the break room during break and I get a text message from my mom. The message was to my Aunt and Grandmother telling them that I would be able to fix the fucking fence at my Aunt's, as well as repaint, and repair the god damn roof of the shed in my grandmother's back yard on Sunday
- I am having to write a 12 page paper by Tuesday that I am only half way through with. As well as read four more chapters.
- My Uncle can't possibly do it since his back hurts. Which basically means he is too lazy to do it. My cousin, is well just lazy.
- I have problem with working on the shed at my Grandmother's I just can't do it this weekend. The roof is not leaking and the paint is fine.
- It's the fucking weekend if I am not at class I am working, or doing homework. I just want to fucking relax.
So right now I am torn between just being moody about it and going through with it and just saying fuck it I am not doing it, and not giving a shit.
 
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can't you just say you'll do it sometime later?
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On September 27 2009 14:48 eMbrace wrote:
can't you just say you'll do it sometime later?
This :O
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for me, being outside doing something is relaxing. but i understand your pain. i just had 2 days off and i stayed in my room for most of the day, but still went out at night. having that alone time did wonders to keep myself sane, as weird as it may sound.
just tell your grandma the situation and hopes she can understand. gl
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Wait, you're 24 and your mom decides to tell your grandmother that you'll fix all that shit without asking you?
I mean you have a fucking job, the least they could do is ask you BEFORE if you have free time.
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On September 27 2009 15:11 Sadistx wrote:
Wait, you're 24 and your mom decides to tell your grandmother that you'll fix all that shit without asking you?
I mean you have a fucking job, the least they could do is ask you BEFORE if you have free time.
This.
I would be so pissed off if this happened to me.
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1. call your mother and ask her what the fuck she was thinking.
2. call your grandmother and tell her you are busy.
3. call your aunt and tell her the you are busy.
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Katowice25012 Posts
I agree, if it so hard living in middle class white america
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On September 27 2009 15:22 nttea wrote:
1. call your mother and ask her what the fuck she was thinking.
2. call your grandmother and tell her you are busy.
3. call your aunt and tell her the you are busy.
This.
You have every right to be upset. Just tell them upfront that you don't want to do it.
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hahaa on the sidebars it reads
pissed off by {CC}StealthBlue
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that funnyuu, i thik bit i coudl redo it?
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Osaka27139 Posts
On September 27 2009 15:22 nttea wrote:
1. call your mother and ask her what the fuck she was thinking.
2. call your grandmother and tell her you are busy.
3. call your aunt and tell her the you are busy.
Yeah it sucks that he is losing his free time, and that e is busy. On the other hand, helping out family is not something I would personally say "fuck that" to. Maybe they are relying on him because he is the most reliable person for the job.
@OP I you are busy, postpone it, but I don't see why you have to get mad about it. It makes you seem kind of petulant. Get it done and take satisfaction in helping out someone that you care about.
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Tell them no?
I'm sure they realize you have a life.
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Tell them what's up, I assume that they'll understand. And as Mani said, they rely on you. I know it's annoying but it is a compliment in its own right. I'm not saying to shirk off the whole thing but definitely try and postpone it until you're in a better situation time wise. Ask them if they can wait a few days until you get your school stuff out of the way.
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Just tell them you're busy. Your uncle got out of it with some bullshit excuse about his back, your cousin got out of it cause he doesn't want to, your mother got out of it cause... Well, she passed it to you. You can get out of it by saying you can't do anything until midterms are over. Not complicated, getting good marks in school take priority over manual labour any one of them could do themselves. In my family that's always understood, as much as they ask me to help them do things (because I only don't help when I have a legitimate priority).
The reason to be mad is that you have to tell your poor grandmother you're not going to help them this weekend. But you can pass that responsibility on to your mother because it's her fault.
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Korea (South)17174 Posts
On September 27 2009 14:47 {CC}StealthBlue wrote:So while at work Thursday evening I was sitting in the break room during break and I get a text message from my mom. The message was to my Aunt and Grandmother telling them that I would be able to fix the fucking fence at my Aunt's, as well as repaint, and repair the god damn roof of the shed in my grandmother's back yard on Sunday - I am having to write a 12 page paper by Tuesday that I am only half way through with. As well as read four more chapters.
- My Uncle can't possibly do it since his back hurts. Which basically means he is too lazy to do it. My cousin, is well just lazy.
- I have problem with working on the shed at my Grandmother's I just can't do it this weekend. The roof is not leaking and the paint is fine.
- It's the fucking weekend if I am not at class I am working, or doing homework. I just want to fucking relax.
So right now I am torn between just being moody about it and going through with it and just saying fuck it I am not doing it, and not giving a shit.
Call grandma and explain the situation to her. She'll side with u, shes ur gramma!
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Korea (South)17174 Posts
On September 27 2009 16:39 Manifesto7 wrote:Show nested quote +On September 27 2009 15:22 nttea wrote:
1. call your mother and ask her what the fuck she was thinking.
2. call your grandmother and tell her you are busy.
3. call your aunt and tell her the you are busy. Yeah it sucks that he is losing his free time, and that e is busy. On the other hand, helping out family is not something I would personally say "fuck that" to. Maybe they are relying on him because he is the most reliable person for the job. @OP I you are busy, postpone it, but I don't see why you have to get mad about it. It makes you seem kind of petulant. Get it done and take satisfaction in helping out someone that you care about.
totally agreed i dont see why theres any need to get 'pissed off' thats just what moms do (even tho her approach was quite condescending
just be like lol mom busy this weekend but i'll take care of it asap and stop caring
its a fking shed
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On September 28 2009 00:01 Rekrul wrote:Show nested quote +On September 27 2009 16:39 Manifesto7 wrote:On September 27 2009 15:22 nttea wrote:
1. call your mother and ask her what the fuck she was thinking.
2. call your grandmother and tell her you are busy.
3. call your aunt and tell her the you are busy. Yeah it sucks that he is losing his free time, and that e is busy. On the other hand, helping out family is not something I would personally say "fuck that" to. Maybe they are relying on him because he is the most reliable person for the job. @OP I you are busy, postpone it, but I don't see why you have to get mad about it. It makes you seem kind of petulant. Get it done and take satisfaction in helping out someone that you care about. totally agreed i dont see why theres any need to get 'pissed off' thats just what moms do (even tho her approach was quite condescending just be like lol mom busy this weekend but i'll take care of it asap and stop caring its a fking shed
While I agree that the task in this situation is menial and stuff, I think that it's really the principle of the situation. A 24 year old, busy college student with a job, being volunteered to do other people's bitch work, for no apparent reason. Even if it is family, this should give you more reason to not be passive aggressive about it. Of all people, they should understand what your circumstances are.
Your cousin doesn't even seem to have any reason not to do it...
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Korea (South)17174 Posts
On September 28 2009 00:16 Romance_us wrote:Show nested quote +On September 28 2009 00:01 Rekrul wrote:On September 27 2009 16:39 Manifesto7 wrote:On September 27 2009 15:22 nttea wrote:
1. call your mother and ask her what the fuck she was thinking.
2. call your grandmother and tell her you are busy.
3. call your aunt and tell her the you are busy. Yeah it sucks that he is losing his free time, and that e is busy. On the other hand, helping out family is not something I would personally say "fuck that" to. Maybe they are relying on him because he is the most reliable person for the job. @OP I you are busy, postpone it, but I don't see why you have to get mad about it. It makes you seem kind of petulant. Get it done and take satisfaction in helping out someone that you care about. totally agreed i dont see why theres any need to get 'pissed off' thats just what moms do (even tho her approach was quite condescending just be like lol mom busy this weekend but i'll take care of it asap and stop caring its a fking shed While I agree that the task in this situation is menial and stuff, I think that it's really the principle of the situation. A 24 year old, busy college student with a job, being volunteered to do other people's bitch work, for no apparent reason. Even if it is family, this should give you more reason to not be passive aggressive about it. Of all people, they should understand what your circumstances are. Your cousin doesn't even seem to have any reason not to do it...
while they should understand your circumstances you cannot expect them to, and when they dont, its pointless getting mad
if it was me i'd just say 'sure thing' then hire some PeurtoRicans to do it and send them to grandma's house to complete the task to a. get the job done without inconveniencing myself and to b. lol at my mom
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Korea (South)17174 Posts
like 1.5 yrs ago i was back home over the summer and my parents said 'daniel ur mowing the lawn tonight' after dinner
so i was like 'ok' then i got out the phone book and started looking through it
my mom was like what are u doing?
me: 'looking for a lawn mowing service...ill just hire them then play poker in the meanwhile to make that money plus some'
then my parents said forget about it and my dad mowed the lawn
does this make me a bad son?
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God aint it hard to be a teenager.
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On September 28 2009 00:34 Rekrul wrote:
like 1.5 yrs ago i was back home over the summer and my parents said 'daniel ur mowing the lawn tonight' after dinner
so i was like 'ok' then i got out the phone book and started looking through it
my mom was like what are u doing?
me: 'looking for a lawn mowing service...ill just hire them then play poker in the meanwhile to make that money plus some'
then my parents said forget about it and my dad mowed the lawn
does this make me a bad son?
I hired a homeless guy to sell water for me to pay my rent.
I hire A LOT of homeless people for random things, then go eat lunch with them and talk about the craziest shit.
You're not a bad son rekrul =(
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On September 28 2009 00:34 Rekrul wrote:
like 1.5 yrs ago i was back home over the summer and my parents said 'daniel ur mowing the lawn tonight' after dinner
so i was like 'ok' then i got out the phone book and started looking through it
my mom was like what are u doing?
me: 'looking for a lawn mowing service...ill just hire them then play poker in the meanwhile to make that money plus some'
then my parents said forget about it and my dad mowed the lawn
does this make me a bad son?
No, but doing it like that is acting a bit like a douche. Many do a lot of things that they just as well could have hired others to do and done their real job and earned more in the same time, its the social aspect of scratching each others backs.
Like, you are giving presents to each other not to give them the moneys worth but more as a thought.
And yes, I know you like to think rationally about these kind of things and just say "My time is worth more than that suckers!", it is just that not everyone are thinking only in terms of money and time needed to spend said money.
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Osaka27139 Posts
On September 28 2009 00:16 Romance_us wrote:Show nested quote +On September 28 2009 00:01 Rekrul wrote:On September 27 2009 16:39 Manifesto7 wrote:On September 27 2009 15:22 nttea wrote:
1. call your mother and ask her what the fuck she was thinking.
2. call your grandmother and tell her you are busy.
3. call your aunt and tell her the you are busy. Yeah it sucks that he is losing his free time, and that e is busy. On the other hand, helping out family is not something I would personally say "fuck that" to. Maybe they are relying on him because he is the most reliable person for the job. @OP I you are busy, postpone it, but I don't see why you have to get mad about it. It makes you seem kind of petulant. Get it done and take satisfaction in helping out someone that you care about. totally agreed i dont see why theres any need to get 'pissed off' thats just what moms do (even tho her approach was quite condescending just be like lol mom busy this weekend but i'll take care of it asap and stop caring its a fking shed While I agree that the task in this situation is menial and stuff, I think that it's really the principle of the situation. A 24 year old, busy college student with a job, being volunteered to do other people's bitch work, for no apparent reason. Even if it is family, this should give you more reason to not be passive aggressive about it. Of all people, they should understand what your circumstances are. Your cousin doesn't even seem to have any reason not to do it...
I guess you and I see the principle of the thing differently. I don't see it as bitch work, and I don't see it as "no apparent reason". Obviously I do not have all the facts, but if his cousin is as useless as he makes him out to be, there is a reason not to use him. And if the work needs to be done it isn't bitch work. It isn't like he is doing chores, he is doing maintenance.
I don't think being 24 gets you out of family obligations, I think it gets you more involved in them because you are more competent. But of course, the shed sin't falling down, and if he is busy this weekend he can easily say next weekend or whenever. The mother's tact is also lacking, but that may be a casualty of the ability to text with cc.
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Osaka27139 Posts
PS. Yes Dan, it makes you a bad son. It was a test. Your parents wanted to see if there was anything left of the boy they raised, the boy who, a few years ago, would have been mowing the lawn and crossing it off of the fridge door afterwards. I hope you can buy your parents new hearts to replace the ones you crushed.
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Korea (South)17174 Posts
Actually the son they knew would demand payment for mowing the lawn as a kid so nothings really changed LOLOL
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I would make it abudantly clear that they do not plan my schedules.
I have people in my family try to pull this shit with me and it does not fly.
It has nothing to do with wanting or not wanting to help out your family. It's about common courtesy and respect for others. but I think most people here already get that
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