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So I was listening to the radio and on one of the stations I listen to, they do these prank calls where they pose different scenarios and make sure something amusing happens. Today, one of the people posed as a girl who was crazy but very, very hot. (They gave him a fake myspace).
This made me wonder: How much craziness in a girl would you be willing to put up with if they were, let's say, your ideal woman but obviously only physically.
Poll: How much crazy?
(Vote): None
(Vote): A litte, you know enough to make it interesting
(Vote): Some, your friends think she's a little deranged
(Vote): Substantial, everyone thinks she's a bit crazy including you
(Vote): A lot, you don't know how to handle her exactly.
(Vote): Absolutely batshit insane
It also occurred to me that some types of insanity would be easier to put up with then others. For example you might be able to put up with obsessive better than just ridiculously controlling or bitchy. Or maybe you have no trouble evading "strict" girlfriends but really can't stand people who are just out there in terms of OCD. So what kind of madness would be easiest to put with?
Poll: Easiest kind of crazy?
(Vote): Obsessive
(Vote): Bitchy/Controlling
(Vote): Wildly up and down moody
(Vote): Incredibly OCD, or other kinds of strange
(Vote): Other
Finally, I ask you, what kind of personality trait could you absolutely not put up with? Maybe stupidity, or shallowness. Maybe you can't handle on of the ones mentioned above, or have something entirely new. Whatever. I'm just wondering what YOU would be willing to put up with, and then what entirely drives you away.
edit: This isn't about my own, or any of my friends girlfriends, it's purely hyopthetical. I get along well with my own or I wouldn't date them.
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For me, I could put up with a wildly moody girl the easiest, mostly because you could ignore them sometimes, and maybe others they would be ok.
And if they were that hot, I could probably put up with substantial crazy. I'm a quirky guy myself, so a little bit odd wouldn't bother me unduly.
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I think I'm Obsessive, Bitchy, Controlling, Moody AND OCD. Hmmm....
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Personality in a GF is incredibly important. Seriously I cannot stress this point enough. If she has a bad personality or one that doesn't match with you, you'll spend hours and hours arguing on the phone and having fights and confused about what kind of relationship you should pursue
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Oh shit, this isn't about my own girlfriend, it's hypothetical.
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On July 08 2009 13:14 AzureEye wrote:
Personality in a GF is incredibly important. Seriously I cannot stress this point enough. If she has a bad personality or one that doesn't match with you, you'll spend hours and hours arguing on the phone and having fights and confused about what kind of relationship you should pursue
Yeah I guess I agree with this. I haven't ever dated for looks so I really have never been in a traditionally bad relationship (at worst it felt like we were just friends. no big fights) so I have no idea the true impact of personality. I have never sacrificed it.
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On July 08 2009 13:14 AzureEye wrote:
Personality in a GF is incredibly important. Seriously I cannot stress this point enough. If she has a bad personality or one that doesn't match with you, you'll spend hours and hours arguing on the phone and having fights and confused about what kind of relationship you should pursue
Give this man a medal.
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I had to answer "other" on the second part of the poll only because the first three have the ability to make an otherwise sane man understand the underlying motivations for domestic abuse ;D
I am for a little bit of craziness though, keeps things interesting. In other words, you probably are going to have to work a bit to have sex because you never know when she's going to be upset with you on a given day.
It's funny though, this poll. There was a book (written by Dr. Drew of Love Line fame I believe) which broke down the factors for attractiveness in a mate. I can't remember what they are specifically besides the obvious ones; but the one that stuck out to me was only for females, and it was "manageability". In other how words, how easy was it for the man to manage her. Women probably don't like to hear that, but if you've ever been in a longer term relationship, it is very important.
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On July 08 2009 13:14 lilsusie wrote:
I think I'm Obsessive, Bitchy, Controlling, Moody AND OCD. Hmmm....
Hahhahaahaha
I think everyone is one of these at different points in their lives...
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On July 08 2009 13:20 Smix wrote:Show nested quote +On July 08 2009 13:14 lilsusie wrote:
I think I'm Obsessive, Bitchy, Controlling, Moody AND OCD. Hmmm.... Hahhahaahaha I think everyone is one of these at different points in their lives...
It depends if there are enough points to connect to make a line graph, or if they are isolated.
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On July 08 2009 13:20 Smix wrote:Show nested quote +On July 08 2009 13:14 lilsusie wrote:
I think I'm Obsessive, Bitchy, Controlling, Moody AND OCD. Hmmm.... Hahhahaahaha I think everyone is one of these at different points in their lives...
Moody is the entire teenage population...which I'm still part of. Maybe that's why I voted up and down moody, we ALL are.
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On July 08 2009 13:20 A3iL3r0n wrote:
I had to answer "other" on the second part of the poll only because the first three have the ability to make an otherwise sane man understand the underlying motivations for domestic abuse ;D
I am for a little bit of craziness though, keeps things interesting. In other words, you probably are going to have to work a bit to have sex because you never know when she's going to be upset with you on a given day.
It's funny though, this poll. There was a book (written by Dr. Drew of Love Line fame I believe) which broke down the factors for attractiveness in a mate. I can't remember what they are specifically besides the obvious ones; but the one that stuck out to me was only for females, and it was "manageability". In other how words, how easy was it for the man to manage her. Women probably don't like to hear that, but if you've ever been in a longer term relationship, it is very important.
If they are too easy to manage does it become unattractive? Because eventually it's docile, and I to many people I know that ends up as, well, boring.
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OCD and moody probably. But it isn't only based off of personality traits. It really depends on a lot of what Moltke said in terms of how much you're willing to "put up" with.
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Crazy in head, crazy in bed.
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Answered "none" to first and skipped second poll.
The reason is this: if you try to go the "girlfriend" (or worse, "wife") route with such a specimen, it won't end well, whatever you do. Both men and women like to think they did well in love. If you try to put up with a bitchy woman she will lose respect for you since you are telling her "you are so far beyond my dating market value I will do anything for you". NOBODY wants that - nobody wants to feel they are selling themselves short & dating a loser. If she's hot she will walk away and/or cheat.
Of course, women will generally not admit to (or be aware of) this sort of thing and many will claim they want a guy who will make them the "center of his life". Don't fall for that. Women like real men who know what they want and have their own lives, not those who are "waiting to feel complete" through a woman or relationship.
So... be discerning. Date the hottest girls you can, enjoy them once or twice but be sure to stop there. Make sure the one you make into long term girlfriend and later wife is really special, respects you and does not act "crazy" around you or your friends and family.
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Well I would put up with batshit insane, but nothing too long term that is for sure.
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