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From reading your post suxN, it seems like you may be more depressed because of a possible lack in human interaction.
All of your hobbies seem to be somewhat solitary. I know it may be tough, but really any human interaction, even if it begins with hanging out with strictly family at first, is good for your mental health.
I went through the same thing when I was younger, and still experience the same feelings from time to time. I am somewhat quiet at school, and while I am not off putting or pushing people away, I am still more of an introvert.
However, over the last couple years, I have realized how important human interaction truly is. It is usually no more than 1-2 times a week, but I have come to enjoy it, and even look forward to it.
Don't feel obligated to drink or do anything you do not want to do. Just hang out with some friends, or find some like-minded people you can enjoy some free time with. Maybe even find a girlfriend.
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On November 15 2009 10:52 suxN wrote:
I'm depressed, been on meds and psychiatrist for almost 2 years, still feeling like crab all the time.
Im figuring out, what are the stuff you enjoy doing? i'll give a list of different hobbies ive tried, but theyve left me cold.
Poker
Starcraft (and alot of other computer games)
Chess
Soccer
Icehockey
Floorball
Tennis
Gym/jogging
Reading/writing
Drawing
Cooking
blacksmithing
.. thats all that comes to mind right now.
I havent been enjoying social activities either for few years.. hell its over 4 years since the last time i had girlfriend. Its not that i havent tried, i just cant figure anything interesting to chat about.. talking has become awkward even with my friends.
Everything competitive sucks horribly.. i dont mind if im leading, but if i get set back i simply curl up and die, losing all interest to even try.
I've done some drugs and alcohol but they're not giving any kicks or chills anymore.
So.. How to enjoy life ? I dont want to feel constantly bored, frustrated, sad or tired
Time for a girlfriend:D,don't worry bud all you need is to be "cool".... lol
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"Worthless according to whom? I like it..." Well, i dont 
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read the dark tower series by stephen king, the ending makes you all warm and fuzzy on the inside
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honestly if you haven't had any luck dating then maybe you should try a dating website.
plentyoffish.com is free if you don't want to pay. (not sure if theres people in Finland there, but i'm sure theres some site you could find)
i went through this for....1.5 years and what finally got me out of it was breaking up with my girlfriend at the time and moving away from everything i owned. it really made me realize what i had back at home.
i took everything for granted and didn't know what i wanted to do with my life. now me and the girl i left are married and have been very happy since i came back.
not saying that you have to do something really drastic but maybe a big change would help you get a hold of what you want from your life.
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To be honest i don't think u'll get much help here. Just throwing aroung new hobbies doesn't sound to work for you atm.
If you have been to a psychiatrist then u probably are aware of reasons to your depression, those are what u need to work on. These things are never easy, what we usually do is rationalising our problems away from us.
What works for me is rationalising right back at it. If a part of you is working against you and your pursuit of happiness, then declare war. Write a letter to it. If it's making up lies to keep you unhappy, make up lies to make face them.
If you don't see any point in trying. If you don't value happiness at all atm, then remember the times when u did. Look at everything optimistic. No matter how bad shit's been you can always get back on track.
This might not make sense to anyone at all, but it's from my own experiences with dealing with deppressions, since psychiatrists don't seem to help here I am.
/someone believing you will recover, and knowing u can.
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"From reading your post suxN, it seems like you may be more depressed because of a possible lack in human interaction. " - Quite possible, however cant seem to find the catch in these social situations, i come up, i stand there looking silly, hardly ever hearing anything that interests me. Same thing goes the otherway around, when im saying something, others arent interested.
I have been trying to solve this by getting somesort of activity while being social.. like floorball, you dont have to stand stupid when you dont have anything to say, you can play.
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doesnt the lack of sunlight cause a lot of depression in Scandinavia? you can try moving down to somewhere with a better environment
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On November 15 2009 11:57 iamho wrote:
doesnt the lack of sunlight cause a lot of depression in Scandinavia? you can try moving down to somewhere with a better environment
i've heard thats why some people get "winter depression" because the lack of sunlight and the sun is a lot weaker.
if you think this might have an effect on you it wouldn't hurt to invest in some of the lamps that are "real sunlight"
they're pretty cheap ~$20 where i live (canada)
i too know you can break this and once you do everything will be amazing again!
if you ever need advise feel free to PM me whenever and i'll try to give the best i can from my experience with depression.
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"Doesnt the lack of sunlight cause a lot of depression in Scandinavia?" Yeah it does, and now happens to be the darkest time since there isnt even snow to light things up. However i dont feel much better during summers.
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drinking, screw wasting my time on a bunch of pointless hobbies
and if you want to be happier get a bunch of good friends to hang out with, easy way to achieve this: fraternity, if they have those in finland
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Do you have a job? If not then get one. The less time you have to sit around dwelling on how bored you are the less you will be angry with life. Also jobs introduce you to new people and different personalities.
Do volunteer work. Most cities have volunteer rescue squads, fire departments, and even police cadet programs. Either one of those would be an awesome experience where you will grow a bond with an entire team of people.
Hell, you can even join the military if you want to take drastic measures. There's nothing like flipping your life upside down in an effort to reinvent yourself or discover new things you enjoy. A sense of pride might be just thing you are looking for.
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On November 15 2009 12:04 zekie wrote:Show nested quote +On November 15 2009 11:57 iamho wrote:
doesnt the lack of sunlight cause a lot of depression in Scandinavia? you can try moving down to somewhere with a better environment i've heard thats why some people get "winter depression" because the lack of sunlight and the sun is a lot weaker. if you think this might have an effect on you it wouldn't hurt to invest in some of the lamps that are "real sunlight" they're pretty cheap ~$20 where i live (canada) i too know you can break this and once you do everything will be amazing again! if you ever need advise feel free to PM me whenever and i'll try to give the best i can from my experience with depression.
It's called SAD, Seasonal affective disorder
winter pisses me off because of this. i have to wake up when it's dark at 7 in the morning, stay indoors the entire day, then when I leave school at like 4 or 5 it's pitch black again
sad =(
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In finland army is mandatory, during there they figured im depressed ( i didnt even notice it myself ). And i didnt really create a bond with anyone there. Sense of pride might be good for me, too bad thats one of those things you dont feel in army.
Im too old to start at local fire department (they train kids and teenagers, there isnt really anything for newbie adults).
Then theres red cross, i really dont know anything about it, could be worth a shot.
I dont have a job but im at school, its definately good to have something to do regularily instead of dwelling with boredness.
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Snet
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I love the winter, there usually is no glare on my monitor from my window.
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Think you gotta think out of the box here. Do something drastic. Take a flight to South America and tour for 3 months with some travel agency aimed at singles. Meet people, explore new areas, try all the new things a place like that has to offer and definitely have a sense that you have all the freedom in the world.
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On November 15 2009 12:05 Frits wrote:
drinking, screw wasting my time on a bunch of pointless hobbies
and if you want to be happier get a bunch of good friends to hang out with, easy way to achieve this: fraternity, if they have those in finland
Oh believe me i have been drinking, and it definately isnt making me happy.. it makes me mostly suicidal. And i dunno if there are fraternitys in finland, but definately not here where i live.
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Snet
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On November 15 2009 12:19 suxN wrote:
In finland army is mandatory, during there they figured im depressed ( i didnt even notice it myself ). And i didnt really create a bond with anyone there. Sense of pride might be good for me, too bad thats one of those things you dont feel in army.
Im too old to start at local fire department (they train kids and teenagers, there isnt really anything for newbie adults).
Then theres red cross, i really dont know anything about it, could be worth a shot.
I dont have a job but im at school, its definately good to have something to do regularily instead of dwelling with boredness.
Ah, I didn't realize you were older.
Yea, definitely try out the red cross, what do you have to lose? Are you sure about the fire department stuff? If you really were born in1988 like your profile says then you would be the right age. Sure they look for 18 year olds but you really aren't that old. I would apply atleast.
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On November 15 2009 12:22 Twisted wrote:
Think you gotta think out of the box here. Do something drastic. Take a flight to South America and tour for 3 months with some travel agency aimed at singles. Meet people, explore new areas, try all the new things a place like that has to offer and definitely have a sense that you have all the freedom in the world.
Hmm somesort of single travel agency sure does sound good. Cant do it that drastical since im on student budget, but gotta check out some cheaper option during winter holidays.
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