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And we got married!
I read a lot of girl blogs and typically a lot of them are by self-described nice guys and it doesn't work out; either the girl just wants to be friends, or they get rejected, or they can't figure out how to approach women. My wife is the only girl I have ever really dated (I dated in high school, but I really don't count that because it was superficial) and before we met I had very little experience with women. I could talk to women but I was self-conscious, I was a homebody and just played video games, and I was scared to do anything.
I met my wife when I was working at a not-for-profit group that introduces new immigrants to the Canadian culture, how to get around, what resources are available, teaches ESL - etc. We were going to go camping with a group of newcomer youth and my not-for-profit group was teaming up with her group from a neighbouring city. Long story short I wound up waiting all weekend at camping for a moment where we could be alone and I asked her if she would be interested in going out with me and she said yes.
Having little experience with dating (and no sexual experience) I just tried to be myself and if that got me anywhere I would be happy, and if it didn't it didn't. I was fortunate in that my wife was more experienced than I was and took the lead for the most part - I joke with her that if it were up to me to make the first move we still (years later) wouldn't have kissed yet lol. For whatever reason my wife thought I was worth being with and slowly our relationship grew stronger until I was ready to ask her to marry me.
I can honestly say that at the time I was just doing what felt right and that in a lot of ways it didn't make sense for me to ask her to marry me - I remember talking with my father and he advised me to wait because I didn't have a long-term position at my work, she was still finishing up her post-bachelor degree, and we had no money to speak of. I really just felt that asking her and marrying her would make me happy, so I tried not to think about it too much and went for it, and just last July we got married - we took our honeymoon in the Dominican Republic and it was great.
To anyone who's over 20, doesn't have much dating or sexual experience, and maybe is a homebody who doesn't go out very much and prefers to play games - there is hope! I never used to worry too much and I always just thought everything would work out. Don't be afraid to take that risk in putting yourself out there though, you'll never know what you could have had.
