I wouldnt jump right into asking her out or on a date just yet. She's in your band so you're going to be able to see and talk to her a lot. Just get to know her and go from there.

Just because she talked to you doesnt mean she's head over heals in love with you. Plus, you dont want to upset the band "chemistry" or whatever if you make a serious move at her too soon and shes like "whoa man i just wanted to talk to someone my age, back off!"

Rome wasn't built in a day

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^^ I never have used that saying before so hopefully it applies here

Multiplex

Canada14 Posts

July 21 2009 00:55 GMT

#22

Hahahahaahaha okay most important thing to remember is to just have fun and relax, if she was hanging around you all day that means she wants to be near you somewhat. baby steps, friends before lovers

GeneralStan

United States4789 Posts

July 21 2009 00:56 GMT

#23

I completely disagree with the last three. If you want to be her friend, then by all means talk to her and let it develop. But if you want to date her, ask her out next time you see her.

Asking her out on a date isn't some huge step, it isn't saying "lets start a relationship". Its testing the water one on one, so if things go well enough they can go from there. Its an indication that maybe you could be more than friends.

Mini-golf is a capital idea as well

anderoo

Canada1876 Posts

July 21 2009 00:59 GMT

#24

On July 21 2009 09:56 GeneralStan wrote:
I completely disagree with the last three. If you want to be her friend, then by all means talk to her and let it develop. But if you want to date her, ask her out next time you see her.

this
do. naught. get. friend zoned.

Ingenol

United States1328 Posts

July 21 2009 01:19 GMT

#25

On July 21 2009 09:30 Code wrote:
I wouldnt jump right into asking her out or on a date just yet. She's in your band so you're going to be able to see and talk to her a lot. Just get to know her and go from there.

Just because she talked to you doesnt mean she's head over heals in love with you. Plus, you dont want to upset the band "chemistry" or whatever if you make a serious move at her too soon and shes like "whoa man i just wanted to talk to someone my age, back off!"

Rome wasn't built in a day

+ Show Spoiler +

^^ I never have used that saying before so hopefully it applies here

Strongly disagree. You WILL get friend zoned. In girl-world, she's shown about as much interest as a typical girl is willing to show. If you don't reciprocate she'll figure you're not interested in her and will do that crazy thing girls do where they will themselves to stop being interested in you.

Girls like a man who's confident, knows what he wants (in this case, her), and isn't afraid to go for it. You're not making a serious move (convince yourself of this even if it feels serious/scary for you), just asking her out casually.

KP_CollectoR

United States744 Posts

July 21 2009 01:26 GMT

#26

On July 21 2009 06:33 Ingenol wrote:
Yes she's definitely interested.

Jibba

United States22883 Posts

July 21 2009 01:34 GMT

#27

Ask her out, and be explicit that it's a date ("let me take you out to dinner", etc.) Don't make it a "trick date" by saying "lets hang out" and then springing the date stuff on her when she thinks you're just friends hanging out.

On July 21 2009 09:11 n.DieJokes wrote:
Congrats, sounds like you made a friend; I'd just cultivate that and then see if something's gonna happen from there

Yeah, this is terrible fucking advice. DO NOT LISTEN TO n.DieJokes. Having balls and being up front is the best way to get a date, even if she's not super into you at the time.

Ichigo1234551

United States649 Posts

July 21 2009 01:52 GMT

#28

When she smiles
my heart beats faster
is this love?

zulu_nation8

China26351 Posts

July 21 2009 01:52 GMT

#29

Don't listen to anyone who tells you to "befriend" her

DoX.)

Singapore6164 Posts

July 21 2009 08:01 GMT

#30

On July 21 2009 09:59 anderoo wrote:

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this
do. naught. get. friend zoned.

this.

Kennelie

United States2296 Posts

July 21 2009 13:34 GMT

#31

On July 21 2009 06:42 YPang wrote:
man guys stop shitting urselfs. Next time u see a chick, just wipe out your dick and let the evolution do the speaking. If she doesn't jump on it, prob a lesibian or too afraid of your monster cock anyways.

Edit: if that doesn't work it means you gotta get more booze, not "try harder"

I could not have stated it better my friend.

MoRe_mInErAls

Canada1210 Posts

July 21 2009 14:02 GMT

#32

I think all she's just a lonely girl looking for a friend in band. Have you considered being her friend? It might be better than sex. You never know.

Energies

Australia3225 Posts

July 21 2009 14:31 GMT

#33

On July 21 2009 06:33 Ingenol wrote:
Yes she's definitely interested.

It's not really rocket science. She seems interested and you'll get nowhere playing guessing games.

"I really like you. I'd like to get to know you better, lets catch up for a drink"

Energies

Australia3225 Posts

July 21 2009 14:35 GMT

#34

On July 21 2009 23:02 MoRe_mInErAls wrote:
I think all she's just a lonely girl looking for a friend in band. Have you considered being her friend? It might be better than sex. You never know.

aww, that's adorable!

Badjas

Netherlands2038 Posts

July 21 2009 19:09 GMT

#35

okay here's another tip. Don't plan on making love to her. It'll just make you nervous thinking about chances and whatnot. (If chances are quite okay, then you'll find out automatically without any need to steer in that direction. .. yet }-] )

(edit out 'fucking'. that sounds a bit too vulgar in this context)