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On June 23 2009 23:38 ThePhan2m wrote:
Either you can actually try to understand and seek Christianity and give it a chance if you like her so much. Because God will, not matter what, be the most important thing in her life. And if you will not accept it, she cannot have a relationship with you. It will not work out. So either you look into Christianity for her sake. Or you drop her.
Why does he have to conform man? Isn't each person entitled to their own opinions without having to change them? I feel that it is possible for him to get over the fact she is a Christian if she can get over the fact he isn't.. a mutual agreement if you will.
I don't think OP specified.. who had a problem with who's personal beliefs?
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On June 23 2009 23:46 David Mudkips wrote:Show nested quote +On June 23 2009 23:38 ThePhan2m wrote:
Either you can actually try to understand and seek Christianity and give it a chance if you like her so much. Because God will, not matter what, be the most important thing in her life. And if you will not accept it, she cannot have a relationship with you. It will not work out. So either you look into Christianity for her sake. Or you drop her. Why does he have to conform man? Isn't each person entitled to their own opinions without having to change them? I feel that it is possible for him to get over the fact she is a Christian if she can get over the fact he isn't.. a mutual agreement if you will. I don't think OP specified.. who had a problem with who's personal beliefs?
She is the one that believes in God. She has the problem him not believing. She is the one that has the restrictions and believes of no sex before marriage. And the Bible aswell tells her that she should not find a life partner that is not a believer. The whole essence in a relationship, where two persons become ONE is that they can share everything, even their believes that is in this case, the most important thing for her. Praying togather with the partner is very important for a believer like her. If she cannot do this, it will be pointless to have a relationship. Because God should be the center of a relationship for a believer. And this cannot happen if he doenst believe.
And if your point is that she should stop believing for his sake. Then it is totally up to her. But in my experience, this very unlikley to happen. God is a very important thing for a devout believer.
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Sorry, I didn't know the Bible said that they have to find a life partner that is a believer. In that case, it probably is best to move on. Or pretend that you believe her religion.
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On June 24 2009 00:07 David Mudkips wrote:
Or pretend that you believe her religion.
This is certantly the worst choise. the OP should, under no circumstances pretend to be a believer.
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The OP is a believer... of a different kind.
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I'm not religious myself and I'll never be convinced so I understand where you're coming from.
If you really like her there is only one way to go.
You just need to avoid talking about the issue and let it go. Never be drawn into it unless she really really pushes you. Then still try to be nice about it and just say something like " I'm not convinced religion is true, there may be a God, can we move on?"
If she is alright with you not going to Church then that's fine.
Nothing good can come from confrontations. The vast majority of people can't be argued out of religion, you have to fall out of it. Any arguments you have will never end well.
I wouldn't really see it as that big an issue.
People are stupid in many ways. Lots of people would think watching others play video games is stupid. You just have to agree to disagree.
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TRUST ME when I say trying to make living with a Christian will NOT WORK.
Please man, I know you like her a lot, but she is not worth destroying your life over.
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Cut your losses and move on. This is your only (realistic) option.
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On June 23 2009 21:55 Bockit wrote:
Try to make her accept you as not a christian.
If that's not possible, I think I'd move on.
100%
actually I'd probably just move on, or hand around till i find someone else? =)
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Unless if you like her a lot. You could just think religion practice as disciplinary practice. (Getting up early for church sessions and enduring the stuff. Depends on how you are, it may be an easy thing instead.).
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God this kind of thing annoys me so much. Who cares about religion...If she doesn't want to be with you because you're not a Christian then she must not really like you enough anyway. Shame to think it but it's probably true.
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On June 23 2009 20:43 Latham wrote:
If you're so much into each other I don't think it should matter. From what you're telling me you're a Deist so you don't believe in Christianity and all that, but the thing I don't get is, why does it bother you that she is Christian? I mean it's one thing to not to believe in what she believes and still be tolerant and open minded, and it's another to not believe in what she believes in and to be bothered by it. IMO you should just let her believe in what she believes and carry on your point of view on those matters. Religion shouldn't be the deciding factor in a relationship IMO, at least not until you have kids and you have to make the choice whether you want your kid to be this, or that.
Also we need to know more about the girl personality like, is she like a fanatic that is trying to convert you right away, or is she just a normal Christian that goes to church, maybe carriers a cross as a necklace etc. etc. Maybe ask her also if all her family is very religious, and if they are tolerant or not.
If she is the fanatic type it's all up to you - try to change her views or bail. I mostly try to stay away from the fanatic ones but if you decide she's worth trying to talk some sense into, then go for it.
If she's normal, then I don't see a problem. Both of you should get together and talk about it, whether you're ready to make sacrifices or not and work from there, together.
Maybe he sees more in her than just a good fuck and doesn't want to hurt her in the long run due to religious differences that could start now and grow into a catastrophic anomaly of intense proportions unseen thus far by humans on this earth then his children would become torn between Christianity and deism not knowing what to believe and they all six would commit suicide, some using crosses and others using sharp idols from unknown eras.
Or maybe he is just upset that christian girls (well catholics) don't fuck before marriage :D
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Edit: Nvrm, I don't give a shit
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You would be lying to yourself, your girlfriend, and God if you converted because of her. I like what ThePham2m said.
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I'm atheist, i went out with a christian girl for quite a while, it came up about twice and neither was important. i don't understand what the big deal is.
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Am I really the only one who things you're blowing this entirely out of proportion after meeting a girl eight days ago??
A bunch of hopeless romantics here!
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Kentor
United States5784 Posts
She's gonna say you're going to hell.
Who'd want that for the rest of your life?
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3 Lions
United States3705 Posts
I wonder what type of Christian she is? Depends, because if I were Deist/nonChristian I would do different things depending on which type of Christian she is (Orthodox/Protestant/Catholic/etc)
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On June 23 2009 20:50 Cloud wrote:
I think he wants a solution to the whole no sex before marriage deal.
Not support on that he can spend the rest of his life with someone he just had a crush on lol.
One close friend got together with a fundie. He married her really fast for some reason, I wonder why. >
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