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t_co
Profile Blog Joined July 2007
United States702 Posts
Last Edited: 2008-08-20 06:12:10
August 20 2008 06:09 GMT
#1
So there's this girl that a friend is trying to mack on. She's mature, confident, quiet, and... quite pretty. She's also a mutual friend in our little circle, a quite recent addition which I want to keep around (because she takes the edge off so many things).

Only one problem.

She's devoutly Christian. And I mean full-out... like she tries to lead every aspect of her life in that way. She doesn't try to push her way of life on other people, but at the same time every single guy who has gotten close to her has been pretty evangelical too.

Now my friend is atheist (ok, he's a blunt, Nietszche-toting parly debater from one of the most liberal universities in the nation). I don't want to see a train wreck happen in slow motion (e.g. my friend scares her away) so could you guys please tell me what I should do to defuse the situation?

Thanks TL!

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Mickey
Profile Blog Joined July 2005
United States2606 Posts
August 20 2008 06:11 GMT
#2
Just straight up tell him. He's going to make a mess of things.

Another question if he's a Nietzsche kind of guy?.. Why the hell is he even bothering with women?
t_co
Profile Blog Joined July 2007
United States702 Posts
August 20 2008 06:14 GMT
#3
well maybe not nietzsche, more like he believes in maddox, converse sneakers, red dwarf, making money and getting laid
"Look, don't congratulate us when we buy a company, congratulate us when we sell it. Because any fool can overpay and buy a company, so long as there is money to buy it." --Henry Kravis
Quesadilla
Profile Blog Joined October 2007
United States1814 Posts
August 20 2008 06:16 GMT
#4
He's done for man, about to get 4 pooled then FBH'ed after.

Girls like that don't change, and in my opinion, it's good. At least they stick to what they stand for. Either your friend will not go for it or change his views if he's crazy enough for her. The end.
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BottleAbuser
Profile Blog Joined December 2007
Korea (South)1888 Posts
August 20 2008 06:20 GMT
#5
On August 20 2008 15:11 Mickey wrote:
Just straight up tell him.


If you see a problem that he doesn't, then show it to him. If you don't trust that he will see things your way, I seriously doubt there's anything else you can do that will be effective.
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thedeadhaji *
Profile Blog Joined January 2006
39489 Posts
August 20 2008 06:28 GMT
#6
if you're adults you can have your own beliefs while being friends...
Kaze
Profile Joined March 2008
United States6 Posts
August 20 2008 06:29 GMT
#7
Has he done anything to suggest a train wreck is coming, or is he not so retarded as to be a total tard (like he isn't seriously really planning on being a douche)?
Chef
Profile Blog Joined August 2005
10810 Posts
August 20 2008 06:35 GMT
#8
It depends how old they are. The younger, the more likely this girl is to drift away from her beliefs, the older, the more set she may be in her ways. EDIT: Just read he's in university... uhmm... You should know better by now than to meddle... If they aren't tolerant of each other's beliefs, there isn't a relationship happening anyway.

Honestly, I don't think you should try to be so controlling of this situation. Just let the chips fall as they may, and if things don't all end up happy, it's not the end of the world. If you're really worried, tell your friend to go easy on the anti-religion, and not to get into any retarded debates. You don't want him to think you're stifling his opinions, but you want him to know everyone should be having fun, instead of feeling forced to defend their beliefs.

PS: Save the Euro slang for your friends. "Mack" is about the most unattractive way to describe what you're talking about... I just think of a fat guy without a shirt rubbing a cheese burger on his chest. I'm sure I'm not alone on that sentiment.
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stalife
Profile Blog Joined June 2006
Canada1222 Posts
August 20 2008 07:08 GMT
#9
should never try to be so controlling in other people's relationships.. what if they do get together after telling him it'll be a trainwreck? or what if he blames his failure at you?

but anyway, how is this even a trainwreck at all? guy has some feelings for a girl, he makes his move. region barrier is pretty bad in relationship, but doesn't hurt the guy for trying at least
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johnmaster
Profile Blog Joined May 2008
125 Posts
August 20 2008 07:31 GMT
#10
you get the girl first before your friend does so you can stop the "train wreck".
SiegeTanksandBlueGoo
Profile Blog Joined December 2007
China685 Posts
August 20 2008 07:35 GMT
#11
Girls break guys hearts. It has so been dictated from the beginning of itme.

Seriously though, I would tell your friend to go for it with reservations. Big ones (not those tiny Indian ones they put the Native Americans on. :/) Religious ones are especially hard to get into a reltionship with if you're not religious.
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Grobyc
Profile Blog Joined June 2008
Canada18410 Posts
August 20 2008 08:24 GMT
#12
Damn, I was hoping for this post to be of epic proportions, containing parties, and being caught masturbating and whatnot..
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TechniQ.UK
Profile Blog Joined May 2007
United Kingdom391 Posts
August 20 2008 09:28 GMT
#13
"mack" is an american term not a euro term.
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Spenguin
Profile Blog Joined November 2007
Australia3316 Posts
August 20 2008 11:05 GMT
#14
Dangerous Liaisons anyone?

I reckon tell him straight out, or if you really wanna stir some shit up, tell her. I would
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XCetron
Profile Joined November 2006
5225 Posts
August 20 2008 11:13 GMT
#15
No hurt telling him your view of the situation, everyone is entitled to their own decisions. Whatever choice he makes will be in his best interest as he sees it, better that he be informed than not.
t_co
Profile Blog Joined July 2007
United States702 Posts
August 20 2008 12:36 GMT
#16
Thanks guys for the comments.
"Look, don't congratulate us when we buy a company, congratulate us when we sell it. Because any fool can overpay and buy a company, so long as there is money to buy it." --Henry Kravis
QuanticHawk
Profile Blog Joined May 2007
United States32046 Posts
August 20 2008 13:21 GMT
#17
Why the hell would you even interfere?
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JWD
Profile Blog Joined October 2007
United States12607 Posts
Last Edited: 2008-08-20 15:42:00
August 20 2008 15:41 GMT
#18
Yeah, I think you should stay out of this completely. Your friends' relationships aren't necessarily your business and they certainly shouldn't be your responsibility.

I can't help but think that you also have a thing for this girl (in a BIG way), simply from reading your OP. If that's the case, you had better make a move soon! It sounds like she should probably date someone other than your atheist friend, anyway.
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