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So there's this girl that a friend is trying to mack on. She's mature, confident, quiet, and... quite pretty. She's also a mutual friend in our little circle, a quite recent addition which I want to keep around (because she takes the edge off so many things).
Only one problem.
She's devoutly Christian. And I mean full-out... like she tries to lead every aspect of her life in that way. She doesn't try to push her way of life on other people, but at the same time every single guy who has gotten close to her has been pretty evangelical too.
Now my friend is atheist (ok, he's a blunt, Nietszche-toting parly debater from one of the most liberal universities in the nation). I don't want to see a train wreck happen in slow motion (e.g. my friend scares her away) so could you guys please tell me what I should do to defuse the situation?
Thanks TL!
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Just straight up tell him. He's going to make a mess of things.
Another question if he's a Nietzsche kind of guy?.. Why the hell is he even bothering with women?
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well maybe not nietzsche, more like he believes in maddox, converse sneakers, red dwarf, making money and getting laid
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He's done for man, about to get 4 pooled then FBH'ed after.
Girls like that don't change, and in my opinion, it's good. At least they stick to what they stand for. Either your friend will not go for it or change his views if he's crazy enough for her. The end.
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On August 20 2008 15:11 Mickey wrote:
Just straight up tell him.
If you see a problem that he doesn't, then show it to him. If you don't trust that he will see things your way, I seriously doubt there's anything else you can do that will be effective.
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thedeadhaji
39489 Posts
if you're adults you can have your own beliefs while being friends...
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Has he done anything to suggest a train wreck is coming, or is he not so retarded as to be a total tard (like he isn't seriously really planning on being a douche)?
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It depends how old they are. The younger, the more likely this girl is to drift away from her beliefs, the older, the more set she may be in her ways. EDIT: Just read he's in university... uhmm... You should know better by now than to meddle... If they aren't tolerant of each other's beliefs, there isn't a relationship happening anyway.
Honestly, I don't think you should try to be so controlling of this situation. Just let the chips fall as they may, and if things don't all end up happy, it's not the end of the world. If you're really worried, tell your friend to go easy on the anti-religion, and not to get into any retarded debates. You don't want him to think you're stifling his opinions, but you want him to know everyone should be having fun, instead of feeling forced to defend their beliefs.
PS: Save the Euro slang for your friends. "Mack" is about the most unattractive way to describe what you're talking about... I just think of a fat guy without a shirt rubbing a cheese burger on his chest. I'm sure I'm not alone on that sentiment.
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should never try to be so controlling in other people's relationships.. what if they do get together after telling him it'll be a trainwreck? or what if he blames his failure at you?
but anyway, how is this even a trainwreck at all? guy has some feelings for a girl, he makes his move. region barrier is pretty bad in relationship, but doesn't hurt the guy for trying at least
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you get the girl first before your friend does so you can stop the "train wreck".
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Girls break guys hearts. It has so been dictated from the beginning of itme.
Seriously though, I would tell your friend to go for it with reservations. Big ones (not those tiny Indian ones they put the Native Americans on. :/) Religious ones are especially hard to get into a reltionship with if you're not religious.
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Damn, I was hoping for this post to be of epic proportions, containing parties, and being caught masturbating and whatnot..
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"mack" is an american term not a euro term.
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Spenguin
Australia3316 Posts
Dangerous Liaisons anyone?
I reckon tell him straight out, or if you really wanna stir some shit up, tell her. I would 
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No hurt telling him your view of the situation, everyone is entitled to their own decisions. Whatever choice he makes will be in his best interest as he sees it, better that he be informed than not.
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Thanks guys for the comments.
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Why the hell would you even interfere?
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United States12607 Posts
Yeah, I think you should stay out of this completely. Your friends' relationships aren't necessarily your business and they certainly shouldn't be your responsibility.
I can't help but think that you also have a thing for this girl (in a BIG way), simply from reading your OP. If that's the case, you had better make a move soon! It sounds like she should probably date someone other than your atheist friend, anyway.
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