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I think we all know that Boys love girls and have really dirty minds, etc (Of course not all are the same).. but anyhow, the point where I am trying to get is: For some reason since I had a baby with my (let's call her wife since we live together) everytime I see an "okay" or fine looking girl, I get these thoughts like I just wanna bang the girl! It's basically I just wanna screw anything that has got two legs.
Would you that be considered cheating? or is it normal?
P.S. I whack off even more than before and I watch tons of porn more than before
I love my girl and everything.. but I just feel like this everyday when I hang out with other girls etc.. I'm like horny all the time and I didn't used to be like this before.. I would actually turn alot of girls down etc
   
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oversexing increases prostaglandin E2, which causes more horniness. gotta break the cycle and moderate, or ur gonna deplete all the reserves drawn from youir organs' resting potential and end up with oversex symptoms. eye floaters, restlessness, depression, chronic fatigue to name a few.
and yes that would be cheating. im sure you know, but we all still ask beause we can't to get away with it. everyone is tempted, but it's how u handle that temptation.
p.s. good thing i have 3 legs.
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Dude I know seriously, the bags under my eyes keep getting so black and worse. I am always tired, etc... I have too much sex I think. Like I do it when we wake up in the morning, at night, on top of that I masturbate, at work I wanna screw everybody... this is all going on inside of me of course I am not a creepy creature but I do wanna bang everybody at this point
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everyone, keep away from infested
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I have advice:
Stop watching porn.
Not because it's evil, or bad, or immoral, but because that's why you're thinking about it all the time. Find something else to do during the time you usually watch porn, and you'll find yourself having overall more wholesome thoughts.
Really, you should be spending your time thinking about your kid, not other girls, but that's not my business.
It isn't cheating to think about other girls, but it isn't good either. It makes you less dependable. It's your actions that matter though, so if you can continue outwardly being loyal and devoted to your girl and child, you don't have to feel terribly ashamed. I think both guys and girls fantasize about movie stars and the like, but you should know that they are fantasy, and not spend all your time entertaining them, or thinking they might be possible.
I have never been in a situation like yours, so this advice is purely speculative.
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On August 14 2008 06:55 crabapple wrote: oversexing increases prostaglandin E2, which causes more horniness. gotta break the cycle and moderate, or ur gonna deplete all the reserves drawn from youir organs' resting potential and end up with oversex symptoms. eye floaters, restlessness, depression, chronic fatigue to name a few.
and yes that would be cheating. im sure you know, but we all still ask beause we can't to get away with it. everyone is tempted, but it's how u handle that temptation.
p.s. good thing i have 3 legs.
where did u get his information from? Are you stating that these conditions are irreversible? I haven't heard anything like this before and I've read plenty of literature on the subject.
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On August 14 2008 07:12 PsycHOTemplar wrote: I have advice:
Stop watching porn.
Not because it's evil, or bad, or immoral, but because that's why you're thinking about it all the time. Find something else to do during the time you usually watch porn, and you'll find yourself having overall more wholesome thoughts.
Really, you should be spending your time thinking about your kid, not other girls, but that's not my business.
It isn't cheating to think about other girls, but it isn't good either. It makes you less dependable. It's your actions that matter though, so if you can continue outwardly being loyal and devoted to your girl and child, you don't have to feel terribly ashamed. I think both guys and girls fantasize about movie stars and the like, but you should know that they are fantasy, and not spend all your time entertaining them, or thinking they might be possible.
I have never been in a situation like yours, so this advice is purely speculative.
Very good advice about the porn and the thoughts, etc. But let me just correct something, Women have nothing to do with my child at all. My kid is the priority in any case, but he has nothing to do with who my couple is. Me and his momma could break up and that still would have nothing with him at all, I dunno if you get what I m trying to say. Thanks! =)
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I understand, but if you weren't confident this was the girl you wanted to raise a child with, it might have been ideal not to have a child in the first place lol. I think you would agree that daddy not deciding on a particular woman would be stressful for your kid. You may be able to overcome that, but unless you have full custody of him, he's your girl's kid too and that makes things complicated when he (she?) has to be shuffled around between parents.
In any case it's after the fact, and I wish you luck
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I actually think she is prolly the best mom my child could have, but still has nothing to do if I stay with her or she stays with me, etc.
As we speak there is a nice culo parked at the teller line zooomg! >.<
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I don't think it's fair to say your child is not related to if you stay with the mother. If you separate from the mother, that will have a huge impact on the child. Of course this goes without saying, so I think you were just being unclear.
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Why don't you make love to your wife?
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If you are in love with your wife and things are good, then I would guess that you are experiencing the "grass is greener on the other side" syndrome. There is a strong tendency to want what you don't have, and perhaps a stronger tendency to want what you "can't" have.
If you are at all bored with your wife, I think that if you were with someone else you would be bored with them too.
On the other side of things, I think it's only natural to find other people sexually attractive and to entertain sexy thoughts. That is part of being an animal, and I would contend humans are most definitely animals, and very sexual animals at that (we're one of the few species that have sex for reasons beyond procreation).
Yet another angle to consider: there is what is known as the contrast effect. If you see someone very beautiful, and then someone merely beautiful, you will tend to find the second person ("merely" beautiful) to be maybe mediocre, or maybe even unattractive. Whereas if you had just seen the merely beautiful person, you might consider her to be simply beautiful. And if you see an ugly woman, and then an average woman, the average woman will appear gorgeous to you.
Our society is full of unhappy people in part because we suffer from an intense contrast effect. Consider, everywhere we look we see images of unrealistic beauty (literally unrealistic - the women we see, for example, are surgically augmented, have excellent makeup artists and designers, pro photographers, and their images are further augmented by computers). This makes our actual partners seem rather drab by comparison, even if they are actually very healthy and attractive.
So, you might consider cutting out porn and much media for this reason.
Condensed version: We want what we can't have (grass is greener on the other side. Sex and sexy thoughts are natural and OK. Porn and media in general can poison us against our partners.
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On August 14 2008 06:46 InfeSteD[rA] wrote:I think we all know that Boys love girls and have really dirty minds, etc (Of course not all are the same).. but anyhow, the point where I am trying to get is: For some reason since I had a baby with my (let's call her wife since we live together) everytime I see an "okay" or fine looking girl, I get these thoughts like I just wanna bang the girl! It's basically I just wanna screw anything that has got two legs. Would you that be considered cheating? or is it normal?P.S. I whack off even more than before and I watch tons of porn more than before I love my girl and everything.. but I just feel like this everyday when I hang out with other girls etc.. I'm like horny all the time and I didn't used to be like this before.. I would actually turn alot of girls down etc
its not cheating if you only look.
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On August 14 2008 09:05 il0seonpurpose wrote: Why don't you make love to your wife? I think he does... + Show Spoiler +On August 14 2008 07:00 InfeSteD[rA] wrote: I have too much sex I think. Like I do it when we wake up in the morning, at night, on top of that I masturbate, at work I wanna screw everybody
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You want to screw anything that has 2 legs??? boy, girls, babies, etc.
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Probably is because all the stress of having a baby, your body needs a way to release all of that... maybe in the way of a greater sexual need.
And well, i dont think there is anything wrong with just looking at other girls as long as you dont over do it.
And about the porn... maybe put a photo of your baby as wallpaper, that way you will get discouraged about watching porn on the computer lol.
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On August 14 2008 07:57 micronesia wrote: I don't think it's fair to say your child is not related to if you stay with the mother. If you separate from the mother, that will have a huge impact on the child. Of course this goes without saying, so I think you were just being unclear.
Well I think I was talking about the fact that Psyco said "I should spend my time thinking about my kid, etc"
Well, I dont need to think about my kid, I WORK and LIVE for my kid..
So how does fucking a girl or bitches affect my kid? if he dont even know about it... It would affect my girl of course, but that shouldnt get on the way of me loving and caring for my child, etc..
Its not like I do those things, but I think about shit like that 24//7 etc
On August 14 2008 09:05 il0seonpurpose wrote: Why don't you make love to your wife?
You should prolly read
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On August 14 2008 11:19 CrimsonLotus wrote: Probably is because all the stress of having a baby, your body needs a way to release all of that... maybe in the way of a greater sexual need.
And well, i dont think there is anything wrong with just looking at other girls as long as you dont over do it.
And about the porn... maybe put a photo of your baby as wallpaper, that way you will get discouraged about watching porn on the computer lol.
I already do
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On August 14 2008 11:11 thoraxe wrote: You want to screw anything that has 2 legs??? boy, girls, babies, etc.
that supposed to be funny '-_-
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if you're not married why does it matter? it should be essential for any men to go out and meet new people and not stay with his inner social circle.
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sounds like the baby has made u realise your relationship with your girlfriend is really serious, but deep down you still fear the commitment, and the resulting anxiety makes you super horny.
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Yes, basically the relationship got to a point where is alot more serious... and my gf doesnt cook very often, doesnt keep the house clean (And what I mean by that is that she actually makes the worst messes and never cleans up after herself) She wants to go to the bar with her friends all the time from work, etc... So that's why im not married.. I dont think I could buy a home and live wit her cuz she cant clean up.. and there is tons of other things.. But thats another point ..
I think even if she was perfect I d still be a horndog -___-
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You could try talking to her about it. She might be okay with polyamory.
Even if she's not, if you think she really would take offense to your "cheating," I think she should be brought into the loop - it may affect her almost as much as it affects you.
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In the Bible it says that if you think about sexual immorality you're already commtiing adultery...
You believe what you want but to me that's true. So yeah, stop watching pornography you'll feel your overall quality of life improving...
*Excuse me while I take 2 steps back and cut 1 leg off......*
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Too much of a good thing could be bad for you, so, cut back on the sex XD!
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It's natural to think about other women, even if you are married, or in a long term relationship. Although the human race is smart, we're all just animals. Male animals fuck any female they can get their hands on, while female animals choose the right male to spread good genes. Instincts tell you to fuck, but your great personality, molded by our culture, tells you it's bad. Make your own choice, I'm sure you want to just have one woman.
I've never had a relationship long term like that, so don't take my advice seriously. I would have a talk with her, and tell her why you feel the relationship is not working out. If you have talked about getting married, explain to her why you don't want to. Hopefully, but not likely, she will make a hard effort to fix the problems. It's a shame, because of the child, but you can't live with someone who you don't feel perfect with.
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On August 14 2008 13:06 freedom yay wrote: In the Bible it says that if you think about sexual immorality you're already commtiing adultery...
You believe what you want but to me that's true. So yeah, stop watching pornography you'll feel your overall quality of life improving...
*Excuse me while I take 2 steps back and cut 1 leg off......*
I stopped reading after I read "bible".
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On August 14 2008 11:49 YanGpaN wrote: if you're not married why does it matter? it should be essential for any men to go out and meet new people and not stay with his inner social circle. because he had a baby with that woman, and that would be stuck with him for the rest of his life anyways? also its cheating if he does stuff without mentioning it to his gf, which it seems he hasent told her anything yet
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On August 14 2008 06:55 crabapple wrote: oversexing increases prostaglandin E2, which causes more horniness. gotta break the cycle and moderate, or ur gonna deplete all the reserves drawn from youir organs' resting potential and end up with oversex symptoms. eye floaters, restlessness, depression, chronic fatigue to name a few.
and yes that would be cheating. im sure you know, but we all still ask beause we can't to get away with it. everyone is tempted, but it's how u handle that temptation.
p.s. good thing i have 3 legs. l0l0l0l i c wut u did thar o. o
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On August 14 2008 14:45 Grobyc wrote:Show nested quote +On August 14 2008 11:49 YanGpaN wrote: if you're not married why does it matter? it should be essential for any men to go out and meet new people and not stay with his inner social circle. because he had a baby with that woman, and that would be stuck with him for the rest of his life anyways? also its cheating if he does stuff without mentioning it to his gf, which it seems he hasent told her anything yet
I dont think u read .. because I havent done anything :S
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On August 14 2008 15:07 InfeSteD[rA] wrote:Show nested quote +On August 14 2008 14:45 Grobyc wrote:On August 14 2008 11:49 YanGpaN wrote: if you're not married why does it matter? it should be essential for any men to go out and meet new people and not stay with his inner social circle. because he had a baby with that woman, and that would be stuck with him for the rest of his life anyways? also its cheating if he does stuff without mentioning it to his gf, which it seems he hasent told her anything yet I dont think u read .. because I havent done anything :S I know you havent, i meant if you did do something, when i said " also its cheating if he does stuff without mentioning it to his gf, which it seems he hasent told her anything yet" i meant it seems you havent told her anything about the urges yet, not any actual cheating so far
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On August 14 2008 11:27 InfeSteD[rA] wrote:Show nested quote +On August 14 2008 11:19 CrimsonLotus wrote: Probably is because all the stress of having a baby, your body needs a way to release all of that... maybe in the way of a greater sexual need.
And well, i dont think there is anything wrong with just looking at other girls as long as you dont over do it.
And about the porn... maybe put a photo of your baby as wallpaper, that way you will get discouraged about watching porn on the computer lol.
I already do + Show Spoiler +
Holyfuckingshit that kid has a lot of hair
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