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Welcome to social engineering.
I have never drinked, smoked, or done any drugs but I am also a lean 240 lbs of muscle so when people ask me about it I just tell them I am a bodybuilder and am extremely strict about health and calories. That pretty much shuts them the fuck up.
But back when I in high school and a little while afterwards before I become a serious power lifter I got so much shit for it that I pretty much was regulated to being a loner since I couldn't find a group of people that weren't socially engineered into spending their free time drinking or doing weed. I have one friend who is like me and he is pretty much the only guy I can ever hang out with.
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On July 26 2008 17:15 micronesia wrote:Show nested quote +On July 26 2008 17:00 Salv wrote:On July 26 2008 16:46 Hypnosis wrote:
it will get old really soon Wait, what will? Responding to their arguments? Responding to someone when they are talking to you will get old? Sounds stupid to have to ask that, but you just told me I should say nothing. So apparently saying something to someone talking at me will get old. Ok. On July 26 2008 16:46 Hypnosis wrote:
they will realize that they are kind of immature when you dont respond. Now I should respond? You just said I shouldn't respond, because that gets old, but now I should, because then I will look immature. I believe he meant if you ignore them their attempts to bug you will get old.
Yes, I reread it and I see what he means. Hes still an idiot, just slightly less.
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On July 26 2008 16:46 Hypnosis wrote:
The OP is kind of a pussy.. He is thinking of things to say in the future. On the internet.
but either way man if i were you i would just not say anything, it will get old really soon and they will realize that they are kind of immature when you dont respond.. Saying some planned out shit will do nothing but make you look even more stupid..
Im high right now so im probably being a dick,. smoking weed=not addicting + very fun + fun +very fun + lol=yeqaaa oranges
He's actually somewhat right. Definitely don't say that stuff you thought of. Just brush it off. Maybe they'll get tired of it, maybe they won't, but they won't hold it against you if you're a nice coworker. You'll just be the "clean" guy.
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I'm not that big of a drinker myself, but I realize that we function in a society with a certain set of social norms. If my friends and co-workers didn't drink, I probably wouldn't either. It's probably because I'm not that experienced at it, but I don't find the taste of alcohol that great nor do I particularly enjoy getting shitfaced. I only started drinking (and continue to do so occasionally) because I thought it would be a good way to meet people and network.
Seeing as how you don't want to become a 30 something waiter either, I'd say you also have plans to "be somewhere" (not being a busboy) later on in life. Being able to drink with others might help you set-up connections with people that will go towards achieving whatever great ambition you have. I know this sounds like a pretty lame reason to drink, but if you don't like the taste or the effects, this is probably the only reason why you would want to drink.
I completely understand and respect what you're going through though. There was a time when I was sober guy in the room that didn't drink. But I personally thought I might be able to gain more out of drinking then from not drinking. I guess if I didn't think so much in terms of "how much can I gain from this", I would have yet to taste alcohol.
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Lol don't say the money @ 45 thing, I dislike people who think money is that important more than people who don't drink or smoke. Even if you don't drink (don't see the point in having it as a principle) you can still join them when going out, right. As long as they don't get totally knackered there should be no problem as far as i can see...
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DEFINITELY don't tell them whatever you thought of.
If you will do, they will think about you as a dick and you will just then get the feeling of being alone in unpleasant atmosphere.
Aren't there any other topics you can speak about with them? Like their families, some funny situations that happened to them, w/e?
If they will keep joking and you won't stand that, just say "Guys please don't, I just don't like it, let's speak about something else because that tires me" but don't seem to be angered or something.
In general try to stay connected, don't ignore them.
BTW respect about not smoking and not drinking, I smoke almost everyday and sometimes just have to buy like 2-3 beers to feel better. I know this isn't the best way of feeling better but what can I say, shitty period in my life, nothing big happens... vomited only once in my life tho, I know when I'm full 
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On July 26 2008 19:01 aseq wrote:
Lol don't say the money @ 45 thing, I dislike people who think money is that important more than people who don't drink or smoke. Even if you don't drink (don't see the point in having it as a principle) you can still join them when going out, right. As long as they don't get totally knackered there should be no problem as far as i can see...
Problem is, it could be awkward if they would get drunk and w/e and he would just watch and pretend he's having fun :/
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Become "allergic to alcohol".
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Just stick to your beliefs and ignore the dicks. It's not like they are going to become your lifelong buddies or be very important to you in the long run, so why bother sinking yourself to their level?
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I am the same way. I don't drink or smoke. Hell the most caffeine I take in is from a soda here or there. I used to hang out with people in high school that smoked pot and drank a lot; had an ex that would drink with her friends, get all whiny and pissy telling me to kill her because of the headache and the next day she just goes drinking again! Dumb bitch.
Anyways, where was I going with this? Ohh yeah, I think of it like watching a SC replay. I see what the people that drink/smoke heavily go through and I know from them that it is something I would never inflict upon myself. So I learn from their mistakes.
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I'm allergic (though no one ever believes me), so it's good for me since I don't like to drink anyway.
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On July 26 2008 16:18 Salv wrote:
I work at a restaurant and when it's not busy, everyone just chills at the back near the bar/empty dining lounge and just talks. A popular topic lately has been getting smashed and going to bars. I'm 19 and all my co-workers are older then me, so they feel obligated to tell me their own opinions of things and give me advice; I guess they think they are wise because of their age compared to mine.
So eventually they asked me about going to a bar to get smashed since I had just turned 19 a little while ago, (June 1) and I told them that I didn't drink. Then they asked if I smoked and I said no, and they acted as if this was the oddest thing they had ever heard and for the first time in my life, they actually criticised me for not drinking or smoking.
For some reason everyone who smokes and/or drinks takes it upon themselves to make sure you smoke and/or drink. I have no idea why, all of my friends do this too, it's as if they are generally worried about me for not drinking and smoking, which makes no sense to me whatsoever. Stick to your guns though man, seriously. There's a bunch of them and one of you yet you're a pussy? What? I wouldn't reccomend saying your line to them, because it's pretty bastardly, but if you say it be sure to scream "GG NO RE BITCHEZ!" and do the FBH celebration right after. kk?
On July 26 2008 16:18 Salv wrote:
Harsh, but rather factual. If your in your thirties making as much money as your nineteen your old co-worker, perhaps you should refrain by giving life advice and telling people how to better yourself. I don't want to turn into 'that guy' from work who everyone thinks is a dick, so I am curious if anyone has some good ideas about what to do. Two options I won't do:
1 ) Go drinking with them.
2 ) Let them bust my balls about this for the duration of my working tenure their.
3) Go write more protoss to zerg blogs
So if anyone has any ideas, post away; or if you have a story or something that correlates to this, i'd like to hear it also.
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Dont abandon your choices because of peer pressure -.-
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On July 26 2008 16:24 EmeraldSparks wrote:
Say you have extremely low alcohol tolerance.
On July 26 2008 17:29 Gingerkid wrote:
a lean 240 lbs of muscle so when people ask me about it I just tell them I am a bodybuilder and am extremely strict about health and calories.
Don't make up some excuse. Just because you're in the minority you shouldn't be ashamed of it.
On July 26 2008 18:25 soudo wrote:
I'm not that big of a drinker myself, but I realize that we function in a society with a certain set of social norms. If my friends and co-workers didn't drink, I probably wouldn't either. It's probably because I'm not that experienced at it, but I don't find the taste of alcohol that great nor do I particularly enjoy getting shitfaced. I only started drinking (and continue to do so occasionally) because I thought it would be a good way to meet people and network.
This is a terrible reason for drinking. You shouldn't embrace things just because they are a societal function or because it is 'socially approved.' This is a very sheepish mindset.
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Obviously, you've already made the choice to not drink. This makes them think you're weird or something. How much worse could it get if you flat out tell these folks "I've made a decision, I'm not changing it, and I've made it clear. Stop bugging me, because all it'll do is make me angry."
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Katowice25012 Posts
You're really over thinking this. Guys bust eachother's balls because thats what they do. Rag on them back for something and move on, throw water at them when they mention it. Do absolutely anything but sit around and try to think of counterarguments. This is not a situation that is solved with logical reasoning, they're just having fun because it gets to you. You probably care about it way too much if you're even willing to ask the internet for advice, and I'm sure they know.
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On July 27 2008 00:41 heyoka wrote:
throw water at them when they mention it.
lmao
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What is the fucking point of this thread? Did you want a pat on the head or something? "No Salv, You Don't Need Drugs To Have Fun! Way To Make The Healthy Decision!". The fact that you're insecure about making daily decisions by yourself clearly points out why you have an "above the influence" attitude, and are not even open to TRYING a drug.
Although I do believe Alcohol is very, very dangerous, you need to grow some balls dude. One time isn't going to kill you.
and to Hypnosis: GTFO of this thread. You make weed look bad. I'm high right now and I'm not posting like a moron. Now you have these uneducated kids thinking that marijuana makes you an idiot. Thank you for the negative influence towards the cause.
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Romance_us: I think the point was that he was sharing. What the hell's the problem with that? You make way too many generalizations about this guy's character based on one post. wtf?
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On July 27 2008 01:07 Romance_us wrote:
What is the fucking point of this thread? Did you want a pat on the head or something? "No Salv, You Don't Need Drugs To Have Fun! Way To Make The Healthy Decision!". The fact that you're insecure about making daily decisions by yourself clearly points out why you have an "above the influence" attitude, and are not even open to TRYING a drug.
Although I do believe Alcohol is very, very dangerous, you need to grow some balls dude. One time isn't going to kill you.
and to Hypnosis: GTFO of this thread. You make weed look bad. I'm high right now and I'm not posting like a moron. Now you have these uneducated kids thinking that marijuana makes you an idiot. Thank you for the negative influence towards the cause.
It's a blog, dick. A blog is a daily log of thoughts. I was telling a story about an event that recently happened at work that I found interesting. The point of this blog wasn't to say that drugs are bad; it was to point out how ridiculously bad my coworkers arguments were for going out to drink with them or to try something new with them.
The two things I asked were:
1 ) What should I do? Which is more asking, what would you do?
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2 ) Does any have any stories that are correlated to this.
It seems like my OP really pissed you off, which i'm happy with because you really are an asshole lol.
BTW: Telling Hypnosis to leave the thread because it makes weed users look bad is ironic, because at least his post was written so poorly that it was more of a joke then anything. You actually tried to make a point, but ended up failing entirely because you couldn't even understand the context and understand what I was trying to convey. In short; you didn't help make weed look any better.
EDIT: lmao, I was just thinking; the only two negative comments in this thread are from two people who failed entirely in writing their post, and were also high when doing so. Considering the nature of this thread, that's pretty funny.
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