EPTThat and my mind went blank when thinking of a response to say if she had refused. I think too much.
Damn, damn, damn!
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{CC}StealthBlue
United States41117 Posts
That and my mind went blank when thinking of a response to say if she had refused. I think too much. | ||
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Romance_us
Seychelles1806 Posts
It's alright man, happens to all of us. Just think of a good plan for the next time you see her. It seems like improv isn't your thing. | ||
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decafchicken
United States20143 Posts
Just start talking to her in 3 seconds. No if/ands/or buts. Wait for an opening, if you play your cards right you can probably get her to say "we should so do such and such!" So suppose you ask her if she wants to get some dinner. a) she says yes b) she puts you down gently. She's never going to say "ew get the fuck away from me". She'll probably say something that you'll be able to respond to, not just "NO." | ||
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Hypnosis
United States2061 Posts
On July 07 2008 07:56 Romance_us wrote: Haha, the classic choke. It's alright man, happens to all of us. Just think of a good plan for the next time you see her. It seems like improv isn't your thing. Actually the best way to fuck up is to plan stuff, spur of the moment is much better for meeting girls or else you will psyche yourself out, which is what happened to stealthy over here. I mean plan a meeting but don't plan out whats going to happen! | ||
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Ghardo
Germany1685 Posts
if you have that creative touch and can just play with the situation it is ofc preferable.. but in my case "making sure" gave me more security. the hardest thing is always the beginning (i'm feeling that very personally atm though in a different context.. 3 week learning phase ahead (8h/day) and tl.net/youtube/othershit is just too tempting) | ||
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SteelString
446 Posts
On July 07 2008 08:17 decafchicken wrote: 3 second rule Just start talking to her in 3 seconds. No if/ands/or buts. Wait for an opening, if you play your cards right you can probably get her to say "we should so do such and such!" So suppose you ask her if she wants to get some dinner. a) she says yes b) she puts you down gently. She's never going to say "ew get the fuck away from me". She'll probably say something that you'll be able to respond to, not just "NO." decafchicken has read some pickup material, I see. | ||
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MrRammstein
Poland339 Posts
On July 07 2008 09:54 SteelString wrote: decafchicken has read some pickup material, I see. QFT I was going to write some ranting tranquilizer too (from my limited experience ;/) but I actually read part of his blog and the fact he's 1985. I don't know what to wish - Good Luck or no gl just Pure Skill ;D? I guess both will do HF | ||
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Mastermind
Canada7096 Posts
On July 07 2008 07:47 {CC}StealthBlue wrote: I finally saw her and wasn't nervous at all but I couldn't think of something to say in order to ask her out. That and my mind went blank when thinking of a response to say if she had refused. I think too much. Dont think of how to respond to a let down. Just respond naturally. If you concentrate to much on that then you will bitch out and not do it. | ||
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Mickey
United States2606 Posts
Don't worry that you choked. It happens to everyone, including myself. Although, I haven't had to ask a lot of girls out. I've only asked 2 girls out in my lifetime, I'm 19. The first turned me down, which led me to ask the girl of my dreams out. We've been going out for 2 years now  | ||
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itzme_petey
United States1400 Posts
On July 07 2008 07:47 {CC}StealthBlue wrote: I finally saw her and wasn't nervous at all but I couldn't think of something to say in order to ask her out. That and my mind went blank when thinking of a response to say if she had refused. I think too much. you are brave man, braver than thou. if you ask'eth her and get rejected, fret not. for the damsel is a wench and a whore! refer to my blog titled "fucken whores". But i have alot of respect for you wanting to take a chance and go for it. I think i am 1 for 6 thus far. Dont think too much about it, you will have plenty of time to think when either she says yes or no. [joke] Good luck, im sure you will get a date or find out shes a whore. either way, its progress. [/joke] | ||
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geometryb
United States1249 Posts
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Holylight
Korea (South)460 Posts
On July 07 2008 07:47 {CC}StealthBlue wrote: I finally saw her and wasn't nervous at all but I couldn't think of something to say in order to ask her out. That and my mind went blank when thinking of a response to say if she had refused. I think too much. that sucks tt one thing ive noticed is that you dont even have to say anything special to a girl, just walk up to her and say whatever bullshit and she will not really listen to what you say but check you out go from there | ||
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Holylight
Korea (South)460 Posts
On July 07 2008 08:17 decafchicken wrote: 3 second rule Just start talking to her in 3 seconds. No if/ands/or buts. Wait for an opening, if you play your cards right you can probably get her to say "we should so do such and such!" So suppose you ask her if she wants to get some dinner. a) she says yes b) she puts you down gently. She's never going to say "ew get the fuck away from me". She'll probably say something that you'll be able to respond to, not just "NO." did you write The Game? | ||
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Holylight
Korea (South)460 Posts
On July 08 2008 03:13 itzme_petey wrote: you are brave man, braver than thou. if you ask'eth her and get rejected, fret not. for the damsel is a wench and a whore! refer to my blog titled "fucken whores". But i have alot of respect for you wanting to take a chance and go for it. I think i am 1 for 6 thus far. Dont think too much about it, you will have plenty of time to think when either she says yes or no. [joke] Good luck, im sure you will get a date or find out shes a whore. either way, its progress. [/joke] yeah um shes not a whore if she doesnt say yes theres probably something wrong with you if you think most women are whores | ||
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Kennigit
Canada19447 Posts
Someone must have been pressuring that point into decaf's brain for a while for it to come out just like that hahaha. | ||
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Kennigit
Canada19447 Posts
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MaRiNe23
United States747 Posts
On July 08 2008 03:50 Holylight wrote: yeah um shes not a whore if she doesnt say yes theres probably something wrong with you if you think most women are whores I'm guessing u just totally overlooked the "[joke]" part -_--- | ||
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Nitrogen
United States5345 Posts
On July 08 2008 03:50 Holylight wrote: yeah um shes not a whore if she doesnt say yes theres probably something wrong with you if you think most women are whores He even put joke tags there man... how can you miss that. | ||
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Romance_us
Seychelles1806 Posts
On July 08 2008 04:07 Nitrogen23 wrote: He even put joke tags there man... how can you miss that. LOL. I've noticed that Holylight takes everything literally. | ||
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decafchicken
United States20143 Posts
On July 08 2008 03:55 Kennigit wrote: Someone must have been pressuring that point into decaf's brain for a while for it to come out just like that hahaha. <3 | ||
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johnmaster
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HeadBangaa
United States6512 Posts
I am terrified of rejection, to be honest. The more I like her, the more terrified I am, too! I've seriously contemplated asking out fat chicks just for practice. Anyways, good luck to you sir. I'm not qualified to dish out advice on this, but Kennegit has some nice blogs.  | ||
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QuanticHawk
United States32122 Posts
On July 09 2008 07:32 HeadBangaa wrote: I've honestly never, ever asked a girl out. Luckily I haven't had to; they ask me. Oh, once I asked a girl if she wanted to upgrade our friendship, does that count? heh heh I am terrified of rejection, to be honest. The more I like her, the more terrified I am, too! I've seriously contemplated asking out fat chicks just for practice. Anyways, good luck to you sir. I'm not qualified to dish out advice on this, but Kennegit has some nice blogs. Pa-Pa-Pa-PuSSSSSSSSAYYYY!!!! =p Asking out girls is soooo high school. My last serious girlfriend was frosh year of college, gf free for 4 years, wooo | ||
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-orb-
United States5770 Posts
On July 09 2008 07:32 HeadBangaa wrote: I've honestly never, ever asked a girl out. Luckily I haven't had to; they ask me. Oh, once I asked a girl if she wanted to upgrade our friendship, does that count? heh heh I am terrified of rejection, to be honest. The more I like her, the more terrified I am, too! I've seriously contemplated asking out fat chicks just for practice. Anyways, good luck to you sir. I'm not qualified to dish out advice on this, but Kennegit has some nice blogs. Oh man you're doing yourself a disservice then. If you get asked out all the time and your fear of rejection isn't being handled it will just fester, and then when you want to ask a girl that hasn't approached you you might not be able to. Force yourself to. Rejection's really not that bad. Also if you do it on fat chicks they will not say no, so that's not a good practice of feeling what it's like to be rejected and accepting that it can happen once in a while. | ||
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HeadBangaa
United States6512 Posts
On July 09 2008 07:42 Hawk wrote: Pa-Pa-Pa-PuSSSSSSSSAYYYY!!!! =p Asking out girls is soooo high school. My last serious girlfriend was frosh year of college, gf free for 4 years, wooo I am a huge blubbering vagina, it's so true. Though I've mastered the art of leeching! Not a monogamist, Hawk? PLayerrr? | ||
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