Girl issues........scheise

On June 13 2008 12:58 Jibba wrote:
You can tell her that you like her as more than a friend or that you have feelings for her, but don't Don't DON'T say you love her.

On June 13 2008 13:20 mousey.rr wrote:
grab her boob

On June 13 2008 13:19 YanGpaN wrote:
Never tell her how you feel about her, thats like shooting your foot with a giant grenade launcher right there... It makes her lose interest in you UNCONSCIOUSLY... Before you told her that you "loved" her it'll keep her thinking about you, and you'll be always on her mind, and thats what creates attraction... Once you've gave in, and she knows that you like her a lot, she will definatly slowly lose interest in you, unless you guys plan on getting married or something... Why?
Have you ever wanted an MP3 player your friend had? once you got it after a while it doesn't seem so special anymore... Same principle here.

On top of all that, when you literally go up to a girl and say "i love you" what do you think is going on in the women's mind? She will probably be flattered at first, but as we all know once you get what you want, you don't really want it anymore. It also gives a message to her that you are a needy/desperate person asking for HER approval. You're giving the relationship on to her hands, and allowing her to decide if she wants to keep going with you, or not. Because you gave in first.

So basically don't say "i would like to be more than just friends with you"... makes you look so bad and you lose your manliness... You want her to chase you, and not the other way around. Girls play hard to get if they know you're interested in them.
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If you want to ask her out, i suggest you say something like "I'm going to the mall tomorrow, you should come, it'll be fun". This makes it look like that you have a life, and you are going to the mall with or without her, it also gives the message that you are not needy/desperate for her approval. By saying it this way, it gives her less pressure to either accept or decline your invitation, if she says something like "oh i'm sorry i have to go to my job at that time", then you can bust her by saying "Quit your job, its much more fun hanging with me", you'll come off as a confident and funny person.

If you ask her by saying "Do you want to go to the mall with me tomorrow?" this is giving off the message that again you are giving her the power to lead through the relationship, we know that no one is comfortable leading, and every girl wants a guy who can be a leader. It also makes you sound needy/lifeless/desperate. Are you not gonna carry out your plan if she doesn't want to come with you?

Good luck, if any questions pm me.

PS: if you ask what i wrote here to any girl, they'll deny what i'm saying its true, and they'll say that they'd love a guy to tell her that he wants more than just friends.

But if you take it to another level, and translate it a bit it'll be "Yes i'd love to have a new mp3 player"... Once she gets you to like her, and she know she did its all over, she'll no longer "want" you because she already has you.

On June 13 2008 14:05 Scorpion wrote:


Extremely true. I have been going out with my girlfriend for 21 days and I still don't believe I truly "love" her... If you say "I love you" extremely early into the relationship or before the relationship even starts it won't last long and it will just end up being a huge pile of drama.

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On June 13 2008 14:07 inlagdsil wrote:
I'm assuming that she is a friend of yours. In this case, I recommed a low-risk strategy. Invite her to go somewhere with you, but without making your feelings clear. She shouldn't be able to tell whether it is an outing bewteen friends or a date. Ask her to go someplace that isn't necessarily a typical date place (so no restaurants...). If you choose a movie, there must be some good reason why you aren't inviting anyone else. The place you choose should depend on her interests, and on yours. Hopefully you will have overlapping interests, the place should have to do with that. I can't be more specific with no information.
In this ambiguous situation, you must play by ear. If you feel like she is warming to you, try your luck, but if you are not confident enough, you can try again another time, you have not lost anything.
How to talk to her? Catch lines like "baby, you won't believe my APM with you tonight" or "just wait till you see how smoothely I can micro two controls groups at once" or "you lift off my command center" are not going to get you anywhere. There are a number of possibilities. If she doesn't do so first, you can inquire if this is actually a date. If she says no, all options are still open. If she says "I don't know", ask her if she wants it to be one. If she says "isn't it?", you've already won. That idea might be stupid though. Another approach is to tell her frankly that you have feelings for her, and that this is a great opportunity do talk to her about it. Do not make your feelings appear too strong, that will scare her away. Just imply some interest and lots of affection.

Good luck getting your probe into her assimilator...

On June 13 2008 14:11 Jibba wrote:

WOWWOWOWOW

Usually you know after the first 5-6 days whether you love someone.

On June 13 2008 14:14 Jibba wrote:
Somebody hit me with a facepalm.

On June 13 2008 14:04 {CC}StealthBlue wrote:
I'm curious as to what you should say if a girl says no?

On June 13 2008 14:05 Scorpion wrote:


Extremely true. I have been going out with my girlfriend for 21 days and I still don't believe I truly "love" her... If you say "I love you" extremely early into the relationship or before the relationship even starts it won't last long and it will just end up being a huge pile of drama.

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