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Girl advice, a very confusing situation
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letsbefree
Canada123 Posts
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LegendaryDreams
Canada1350 Posts
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ProTech_MediC
United States498 Posts
You can never be "just friends" with her. In fact, I don't believe that any heterosexual male is ever "just friends" with a female. It's in our nature to want to have sex with them. Deeeep inside I think everyone knows this  | ||
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demonic_phate
United States442 Posts
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Luddite
United States2315 Posts
On April 04 2008 12:00 demonic_phate wrote: and out of nowhere han solo jumps into the conversation Haha, yeah, it would suck if Han Solo stole your girl. | ||
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letsbefree
Canada123 Posts
 Btw LOL my name is actually Han LMAO | ||
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YPang
United States4024 Posts
On April 04 2008 12:00 demonic_phate wrote: and out of nowhere han solo jumps into the conversation LOL! Anyways the reason why she is "only friends" is because that you are too nice; and you didn't want to act like that you wanted to go for a relationship when you first met. Once you're in the friendship zone is hard to get out to relationship imo... BTW: I think that you can talk your parents out of their thinking of "No dating in high school" I know some asian parents are really strict about their child's studies, hell my parents wouldn't let me even play SC during weekends. What made them suprised is that my neighbor who had a relationship, and still managed to get full on ACT really suprised my parents... I dunno maybe you can try and provide some samples that getting a relationship don't affect your studies. Like maybe "secretly"(tho i don't know how its possilbe) date for a few weeks. Then see if your grades are changed, if not tell your parents that you had a relationship for the past few weeks and your grades wasn't affected.. :/ | ||
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Orome
Switzerland11984 Posts
I'll write you some advice later if I have the time letsbefree, but basically, yes, you have a chance at her. If you want her, go get her tiger. | ||
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Aux1
United States780 Posts
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YPang
United States4024 Posts
On April 04 2008 12:40 Aux1 wrote: sorry, but you are currently mayor of the friend zone with the girl, the outlook doesnt look too good if you try to pursue a romantic relationship with her. the right time to strike would have been when she was sad and vulnerable. You can make her vulnerable by making her laugh  ... I dunno about you but i think people will generally agree and are more out going when they are laughing oO. | ||
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Aux1
United States780 Posts
On April 04 2008 12:44 YanGpaN wrote: You can make her vulnerable by making her laugh ... I dunno about you but i think people will generally agree and are more out going when they are laughing oO.this doesnt make much sense to me, some girls might be attracted to humor but some arent also, and just because a girl is laughing doesnt mean she is emotionally vulnerable at all. | ||
Jibba
United States22883 Posts
It all started when I met this girl, Christina. I have two classes with her right now, in grade 11. And slowly we became really good friends. However, she had a boyfriend not long ago and when they broke up she was devastated. I did my best to comfort her and now she seems pretty much ok. I stopped reading right there. Ok, no I didn't, but I already knew what I was going to say at that point!Sorry.  GODDAMNIT GUYS, stop with the stereotypical oversimplistic advice everyone on the internet seems to believe. It's doable, but 99% of the time I believe it involves disappearing from their life and "reinventing" yourself, at which point you might as well just find someone new unless they're REALLY special. Best way to forget about her while still being her friend is to be with someone else. | ||
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werd
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there are a million of her, and only one of you. her loss she doesn't want to be with a cool starcraft loving guy as yourself. so move onto new prospects (better ones). if she sees you with other girls she might change her mind about you. or.... have her be your friend, then get her to hook you up with her friends. shell talk you up etc and its easy at that point. just remember if all you are is friendly and nice, then why would she expect something else from you? you must make it clear your intentions. do this by touching (start small), and escalate till shes dying to stick her tongue down your throat. | ||
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Deleted User 3420
24492 Posts
you can forget about her when high school is over | ||
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iLjh
United States160 Posts
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decafchicken
United States20063 Posts
On April 04 2008 12:24 Orome wrote: GODDAMNIT GUYS, stop with the stereotypical oversimplistic advice everyone on the internet seems to believe. I'll write you some advice later if I have the time letsbefree, but basically, yes, you have a chance at her. If you want her, go get her tiger. lolololol at over optimism 100% guarenteed he can't get with her edit: what exactly is your question letsbefree? and yea So yeah, that's basically what we talked about. And now, i dunno what to do. I really really like her, and I don't want to forget about her. But from the way she talked, it seemed like it's the only solution. In my own opinion, I've decided to continue to be there for her as a friend, and I will always be opened to her whenever she feels that we are both ready. I really don't know if this is the best choice guys >_<, hope you can help me out here... you can just keep crushing on her till the summer when you forget about her, or she gets a bf, etc etc. "decided to be there as her friend" im interpreting as you think you still have a chance and are going to be her tool. And she will never feel you're both ready. unless she's very drunk and very vulnerable p.s. her ex bf sounds like a giant tool. | ||
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Rev0lution
United States1805 Posts
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SalvGG
Canada67 Posts
On April 04 2008 12:17 YanGpaN wrote: LOL! Anyways the reason why she is "only friends" is because that you are too nice; and you didn't want to act like that you wanted to go for a relationship when you first met. Once you're in the friendship zone is hard to get out to relationship imo... BTW: I think that you can talk your parents out of their thinking of "No dating in high school" I know some asian parents are really strict about their child's studies, hell my parents wouldn't let me even play SC during weekends. What made them suprised is that my neighbor who had a relationship, and still managed to get full on ACT really suprised my parents... I dunno maybe you can try and provide some samples that getting a relationship don't affect your studies. Like maybe "secretly"(tho i don't know how its possilbe) date for a few weeks. Then see if your grades are changed, if not tell your parents that you had a relationship for the past few weeks and your grades wasn't affected.. :/ I know this person and YanGPan has no experience in this regard. Yangpan is simple Relationship-crafting. | ||
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YPang
United States4024 Posts
On April 04 2008 13:30 SalvGG wrote: I know this person and YanGPan has no experience in this regard. Yangpan is simple Relationship-crafting. no you don't, stfu go back to your hole.. | ||
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Orome
Switzerland11984 Posts
On April 04 2008 12:50 Jibba wrote: It's doable, but 99% of the time I believe it involves disappearing from their life and "reinventing" yourself, at which point you might as well just find someone new unless they're REALLY special. Best way to forget about her while still being her friend is to be with someone else. Of course it involves reinventing yourself, but for one thing that's not as hard as you make it out to be and for another, are you really trying to tell someone who's in love (yes, I'm assuming he's really in love, I don't like spitting on others' feelings) to just drop the girl and forget about her? | ||
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decafchicken
United States20063 Posts
On April 04 2008 13:56 Orome wrote: Of course it involves reinventing yourself, but for one thing that's not as hard as you make it out to be and for another, are you really trying to tell someone who's in love (yes, I'm assuming he's really in love, I don't like spitting on others' feelings) to just drop the girl and forget about her? 1) Reinventing yourself as a junior in HS is easy? 2) Very few people are actually "in love" at his age. Its more than likely a crush. 3) And yes, it would be best if he could just move on. | ||
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Zeller
United States1109 Posts
On April 04 2008 14:08 decafchicken wrote: 1) Reinventing yourself as a junior in HS is easy? 2) Very few people are actually "in love" at his age. Its more than likely a crush. 3) And yes, it would be best if he could just move on. agreed move on brotha , it aint easy , do your best to grasp the concept that high school is a very tiny part of your life , you will meet a lot of girls in your lifetime , whether u try or not , shit sucks but you know and i know it , she will never like you that way | ||
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Zalfor
United States1035 Posts
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Fen
Australia1848 Posts
http://www.laddertheory.com/ Here it is, have a read. Unfortuantly, you exist on the friends ladder. | ||
lilsusie
3861 Posts
It's tough, but forgetting about her would be the best course to take. | ||
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decafchicken
United States20063 Posts
On April 04 2008 19:22 lilsusie wrote: No girl as an 11th grader even knows what she wants, she wants what society tells her to want. You seem better off just forgetting about her and moving on (as everyone else wrote). Especially at that age, yeah, you're stuck just being her friend because that's all she'll see you as. You're THAT guy, the one she can complain and bitch and moan to, the one she says "where are all the nice guys?!!?" to - but it'll be pretty hard for you to actually become her man in shining armor because she has already categorized you. It's tough, but forgetting about her would be the best course to take. holy shit a girl posting in a girl advice thread that i actually agree with. | ||
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