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Heyyy guys, recentlyy i've been thinking about a lot of stuff, and there's one thing that stands out in my mind that i hope you guys can give me some advice about:
--> One of my best friends got depressed recently because her boyfriend was being a jackass and treating her like shit. But she loves himm but was planning to break up with him (awkward don't ask). Two days ago, something happened that made me raise my eyebrows: she came to mee in the morning at school and said they broke up, soo you know..i'm a normal guy, and i care for her alott, soo i tried to comfort her and gave her a hug and that was that. But thenn during lunch on the same day, she came up to me all happy and said they got back together ( i was like WTF??? sympathy-stealer! ). ANd they decided to get back together and give it another shot.
--> The thing is, I care and love her! (but not in THAT way, at least not yet). I knoww you guys might be "tskking" me right noww but plz understand how these feelings work. I'm not the type of people to steal girlfriends or anything, but seeing how he is always a jerk makes me angry. Also seeing them together gets me a bit jealous, and it hurts me to see her depressed. So what should i do guys??? =( , what should i say or do next time they try to break up??
 
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There are something you don't understand, why do you think she loves her although he's a jerk?
he is able to provide her emotions, girls are not made by logic, they are illogical a lot of times.
Do you want her to feel attraction by you? don't judge this, just try it: bust her balls, complain about her, it will spark attraction, but if you act like a FRIENDS she will see you as a friend, and she will ever see you as a friend.
Stop being predictable!
IF she wants to tell you his problems again, tell her:Fire her as your therapy patient.
If a woman ever starts talking about her boyfriend or problems, stop her and say, "Heyyyyyy,
wait a minute here. If you want therapy, that will be $200 per hour, and I have a two hour minimum.
And it will have to be later, because I'm enjoying my dinner (or what every you are doing) right now".
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On February 10 2008 15:25 letsbefree wrote:
Heyyy guys, recentlyy i've been thinking about a lot of stuff, and there's one thing that stands out in my mind that i hope you guys can give me some advice about:
--> One of my best friends got depressed recently because her boyfriend was being a jackass and treating her like shit. But she loves himm but was planning to break up with him (awkward don't ask). Two days ago, something happened that made me raise my eyebrows: she came to mee in the morning at school and said they broke up, soo you know..i'm a normal guy, and i care for her alott, soo i tried to comfort her and gave her a hug and that was that. But thenn during lunch on the same day, she came up to me all happy and said they got back together ( i was like WTF??? sympathy-stealer! ). ANd they decided to get back together and give it another shot.
--> The thing is, I care and love her! (but not in THAT way, at least not yet). I knoww you guys might be "tskking" me right noww but plz understand how these feelings work. I'm not the type of people to steal girlfriends or anything, but seeing how he is always a jerk makes me angry. Also seeing them together gets me a bit jealous, and it hurts me to see her depressed. So what should i do guys??? =( , what should i say or do next time they try to break up??
a) girls like jerks
b) you're a tool
c) if she gets depressed over a middle school relationship, she's a feeble minded creature you dont want to know.
d) you dont love her
e) you do have a crush on her, i'd recommend moving on
f) next time the break up, dont do shit because you dont have a chance
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decafchicken; the harsh voice of virgin dating advice.
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On February 11 2008 05:49 fanatacist wrote:
decafchicken; the harsh but true voice of virgin dating advice.
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pretty much decafchiken nailed it
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+ Show Spoiler +(1) If you have certain affections for the girl, don't ever EVER swear or talk bad about someone else around her.
(2) If the girl talks to you willingly, make eye contact and smile. Don't turn away or look at the ground, show the girl that you are confident and worthwhile.
(3) Don't be a nagging bastard and bother her all the time. Occasionally say hi, but don't ever hang around her too much cuz sooner or later she'll get annoyed at you!
(4) Of course, have mints or gum just in case!
(5) Make sure you smell good. Don't go to school or something smelling like crap and dirty laundry. Beware of over-use of AXE!
(6) Make sure your hair is tidy: not oily, not messed-up, not over-use of gel, not too emo either.
(7) Be nice and friendly. Not just to her, but to her friends as well. Be considerate, and be willing to talk to her and comfort her when the occasion arises.
(8) Don't be a whore and flirt with like...10 other girls. Act innocent, even if you have urges to not do so.
(9) PLZ PLZ PLZ have some sort of talent!! (not trying to be harsh) Girls often find guys attractive if they are good at something (except good at schoolwork cuz that's boring!)
(10) PLZ no dry-skin. Have facial cleanliness, and take shower EVERYDAY! =)
(11) Occasionally give her a gift of surprise. Do something special on certain occasions, such as her birthday or heck...christmas or whenever.
(12) Don't be self-obsessive and talk only about yourself. Be willing to listen. Occasionally pop in something like.. " i miss you" or something (even if it's not true). But over-use of the same phrase will make it less meaningful.
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On February 11 2008 11:07 SpiritoftheTuna wrote:Show nested quote ++ Show Spoiler +(1) If you have certain affections for the girl, don't ever EVER swear or talk bad about someone else around her.
(2) If the girl talks to you willingly, make eye contact and smile. Don't turn away or look at the ground, show the girl that you are confident and worthwhile.
(3) Don't be a nagging bastard and bother her all the time. Occasionally say hi, but don't ever hang around her too much cuz sooner or later she'll get annoyed at you!
(4) Of course, have mints or gum just in case!
(5) Make sure you smell good. Don't go to school or something smelling like crap and dirty laundry. Beware of over-use of AXE!
(6) Make sure your hair is tidy: not oily, not messed-up, not over-use of gel, not too emo either.
(7) Be nice and friendly. Not just to her, but to her friends as well. Be considerate, and be willing to talk to her and comfort her when the occasion arises.
(8) Don't be a whore and flirt with like...10 other girls. Act innocent, even if you have urges to not do so.
(9) PLZ PLZ PLZ have some sort of talent!! (not trying to be harsh) Girls often find guys attractive if they are good at something (except good at schoolwork cuz that's boring!)
(10) PLZ no dry-skin. Have facial cleanliness, and take shower EVERYDAY! =)
(11) Occasionally give her a gift of surprise. Do something special on certain occasions, such as her birthday or heck...christmas or whenever.
(12) Don't be self-obsessive and talk only about yourself. Be willing to listen. Occasionally pop in something like.. " i miss you" or something (even if it's not true). But over-use of the same phrase will make it less meaningful.
GFG
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On February 11 2008 12:32 XCetron wrote:
whats GFG mean?
guoted for gruth
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On February 11 2008 12:53 SpiritoftheTuna wrote:guoted for gruth
Goat Farmers Group
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On February 11 2008 12:32 XCetron wrote:
whats GFG mean?
Greg Fucked Grace
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On February 11 2008 12:32 XCetron wrote:
whats GFG mean?
Good Fucking Game.
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On February 11 2008 13:02 decafchicken wrote:Greg Fucked Grace
hahah winner
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Sort of ironic that you posted dating advice a few days ago, and now ask advice. Not a bad thing necessarily, but sort of amusing. I don't mean to be mean in making this observation.
My thinking on your situation is that she is obviously bound up with this fellow, emotionally speaking. I know how it is - I once broke up with a girlfriend I really cared about, and it tore me up. Even though I thought it best that we separate, I couldn't stop thinking about her, so within a week I took her back. So this girl you know is probably having similar issues. She may be really torn about the whole thing, feeling hurt or neglected by the jackass BF, but she may also love him at the same time, however nonsensical that may appear from the outside.
She is way unstable, and even if she breaks up, she is probably not in a place where it would be wise to start seeing her romantically, since she may only change her mind again in no time, or else may end up regretting getting with you since it isn't what she would do in a more stable frame of mind.
Essentially I'm just saying that it's a pretty damn turbulent situation, and you'd do better to just be a friend to her and meanwhile look for other women. There are plenty of them out there that would adore you and whom you could be very happy with.
Just be supportive. People sometimes have to make really stupid mistakes to learn, and that may be true of her present relationship.
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