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ahoy
im pretty impressed that im writing this right now ...
basic infos:
my last GF (lets call her Felicity) was a chinese exchange student, who lives on the other end of germany now (like 700km inbetween us). we have been together for like 5month. she went psycho occasionally with stuff like "marry me" or "i want your babies" ...
we just graduated from university during that time, totally not the time to marry or have kids (for me atleast), especially not so damn early. so i broke up with her 1yr ago.
now she is back knocking on my door (virtually via skype etc) and im not sure how to deal with her.
pro's:
i know her already
con's:
tends to freak out about useless stuff
cant maintain selfcontroll when it comes to eating / alcohol
sometimes very childish
so righti now she siad when she finish her master this oct, she will try to move closer to me. on the other side she is 80% sure she will go back to china in feb or march 14.
her only reason to stay might be a save job or marriage, so she gets german citizenship
And now there seems to be another girl ... also chinese (i wonder why only chinese are attracted to me). We call her Kerrigan, she is a fully graduated engineer and does some additional internship at my uni. i met her like 2weeks ago. since then she is dropping some hints here and there that she really likes me. and she is living just on the other side of the road.
pro's:
want to stay in germany
seems not to be psycho (so far)
got more selfdiscipline regarding alcohol and such
con's:
havent found any yet
not sure how to deal with this, since there is still some connection with Felicity (might just be the wish for some matress closecombat). Kerrigan seems more grownup, so far. and since she is more disciplined her shape is really nice ...
the problem i see is, that Felicity might move closer to me, no matter what i say. so she might stalk me and i cant connect with Kerrigan than.
any ideas or sth like that?
  
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Given the pro's and con's that you've written, it seems like a very tough choice.
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Kerrigan > Being Single > Terran > Felicity
are you seriously considering not trying to get the girl you really want because "Felicity might stalk me" o_O
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concerning love, don't go for the save road. if you just "choose" one option over another because you feel it is less risky you will be stuck with someone you don't 100% want to be with and it will end badly.
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Pandemona
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her only reason to stay might be a save job or marriage, so she gets German citizenship
Be careful!! Sounds to me she is targeting you for that reason! She wants a baby, so she gets citizenship. She wants marriage because she gets citizenship. Pretty much what im getting from this.
So stay away from Felicity unless you want your sexy times for a few months before she goes away. Or play Zerg hardcore and try and make some moves on Kerrigan!
IMO, i would go with Kerrigan and try and have fun with her, as she seems like your first choice so to say. Felicity is clearly just a sex all the time woop woop relationship xD
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If you call her Kerrigan, you go with Kerrigan, simple as that.
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On September 19 2013 21:09 Pandemona wrote:
IMO, i would go with Kerrigan and try and have fun with her, as she seems like your first choice so to say. Felicity is clearly just a sex all the time woop woop relationship xD
thats a quite accurate summary i think
On September 19 2013 21:41 Stratos wrote:
If you call her Kerrigan, you go with Kerrigan, simple as that.
well, i played zerg before i stopped with SC2, so i gues Kerrigan gets another point
ok, seems that the general tenor is:
ask kerrigan and mb she lets me play with her creep-tumors.
dodge Felicity to avoid scenes a la shining where she knocks my doors with an axe and yells "heeeeeere's Felicity"
i also asked my personal witchdoctor, well his response was oooh, look at it go ... i gues he is right.
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On September 19 2013 21:06 Fishgle wrote:
Kerrigan > Being Single > Terran > Felicity
are you seriously considering not trying to get the girl you really want because "Felicity might stalk me" o_O
lol
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On September 19 2013 21:06 Fishgle wrote:
Kerrigan > Being Single > Terran > Felicity
are you seriously considering not trying to get the girl you really want because "Felicity might stalk me" o_O
Hahahahaha, win. Next blog please, we are done here.
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On September 19 2013 20:37 Rodberd wrote:
pro's:
i know her already
That says it all really. If familiarity is the best you could come up for pros of dating her, it sounds like you shouldn't. If you like the second girl, ask her out and see where that leads. Oh, and it does sound a bit like your ex just wants to use you to obtain rights to remain in Germany. That's never a solid foundation for a relationship.
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Let's move on to something that isn't quite as obvious as the choices in your case- why are only Chinese women attracted to you?
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On September 20 2013 00:02 Monsen wrote:
Let's move on to something that isn't quite as obvious as the choices in your case- why are only Chinese women attracted to you?
Or rather, why is OP attracted to Chinese women?
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She's trying to get you to impregnate her so she can stay. Just stay away from the trap and hang out with the normal girl, which you said was hot.
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On September 20 2013 00:02 Monsen wrote:
Let's move on to something that isn't quite as obvious as the choices in your case- why are only Chinese women attracted to you?
On September 20 2013 00:02 Monsen wrote:
Let's move on to something that isn't quite as obvious as the choices in your case- why are only Chinese women attracted to you?
Or rather, why is OP attracted to Chinese women?[/QUOTE]
thats pretty easy to answer.
since im/i was something like a studybuddy or supervisor for chinese students at my uni i have lot of contact to them.
the funny part is (not even bragging about this) i dont do anything, they come to me ...
sometimes they do it very sneaky sometimes a bit more obvious
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Chinese girls, just swarming the German men. What do.
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Do NOT go for Felicity! She's very likely to be one of those people that always seek out drama in a relationship... or create it. There are good odds she's going to fly into a marriage with you, make you miserable for a few years and then break up. She might also just be doing this for the citizenship.
Go for the other gal. You actually haven't found a reason to not go for her.
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you guys are right.
so far there is no reason not to go for kerrigan.
and as if she heard it, i met her this afternoon and she wants to invite mo to dinenr and cook sth chinese for me \o/
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kerrigan.
the other felicity person is just looking to get a way out.
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Now, since we're such good friends and all, Rodberd, Imma help you out here. This Felicity girl sounds like she's got a lot of extra baggage, both physically and physically. You say she has no self-control over her eating. From this we can assume she's chubby. She's either possessed by a hungry demon, or she doesn't love you enough to remain attractive for you. She thinks you'll settle for her ugliness because you can't get any better! Are you just going to sit here and take this abuse? Rodberd, how long have we known each other? We both know she's not the girl for you. She wants to get married and have your children so that she can spread her web of ugly upon the world. Is that what you want Rodberd? Do you want little Rodberds running around and procreating and making the rest of the world slightly less pretty?
Go with Kerrigan. She's got no cons in her con list.
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On September 20 2013 03:04 Rodberd wrote:
you guys are right.
so far there is no reason not to go for kerrigan.
and as if she heard it, i met her this afternoon and she wants to invite mo to dinenr and cook sth chinese for me \o/
well that pretty much sums that up, minus the potential random psycho episodes every girl gets at some point and Kerrigan could have at the wrong time (not trying to freak you out though, it's probably not gonna happen). if the girl invites YOU home to dinner at HER place... well i don't even know how to end this, that's just fuckin awesome. i wish that would happen to me.
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On September 19 2013 21:06 Fishgle wrote:
Kerrigan > Being Single > Terran > Felicity
Awesome.
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One of my coworker's son just married a Chinese exchange student that was working on her 3rd masters and couldn't get a job/visa so I bet him lunch he's going to be a grandpa by next year!
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Dayum OP is such a chinese chick magnet o_O
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might just be the wish for some matress closecombat
5 stars for this line alone, it made me laugh at work, well played.
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On September 20 2013 08:38 Epishade wrote:
Now, since we're such good friends and all [im glad you reminded me of that, didnt even know ^^], Rodberd, Imma help you out here. This Felicity girl sounds like she's got a lot of extra baggage, both physically and physically [so she is double fat?]. You say she has no self-control over her eating. From this we can assume she's chubby [indeed, wasnt much 1yr ago, but sounds like she got more weight since than]. She's either possessed by a hungry demon, or she doesn't love you enough to remain attractive for you. She thinks you'll settle for her ugliness because you can't get any better! Are you just going to sit here and take this abuse? Rodberd, how long have we known each other? [we kn ow each other for so long already ... like since i posted this blog ^^] We both know she's not the girl for you. She wants to get married and have your children so that she can spread her web of ugly upon the world. Is that what you want Rodberd? Do you want little Rodberds running around and procreating and making the rest of the world slightly less pretty?
Go with Kerrigan. She's got no cons in her con list.
On September 20 2013 14:25 Myrddraal wrote:
might just be the wish for some matress closecombat
5 stars for this line alone, it made me laugh at work, well played.
a good laughter a day keeps the doctor away 
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You might want to make sure if she's the Queen of Blades before going too far. That shit can come back to haunt you.
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On September 20 2013 18:56 FuRong wrote:
You might want to make sure if she's the Queen of Blades before going too far. That shit can come back to haunt you.
That and don't try to deinfest her or she'll get very angry!
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On September 20 2013 03:04 Rodberd wrote:
you guys are right.
so far there is no reason not to go for kerrigan.
and as if she heard it, i met her this afternoon and she wants to invite mo to dinenr and cook sth chinese for me \o/
We don't know any of them, we don't know who you are, what suits you and what are your tastes and you expect good advice?
Don't have, like, a real friend who knows you and them to help you with advice? I mean, choosing between two girls by asking on a video gamer forum, that doesn't make any damn sense to me.
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On September 20 2013 21:54 Biff The Understudy wrote:Show nested quote +On September 20 2013 03:04 Rodberd wrote:
you guys are right.
so far there is no reason not to go for kerrigan.
and as if she heard it, i met her this afternoon and she wants to invite mo to dinenr and cook sth chinese for me \o/ We don't know any of them, we don't know who you are, what suits you and what are your tastes and you expect good advice? Don't have, like, a real friend who knows you and them to help you with advice? I mean, choosing between two girls by asking on a video gamer forum, that doesn't make any damn sense to me.
Gtfo. This is a TL Girlblog. It's doesn't have to make sense, it has to entertain, dummy.
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All bitches be crazy, just a question of what they get crazy about. From your description as most people have suggested, Kerrigan would be the way to go. I would pose the caveat of maybe slow playing it until Felicity is done gone back to China, if she's crazy about you and you're misguided in thinking she wants citizenship and whatnot, you could have quite the drama llama on your hands.
GL HF DD MB
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Plot twist: Few years later, once you've bitten the bait - Kerrigan will spring the trap and reveals herself as the Queen Felicity of the Universe.
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On September 20 2013 21:54 Biff The Understudy wrote:Show nested quote +On September 20 2013 03:04 Rodberd wrote:
you guys are right.
so far there is no reason not to go for kerrigan.
and as if she heard it, i met her this afternoon and she wants to invite mo to dinenr and cook sth chinese for me \o/ We don't know any of them, we don't know who you are, what suits you and what are your tastes and you expect good advice? Don't have, like, a real friend who knows you and them to help you with advice? I mean, choosing between two girls by asking on a video gamer forum, that doesn't make any damn sense to me.
sometimes its better to ask random strangers about some ideas since ppl who know you already might be not as objective and/or could try to do you a favor.
so since you dont know who felicity or kerrigan are and dont know anything about me, this might lead to more objective advices than a real friend.
(and the entertainment for the TL-com is higher, just imagine this forum without girlblogs ...)
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On September 21 2013 00:52 Rodberd wrote:Show nested quote +On September 20 2013 21:54 Biff The Understudy wrote:On September 20 2013 03:04 Rodberd wrote:
you guys are right.
so far there is no reason not to go for kerrigan.
and as if she heard it, i met her this afternoon and she wants to invite mo to dinenr and cook sth chinese for me \o/ We don't know any of them, we don't know who you are, what suits you and what are your tastes and you expect good advice? Don't have, like, a real friend who knows you and them to help you with advice? I mean, choosing between two girls by asking on a video gamer forum, that doesn't make any damn sense to me. sometimes its better to ask random strangers about some ideas since ppl who know you already might be not as objective and/or could try to do you a favor. so since you dont know who felicity or kerrigan are and dont know anything about me, this might lead to more objective advices than a real friend. (and the entertainment for the TL-com is higher, just imagine this forum without girlblogs ...)
Agreed. Objective opinions are a key here. ^^
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so,
i give you guys a little update.
found a point that keeps me a bit worried.
she seems to be quite an active christian, like go to church every sunday and study the bible atleast once per week.
have to see how much that affects her normal day behavior and such.
but it keeps my busy since im 100% atheist and this might cause some trouble i think.
however, i asked her out (more or less) on wednesday. its basicly just take a walk together during dawn-time.
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How is this even a question?
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On September 20 2013 07:00 nosliw wrote:
chinese food is good
Yes . Especially when its still hot.
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On September 23 2013 15:52 Rodberd wrote:
so,
i give you guys a little update.
found a point that keeps me a bit worried.
she seems to be quite an active christian, like go to church every sunday and study the bible atleast once per week.
have to see how much that affects her normal day behavior and such.
but it keeps my busy since im 100% atheist and this might cause some trouble i think.
however, i asked her out (more or less) on wednesday. its basicly just take a walk together during dawn-time.
yep you would probably have a lot of problems later .. i say go for Felicity .. she might seem not worth it but she is actually worth a shot .. especially you already know her .. and you can never be sure of kerrigan
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On September 20 2013 23:33 Monsen wrote:Show nested quote +On September 20 2013 21:54 Biff The Understudy wrote:On September 20 2013 03:04 Rodberd wrote:
you guys are right.
so far there is no reason not to go for kerrigan.
and as if she heard it, i met her this afternoon and she wants to invite mo to dinenr and cook sth chinese for me \o/ We don't know any of them, we don't know who you are, what suits you and what are your tastes and you expect good advice? Don't have, like, a real friend who knows you and them to help you with advice? I mean, choosing between two girls by asking on a video gamer forum, that doesn't make any damn sense to me. Gtfo. This is a TL Girlblog. It's doesn't have to make sense, it has to entertain, dummy.
Hmmm...
Anger management issues much?
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On October 02 2013 21:17 Biff The Understudy wrote:Show nested quote +On September 20 2013 23:33 Monsen wrote:On September 20 2013 21:54 Biff The Understudy wrote:On September 20 2013 03:04 Rodberd wrote:
you guys are right.
so far there is no reason not to go for kerrigan.
and as if she heard it, i met her this afternoon and she wants to invite mo to dinenr and cook sth chinese for me \o/ We don't know any of them, we don't know who you are, what suits you and what are your tastes and you expect good advice? Don't have, like, a real friend who knows you and them to help you with advice? I mean, choosing between two girls by asking on a video gamer forum, that doesn't make any damn sense to me. Gtfo. This is a TL Girlblog. It's doesn't have to make sense, it has to entertain, dummy. Hmmm... Anger management issues much?
Yeah. I'm sitting here seething with rage. My heart is racing and my frustration with not being able to cause you physical harm reaches unbearable heights. All this is reflected in me calling you "dummy". Glad you got that.
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i dont see a reason why you two hijack this thread for a pointless argument.
i think you can solve this via PM, or if you need more audience creat your own bash-blog, i even would donate some popcorn for the first page.
on topic update:
had 2 dates with Kerrigan so far and it has been really great.
felicity keeps lurking on skype but i reduced teh contact pretty much and keep hte conversations away from deep topics.
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On October 05 2013 06:57 Monsen wrote:Show nested quote +On October 02 2013 21:17 Biff The Understudy wrote:On September 20 2013 23:33 Monsen wrote:On September 20 2013 21:54 Biff The Understudy wrote:On September 20 2013 03:04 Rodberd wrote:
you guys are right.
so far there is no reason not to go for kerrigan.
and as if she heard it, i met her this afternoon and she wants to invite mo to dinenr and cook sth chinese for me \o/ We don't know any of them, we don't know who you are, what suits you and what are your tastes and you expect good advice? Don't have, like, a real friend who knows you and them to help you with advice? I mean, choosing between two girls by asking on a video gamer forum, that doesn't make any damn sense to me. Gtfo. This is a TL Girlblog. It's doesn't have to make sense, it has to entertain, dummy. Hmmm... Anger management issues much? Yeah. I'm sitting here seething with rage. My heart is racing and my frustration with not being able to cause you physical harm reaches unbearable heights. All this is reflected in me calling you "dummy". Glad you got that.
Not angry, but you need to insult people out of nowhere. You might have some form of nerd turret. Good luck with that.
Hey Rodberd, just pick the one you like the best and stop thinking, or you gonna ruin it all.
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On October 06 2013 06:35 Biff The Understudy wrote:Show nested quote +On October 05 2013 06:57 Monsen wrote:On October 02 2013 21:17 Biff The Understudy wrote:On September 20 2013 23:33 Monsen wrote:On September 20 2013 21:54 Biff The Understudy wrote:On September 20 2013 03:04 Rodberd wrote:
you guys are right.
so far there is no reason not to go for kerrigan.
and as if she heard it, i met her this afternoon and she wants to invite mo to dinenr and cook sth chinese for me \o/ We don't know any of them, we don't know who you are, what suits you and what are your tastes and you expect good advice? Don't have, like, a real friend who knows you and them to help you with advice? I mean, choosing between two girls by asking on a video gamer forum, that doesn't make any damn sense to me. Gtfo. This is a TL Girlblog. It's doesn't have to make sense, it has to entertain, dummy. Hmmm... Anger management issues much? Yeah. I'm sitting here seething with rage. My heart is racing and my frustration with not being able to cause you physical harm reaches unbearable heights. All this is reflected in me calling you "dummy". Glad you got that. Not angry, but you need to insult people out of nowhere. You might have some form of nerd turret. Good luck with that.
I wish. I'd pay good money for a nerd turret.
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last update:
Kerrigan chose to follow the crown of thorns (aka jesus) and wont spend her time with non-believers like me
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On October 12 2013 22:11 Rodberd wrote:
last update:
Kerrigan chose to follow the crown of thorns (aka jesus) and wont spend her time with non-believers like me
Wow, that was a sudden change of direction. At least now you know I guess.
But don't let this force you to go back to Felicity, rather wait and find a girl who is willing to accept you for who you are and not likely to be putting the pressure on you so she can stay in the country.
I get that I make 'marrying for a passport' jokes all the time, but to actually put that pressure on someone is unfair and usually strains a relationship.
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there is no reason to go back to felicity.
for several reasons like her mental state or the huge distance.
but well, since terran and zerg are off the board now, i should start looking to find selendis so i pass all 3 races.
... well i wonder i have have to switch to random in the end ..
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sounds like she is out for a green card or what ever its calls in germany
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Yeah dude, just cut off the felicity chick, you don't sound crazy about her so just let it go and move on, you'll be glad you did
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