smh at everyone sliding over 1 fucking seat (ONE) ruining the OP's life and dreams. It would have made 0 impact on your movie viewing experience to slide over 1 seat. really. 1 seat. lmao.

QuanticHawk

United States32073 Posts

July 11 2013 04:23 GMT

#42

On July 11 2013 12:24 decafchicken wrote:
What the christ is wrong with you? It's literally no inconvenience for you three to shift over one seat so that they can sit down. This blog makes me sad in humanity.

well now, we probably don't know the whole story. that foot and a half makes a world of difference if the op looks like this

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Cubu

1171 Posts

July 11 2013 10:59 GMT

#43

america doesn't have rules about respecting older people like they do in asia, so you've done nothing wrong.

Frits

11782 Posts

July 11 2013 12:02 GMT

#44

Like decaf said, blogs like this make me lose faith in humanity, what the fuck is wrong with people. It's called common courtesy.

Telcontar

United Kingdom16710 Posts

July 11 2013 12:47 GMT

#45

On July 11 2013 19:59 Cubu wrote:
america doesn't have rules about respecting older people like they do in asia, so you've done nothing wrong.

How about the common courtesy of moving over 1 seat each so that fellow moviegoers can find places to park their behinds and watch the film they paid for?

Even if you (the OP) claim they were the best seats in the theater, would shifting over 1 place really ruin your experience? I guess I shouldn't be surprised at the 'me, me, me' culture of the youth today. Try a little thing called empathy the next time something like this comes your way.

SwizzY

United States1549 Posts

July 11 2013 13:30 GMT

#46

LOL thank you for the replies. Some were seriously hilarious. I think that we both (excluding the nephew because he didn't know wtf was going on) lacked alot of common courtesy in just moving over 1 seat.

If she came anytime before the movie started I would literally have 0 qualms with moving. Pretend it wasn't 10-15 min. into the movie. What about 30? 45? 1hr? What's your personal threshold for, "Damn this seat has the warmth of my ass and everything and I'm all settled in."
I personally wouldn't ask anyone to ever disturb themselves for my sake and that's just me. If I come 20 min. late to a movie and all that's left are the neck breakers, I'm taking it, regardless of whether it was my fault or not.

At the end of the day, this was just a simple question of was I in the wrong or was she. I didn't mention anything about the fact that I was already fucking pissed off because my 8-year old nephew was being a colossal brat to my friend (who was hosting us) and my friend being an antisocial guy that is actually extremely territorial (remember he is the one that straight up told them no). I didn't mention because I didn't think it was that important, but I see now that it left me open for some massive presumption circle jerk. I'm an asshole, but no more than the average guy. Thank you guys for your responses.

But yeah though. I'm still in that fucking seat typing this. It's that amazing of a spot.

QuanticHawk

United States32073 Posts

July 11 2013 13:34 GMT

#47

you're still in the seat?? why didnt you just say a hobo dude you shank a bitch for trying to jack your spot. street rules son

Butterednuts

United States859 Posts

July 11 2013 14:09 GMT

#48

It comes down to the policy that the theater has in place. I know that I have gone to some midnight screenings of some movies and the theater has been completely packed. I've heard them calling out for everyone to "scoot to the center seats so to accommodate everyone. If this was a case of lack of seats and you needed to move over so that she could sit down, then I would say that you are in the wrong.

However since this does not seem to be the case since she did find another seat, then I would say that you are in the right. Seats are first come, first served in this case. If you come in late to your movie, then you're going to have a hard time finding the seating you want. If your seat was that important to you, then you would have arrived earlier. She was just acting like a child and throwing a tantrum because you were not catering to her.

Brush it off as an isolated incident and don't worry about it. If she was honestly that upset, she would have taken it up with the manager of the business.

Liquid`Drone

Norway28678 Posts

July 11 2013 14:25 GMT

#49

I think from this very moment, you should, in every social encounter you have, try to view this situation from the point of view of the person you are interacting with. If someone requests something from you, try to compare how inconvenienced you will be by adhering to the request to how inconvenienced the other person will be by you not adhering.

In this scenario, you were asked to move one seat over. while you seem to retrospectively have done enough mental gymnastics to convince yourself that this would actually be an inconvenience for you through robbing you of the holy grail of cinema seats, in reality, it would not have been much if any inconvenience. compare this to this lady having to spend her date separated from her boyfriend by what appears to be three massive douches. While a cinema isn't really a scenario where they would talk much or whatever, maybe they would have you know, liked to hold hands, or shared drinks or candy with each other. What you guys did was basically massively inconveniencing someone else through no real benefit for yourself. It's fine to prioritize yourself over others. It is not fine to just be a jerk. You guys were plain and simple jerks.

And look at what the consequence was. She got pissed and threw a temper tantrum. Certainly they didn't enjoy the movie as much as they otherwise would have. But you guys ended up on the receiving end of her hissy fit, and because you're not actual sociopaths (you're just not sufficiently socially conscious), this affected you as well, and made it less enoyable for you - and the fact that you care is made self-evident by this blog. If you had just moved, she would most likely have smiled, said thank you, and everyone would have been happier, yourself included.

Just be nice.

kmpisces

United States50 Posts

July 12 2013 02:24 GMT

#50

I do not think I would take up more than the seats needed. But you did come early and it sound like she was coming too late. I am more of a passive person, so I probably would have moved or whatever I need to. I would not call you a jerk or anything though as someone said.

Slaughter

United States20254 Posts

July 12 2013 06:51 GMT

#51

If they came late and there were other open seats where they could have sat together then yes they were being kinda rude asking other people to move when they came 10 min into the film. They were also further rude by not dropping such a minor issue and shit talking/making a scene.

Your group also was mildly rude in the refusal and your buddy was rude in his abrupt response to their request. If your going to refuse something of that nature you should be polite or like Mani said, lie

Overall it was a simple situation of human interaction where both parties failed to follow socially "considerate" behavior and left both parties pissed at each other over something silly.

As for me, I would have given up the seat but for sure but I probably would have been very annoyed at someone late making me move when there were other open seats for them to sit together (even if they were front row, when your late you get whats left). I would also never ask people to move for my sake, in her situation I would have taken the front row seats and cursed myself for not getting there earlier.