Sounds like you were a dick to me. If you want perfect theatre viewing with no disruptions, build your own home theatre, otherwise, you act like a normal human being to other normal human beings.

Iyerbeth

England2410 Posts

July 10 2013 22:11 GMT

#22

If the cinema was so full that she had to ask someone to move so they could even sit down, and you didn't move because you believe you're more entitled to the seat than she is, then yes you are in the wrong. If she just wanted to sit near the middle and there were plenty of options (which it sounds like there weren't) then you were fine.

Qwyn

United States2779 Posts

July 10 2013 22:20 GMT

#23

Holy crap, does one seat over make even an ounce of difference? As a frequent movie-viewer myself I could care less WHAT seats I get, as long as they aren't in the very front. Side, middle, back, come on man it's not as if it makes an ounce of difference when all you're doing is sitting for 2 hours anyway. Hardly strenuous.

radscorpion9

Canada2252 Posts

July 10 2013 22:46 GMT

#24

Fundamentally...I don't think anyone has a responsibility to make others happy. So no one should be calling you a dick for not moving; you don't have to move for anyone and it doesn't make you a bad person. We can be nice to each other if we feel like it, and do things out of a sense of altruism, but it should never be mandatory that you do good things for other people. It would be akin to suggesting that if you don't wave hello to everyone who stops to wait at the same bus stop as you, you're a bad person. It would be more correct to say that you're morally neutral by keeping to yourself.

You could argue that in this case, by not moving, you are actually causing harm to another person. But I think its more correct to say that the lady caused harm to herself by coming into a movie 10 minutes late and expecting people to be nice to her by shuffling around to make room for her. I would think that's she's the insensitive person here. Even if coming late was not her fault, she shouldn't expect others to move for her and get angry when they don't. I certainly wouldn't, I would feel like an ass if I did, because I have no right to force people to move for me.

Much about this is subjective though. I think most people would feel better moving for someone else than they would in having the perfect seat at the theatre; so to them it would feel "wrong" not to move. But if the seats were really magical and you liked them, then I think what you did is perfectly fine.

AnachronisticAnarchy

United States2957 Posts

July 10 2013 22:50 GMT

#25

No one was in the clear in this situation. You guys were jerks for not moving over since you obviously don't need five seats and she was a jerk for making a massive scene and necroing the issue after the movie ended.
Next time, move over. Being early doesn't entitle you to good seats, it entitles you to a good seat. As in, the one you actually planted your ass on.

run.at.me

Australia550 Posts

July 10 2013 22:51 GMT

#26

Na brah stand your ground should have farted on her and pushed her down the stairs on the way out

Tobberoth

Sweden6375 Posts

July 10 2013 23:06 GMT

#27

I honestly can't understand why you didn't move over. "Uh, we were here 15 minutes ago, which is like, a really long time, so we won't move ONE FUCKING SEAT OVER to let you sit comfortably".

Read that sentence a few times and think about the situation. If you come to the conclusion that it was worth it, ask yourself why you go to a cinema which is so ridiculously badly designed that moving one seat makes any form of difference what so ever.

7mk

Germany10157 Posts

July 10 2013 23:26 GMT

#28

Here's how you find out that a movie is not worth buying on DVD:
If 30 minutes in you're thinking to yourself 'man I really would have preferred to sit 50 cm to the right' then it sucks and you shouldn't even torrent it

felisconcolori

United States6168 Posts

July 10 2013 23:46 GMT

#29

I thought you were wrong when you used the word "cinephiles". You only dug yourself deeper after that.

Remember this if you ever find yourself asking someone to move so you can sit down - you've already indicated that courtesy is not required.

Kotreb

Croatia1392 Posts

July 10 2013 23:48 GMT

#30

Meh, you didn't come up too shining from that situation, but i would've done the same thing. Age card is not something that i accept anymore. Besides, it's a dickwad move from her. Hey, i'm gonna come whenever the f i want and i'll just demand good seats. I support your decision.

edit: radscorpion9 worded it best.

SnipedSoul

Canada2158 Posts

July 10 2013 23:49 GMT

#31

You and your friends sure showed that old lady what for. I want to high five you so bad right now.

Corrupt61587

United States366 Posts

July 11 2013 01:25 GMT

#32

Long story short (this is the the only important part) you and your friends are assholes

LaNague

Germany9118 Posts

July 11 2013 01:33 GMT

#33

why are they the assholes when someone comes 10 minutes after the movie started, demanding people to switch seats just so they can sit with friends.
Its not like they could not find a seat, they just wanted better seats.

Well, i would probbaly have SHHHHHHHHD her.

DanLee

Canada316 Posts

July 11 2013 01:43 GMT

#34

On July 11 2013 05:25 Manifesto7 wrote:
You were a jerk for notmoving over and leading by example.
Your friend was a jerk for being abrupt with a woman who wants to find a seat in a tiny theatre.
The woman was a jerk for talking about the problem after sitting down, and giving you the deathglare afterwards.

All in all, stress was injected into a situation where you should have been having a good time, so much so that it probably took away from the movie a little bit, and caused you to dwell on it long enough that you wrote a blog. Take that stress out of your life man, it isn't worth it.

Moral of the story? Lie and tell her you have another friend coming who is running late.

He planned his DAY around finding those seats, his DAY manifesto. Are you really about to tell the man he is a jerk for not moving? His DAY...

Epishade

United States2267 Posts

July 11 2013 01:49 GMT

#35

^ I was agreeing with most of the replies in this thread until I saw that part (That LaNague posted). I missed it when I read the op. I didn't realize they came 10 minutes into the movie. That's rude and they shouldn't have even asked the op to move. They should have been courteous and just split up with the 3 seats in-between. Someone else said they should just be thankful to even see the movie. I agree. They don't have the privilege of sitting together when they come that late.

I personally still would have moved though, because it's still just one seat over.

-Kaiser-

Canada932 Posts

July 11 2013 01:57 GMT

#36

On July 11 2013 04:48 SwizzY wrote:

Show nested quote +

So it was a small theatre with an odd seating arrangement:
30 or so seats in the front space, then 3 rows of 5:
Screen
~30seats
Railing
StairsOOXXXWall Ramp to front <---- She ended up sitting here (O's)
Stairs_XXX_Wall Ramp to front <---- We were here
StairsXXXXXWall Ramp to front

Can't implement spacing so this is the best I can do, and then pretend the middle seat of the upper seating was perfectly in line with the screen and its borders. It was fucking magical seriously.

You guys are assholes.

zergnewb

United States816 Posts

July 11 2013 02:05 GMT

#37

There were other seats open. You guys are not required to move. It wasn't nice but it wasn't mean either. You guys would be assholes if you yelled at the lady or something. I say what you did was fine.

Manifesto7

Osaka27154 Posts

July 11 2013 02:19 GMT

#38

On July 11 2013 10:43 DanLee wrote:

Show nested quote +

He planned his DAY around finding those seats, his DAY manifesto. Are you really about to tell the man he is a jerk for not moving? His DAY...

Dude needs to find more shit to do haha.

brian

United States9629 Posts

July 11 2013 02:44 GMT

#39

This is mind blowing. In a packed theater, yes you all were being dicks. If you think you're such a 'cinephile' and need a particular seat you shouldn't be going at a busy time for so many different reasons. Not the least of which being you clearly don't know how to behave around people.

decafchicken

United States20074 Posts

July 11 2013 03:24 GMT

#40

What the christ is wrong with you? It's literally no inconvenience for you three to shift over one seat so that they can sit down. This blog makes me sad in humanity.