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My Addiction to Games and the Internet
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Rinny
United States616 Posts
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WarSame
Canada1950 Posts
Some examples of replacements: sports, working out, hanging out with friends, homework... eh, anyone else got any good ones to add? I'm looking for some, too haha. | ||
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Kalingingsong
Canada633 Posts
I don't know your exact situation, but I would make the following comments: The reason you are not having good habits in school is probably because you don't have a good system in place to manage your own behaviours. Most people who've just gone to college tend not to realize that their previous life in high school is actually based on a number of systems that they took for granted (eg, parents waking you up in the morning at a consistent time, consistent class schedules, consistent circle of friends etc), college tends to fuck everything up because it removes all these systems, so you need to develop a new system for yourself. I'm assuming you don't feel motivated about school, because if you are you'd probably doing more school work than playing games. The reason could be that you haven't quite figured out what you want to do with your life, so all the work you are doing feels pointless. If that is the case you have to sit down with yourself and truly try to figure out what motivates you and what you like to do. Once you see the work you are doing going somewhere, it's a lot easier to feel motivated. | ||
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Mothra
United States1448 Posts
On December 02 2012 09:08 WarSame wrote: Just a small bit of advice, it's great you are giving up the negative things in your life, but you NEED to find something to replace the time in your life with. Otherwise you'll find yourself continually dragged back to those activities. Some examples of replacements: sports, working out, hanging out with friends, homework... eh, anyone else got any good ones to add? I'm looking for some, too haha. Definitely this. Stay busy with non computer things otherwise there's no way you're just going to drop it. If not returning to school then work or volunteer, join activity groups etc. | ||
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Thrill
2599 Posts
On December 02 2012 08:37 Rinny wrote: During my freshman year of college I fell into a routine. I would go to class sometimes, come home to my dorm, then blow off schoolwork to smoke weed and play StarCraft until my work was due the next day at like 8:00 am whereupon I would do a shitty half assed job. The only reason I left my dorm at all was because my roommates were great guys who always included me in their activities and made me feel welcome at social things. I finished my fall semester with around a 2.6 GPA, which was inflated by my A in African American literature, a grade I earned despite forgetting to go to the final, something I realized eating a burrito stoned off my ass. My C- in calc 1 was probably a gift from my professor as my online grades showed a 68.9. My parents were upset of course, and I resolved to do better when I returned to school. I remember how optimistic I felt as I smoked a vaporizer in my friend’s dorm. I stayed up until 2 playing starcraft despite having an 8 am the next day, rationalizing It by thinking the excitement of the first day of class would get me out of bed and moving. I went to classes the next day after barely getting out of bed looking and feeling like shit. Eh... i believe your title leaves out an addiction. | ||
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banatboy
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cLAN.Anax
United States2847 Posts
On December 02 2012 09:08 WarSame wrote: Just a small bit of advice, it's great you are giving up the negative things in your life, but you NEED to find something to replace the time in your life with. Otherwise you'll find yourself continually dragged back to those activities. Some examples of replacements: sports, working out, hanging out with friends, homework... eh, anyone else got any good ones to add? I'm looking for some, too haha. This is so true. Refusing the bad is Step 1; but if you don't accept the/a good (the Step 2), you'll find other things to turn bad. I know what it's like. I still suffer Internet addiction too. The ones WarSame list are the big ones. Do your best to just do what's right. I find that when I stop and think and deliberate, I'm only wasting more time. Focus on simply doing the right thing. Ignore the excuses (SC2, Internet surfing, etc.) and just do the good stuff (schoolwork, exercise, friends, etc.).  | ||
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cwalk
United States26 Posts
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Desires
Canada63 Posts
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docvoc
United States5491 Posts
On December 02 2012 10:44 banatboy wrote: get a girl to replace that time you lost to games and w33d, spend time with friends IRL (go out drinking on saturdays), play ball after school. This is actually great advice. Girlfriends are known to take up a lot of time, hell mine does and I love every minute of it. It's a very good idea to A) build social relationships that take up your time from the bad stuff, note get to know the right people, not people like you used to be like; B) create new activities that can be video games and internet, but try to focus on working in the real world doing things you enjoy; C) just have fun with it, life is too short to suck up like you say you used to, don't repeat, don't threepeat, just make life a dream. | ||
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Fyodor
Canada971 Posts
Play Starcraft if your homework is done and it was too easy. Do it if you still have some fight in you after you're done with the difficult things that are good for you. You didn't waste your 5 years. Starcraft is a fine way to live as it rewards hard work with great emotions. What happened was that you gave priority to something which doesn't really help your long-term sustainability as far as money and relationships go. You're able to focus on stuff, you're able to learn complicated things. Just manage your time smarter and understand how activities fit together. Only participate in social internet (reddit, 4chan, TL) if you're between two activities or if your day of work is over and you're too tired to be focusing too much. You just have to take the leap of faith where you'll get worse at Starcraft but you'll get other things you want elsewhere. It can be scary to let go of the things that give you positive emotions but doing things like that is how you get a leg up on average people that are in the same state of discouragement as you are (or rather were). | ||
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meteorskunk
Canada546 Posts
Remember you can always improve your social skills. THey are not permanently the same. One can understnad how to interact with a bit of effort. The youtube channel "real social dynamics" might be a somewhat productive time sink for you?? Remember that addictions are often largely habits. Habits that you use to elevate your mood. REmember that there are habits that can empower you to elevate your mood with your own effort and that that is more wholesome that addiction. Remember that you cannot blame the objects of your addiction. You cannot say "ah screw this website, it hurts me". You cannot do that because it means you are not taking responsibility and if you do not have responsibility you are not empowered. Finally, i didn't here any mention of your efforts to improve your physical well-being, only your mentalwell being. Your physical well being ought to be priority. Drink water and watch what you eat! well... thats what i'd tell myself. HOpefully theres something useful in there if you look through. Good luck! thanks for sharing. | ||
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Heat_023
Canada160 Posts
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