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Everywhere we go, there are people. Everywhere we look, there are people. You walk down a street and you see hundreds of different people. Come back an hour later and you'll see another hundred that you've never seen before. All these people have unique individual traits. All of them are born with a completely unique set of skills. All of them excel at different things. All of them get to the same places by taking different routes. People function completely different from one another. But, they want to be something different.
They want to be the same.
Why when everyone is unique, do they strive to be the same. Why when people are blessed with being a completely new person in a world of billions, do they want to be like everyone else?
I am currently a sophomore in high school. And the way people act make me detest going to school with them.
They buy their shoes because their the "popular" brand. They buy their shirts because their the "popular" brand. They buy their pants because their the "popular" brand.
They want to fit in. They want to be "popular". They want to have people look up to them. They want people to respect them.
What people don't realize is that for people to look up to you, for them to respect you, you have to be able to show them that you are different. That you are unique. That you are an individual in this incredibly populated world.
The world we live in is full to the brim with people, and all of them are different. So why try to be the same?
 
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When you try to be different you run the risk of feeling alone.
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"Whereas those who sleep within the Matrix have the illusion of individual freedom... while being slaves to the worst aspects of collective consciousness, those who are truly free ultimately fight alone. Which is preferable? Our instincts tell us to be alone and aware, with the perhaps distant hope of building a community. Even if we fail at building it, or its goals are never revealed, we still know we have tried. We'd rather be alone- orphans- on our own terms than to be taken care of it is as slaves to a government or machine, or even an idea."(Fingeroth 71)”
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My philosophy is, don't try to be anything except yourself.
Be open to everything and willing to try anything but don't force yourself to like something just because you think you should or force yourself to hate something because it's popular and you don't want to feel like a sheep.
Do whatever, act however, and feel however comes the most naturally to you. For a lot of people, what comes naturally happens to be what comes naturally to everyone else. For some people, especially teenagers, who are insecure about their own self worth, they cling to stereotypes as a way of fitting in but that mentality is a normal part of growing up i think.
Eventually you get to a point where you truly stop caring what other people think, not because of some sort of self righteous attitude but simply because you eventually realize that people really don't care about you as much as you thought they did. Your weird habits and interests are yours and theirs are theirs.
In the end, we're all a little weird and we all sometimes follow the crowd because it's easy. In the end we're all the same, we're all individuals.
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On November 26 2012 14:32 ILuMiNaTe wrote:
Everywhere we go, there are people. Everywhere we look, there are people. You walk down a street and you see hundreds of different people. Come back an hour later and you'll see another hundred that you've never seen before. All these people have unique individual traits. All of them are born with a completely unique set of skills. All of them excel at different things. All of them get to the same places by taking different routes. People function completely different from one another. But, they want to be something different.
They want to be the same.
Why when everyone is unique, do they strive to be the same. Why when people are blessed with being a completely new person in a world of billions, do they want to be like everyone else?
I am currently a sophomore in high school. And the way people act make me detest going to school with them.
They buy their shoes because their the "popular" brand. They buy their shirts because their the "popular" brand. They buy their pants because their the "popular" brand.
They want to fit in. They want to be "popular". They want to have people look up to them. They want people to respect them.
What people don't realize is that for people to look up to you, for them to respect you, you have to be able to show them that you are different. That you are unique. That you are an individual in this incredibly populated world.
The world we live in is full to the brim with people, and all of them are different. So why try to be the same?
Think of life as a game. Like the game of starcraft II. And in starcraft II, we have thousands of people who want have a fantasy of becoming a progamer. But you know what? Not everyone will be that pro gamer. Because just because you want to be a progamer, doesn't make you a progamer. You need the mechanics, the strategies, the tactics, and pretty much the hard work of becoming a progamer. Just because you come up with creative, fun new builds that work at the platinum level, doesn't make you a progamer. And the grind, the energy, and the time needed to become a progamer is too much for most people to handle.
So what am I trying to say here. I'm trying to say many things here.
#1 Being different just for the sake of being different is stupid. Examples are people who do drugs, emo people, hippies, haters/trolls on the forums.
#2 It's easier just going along with what everyone else is doing. It takes less energy, less pain, and less effort. I mean, look at Edison. Every1 back then was content with fires and lamps and stuff like that. Edison had to try more than 100 ways to make a lightbulb. That shit ain't easy.
#3 You talk about difference, being unique, respect, etc. You won't legitly be able to project your difference, uniqueness, and gain respect at the same time without actually having substance first. For example, Martin Luther King Jr wouldn't have been able to move millions of people to fight equality, if he didn't have the skills to make boss speeches to thousands of people listening. Just like people who theorycraft and talk balance and stuff, unless you actually have the skills, no1 will listen. So no1 cares about you being different, no1 will respect you, you'll just be that weird guy that no1 likes, unless you can actually back up being different with the charisma. It's really the charisma that gains you the respect in real life anyways.
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On November 26 2012 14:32 ILuMiNaTe wrote:
Everywhere we go, there are people. Everywhere we look, there are people. You walk down a street and you see hundreds of different people. Come back an hour later and you'll see another hundred that you've never seen before. All these people have unique individual traits. All of them are born with a completely unique set of skills. All of them excel at different things. All of them get to the same places by taking different routes. People function completely different from one another. But, they want to be something different.
They want to be the same.
Why when everyone is unique, do they strive to be the same. Why when people are blessed with being a completely new person in a world of billions, do they want to be like everyone else?
I am currently a sophomore in high school. And the way people act make me detest going to school with them.
They buy their shoes because their the "popular" brand. They buy their shirts because their the "popular" brand. They buy their pants because their the "popular" brand.
They want to fit in. They want to be "popular". They want to have people look up to them. They want people to respect them.
What people don't realize is that for people to look up to you, for them to respect you, you have to be able to show them that you are different. That you are unique. That you are an individual in this incredibly populated world.
The world we live in is full to the brim with people, and all of them are different. So why try to be the same?
Because it is human nature to seek consolidation, form groups and show their belonging to their groups. When you talk about "them" and detest "them", you have to realize that you do it yourself, but probably don´t realize it, because you cannot overcome your own viewpoint. Few people manage that in their twenties. Before that, don´t worry and have a good time as far as hormones allow you to.
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The statement that being unique earns the respect of others is a false notion.
you have to be unique in a socially acceptable way.
so in a way, getting respect and being unique is conforming
also, you have to be successful by the standards of the mass.
and being successful by the standard of the mass isn't about being unique. if everyone thinks its great, whats any different?
conforming isn't a bad thing. its neutral. in fact, you need to be different but you also need to be similar
there are no leaders without followers.
Be different in something that you care about. don't try to be different for the sake of being different
Does wearing a different brand of shoes or clothes really make you unique?
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Most people will judge you before you've gotten a chance to really show them who you are. This can be potential friends, potential significant others, employers, customers are your workplace, investors etc. They all start making judgements from the moment you come into view. From the beginning, they are mentally placing you into ready-made stereotypes in their head.
So if you sound and appear to be like an X, you will be assumed to be like an X until proven otherwise. On a subconscious level, they have already made a decision on how much it is worth it to persue future dealings with you or find out more about you. They will also know that other people will react in a similar fashion, so there is the extra burden that you may not connect well to others in the their social networks.
This forces the question of all of us who need to be easy to connect to. What do we want to project? And when we have answered that question, we try to fit more into stereotypes that we assume the people we want to connect to have. That can mean that we put more effort into fixing our hair and faces, putting on "uniforms", talking in a certain way, hiding the more exotic features of our personalities for until we get to know people better and have left the stereotype zone. It can be a lot harder to penetrate the social barriers if there are things about us that we can't change, such as what ethnicity we are or visible disabilities.
Of course, people are different both in how much they feel the need to project something and to what degree they put labels on people to simplify dealings with strangers. I think it is a basic function of how we relate to people before we actually treat them as individuals. Much of it happens subconsciously.
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It's the same reason most people feel very nervous for public speaking. We are afraid to screw up and lose the herd's acceptance. Wether we like it or not were still just animals and stuff like this is just basic instinct.
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Katowice25012 Posts
Once you get into college everyone tries really hard to show how they're different so much so that it ends up being what ties them all together. Don't worry about it too much.
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On November 26 2012 14:32 ILuMiNaTe wrote:
Everywhere we go, there are people. Everywhere we look, there are people. You walk down a street and you see hundreds of different people. Come back an hour later and you'll see another hundred that you've never seen before. All these people have unique individual traits. All of them are born with a completely unique set of skills. All of them excel at different things. All of them get to the same places by taking different routes. People function completely different from one another. But, they want to be something different.
They want to be the same.
Why when everyone is unique, do they strive to be the same. Why when people are blessed with being a completely new person in a world of billions, do they want to be like everyone else?
I am currently a sophomore in high school. And the way people act make me detest going to school with them.
They buy their shoes because their the "popular" brand. They buy their shirts because their the "popular" brand. They buy their pants because their the "popular" brand.
They want to fit in. They want to be "popular". They want to have people look up to them. They want people to respect them.
What people don't realize is that for people to look up to you, for them to respect you, you have to be able to show them that you are different. That you are unique. That you are an individual in this incredibly populated world.
The world we live in is full to the brim with people, and all of them are different. So why try to be the same?
So you hate these people just because they buy something that is popular? I don't really understand. What's wrong with buying popular stuff?
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